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  • in reply to: The Mechalel Shabbos Troll #839239
    WolfishMusings
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    Well, I am a mechallel Shabbos (as discussed elsewhere), but I have not been posting on Shabbos. So, it’s not me.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Give a child one name or two? #836238
    WolfishMusings
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    1. Do you tend to give them one name or two (i.e., Reuven ben…, or Ruven Shimon ben…)?

    Two of my kids have two names. The other has three.

    2. Do you tend to name after relatives or great Torah scholars?

    We named after relatives who were very special to us or others in the family.

    3. Would you name a boy after a female relative? I won’t ask the other way around, since it’s clear this is not a good idea (kedusha should go upwards).

    No.

    4. Would you name a child after a non-choshuv relative (some will do this, but will have a different more choshuv person in mind when actually doing the naming. It matters not what you tell your relatives in terms of who the baby is named after – you know the truth)

    Depends on your definition of “choshuv.” None of the people we named our kids after were rabbanim. Some weren’t even frum. Yet, they were all “choshuv” and special to us.

    5. And do you give you children English names? If you only give them one Hebrew name, would you give them an English middle name?

    Our children’s legal names are their Hebrew ones. Those are the ones on their birth certificates.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: NYC REAL ESTATE TAXES #834236
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    from 17.364% to 18.205% – an increase of almost 4%.

    So the increase is actually greater than 4%?

    Correct. It’s actually closer to 5%. I did not read the OP closely enough when I commented that her math was correct.

    Nonetheless, at least she understood the difference between percentages and percentage points, unlike the next commentator.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ur Emunah Strong Enough Or Not? #834550
    WolfishMusings
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    Can you explain why the cristians are wrong?

    Just out of curiosity… do you believe that one’s cannot have strong emunah without being able to explain why every other religion is wrong (I’m assuming you selected “Christians” simply because they are the most common example in the US)?

    Can you explain why the Bahai are wrong? The Shinto? The Zoroastrians? Mithraism? Dahomey? Do you know enough about those religions to make sure that the arguments you present against them aren’t either straw man arguments or based on misunderstandings of them?

    Or is it okay to just know why Christians are wrong and ignore all the others?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ur Emunah Strong Enough Or Not? #834547
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    OK, for the sake of avoiding an unnecessary argument, how about the OP define “Emunah” and then we’ll continue.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: I hate Sundays. #834370
    WolfishMusings
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    I am one of those who thinks its TERRIBLE that yeshivas have school on Sundays.

    My son’s high school takes the middle ground. They have school on about half of the Sundays in the school year.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: NYC REAL ESTATE TAXES #834233
    WolfishMusings
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    I can understand that ur upset but ur math is off 17.364% to 18.205%

    Is less than a 1% raise.

    Once again, someone who does not understand the difference between percentages and percentage points.

    The OP is correct (with the math, at least. I haven’t actually checked the tax rates). You are not.

    18.205- 17.364 = 0.814

    .0841/17.364 = 0.0484…

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ur Emunah Strong Enough Or Not? #834543
    WolfishMusings
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    Can you prove that there was maamad har sinai?

    One could argue that if you need to *prove* it, then your emunah is not strong enough.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: To open or not to open (the door on a date) #835247
    WolfishMusings
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    I always hold the door open for everyone. Yeah, I’m going to hell.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Best Classic Songs #833981
    WolfishMusings
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    The Sorcerer’s Apprentice for the music – they based the video on the name of the music.

    You’re right. I momentarily mixed the two up. My apologies.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: 40 challah bakers #833527
    WolfishMusings
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    I know the mitzvah of challah is for women, but a mitzvah is a mitzvah. I dont think that men davka cant do it.

    You don’t have to ask your Rav if I can be mafrish challah. I have *exactly* the same requirement to do so that a woman does. I’ll continue to do so regardless of what your Rav says on the matter.

    I wasn’t asking if I can be mafrish challah. What I was asking was, should I end up baking, do you want me in your group?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Best Classic Songs #833979
    WolfishMusings
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    Who sings In the Hall of the Mountain King?

    No one sings it. It’s instrumental.

    If you’ve ever seen the original Fantasia movie, it’s the music used in the “Sorcerer’s Apprentice” portion of the movie.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: 40 challah bakers #833513
    WolfishMusings
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    Emunas,

    I never received an answer to my question. Please answer.

    Thanks,

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Stupid theoretical question #834059
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf: It’s definitely theoretical as opposed to practical.

    False dilemma. Theoretical and practical aren’t the only two possibilities.

    What theory are you trying to propose?

    I would argue that your question is far more informational than theoretical.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Best Classic Songs #833948
    WolfishMusings
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    I always had a soft spot in my heart for “In the Hall of the Mountain King.”

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Everybody Except Popa is Retarded #1198820
    WolfishMusings
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    Considering the fact that I rarely drink coffee or tea, why would you say that I am retarded for not noticing this?

    (Note: I’m not saying that I am not, in fact, retarded. I’m just curious how you came to this conclusion based on my lack of experience with the prices of coffee and tea).

    in reply to: Stupid theoretical question #834056
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Why do you think this question is stupid or theoretical?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: 40 challah bakers #833505
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf – I remember you posting that you once baked challah before.

    Yep. While I love to cook, that time Eees was taking a set of comprehensive exams for grad school on a Friday, so I took over the complete cooking, including the challah baking. Her next exams are in two weeks (or so… I’m not sure of the exact date) so I might be cooking and baking that week too.

    So, Emunas, it is only for women? Can men join? Or would it be a breach in tznius for men to join with women in this?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984092
    WolfishMusings
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    Shmuzing b’derech chiba is assur with any woman, even if shes related.

    So, let’s see…

    I told Eees this week that I love her. One sin.

    I mentioned to my mother how much I love her. Another sin.

    I did the same for my grandmother as well. A third sin.

    I even told my sister that I love her. A fourth sin.

    As for my teenage daughter, I actually kisser her, so that’s surely a one-way ticket to the worst possible punishments in the afterlife.

    The Wolf

    (And before anyone jumps on me, the poster said “any woman” without any qualifications — and specifically included relatives with no exceptions mentioned.)

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835819
    WolfishMusings
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    come up with faux aveiros

    Being sad on Shabbos is not a “faux aveirah.” It’s a very real prohibition as codified in the Shulchan Aruch OC and the Mishna B’rurah.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: 40 challah bakers #833502
    WolfishMusings
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    must the challah baker be a womnan?

    I was going to ask the same question. I think that in two weeks, I might be cooking for Shabbos, including baking challah. In such a case, I will be doing hafrashas challah as well.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Colored Shirts #985551
    WolfishMusings
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    This question has been burning inside me for some time now. I hope someone can answer…. Did Rashi wear an up-hat, down-hat, or shtreimel?

    The answer is… all of the above.

    The up-hat wearers will tell you he only wore an up-hat. The down-hat wearers will tell you that he only wore a down-hat, and streimel wearers will tell you that he wore only a streimel.

    And since we say “eilu v’eilu…” they’re all correct. 🙂

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984088
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Wolf, this thread is about teenage girls sitting at a Shabbes table with bochurim (unmarried boys).

    The OP made no such qualification.

    Or is it your contention that it’s perfectly acceptable for me to eat at a table with teenage girls?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835818
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Avram,

    First of all, thank you for the well-thought out response (even if you did characterize it as a rant).

    Your example of an EMT (by the way, did you know that I used to be an EMT?) is not really applicable since both halacha and New York State law would allow you to “trespass” on someone’s property to save their life. I’m not aware of anything that says that one is allowed to be sad on Shabbos just for sake of being sad.

    I will admit that my “talking during laining” bit is a joke, but the rest of it is not. Nonetheless, for the sake of your argument of:

    This mechalel Shabbos one’s not so funny, however, because it can add stress or misery to a person who is depressed, doesn’t see the fallacy in your argument, and might take you seriously.

    I will say the following:

    Any judgements I make apply to myself and myself only. For your own personal situation, please contact your local Orthodox Rabbi.

    Also apparent is that you likely did not give this person all of the relevant information, which is not in the spirit of ????????? ?????? ??? ?????? ????????

    I don’t know why you would assume that I didn’t give the person I spoke with the complete, unadulterated truth. I assure you that that’s not the case. Nonetheless, I stand by his ruling, as one does not go “p’sak shopping.”

    Are you trying to bait extreme posters like mosherose to give crazy responses so you can prove their ignorance or have fodder for your blog?

    No. You’ll notice that my blogging activity has dropped off considerably in the past year.

    Are you trying to make halacha and/or Orthodox Jews look bad?

    Absolutely not.

    I can’t possibly accept that you are being serious with this.

    I don’t see why you can’t accept that. Sometimes the simplest answer is, in fact, the true one.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984078
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf, why do you feel the need to be mezalzel (mock) a topic which deserves a serious response.

    Why do you assume that I’m mocking anything? I am being completely serious. I have yet to see anyone here who says that it’s okay to eat at the same table as my nieces — which I do fairly often. As such, I openly admit that I am a sinner who is deserving of punishment. If you’re unable to distinguish sincerity from mocking, then you have to take lessons in how to read between the lines.

    You’re also making fun of the world to come, by associating Gehinom with hell.

    Gehinom is the punishment in the afterlife. Hell is the punishment in the afterlife. Both are used interchangably by many people. I fail to see how I am making fun of the World to Come by a simple choice of words.

    Your disrespect for Jewish values, reflects a lack of self-respect.

    Here, you are half-right. I have great respect for Jewish values. On the other hand, I have absolutely no respect for myself.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984059
    WolfishMusings
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    it says you can’t eat at someone’s house who has teenage daughters. Since it is your house, it is not a problem, if we are being literal.

    By your very own interpretation, it is a problem. My house is one with a teenage daughter. Hence, I can’t eat there.

    And, in any event, sometimes I eat by my sister’s house and she has teenage daughters, so I’m doomed to an eternity in hell anyway.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835816
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf: I believe Rav Schachter has mentioned that 4 and 5 shouldn’t be a problem. Those Gezeiros apply only for other people. If a Mechalel Shabbos B’farhesia himself makes food that he knows it Kosher (and touches wine that he knows he wasn’t Menasech) then he himself (and his immediate family, I think Rav Schachter said) are perfectly allowed to rely on themselves.

    A. I fail to see why I (or my family) should suddenly be exempt from the dinim of yayin nesech or bishul yisroel simply because I am the one who happens to be the sinner in question.

    B. If I were to have a strict ruling from a right-wing rav and then someone were to suggest I follow a left-wing lenient ruling, I would be slammed by the right-wing members of this board so fast that my head would spin. Is it right, then, that I should now adopt a right-wing position that is lenient after having received a stricter ruling?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835814
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    I ended up speaking with someone about this situation. The summary outcome of our conversation was as follows:

    1. A M’challel Shabbos is disqualified from giving testimony.

    2. Someone who violates the Shabbos as outlined in SA, OC is a full-fledged Shabbos desecrator.

    3. Someone disqualified from giving testimony should not join with the congregation.

    4. In addition, a M’challel Shabbos causes any (non-M’vushal) wine he touches to become forbidden. As a result, I am not allowed to drink (non-M’vushal) wine, since the very act of picking it up causes it to become forbidden.

    5. Likewise, anything a M’challel Shabbos cooks lacks Bishul Yisroel (unless a kosher Jew lights the fire, etc.). As a result, I am forbidden to eat anything that I cook since it lacks bishul yisroel.

    All of this applies as long as I am in a state of depression on Shabbos. (Whether I’m in a state of depression the rest of the week is totally irrelevant to the present discussion.)

    As far as Vay’chulu is concerned, I was presented with an easy solution — simply extend my Shmoneh Esrei so that I’m still davening when the congregation says VaY’chulu.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: davening/ learning in English #833338
    WolfishMusings
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    Somehow, I suspect that HKBH is perfectly capable of hearing and understanding my prayers, regardless of the language spoken and whether or not any malachim carry them to Him.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: What's better? What's the difference? #830275
    WolfishMusings
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    earky termination fee

    Moral of the story: never terminate your eark. 🙂

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984054
    WolfishMusings
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    but not because your daughter’s at your table.

    Who says? I don’t believe the OP, or anyone else in this thread for that matter, made any exceptions for one’s daughter.

    In the end, even if my daughter is an exception, it doesn’t matter. We sometimes have my sister and her family over for meals… and they have teenage daughters too.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984047
    WolfishMusings
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    Gee, and I eat at a table with a teenage girl all the time. I guess my place in hell is firmly established.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Brooklyn College #830062
    WolfishMusings
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    As an undergrad I went to Brooklyn College. So did Eeees. As a matter of fact, we took a number of courses together, both before and after marriage.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Wolf where are you? #830404
    WolfishMusings
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    It’s nice to know that I’m missed. 🙂

    As it turns out, I started a new job somewhat recently and, as a result, I don’t have as much time to spend in the CR as I used to.

    Nonetheless, I still check in from time to time.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835808
    WolfishMusings
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    What are you sad about (on Shabbos or whenever)?

    I often don’t know. But for the purposes of this thread, it doesn’t matter. There are specific reasons for which you are allowed to be sad on Shabbos, but none of those apply to my situation.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: I havent eaten OU-D in years and I have a Teiva for it. #828118
    WolfishMusings
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    Doing something for a period of time becomes a neder.

    Only if it was done because the OP was accepting a religious stringency. If she(?) was doing so out of simple consumer choice/convenience (as indicated by her next post), I would think it’s not an issue.

    Or do I need to be Matir Neder to buy Pepsi because I bought Coke over the past year?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835806
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf, I will save you the time of responding to this, by saying for you:

    “I wish that was the case. Unfortunately, I actually am a rasha, and am completely serious.”

    Why is it so difficult to believe that, at the very least, I truly believe this?

    This is his form of satire (even though he will reply to this to deny it).

    I thank you, Sam, for trying to make me look good, but the reality of the situation is that I possess very good writing skills and a wicked (in the positive sense, pun intended) sense of humor. I am *very* capable of making my intentions clear when I intend to be humorous or satirical.

    are you trying to change?

    You cannot simply “wish yourself happy.” If I’m sad, then I’m said — and if that’s an issue of chillul Shabbos as per the SA and MB, then I am a mechallel Shabbos B’farhesya. Sad, but true.

    Look at the Chazon Ish on that Mishnah Berurah and you will see that no one agrees that there is an issue of eidus here only edah. Therefore, you can say it:)

    I will have to look that up. Thank you, David.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835797
    WolfishMusings
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    I apologize to you. It wasn’t my intention to hurt you in any way. Please be mochel me.

    No need to apologize. It was my fault. I over-reacted to your post. It is I who should be asking forgiveness.

    Mach kiddish on branfen before mincha. Yayin yesamach levav enosh.

    Not this enosh. I rarely drink, and when I do, it’s very little. I’ve never been drunk in my life* and I don’t intend to start now.

    The Wolf

    * Yes, I know that means that I don’t fulfill the mitzvah of Ad D’lo Yadah. Just another example of how I am a sinner.

    in reply to: artscroll shas #826437
    WolfishMusings
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    I once saw someone burn an Artscroll Gemara. I tore Kriyah.

    I am terribly sorry about that. My statement was meant more as less just to make a point, not to be actually carried out.

    What was the occasion that someone burned an Artscroll Gemara?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835793
    WolfishMusings
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    So, you are concerned about “Lifnei Iver” but you are ok with being a Sabbath desecrator. Very very strange…

    WHO TOLD YOU THAT I WAS OKAY WITH BEING A SHABBOS DESECRATOR??!!

    It is what I am, and it pains me terribly that that’s the way I am, but I am certainly not “ok” with it.

    And don’t just tell me to stop. It’s not easy. If you know a way to be happy on-demand, then by all means, go out and market it and I’ll buy it. But as things stand right now, I am often sad on Shabbos, with is a violation of Shabbos as outlined in OC and MB 288.

    I have my faults, but don’t tell me that I’m “ok” with being a Shabbos violator. Am I wrong? Yes. I deserve all the punishments a Shabbos violator gets. But don’t tell me that I’m “ok” with it.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: artscroll shas #826431
    WolfishMusings
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    An extremely necessary evil.

    Well, if it’s evil, is it not subject to the mitzvah of Uviarta Harah Mikirbecha?

    Perhaps I should burn my Artscroll Gemaras?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835784
    WolfishMusings
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    always knew he was a bit schizo 😛

    No, just a bad editor.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835783
    WolfishMusings
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    Vayechulu is not real Eidus. You’re okay.

    Of course it’s not *real* Eidus. But, nonetheless, we treat it as if it were (we stand, say it with 2+ people, etc.) that perhaps it might be subject to the Rambam’s prohibition.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: A Shabbos Desecrator Saying Vayechulu With the Congregation #835782
    WolfishMusings
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    Yes, Sam, you are correct. There’s more to the siman in SA than fasting.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Following A P'sak of R. Yakov Emden zt"l #891093
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    I assume that the Wolf does not want everyone to be machmir, only himself as a baal nefesh, to be able to be m’kayim this mitzva.

    Please do not call me a ba’al nefesh. I know that you did not intend to lie, but it is a lie nonetheless.

    I think it depends on why you’re following the psak. If you’re looking for someone who is matir something, and R’ Emden zt”l is matir, I’d say no. We are not supposed to look around for heterim.

    FWIW, the p’sak is a p’sak l’chumra, not l’kula.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Any frum Beatle fans? #982430
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    Isn’t Sir Paul McCartney the only one left?

    Ringo Starr is still around as well.

    I was never a huge Beetles fan, but I find that my appreciation of them has grown as I’ve gotten older.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Following A P'sak of R. Yakov Emden zt"l #891067
    WolfishMusings
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    But there is a general rule that the halacha does not follow Shammai. I’m not aware of any such rule regarding R. Emden.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Is this considered going too far? #823221
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Too far for what? In what way might that be construed as “too far?”

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Is it halachically wrong to give Tzedakah to a known addict? #824526
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    I’m an oxygen addict. Without it, I suffer great distress and my body undergoes severe biochemical changes.

    I guess it’s assur to give me tzedaka.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Off Derech? #823080
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    people who dont learn in kollel.

    Ah… so all my kids’ rabbeim and their menahels were off the derech because they taught kids instead of learning in kollel. Thanks for pointing that out to me Toi.

    The Wolf

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