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Wolf, how can you say that
How can I say that I’ll let HKBH decide?????
The Wolf
Wolf: It is untrue that it always cannot be ascertained in advance whether a certain activity, action or behavior will provide one greater schar in olam haba than the absence of engaging in it.
Fine, whatever. If you want to believe that you’ll get more Olam HaBah than your neighbor for eating only CY, I’m certainly not going to stop you. Nonetheless, I’ll let HKBH decide, thank you very much.
The Wolf
“You’re arguing since you can carry her out of the pool so you should be able to carry her to a cot if she fell asleep on the kitchen floor”
I’ve actually done *exactly* that with my daughter when she was little. I had no idea that there was anyone who says that it’s assur and, in fact, should have given my life rather than do that.
Live and learn. 🙁
The Wolf
How would you possibly know?
Because I know my own deeds, thoughts and motivations.
The Wolf
Or, to paraphrase the words of Eric Blair, “All of us are equal, but some of us are more equal than others.”
The Wolf
No need to apologize, DY.
The true answer, of course, is if I’m one of the two people, then the other person has a better Olam Habah by default, regardless of what I or they do.
The Wolf
Why do you ask ridiculous questions here, when you know that no one here can tell you with any authority who gets what portion in Olam Habah?
The Wolf
HKBH will judge each of us according to His expectations of us. Don’t worry about whether or not a rabbi will have a better afterlife than you. Worry about living the best life you can so that you can be a source of pride and nachas to your Creator.
The Wolf
I was deliberately vague. I am not aware that the Torah places a value on equality in any form
One example where it does:
If two parties come to Bais Din for a civil dispute, the judges have to treat the litigants equally. It doesn’t matter if one is a complete rasha and the other is the gadol hador — man or woman, kohen or yisroel, rich or poor… it must boil down to the merits of the arguments.
The Wolf
You’re going to have to elaborate on what you mean, exactly, when you say “equality” since, in some respects, the answer is clearly “yes” and in other respects, the answer is clearly “no.”
The Wolf
What types of games do you like? Deep strategy games? Light-hearted card games? Abstract games? A specific genre (war, economic, etc.)?
Tell us what you like so that we can give you better recommendations.
The Wolf
Suicide from fear of torture and pain and the like certainly has sources. Regarding suicide to be mechaper, did you see see the shevus yaakov 2:111? I also recall the story of the roman who jumped into the fire and committed suicide who “earned his olam haba in one moment”.
R. Ya’akov Emden was also of the opinion that suicide can atone for a sin for which one incurs the death penalty.
The Wolf
I’m not sure what you’re talking about. I davened in a shul that davens Nusach Sefard today and we said AM…
The Wolf
The rules are as follows:
When you arrive, you have to park precisely in front of the her house. You then take the key out of the ignition with your right hand. Using your left hand, you open the door, being careful not to sound the horn. You exit the car and then close the door.
Walk to her house, taking exactly 13 steps — no more, no less. When you arrive at the front door, count to 14 and then ring the bell once. Begin counting again. If no one answers by the time you reach 37, ring again.
When the door is answered, it is imperative that you not speak first. Address the person who answers the door politely and give a slight bow of respect…
OK, seriously now.
Repeat after me — THERE. ARE. NO. RULES. Do whatever seems normal and natural.
The answers to your questions are:
Does he go in?
If her parents invite you into the house, then you go in. If you are not invited in, then you do not.
How long do the parents talk to him for?
As long as they want.
how should he act during the date? Etc…
Like someone who wants to show them that he’ll be good to their daughter.
The Wolf
We even have a Question Box, in which one can submit any questions they have anonymously if they want to.
The fact that there is a culture whereby some people are afraid to submit questions unless it’s anonymous is telling.
Nonetheless, I’m glad that the box is there and the school encourages it’s use. It is a step in the right direction.
The Wolf
WolfishMusings: thats a great idea, thanks.
You’re welcome.
It does not need to be that amount by those dates, but the concept.
Well, that’s why I said:
(Of course, adjust the dates and amounts per payment to meet the needs of yourself and your friend)
The point, however, is that there should be a firm date and amount that he has to pay back. If left as a vague “whenever you have it,” you’re far less likely to see it again.
The Wolf
Chabad is not Ashkanazi. The siddur and minhagim differ noticeably enough.
I think you might be confusing davening Nusach Ashkenaz with being ethnically Ashkenazi.
Most members of Chabad *are* Ashkenazim, even if they don’t daven Nusach Ashkenaz. Likewise, many Ashkenazim daven Nusach Sefard despite not being Sefardim.
The Wolf
Friday, 5PM — Richard Matt shot and killed.
The Wolf
give him more time, its ossur medairoisa to ask him for it more than you have already.
Considering he has the right, if the loan is due, to actually summon him to Bais Din, I find it hard to understand how simply asking him outside of Bais Din would be prohibited.
Please explain.
The Wolf
Let’s not lose sight of the fact that Tehillim is not “poetry”,
Oh, for heaven’s sake – it IS poetry, despite your attempts to state otherwise. Perhaps you read the word “only” where I did not write it?
The Wolf
In Tehillim it’s also clear that it’s not their malachim.
Let’s not lose sight of the fact that Tehillim is poetry. It’s not a science text. Like most poetry, it’s not meant to be taken 100% literally.
The Wolf
There is something you should know, I trust him. He is not trying to cheat me.
I said I could use the money. But I think you are right, I am going to leave it be. I could never take his menorah, that seems so wrong to do to anyone, let alone a friend. It would not even be productive.
That fine that you’re willing to extend the loan for him.
However, I would probably get a written payment schedule from him. If you’re comfortable with it, give him X number of months as a grace period and then a gradual repayment schedule. Something like (for example):
Dec 1, 2015: $400
Mar 1, 2016: $400
Jun 1, 2016: $400
Sep 1, 2016: $400
Dec 1, 2016: $400
(Of course, adjust the dates and amounts per payment to meet the needs of yourself and your friend).
I think it will do both of you a world of service to have clear expectations on when repayment is to be expected. Leaving it vague allows him to say “Oh, I’ll try another venture, he doesn’t need the money back yet…”
The Wolf
In other words – and I think that this addresses Wolf’s question – There is a difference between being mekabel tosefes shabbos l’inyan issur melacha (after which one can still daven Mincha, according to SOME poskim), versus the full 100% acceptance of kedushas shabbos (which would preclude davening Mincha later).
Mik, once again, thank you for the cites. However, both RSZA and RMS are *very* modern sources. On what did they base that there was this possibility of “splitting” Shabbos up like that?
The Wolf
Steven Wright joke:
“For my birthday I got a humidifier and a dehumidifier…I put them in the same room and let them fight it out.”
The Wolf
A ran told me that Gog u’Magog was WWII. But isn’t it supposed to be the LAST war fought against Am Yisrael?
FWIW, IMHO, any attempt to point to something and say “See… this is a sign of [ fill in the messianic sign/prediction ] is futile.
When Moshiach comes, all the signs will be obvious and unambiguous after the fact. Until then, it’s all just guessing.
The Wolf
including that anyone wearing a ring
What is the issur in wearing a ring?
It’s not begged isha — there are men’s rings.
It’s not because of questions regarding the validity of double-ring ceremonies — it’s entirely possible they got the ring after the marriage.
It’s not because it’s disrespectful or inappropriate for davening (most people would wear a ring to see a king, president, etc.)
So, what could possibly be the reason?
The Wolf (who, for the record, does not wear rings — not for any theological reason but just because he doesn’t appreciate men’s jewelery.)
Amazing that in a society where there are cameras mamish everywhere,
Despite your assertion, they are NOT “mamish everywhere” — especially if you’re not in a major city.
and the government is constantly spying on our emails and telephone conversations,
They’re not actively listening to every phone call and reading every email. They just can’t. And, if you don’t use the phone or email (and these guys are probably not using phones and almost certainly not using email), then they can’t catch you that way.
and you can see every place on the planet using Google Earth, etc.,
1. You can’t see people using Google Earth… yet.
2. The sattelites aren’t recording every spot at every minute. Any given location is probably photographed no more than a few times a year.
that these criminals could have escaped.
I believe you meant “avoided detection” rather than escaped, since none of these factors would affect their actual escape. In any event, I’ve shown how they are negligible factors even in locating these felons.
The Wolf
mik,
Thanks for the cite, but that doesn’t explain that the kedusha of Shabbos is seperable from the prohibition of melacha. All it says is that one is not prohibited from saying a weekday Shmoneh Esrei even on Shabbos. It makes no separation between the kedusha of Shabbos and the prohibition of work.
The Wolf
newbee – Have you asked him for a Mashkon, like his Menorah or Shabbos Leichter? That will certainly give incentive to pay back.
I’m not certain what that will solve.
If he’s being dishonest and simply doesn’t want to pay, then I doubt he’s going to give a mashkon.
If he’s being honest and wants to pay but lacks the funds to do so, then what good will it do to deprive him of his Menora or Shabbos candelabra?
The Wolf
Rav Shlomo Zalman Aurbach z’l said to just be mikabel the issur Melocho of shabbos and not the Kedusha
Is there any source (aside from R. Shlomo Zalman zt”l, obviously) that the two are separable?
(And, please, if your answer is going to be “who are you to question R. Shlomo Zalman? If he said it, it must be so…” then please keep it to yourself.)
The Wolf
Have you tried Googling “How To Change Your Name in New York” (or whatever jurisdiction you happen to be in)?
The Wolf
and good luck telling a 5 and 3 year old to save some
Well, my kids are older. But the fact that your kids are younger doesn’t automatically mean that no one (or even the majority of people) drink(s) grape juice during the week (as per your previous statement, quoted below).
wine is different than grape juice, people drink wine during the week and grape juice only on shabbos
The Wolf
your wife doesn’t tell them not to, its for shabbos?
my wife does
She doesn’t have to. We use wine for kiddush. The only time we ritually use grape juice is for havdallah. As long as they leave us a cup’s worth for that, we’re fine.
The Wolf
people drink wine during the week and grape juice only on shabbos
Says who? My kids drink grape juice during the week.
The Wolf
My goodness, cent-cent. If only you could step outside of your daled amos and see how others might view you….
The Wolf
That you should be more specific with your question.
The Wolf
I found another good one.
In a thread regarding depression, one poster enlightened us with this gem:
Depression is assur. Mitzva gedola lehiyos bsimcha tamid. Of course there are times were aloud to be sad (at a levaya or on tisha bav or something else like that) but to be sad for no reason? Thats completely assur.
The Wolf
First of all, Wolf, I was speaking factually.
No, you were trying to create guilt by association.
Many people find it distasteful to drive a Volkswagen, although on the car’s merits alone, it might be a good, reliable, economic vehicle.
Not comparable. You may not want to enrich VW by buying their products. On the other hand, the Klansman doesn’t profit at all by anyone observing Mother’s Day.
The Wolf
Wolf, Heflin didn’t invent it, but he was instrumental in getting it to become a national holiday.
And, if true, so what? Mother’s Day (or any other idea) should stand or fall on its own merits, not based on the identity of someone who may or may not be associated with it.
What next? Ban painters because Hitler tried to be a painter?
The Wolf
I remember a talk from Rav Chaim Mintz Shlita at a leil shabbos seudah in Yeshiva Staten Island, where he mentioned that cholent is a “maychal shabbos” and should be reserved for shabbos.
So, presumably, when I eat my Shabbos leftovers on Sunday night, I’m desecrating the Shabbos by not reserving the Shabbos food for Shabbos.
The Wolf
Father’s Day is an offshoot of Mother’s Day. And the “Father of Mother’s Day” in America is Klu Klux Klansman J. Thomas Heflin of Alabama.
1. Mother’s Day was founded by Anna Jarvis in 1912. Not a Klansmemeber.
2. Even if they were a Klansman, so what? An idea should stand or fall on the merit of the idea, not the person who proposed it.
The Wolf
In fact Grover Cleveland used to be on the $50 before grant
I do not believe that to be true.
Cleveland was on the $20 note in 1914 and the $1000 gold certificate, but he was not on the $50 bill at any time.
Prior to Grant on $50 notes/bills, there was Alexander Hamilton (1863), Henry Clay (1869), Benjamin Franklin (1874), Edward Everett (1878), Silas Wright (1882) and William Seward (1891).
The Wolf (who has never been represented on US currency).
WOLF: you cornered me.
I’m not trying to “corner” you. I’m trying to understand how you came to the conclusion that you did.
If you simply exaggerated, or spoke without really thinking it through, that’s fine too — I do that sometimes. I just wanted to know how you came to the conclusion that smart phones are the absolute worst things in the world (with regard to doing aveiras).
The Wolf
wolf: apple is the largest most used product i guess. yes i was only guessing. i dont know what statistics are.
Thanks for the clarification, but that wasn’t quite what I meant. I wasn’t referring to Apple vs. whatever other brand. My question was how do you quantify that a mobile phone (or tablet, or whatever device you’re referring to) is the “#1 aveira device.”
The Wolf
the wolf: the quantity is endless… in our days we must be extremely careful
I think you might have misunderstood me. When I asked “How do you quantify that?” what I meant was, what criteria do you use and what methodology do you use to determine that Apple devices are the “#1 aveira device?”
The Wolf
And..the #1 (yes there are others) “aveirah device” is apple products…?
How do you quantify that?
The Wolf