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Yes, I responded to you about the parameters of jealousy.
My apologies. I must have missed it.
In any event, I’m not sure that I understand the point you’re trying to make. Can you please restate it?
Thanks,
The Wolf
I want everyone to relize the zchus you get when giving tzedakah while davening.
Why would you say that I am having more rachmonos on a person if I give while davening vs. giving at any other time?
Or, more to the point, why do you feel that if I give at another time, it’s not a showing of mercy on my part and that HKBH will not look favorably upon it? Is my tzedaka worthless* if it’s not during davening?
The Wolf
* Well, my tzedaka is worthless no matter when it’s given, but I wasn’t using “my” to mean “me,” but rather, “anyone.”
I’m not even good enough to have belonged to the 80%. So I certainly would not have been redeemed.
The Wolf
Actually, every person that goes off the derech is because of me.
It’s my fault. Totally. 100%.
Not only that, but every person that gets sick, every murder that happens in the world, every theft and robbery and other crime, every extramarital affair, every tort and civil action, every violation of Shabbos, kashrus, Taharas HaMishpacha and on and on.
It’s all my fault. Not that I personally pulled the trigger, had the affair, violated Shabbos and so on, but in the end, the motivations, the reasons, the fault and the blame, all comes back to me.
So, enough at looking at excuses for these people. Just blame me. I deserve it.
The Wolf
so if a quadruplegic eats a salad…is that cannibalism?
A. The term “vegetable” is offensive when referring to human beings.
B. You obviously don’t know what a quadriplegic is and/or unaware of just how the term “vegetable” is used with regard to humans.
C. I wouldn’t consider either condition one that should be joked about.
The Wolf
Once again, I’m very thankful for the fact that I married the second girl that I ever dated.
The Wolf
Wolf – am sincerely waiting for an answer, I value your thoughts on such topics.
I thank you for the kind compliment.
That being said, was there a question that I missed?
The Wolf
Most patients in a years-long coma die without waking up? You mean it is rare for such a patient to wake up before dying?
That is my understanding. However, I am not a doctor and could easily be misinformed on this.
73 years. hee hee
Oh, let’s not start *this* again…
The Wolf
Wolf – jealousy is a normal, though undesirable, human trait. I would not demand of someone to be above jealousy in order to have the privilege of being my friend.
You can be jealous and still genuinely happy for the person’s good fortune at the same time.
The issue isn’t jealousy… the issue (as RedNails19 put it) is that she fears people won’t be happy for the person with the good fortune.
Jealousy is, as you point out, normal. Being *so* jealous that they aren’t happy for their friend’s good fortune (and would actually wish they didn’t have it) is not. Those types of people I don’t need as friends.
The Wolf
R’ D. Goldwasser writes in his book about a guy who broke up with his fiance on facebook, rather than in person!
That’s a deficiency in the character of the person, not in Facebook.
The same person might just as well have sent a telegram 75 years ago.
The Wolf
Is it possible for a patient in a years-long coma to wake up?
Yes, although, from my limited understanding, such things are pretty rare.
How long is the longest coma that a patient is known to have recovered from?
Assuming we’re talking only about recent, medically verifiable events, it may well be Terry Wallis, who awakened in 2003 after a 19 year coma.
The Wolf
Perhaps it’s the inconvenience factor.
We stop whatever it is we’re doing three times a day (and, for many of us, only twice, as we daven mincha and ma’ariv back to back) whereas they stop what they’re doing five times a day.
Personally, it’s all nonsense anyway. I like to think that HKBH is far more interested in the *quality* of our tefillos, rather than the quantity.
The Wolf
It is not really comparable to newspapers. The analogy would be to an advertising circular. The CDs are what make the singer popular, thus making him valuable for gigs, chasunahs aor concerts, where the money is.
No, I believe you’re wrong.
An advertising circular is given out for free. A CD (like a newspaper) has an intrinsic sale value — and if you swiped either from the store, we would all agree it’s theft.
If it were a sampler CD given out for free, then it would be more comparable to an advertising circular.
The Wolf
so on that tzad copying might be available?
No more than swiping a newspaper off the truck because the newspaper makes far more money in advertising than it does through direct sales.
The Wolf
A women’s possesions are not owned by the husband, he just has the rights to their use.
I think you might be confusing property she bring into the marriage (which follows the rule you mentioned) with money she earns *in the marriage* which follows the general rule of belonging to the husband (unless she chooses to keep her earnings, as described above).
The Wolf
since all money and possesions she holds is really halachicly owned by her husband?
Of course, that’s not universally true either.
She has the option of saying “I’ll keep my money and support myself” — which, given the state of things in portions of the yeshivish world, would be a good deal for her.
And, lastly, it’s *her* option. He can’t unilaterally override her decision to do this.
The Wolf
Is i mutar if its a non-Jewish artist?
Gezel Akum is just as forbidden as stealing from a Jew.
As for your other questions, ask a Rav.
Personally, I ask myself the following questions:
1. If it was me, would I like it? I get annoyed when people steal my pictures (and yes, it happens) and use them without payment and attribution. Since I don’t like it when it’s done to me, I don’t do it to others.
2. Are you so hard up for the cost of the music that you can’t do the right thing and compensate the artist whose music you obviously find pleasing enough to consume?
The Wolf
Toi: But why does everyone get to/think they get to decide the “spirit of the law” based on whatever they personally feel.
And, worse, get to decide it for everyone else. There’s no reason that one parent should be deciding that no one else’s kid can read this book. If they don’t want their kids to read it, fine and well — but they shouldn’t have the right to tell other parents what their kids can and cannot read.
The Wolf
says it is optional
Which is a far distance from “shouldn’t make a mezuman.”
Rav Scheinberg said the minhag is that women don’t.
And I’d be willing to bet dollars to donuts that there are others who pasken that they may.
The Wolf
geder arayos
Oh, please. A spouse calling the other “dear” is not anything close to arayos.
The Wolf
Has anyone ever dared bring a cell phone into a church? or mosque?
Has anyone ever dared bring a cell phone into the vatican? or mecca?
I’d be willing to bet that the answer to all four questions posted above is “yes.”
The Wolf
wolfishMusings got his facts correct if he is referring to the Southern Hemisphere but incorrect if he is referring to the Northern Hemisphere;
Oh, for Heaven’s sake, there are no facts here. I was commenting on the person’s stupidity.
The weather of that day will be the same whether you call it February 29 or March 1. You can pick any day of the year and call it the “extra” day.
The Wolf
We pasken that women shouldn’t make a mezumen.
Source? (Specifically when talking about three or more women eating without any men present.)
The Wolf
Sometimes you know yourself that your regular Rov will not pasken a major shaila, so you go directly to a great posek. An example might be whether to r”l pull the plug on a ventilator.
If you know *for sure* that your Rav will send you to Gadol X for a question of this type, then fine. But the OP clearly does not know that if he is asking the question.
That being said, if he does not trust his Rav to pass the question on (or refer him) to someone qualified, then he needs a new Rav. He should not be asking strangers who is qualified to make a major life-and-death decision.
The Wolf
Another long-time former camp counselor checking in to say that I agree with the OP. Well said!
The Wolf
Since when is it customary to have a Seuda on shushan Purim??
I’m assuming the OP is in Yerusalayim (or some other qualifying city) where Purim *is* on Shushan Purim.
The Wolf
Some of you are not such holy dudes!!! Disappointing I’d say… Shemona essray takes a few mins, the ambulance takes a few mins, no difference!
If you’re the EMT/Paramedic, a few minutes may make ALL the difference.
The Wolf
I remember once hearing someone complain that the extra day came in winter when it should have been in the spring or summer when the weather is nicer.
:: rolleyes ::
The Wolf
May this be the worst disaster you ever have in your life.
The Wolf
Has anyone ever had an emergency while davening shemonei esray???
Heh… not during S”E, but close.
One day I had my son (who was very young at the time… think just after toilet training age) in shul with me. I had just said Ga’al Yisroel and he turned to me and said that he needed the bathroom… right then.
There was no S’michas G’ula L’Tefilah that day. 🙂
The Wolf
Which Gedolei Poskim are generally reachable for very serious or grave shailos (like pekuach nefesh or other issues)
Why are you leapfrogging over your own Rav?
If you feel that your Rav is incapable of answering these questions AND unwilling to admit that he is not knowledgeable enough and is not willing to go to (or refer you to) a greater Rav, then you need a new Rav.
However, you should be starting with your own Rav — not skipping by him.
The Wolf
the husband refers to his wife as “dear”.
I guess I’d never be allowed to send my kids to that yeshiva. Not only do I call my wife “dear” (and in public — gasp!), I even show affection to my wife in front of the kids.
On a serious note, however, I’m curious about something — what business is it of this parent if the rest of the class reads the book? Why does this parent get to dictate what every other parent is allowed to allow their child to read? Why does s/he get to determine which books I can have in my house?
The Wolf
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Feel free to email me or ask here for more details.
The Wolf
Wolf, his argument was that it is the same throughout the world, spanning countries with little or no contact.
Which, as other have shown, was false. There were several cultures with weeks of varying lengths.
And to point out a fallacy in your argument, just like years and months weren’t ‘ruled out’, there’s no reason for a weak to have been streamlined.
I’m not sure what you think my argument is. Unless I missed something, I only made two arguments in this thread:
1. That genetics is a much better proof of the common ancestry of all Mankind than any calendrical similarity.
2. That the widespread use of the seven day week is not, necessarily, a miracle.
The widespread use of the seven day calendar can easily be attributed to the spread of Christianity and Islam (both of whom inherited the concept of a seven day week from us). Christian missionaries and Islamic conquerors brought the concept of the seven-day week to much of the globe.
In addition, a week is a pretty good approximation of one quarter of a lunar month. If you wanted to break a lunar month up into manageable portions other than days (without resorting to fractions of days), seven is a logical choice.
The seven-day week could also be attributable to the seven planets of the ancient world — Moon, Mercury, Venus, Sun, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn.
In addition, the fact that other cultures, at one time, had other weeks (and later switched to the seven day week) is proof *against* a common inherited tradition — not for it. Were there a worldwide tradition from Creation, then all cultures would have had a seven day week and then possibly moved away from it — not started with a different number and then moved towards it.
The Wolf
halacha does not allow a wife to demand a get-on-demand whenever she feels like it, with or without cause.
This refrain and others (whether true or not) is one that is constantly repeated by you on these boards. It gives you away every time. 🙂
The Wolf
and sometimes I stand out a bit, but I don’t care.
And if it works for you in your situation, then congratulations and all the more power to you. But it may not work for everyone.
The Wolf
I also don’t understand the question, “why is the story called kamtza bar kamtza, since kamtza had nothing to do with it”.
Possibly as a memory aid. I think one is more likely to remember the “story of Kamtza and Bar-Kamtza” (especially when the story centers around a mistake made regarding the similarity of their names) rather than “the story of <insert party-maker’s name here> and Bar-Kamtza.”
The Wolf
Wolf: The Kuzari doesn’t need you to find reason for him to “be excused”.
True, but my point, nonetheless, remains.
The Wolf
Kuzari (1,57) uses the widely accepted 7-day week to prove that we all have a common ancestor.
I’m wondering if this might be a bit of a Sharpshooter’s fallacy on the part of the Kuzari. After all, he (and later people who make similar claims) can only say this because the seven day week has, indeed, won out and become the standard. If the nine day week (just to pick an example) had one out, they would make a similar claim.
The Wolf
49.5% of Americans are below standard at mathematics.
And 50% are below the median of mathematical ability.
The Wolf
even kamtza
Considering the fact that he was not present at the proceedings and very likely did not know about the party at all, please explain how he was at fault.
The Wolf
possible reason there might be to not wear dark pants, white shirt, jacket and a hat once one has left a Torah learning institution.
Practicality.
Even if there is no set uniform, certain jobs are done far easier without the garb mentioned above. Plumbers, appliance repair, bicycle messenger, lifeguard, mason, carpenter, veterinarian, etc. all come to mind.
Then, there is also the issue of “office culture.” A person may not want to “stick out” in the office by wearing a white shirt, tie and slacks every day if the office culture dictates casual attire.
The Wolf
Kuzari (1,57) uses the widely accepted 7-day week to prove that we all have a common ancestor.
A far better proof is our genetic similarity to one another.
Of course, however, the author of the Kuzari could be excused for not using it since he had no knowledge of genetics.
The Wolf
Would it still be most appropriate for a Ben Torah to dress in a white shirt and suit jacket after he is no longer in Yeshiva and starts working, for work dress and everyday dressing?
It would be appropriate for him to wear whatever clothing is appropriate for the job.
If he’s an office worker — it depends on the office.
If he’s a plumber or a farmer — I wouldn’t advise it.
If he’s a lifeguard — definitely not.
The Wolf
u did a terrible thing and i hope you can change ur ways and never do it agin because then ull die
All together now:
You did a terrible thing and I hope you can change your ways and never do it again, because then you’ll die.
As an aside, are you saying that he will die if he never does it again or if he doesn’t do it again — the sentence is not clear.
And, of course, we all die in the end… whether we smoke or not — and not everyone who smokes dies of smoking related issues.
The Wolf
They say one of the open nissim in this world is that the goyim continue to have the (our?) original 7-day week structure.
In what way, exactly, is it an “open miracle?”
It only makes sense to make it an even amount of days.
Why is an even-number of days in the week the *only* thing that makes sense?
The Wolf
preferably not edible stuff
By all means, feel free to send your mother in law gifts, but if it’s not edible, it’s not mishloach manos.
The Wolf
Most calendars put Sunday first.
However, in truth, it doesn’t really matter from a strictly secular point of view. There are no laws, regulations or customs that refer to “the first day of the week” or “the seventh day of the week.” As such, l’mai nafka minah?
The Wolf
And Al Pi Halacha, using secular court is an issur gamur normally. They MUST, al pi halacha, arbitrate their dispute in A B”D, whichever one it is. Secular court is NOT an option for a Jew.
Then I guess my great-grandfather violated halacha when he used a secular court to become a U.S. citizen in 1890. I guess I also violated halacha when a judge asked to speak to me during my parents’ divorce*.
The Wolf (who hates all Jews because he’s a Zionist)
* Note: My parents weren’t frum when the divorce proceeding started, so naturally they went to secular court. During the process, my mother and I became frum. When the judge asked to speak to me, I was already frum by that point. I suppose I should have refused to go, been convicted of contempt of court and been sent to juvenile detention.
Wolf: Not sure but why does this pretain to you? When is the last time you put polish on your toes?
A. You don’t know the answer to the last question. 😉
B. I know people whom I care about who *DO* put polish on their toes.
C. So what? I have no brothers, but does that mean I’m not allowed to ask a question regarding Yibbum?
The Wolf