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Definitely do not mish on Pesach.
We eat out at other people’s homes and they come to us as well.
One of the reasons for not mishing on Pesach is that there soo many different legitimate minhagim and chumros on Pesach that people don’t have all year, that it is very likely your friend or neighbor has certain Pesach customs that are not in accordance with your own.
If so, then they’re welcome to tell me so when I invite them. I won’t be offended if they tell me “I’m sorry, our minhag is not to eat by other’s on Pesach. Can we take a raincheck?”
The Wolf
Yes.
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wolfish
sirvoddmort, I’m not sure why you included me as agreeing with you. I didn’t agree or disagree. I merely commented on a grammar issue.
The Wolf
Why not call Ripley’s and ask them if they have any human remains among their exhibits?
(Times Square) 212-398-3133.
As for the MONH, I’m almost certain that they have human remains either on display or stored in their archives. Whether or not it’s a problem for Kohanim, AYLOR.
The Wolf
I would love to see the anti-smartphone leadership deal with real issues that are harming people, like; domestic abuse, child abuse, molestation’s
… using apostrophes to indicate plurals. 🙂
(Sorry, couldn’t resist).
The Wolf
Hey, WolfishMusings: I thought you yourself were the Ba’al Korei??
I am. Hence the reason I’m guilty in the section I quoted. 🙂
The Wolf
Your favorite time of the year is Pesach, Shavuous, and Sukkos. Why? Well, during leining when they get up to “ka’eylah” you can no longer keep your exuberance contained. You must scream out ka’eylah! when the ba’al koreh is up to it.
Guilty as charged. When the ba’al kriah gets up to that point, I say it out load. True, I don’t scream it, but I do say it loud enough for everyone to hear. So far, no one has complained about it.
The Wolf
My understanding has been Ploni HaKohen ben Plonis.
However, as always, AYLOR.
The Wolf
“Israel’s getting tense
wants one in self defense
‘The Lord’s our shepherd’ says the Psalm,
but just in case, we’re gonna get a bomb.”
🙂
The Wolf
Define “normal.” Then we’ll talk.
The Wolf
Someone recently brought his son to R’ Ahron Leib. He held two yarmulkes in his hand, one black velvet, the other seruga. He asked R Ahron Leib, “Is there any difference between these two?”
R AL responded, “No difference.”
The father then said, “Well if they’re the same, then is it fair that my son just got thrown out of his yeshiva because he wore the seruga?”
R’ Ahron Leib responded, “If they’re the same, why can’t he wear the black one?”
Because they may be the same in some ways but not in others.
A red tie and a blue tie are the same ties in a functional sense, but one person may prefer red and the other blue. To ask the person who prefers blue why he won’t wear red if they have the same functionality is to dismiss the concept of personal preference for styles.
Likewise, the two yarmulkes may be the same from a halachic standpoint, but if the kid prefers one over the other and you want him to wear the other, you have to present him a valid reason to do so. Asking “Well, if they’re the same, why can’t he wear the black one?” isn’t a valid reason. It’s a dismissal.
The Wolf
Bartenura is just the Hebrew name of the Italian town of Bertinoro, which is where R. Ovadiah is from.
Alfasi is Arabic for “of Fes,” which is the Moroccon city from which he hailed.
So, of your list of three name, two are geographic.
The Wolf
I can’t see myself going to a hotel for Pesach (even if I had the money, which I don’t). For me, Pesach is all about spending it with family at home (or at a relative’s home). I just can’t see making a Seder in a hotel dining room.
That being said, I understand that that’s just my preference. Other people may have different sensibilities than I do and I do not begrudge anyone actually does go away for Pesach (whether because they feel they need it or just want it).
And for those who rant about all the money spent, keep in mind that this is the primary parnassah for many people. If you were to ban it for all (or even for all but the elderly, infirm, etc.), then you’d be causing a major loss of parnassah for a lot of people.
The Wolf
I recently started saying kaddish in the last month or so. Since I’m a ba’al kriah by trade, I am accustomed to saying things in a slow, precise manner, and not rushing through it. However, the other gentleman in our shul who says kaddish often says it much faster than I do. I tried to keep up with him but many times was not successful. What’s worse, he could not hear me from where I was across the shul.
The rav asked me and the other gentleman to move to the bimah when kaddish is said. I wasn’t really comfortable with that idea, but eventually we hit upon a compromise — I move to where the other gentleman davens at kaddish time and say it next to him. As it turns out, he told he that he preferred to slow down as well, and only said it quickly out of perceived pressure (real or imagined) from the other mispallelim to go quickly.
The Wolf
Plagiarism. Noun.
An act or instance of using or closely imitating the language and thoughts of another author without authorization and the representation of that author’s work as one’s own, as by not crediting the original author.
I would say no. If you or I did it, then yes. However, since a (presumably unaware) monkey is doing it via random processing, then it would be (IMHO) akin to an independent composition.
The Wolf
Why would the child’s halachic obligations to both sets of parents be any different than in a standard case of adoption where the birth parents are known?
The Wolf
There’s an article floating around, which I haven’t read, saying that all MO people are rich.
I don’t know if that is true
Anytime you read something that states “All [type of people] are [adjective],” there is a 99.9% that what you are reading is incorrect and drivel.
The Wolf
Rema,
I don’t mind… I do a fair amount of floral photography. 🙂
The Wolf
Your first mistake was forgetting after the first sentence that these are second graders. You can’t expect seven year olds to have the concerns you’re expressing. When adults do it, it’s sad. When seven year olds do it, they’re being kids.
The Wolf
Didn’t watch any of the Superbowl or go to a party. However, no mitzvah points for me. I just don’t have any real interest in football.
The Wolf
Fake flowers are ugly and don’t smell good. And transient beauty is not any less beautiful. And the ladies don’t want the flowers as much as they want someone special to buy them flowers.
One of the best gifts I bought for my wife was, for our anniversary, I had her wedding bouquet replicated in silk flowers. 🙂
The Wolf
DY now we are talking about semantics, No he didnt use the word assur, but he did not to deviate from a minhag (and Minhag is more stringent than Halacha). so we interpreted the statement differently.
From my reading of this, I believe the minhag he was referring to was the minhag to actually have a Melave Malka.
The Wolf
By the way, ZD, I’m curious – where did you see this issur of eating pizza on Motzaei Shabbos?
Rabbi Dovid Meisels, in his sefer “Shabbos Secrets” says on page 126:
It is appropriate to urge people not to deviate from this ancient minhag. One should be cautioned against treating this meal with contempt, by eating non-Jewish dishes such as pizza on motza’ei Shabbos — even if the pizza has a reliable hechsher certification. The melava malka meal should have the character of a Shabbos meal
You can find it online by using Amazon’s search feature.
The Wolf
Heck, I had a poster a while back telling me that having any photos of my wife or daughter, even in my home, was a violation of tznius, “Kol K’vuda…” and the like, and that they should all be destroyed.
No, I didn’t listen to him.
The Wolf
And is it the same under Israeli law?
Israel is a signatory to the Berne Convention and several other international copyright agreements.
The Wolf
Triangle.
The Wolf
ZD, even if true, that’s a totally unrelated point, but I’m curious: do you have any real source that it’s a copyright violation, or is that just an assumption?
Under copyright law, a photograph has a copyright from the moment it’s created and is owned by the creator (in most circumstances). Certainly this photo belongs to someone — either the photographer or the newspaper.
Whether or not they actually violated the copyright would depend on the rights reserved by the copyright holder — whether it can be used in a commercial venture or whether or not it can be altered.
Google “Creative Commons” for more info. I have no idea what the CC status of that particular photo is (if any).
The Wolf
I know you’re a photographer, Wolf, but there’s nothing holy or sacrosanct about a photograph that it can’t be altered.
In normal circumstances, that’s true. I edit my photos all the time. However, it is most certainly NOT true in a journalistic setting. In journalism, altering a photo is a cardinal sin.
Unless the paper is something akin to The Onion, they should not be altering photos. At the very least, they should indicate that the photo has been altered.
The Wolf
Those hypocrites accuse the frum papers of falsehood and disrespect, but are the ones who perpetuate falsehood and disrespect.
No, it was HaMevaser who perpetrated the falsehood.
Look, I don’t like this policy. But you know what? It’s not my paper and I don’t have to buy it. They’re entitled to their policy regardless of whether or not I like it.
However, there are still standards of truth and falsehood — and publishing an edited picture as if it were genuine is a falsehood, especially in a news setting.
If they want to have their policy, they should have not published the picture at all, or else found a different shot that didn’t include women. But as is, it definitely is a falsehood.
The Wolf
When davening, I often don’t mind the first person who says “Ya’aleh V’yavoh” in a slightly louder tone. Many a time, he has served as a reminder to me when I otherwise would have forgotten.
What annoys me is when a second person, barely a second later, does the same. Does he think that I forgot that soon after the other one did it? Or is just making a public statement of “I didn’t forget.”
The Wolf
I don’t expect someone with an IV sticking out of his arm to come to daven b’rabim!
I find the thought of someone being asked to leave his shul for this (or for having an oxygen tank as another person mentioned) highly repugnant.
The Wolf
Wolf, someone who cannot give tochachah in such a way as will
cause it to be accepted is patur from that mitzvah. I don’t
see why you’d be obligated to refrain from davening in that shul,
unless you just want to avoid conflict with that Rav, or halacha grants
Rabbonim the right to decide who may or may not daven in their shul,
regardless of whether they are doing or have done anything wrong.
I always assumed that the Rav of a shul had the power to ask people not to daven there. This particular Rav certainly believes he has the power if he can ask people who cannot or will not follow his conditions not to daven there.
The Wolf
I was recently at a shul in Marine Park where the Rav made a speech delineating who can and cannot daven there.
It was right after the Har Nof massacre. He got up and spoke about talking and other distractions during davening. He spoke of the evils of talking, checking your email, text messaging, etc. during davening. As it is, I agreed with him 100% on those issues. I am very careful not to talk during davening.* I also do not pull out my phone during davening for any reason.
However, it is what he said towards the end of the speech that prevents me from going back there. He said that in the shul one must not talk during davening, one must not check his email or text message and if you see it, you should protest against it and, if you can’t do that, he said, you should find someplace else to daven.
My policy is to not rebuke anyone. I’ve stated it on these boards before — it’s not a new policy of mine. I simply will not do it. The few times that I have done it, it turned out very badly. Afterwards, I went over to the Rav and told him that while I agree with the overall sentiment of his speech, I simply cannot do as he asks. I cannot rebuke others who talk during davening.
The Rav said if you can’t do that, don’t daven there. So, I no longer daven there. So, I know from experience that a shul does not have to accept everyone.
The Wolf
* Aside from perhaps a quick “I’m sorry” or “excuse me” if I bump into someone or the like.
Are you talking about hasraah? If so, it would still only be a single mistake which would lead to death.
No, because after hasra’ah, it’s clearly no longer a mistake – it’s a willful act. We don’t put people to death for mistakes.
The Wolf
maybe just don’t bring a cell phone into shul at all. I heard that in the queen of England’s palace you can’t bring a cell phone.
Minor nitpick: There is no Queen of England. Elizabeth II is the Queen of the United Kingdom.
In any event, I find it hard to believe that a tourist visiting the palace cannot bring a cell phone with them. Do you have a cite for this rule?
The Wolf
Sure there is. You kill somebody for one mistake.
No we don’t. In fact, there are safeguard in halacha to make sure we *don’t* kill someone for simply making one mistake.
The Wolf
A simple Google search turned up one place in Queens — David & Nuriel Clock Repair.
I’m sure there are other places as well — I only spent about 30 seconds searching.
The Wolf
Some advice to make your life a little easier…
… don’t expect gifts. If they happen, then great – you’ve gotten a bonus. But don’t expect them as if you’re entitled to them.
You’re not entitled to a chosson Shas – even if it’s “standard.”
And besides, what are you going to do if you don’t get it? Break up with the girl? Potentially ruin your sholom bayis over the next few decades by nursing a grudge against your in-laws for not giving you a Shas?
Just let it go. If you get one, great. If not, just start saving to get yourself one in the future.
The Wolf
It seems to me that we already have a few little laboratories in which we can observe the (partial*) result of such an experiment.
New Square
Kiryas Joel
The Wolf
(* I say partial because these communities are, of course, subject to NY State and Federal Law. Yet, they also have quite a bit of autonomy to run things internally. You won’t learn about the Torah world should conduct foreign policy from these places, but you will learn quite a bit on how individual communities may function.)
Whenever someone calls me “Rabbi,” I make it a point to object. Giving the honorific to those who don’t have the title cheapens it for those who have put in the hard work to earn it.
That being said, however, I can understand how some people, acting ex-officio, should be called “Rabbi” in the context of doing their duties, even if they don’t have semicha. The prime example that I can think of is a classroom rebbi, who should be called “Rabbi [fill in name]” by students, parents and colleagues with regard to his duties whether or not he has semicha.
The Wolf
Should you be telling the OP how he should or shouldn’t deal with his son?
In this respect, yes. There are tasks that are appropriate for a parent to do at some ages that they should not do at other ages.
The OP should not strap his(?) 20-something year old son into a high chair for meals.
The OP should not enforce an 8:00 PM bedtime for his 20-something year old son.
The OP should not picking out his 20-something year old son’s daily clothing.
And the OP should not be picking and choosing his 20-something year old son’s friends.
The Wolf
You should not be telling your son in his 20s who he can and cannot be friends with. If he asks your advice, that’s one thing — but you cannot order him around with regard to his friends.
The Wolf
Why we say it? Because it’s part of davening*.
What kavana should you have? The meaning of the words.
The Wolf
(* Yes, I know that that leads to “why is it part of davening. That, I don’t know.)
Also, if there are any male babysitters. I don’t personally know [of] any.
Back when I was a teenager, I did quite a bit of babysitting.
The Wolf
one thing i can say is that when looking into dating s/o who has divorced parents- make sure they are now emotionally healthy to start their own home
One would think this would apply to anyone, not just the child of divorced parents.
We *all* carry baggage of one form or another. Children of “intact” homes are no more immune from traumatic events than children of divorced parents.
The Wolf
Takah: If someone got stuck in the doctors office longer than anticipated and overstayed at the meter, must he feed the meter before driving off for the time he missed paying?
Actually, feeding the meter in this instance is illegal too.
Keep in mind that the reason for parking meters is *NOT* to raise revenue. The reason is to regulate the turnover of parking spots. As such, if the sign says “1 Hour Parking” you are not allowed to park there for more than one hour, even if you do keep putting money in the meter. If the traffic agent notices that you’ve been there for too long (as sometimes they mark the time on tires in chalk), they will ticket you, whether you’ve put in for the extra time or not.
In short, you can only park there for the maximum time noted. If it says “1 Hour Parking” then you can only park for 1 hour; if it says “6 Hour Parking” then you can park for a maximum of six hours.
The Wolf
The issue isn’t shaveh p’rutah, it’s s’michas daas. IOW, if the marked karatage is wrong, there could be an issue. She may assume, for instance, that the ring is worth $150, and only be meksbeles kiddushin on that assumption, yet the ring is only worth $18, so the kiddushin would be invalid.
Easily fixed by (a) ascertaining that it’s worth a minimum of a shavah pruta and (b) asking the kallah under the chuppah if she accepts it for marriage whatever its value is (subject to the shavah pruta minimum).
The Wolf
My Mesader Kiddushin didn’t seem to mind.
In any event, even if it is engraved with that marking, there is no doubt that it is still worth (more than) a shavah p’rutah.
The Wolf