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  • in reply to: Who wears the pants in your house? #1115868
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    If it’s cold and she doesn’t feel like turning up the heat, Eeees might put a pair of sweatpants on under her skirt/robe. Does that count?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: The Geula Is Imminent! #1115893
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    looks what unfolding in front of our eyes prophecy after prophecy that indicates the arrival of moshiach

    Posts like this would be much more helpful if they specified what prophecy and in what way they were being fulfilled *AND* how it is now qualitatively different than other times we thought it might have been fulfilled but wasn’t.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Let's talk about board games #1113764
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    While you’re right in some cases, I don’t think backgammon is

    one of them. Although how you play does matter, for two players

    with equal levels of knowledge, it comes down to luck.

    True, luck can turn any game of backgammon — but that’s why you play a match and not just a single game. (Plus, the doubling cube adds quite a bit of non-luck-based strategy).

    If the two players are truly equal players, then, over the long haul, they’ll each win about 50% of the matches they play, which is how it should be. If not, the skill of one will definitely that percentage over 50%.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: What's the best Cholent recipe? #1113605
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    It’s just like I said: There are so many ways to make cholent that one really can objectively say what is a good cholent recipe.

    Heh… I never even make it the same way twice. My way of making cholent is “throw whatever we have in the pot.” So, the meats, sauces, vegetables and mix of spices are different every time.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Why do so many people give the advise "ask your local orthodox rabbi" #1113285
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    Let me ask you… when someone on the news reports “The White House (or City Hall, or the Governor’s Mansion, etc.) today released a statement saying…” do you object on the grounds that a building is incapable of releasing a statement?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Sweeping the floor in the Beis Hamikdash #1113056
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    Wolfish: There was great competition for even the tiniest job in the Bais HaMikdash.

    And so? That supports my contention that it was possibly done by a Kohein from the active mishmar.

    Or did I miss something?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Chanukah Presents for husbands #1112715
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    Why don’t you tell us a bit about your husband, so that we have some better idea of what he might appreciate.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Hobbies for men #1147178
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    About a decade ago, I became very interested in photography and continue with it to this day.

    I also enjoy cooking and writing.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Sweeping the floor in the Beis Hamikdash #1113049
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    Who said the floors were ever dirty or needed to be swept?

    Why would you say it never got dirty? Of course it did.

    People walked on it all day. Blood and other liquids certainly got spilled on it numerous times.

    The Gemara describes how people used to be lowered into the Kodesh HaKadoshim in partitions to clean it. If the Kodesh HaKadoshim didn’t keep itself clean, then certainly the floor of the chatzar didn’t.

    Lastly, the Mishna in Avos lists 10 miracles that happened in the Bais HaMikdash. Keeping itself clean is not one of them.

    As to who actually did it — my guess (and that’s all it is) is that the levi’im or hired help cleaned the chatzar and the kohanim of the active mishmar cleaned the heichal (or, perhaps, they cleaned both).

    The Wolf

    in reply to: You’re In Charge of Brooklyn Jewry… What Do You Do? #1111360
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    In fact, during the times of Rabbenu Asher (the Rosh) in 13th century Spain, the Jewish courts in Spain had enacted and enforced capital punishment and carried out the death penalty for affronts such as blasphemy. See responsa 17:8.

    And, furthermore, see that the Rosh said that he was astonished to find the community doing so and was against it.

    A translation I found…

    In all the lands of my acquaintance, the death penalty is not practiced, except here in Spain. When I arrived here, I was most surprised that this was done without a Sanhedrin. I was told that it was by way of a royal dispensation utilized by the Jewish court to save lives that would be lost were they left to Gentile courts. And while I permitted them to maintain this practice, I never agreed with their taking of a life in such fashion.

    It seems that the Jewish capital courts were used to *save* people who would have otherwise been tried and executed by non-Jews. However, it is clear, that even if the Jewish court did engage in executions, the Rosh was clearly against such a practice.

    Furthermore, I would argue that since the operating authority of these courts was the Spanish crown and not the Sanhedrin, they were acting as Jewish secular courts and not as a duly-constituted Bais din… much like a secular Israeli court would be viewed today.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Photos of Women #1111257
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    Flatbusher, indeed many rabbonim caution against non-family being invited as social guests for meals.

    And there are plenty of rabbonim who don’t have a problem with this. I, myself, have eaten by the homes of rabbanim who didn’t have a problem with having my mother and sister (and later on, my wife) there as well.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Photos of Women #1111255
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    Was it only once? Calling Moshe Rose, Calling Moshe Rose.

    No, this was actually in person.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: You’re In Charge of Brooklyn Jewry… What Do You Do? #1111354
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    Right. The Torah mandates that (and specifies the penalty). The King can insure the Torah prescribed rules are enforced by the courts.

    I’m pretty sure you mean “ensure” not “insure.”

    In any event, even if what you say is true, there are no qualified courts — and the king cannot create them of his own volition, so it doesn’t really matter.

    Furthermore, as per the OP, you wouldn’t be a halachic king (with all the halachic powers it entails) simply because a king is not elected… the position is inherited. My OP meant king/queen in terms of being granted practical authority, not necessarily the actual halachic status of a king.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Photos of Women #1111253
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    DY: Have you been to homes where there are no family pictures with females in them? I haven’t.

    I had someone tell me once that by having pictures of women in my home, I was practically prostituting them. Let’s just say that I disagreed with him – vigorously.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: 15yo Israeli sees vision of Gog and Magog war #1134418
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    once mashiach comes and reveals himself there will be no more bechira and thus one can no longer do tshuva. Just something to think about

    What is your source for this? It contradicts the Rambam, among others.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Time to say Good Shabbos #1108290
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    Whatcha talkin ’bout Mr. Wolf? I made a comment. You quoted and replied to my comment. I quoted and replied to your comment to me. Where does Syag fit into this picture?

    I was responding to him, above. That’s why I always quote the people I’m responding to in italics, to avoid this sort of misunderstanding.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Time to say Good Shabbos #1108288
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    Without nitpicking every word like it’s a gemorah, the point is you pass a lot more pedestrians in parts of NYC than you do in many other places.

    No, the point was to rebut Syag’s assertion that I do pass that many people but don’t realize it.

    Of course some parts of Brooklyn are more crowded than others. I never denied that.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Time to say Good Shabbos #1108286
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    wolf – sure you do, you just didn’t realize it because none of them said “hi”

    Actually, I don’t. I know because my wife and I actively try to say “Good Shabbos” to them going to and from shul.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: The Good Wife�s Guide #1108396
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    If you’re questioning the reliability of something being reported, challenging the credibility of the reporter is very much on point.

    Actually, it’s not.

    Look, some crackpot may say that aliens with three legs and green and purple hair live on Titan (Saturn’s largest moon) and that they hold Elvis concerts three times a week. But the factuality of the information (or lack thereof) does not rest on the fact that he’s a crackpot. It rests on the evidence. The fact that he’s a crackpot is really beside the point. It all boils down to the evidence and arguments. If he can provide credible evidence for it, then it’s true, regardless of his being a crackpot or not. And if he can’t provide some evidence, then I can be comfortable dismissing his claims — again, regardless of his being a crackpot or not.

    Snopes made some valid points in their article. Pointing out that Snopes has a bias (whether true or not) is really beside the point.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: The Deeper Meaning of Hafrashas Challa #1115955
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    I hate doing things by rote,

    I didn’t say that I was doing it by rote. I said I was doing it because it’s a mitzvah. That’s not rote – and for me, that’s enough of a reason. I don’t need a deeper reason than that.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Time to say Good Shabbos #1108281
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    OOT you don’t bump into dozens of people every few blocks.

    I live in Brooklyn. I don’t bump into dozens of people every few blocks either.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Some parks in New York used to be cemeteries #1107201
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    They didn’t bury them. They placed them on elevated platforms.

    –source– the Lone Ranger, season 2, episode 14

    Heh. 🙂

    In truth, however, I wouldn’t be surprised if customs varied from tribe to tribe and region to region (i.e. in some places they buried, in others they left corpses for exposure and in other places, used other methods). However, even if you discount the indigenous Native Americans, there are certainly early European cemeteries that have been lost over time in the city.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: The Good Wife�s Guide #1108394
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    It is no “ad hominem”.

    Sure it is. Rather than addressing the points made in the Snopes article, you instead went for Snopes = biased. That the very definition of an ad hominem attack.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Some parks in New York used to be cemeteries #1107199
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    Even in Eretz Yisroel this problem should exist, no?

    It was inhabited primarily by Jews for almost a thousand years from Yehoshua’s conquest to the destruction of the First BHMK. They lived on the land, died there and were buried there. However, we don’t know where their cemeteries are, as none of them have survived to modern times*. They could be almost anywhere.

    The Wolf

    * And if you’re going to tell me that you *do* know of one or two… certainly there were many more than that that we don’t know about today.

    in reply to: The Deeper Meaning of Hafrashas Challa #1115952
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    When I’m mafrish challah, I do it because it’s a mitzvah. I don’t knead* a depper meaning than that.

    The Wolf

    * pun intended.

    in reply to: The Good Wife�s Guide #1108389
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    Snopes very frequently has an agenda dismissing things without compelling evidence because of the writers own biases. And in this particular case it seems even they are equivocating rather than being entirely dismissive, even though this is one of the type of things Snopes tends to be biased against.

    Ah, yes… rather than address the points, you just go for the ad hominem.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Time to say Good Shabbos #1108277
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    Is it menchlach or not necessary for a man to wish Good Shabbos to women he passes in the street. I think older women one should definitely say good shabbos, my question is to the same age women or younger?

    I make it a point to say “Good Shabbos” to all Jews on Shabbos*. And I say “Good morning/afternoon/evening” to those who don’t seem to be Jewish.

    The Wolf

    * Yes, there are exceptions. If a group of people are walking by all talking among themselves, I’m not going to interrupt them for my “Good Shabbos.” But for the most part, yes, I try to greet everyone that I reasonably can.

    in reply to: The Good Wife�s Guide #1108381
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    (originally published in Housekeeping Monthly, May 1955)

    You might want to check the Snopes article on this…

    The Wolf

    in reply to: How to win at rock-paper-scissors #1108180
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    I usually alternate between Lizard and Spock. 🙂

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Time to say Good Shabbos #1108267
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    A friend of mine mentioned to me how they feel it’s very important to say Good Shabbos. It shows good middos and Ahavas Yisrael. What do you think?

    Well, I guess I show good middos and Ahavas Yisroel only one day out of every seven…

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Some parks in New York used to be cemeteries #1107193
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    Sam2: So, people tend to assume non-Jewish corpses are only metamei b’maga uv’masah, even though there are plenty of sources saying otherwise. I’m going to avoid speculating about why people think that.

    Well, if you’re going to worry about that, then you have to wonder where the indigenous Native Americans buried their dead before the arrival of Europeans.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: You are a parent. #1106303
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    If Nosson is claiming special privilege status based on the fact that he’s “going to be” a talmid chochom, then he is showing an arrogance and lack of humility that may prevent him from ever actually becoming one.

    As an aside, I’m reminded of the story regarding R. Yaakov Kaminetzky. A young kollel husband said that his wife wanted him to take out the garbage at night. He said, however, that, as a Torah scholar, it was beneath his dignity to do so. He asked R. Yaakov what the halacha was. R. Yaakov ruled that, indeed, he may exempt himself from such duty.

    The next night, there was a knock at the door. When the husband opened the door, he found R. Yaakov standing there, ready to take out the garbage for the husband so as not to degrade his (the husband’s honor). The husband got the message.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Chazoras hashots of Simchas Torah #1105603
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    What’s the heter to interrupt, mock, talk or fool around in midst of the Tefila during Chazoras Hashatz on Simchas Torah?

    FINALLY! An issue we see eye to eye on.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: It is d�j� vu all over again #1100605
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    Make sure to go to his funeral, or else he won’t go to yours.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: twins before mashiach #1100404
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    now we’re at about 7.3 million

    :: slaps forehead in disgust ::

    That should be 7.3 billion.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: twins before mashiach #1100401
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    One thing that is not being mentioned here, of course, is that the general rise in population over the last few hundred years (world population passed 1 billion for the first time in history in 1804, now we’re at about 7.3 million) has accounted for far more neshamos than any incidental increase in twins.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: twins before mashiach #1100397
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    That is a contradiction. postsem said the reason was because of neshamos coming down before mashiach, and you said because of age and fertility issues,

    I don’t think it’s a contradiction. You’re just confusing the cause and effect.

    More multiple births are occurring (for the reasons stated in this thread). Therefore, more neshamos have to come down (or be created) for these extra children.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Not Sinning For Lack of Opportunity #1100384
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    he should say ‘Hashem I am not going to eat that animal,

    I’d be remiss if I didn’t point out the irony of dealing with the one issue we’ve been discussing that does have practical application (talking during davening) and the manner in which you advocate I gain reward for it (by talking during davening! 🙂 )

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Not Sinning For Lack of Opportunity #1100383
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    Rabbi Avigdor Miller used to say something along the lines of:

    If one sees a dead animal in the street (cat, squirrel, etc), he should say ‘Hashem I am not going to eat that animal, because You commanded me not to eat it [due to it being a non-kosher animal or nevela]’. One who verbalizes his intentions will then receive a Schar (reward) for his avoidance. If he just walks by, although he surely has no desire to eat the animal, he will not receive any reward for his avoidance of eating it.

    So, should I say at every available opportunity “HaShem, I’m not performing the Ov or Yid’oni rituals now because You commanded me not to. I’m not giving my children to Molech because You commanded me not to. I’m not breaking the bones of the Korbon Pesach because You commanded me not to. I’m not bowing down to an Asheira becuase You commanded me not to…?”

    The reason I ask is because, in all these instances, I couldn’t do it even if I wanted to. No one today knows how the Ov and Yid’oni rituals work. There are no more Asheirahs or Molech cults, and so on.

    If your twelve year old kid came to you and said “I was a good boy today, tatty, I didn’t launch any nuclear missles at any nations today,” is that a statement truly worthy of some reward?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Not Sinning For Lack of Opportunity #1100378
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    Wolfish: one is actually supposed to avoid nisyonos, so becoming more social in Shul as per your scenario is the opposite of what we are supposed to do.

    Well, I’m not going to become more social in shul, but that’s not because of any degree of Yiras Shamayim on my part, but rather because, at the very core of me, I’m an introvert.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Not Sinning For Lack of Opportunity #1100374
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    there are other avoda zara’s today that almost everyone bows down to:

    example includes money, your technological phones that are glued to you & can’t be separated for you even for a few minutes to daven to hashem & many other things.

    Yes, that’s a nice bit of rhetoric, but the fact remains that these items are not truly avoda zarah. Were they so, then you would be required to destroy all your money and not have any technology. I’m going to assume that you actually possess money and I know that you are using a computer or phone with Internet access.

    You can make the point that we’re too materialistic or too involved with technology without having to go overboard and call it an “avoda zara” when, clearly, that is not the case.

    Why is the economy so bad today? Why is the whole world going down? For the past thousands of years there was always Avoda zara in the world-from the molech to the baal to the asheira tree etc…-todays avoda zara is MONEY, we are a servant to money, we serve money, we bow down to money, we let money talk & rule us. Thus we leave Hashem no choice but to take it away from us Rachmana L’tzlan. But you can still save yourself from going down. if a person can use his money the right way & remember that it all comes from Hashem & it was just loaned to him (even though he worked for it), then he is the perfect person to continue holding Hashem’s money.

    If you truly believe the wealth and financial well-being of the world and the individuals therein was better in the days when people worshiped Ba’al, Asheirah, Molech, Zeus, et al than it is today, then I would have to conclude that you are woefully ignorant about history, economics and finance.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Not Sinning For Lack of Opportunity #1100372
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    A mitzvah, however (meaning a “kum va’aseh” – positive action) does bring schar even if it’s enjoyable. Oneg Shabbos comes to mind as an example.

    Thanks, Daas Yochid.

    As it is, I purposely chose negative mitzvos/topics (“Thou shalt nots”) since, by positive ones (Ben Sorer UMoreh, Ir HaNidachas, etc. there *is* a concept of “d’rosh v’kabel s’char.”)

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Another Shalom Aleichem Question #1099525
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    Perhaps from Kiddush Levanah.

    I doubt it. I’d be willing to bet dollars to doughnuts that it’s in Kiddush Levana because that was the standard greeting. Had the standard greeting been “Shalom Alecha,” then that would have been in KL.

    (Unless, of course, you were meant to say SA to a group of people in KL and not individually to three people as we do now.)

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Doing Teshuva for someone else #1192082
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    How do you pay off/get rid of someone else’s sin(s)?

    By God accepting whatever it is that He accepts for it.

    I don’t see why you’re having so much trouble with this. Teshuva, by it’s very nature, is a personal thing. Having someone do teshuva for you makes about as much sense as having some sleep for you. It can only be done by the person himself. The whole point is to transform and change the person for the better.

    Kapparah doesn’t change you. It just removes a part or all of someone’s sins — but it doesn’t change the person’s behavior or attitudes.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Doing Teshuva for someone else #1192080
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    Alright, so how can a person make a kappara for another person’s sins?

    The same way I can pay off someone’s debt, but I can’t make a resolution that they not go into debt again.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Doing Teshuva for someone else #1192077
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    Getting back on topic, don’t we have the concept that great rabbonim suffered or were niftar as a kappara for klal yisroel?

    A kapparah is not teshuva.

    Think of it in terms of debt.

    A kapparah is a note that wipes out a particular debt. Doing teshuva is resolving to not go into debt any further.

    Teshuva is a *personal* process — the sinner confesses his sin, regrets his actions and resolves to no longer do so. Even if you could do the first for another person, there is no way you can do the latter two. They can only be done by the person themselves for themselves. No one else can make a resolution for you. No one else can regret something for you. Only you can do that.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: What number date? #1099628
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    I’ve heard stories where the parents staked out a location the girl is known to be so they can surreptitiously spy her.

    This happened to a neighbor of mine. Very creepy.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Another Shalom Aleichem Question #1099520
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    Using the plural form of ‘you’ is a form of respect. You will also hear the plural form of ‘you’ used by speakers of French (vous instead of tu), German, Yiddish, to denote respect to the one being addressed.

    Is that true in all cultures/languages?

    It certainly doesn’t seem to be true in Hebrew where the singluar is used to address all manner of people to be respected and even HKBH Himself.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: What number date? #1099626
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    Sorry, no advice from me here, because I didn’t “shidduch date.”

    The first time I met my father-in-law was when he was sitting shiva for his father. Eeees and I had been dating for about a month in a half when her grandfather passed away. At that point, the only member of her family whom I had met was her younger sister (and that was only because she was there the day we met). So, I went to be menachem avel. It was a pleasant meeting (at least as pleasant as nichum aveilim gets). Apparently I impressed her parents that day.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Maybe I Just Shouldn't Say Kaddish? #1101320
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    Thank you all for your words of kindness and support. I didn’t mean to leave this thread without contributing, but factors prevented me from fully participating.

    In the end, whenever I say Kaddish without really thinking about the meaning of the words, it almost feels like I brought a korbon to HKBH — but of only the skin. Without the meaning, the words are hollow and empty, with no real substance. Like the skin when stuffed or inflated, it may seem real, and it may even fool some people, but in the end, it doesn’t fool HKBH. (I often feel the same way when davening Shmoneh Esrei without the proper kavanah as well.)

    I don’t really want to go to the bimah for several reasons. First of all, the other people saying kaddish are (to the best of my knowledge) all members of one family. It is not for me to intrude myself upon their family grief. Just because I am going through something similar does not, automatically, grant me rights to insert myself into their family and their proceedings.

    In addition, going to the bimah implies an importance of myself and my kaddish which, truthfully, I just don’t feel. I’m the type of person who would much rather sit in the back corner (yes, in my weekday shul, I literally sit in the back corner as far away from the center of the shul as possible) and be paid no attention whatsoever. If I didn’t actually have to say kaddish, no one would probably even know that I was there in the morning.

    Lastly, going to the bimah and saying it slowly and “forcing” them to slow down to my pace would be imposing *my* way of doing something on them — and I’m certainly not the right person to be doing that.

    In truth, I guess I was just really upset the day I posted this, and I probably let it get to me far more than I should have. I probably should not have vented my frustrations here.

    Again, thank you for the kind and supporting words. May you all have a k’siva v’chasima tova.

    The Wolf

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