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WolfishMusingsParticipant
What does it mean when someone posts something and a minute later it says user not found? they ran away so fast?
His user profile is there… you just have to deal with the space.
Change the “TheDonald%20Duck” portion of the URL to “TheDonald-Duck”
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantWOLF “universal” means by the torah obsevant Jew. Not those who want to do differently or those who have no clue.
Ah, so someone who keep hilchos kashrus perfectly but happens to use a different coloring scheme is not a Torah-observant Jew?
The Wolf
December 29, 2015 5:01 pm at 5:01 pm in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120074WolfishMusingsParticipantSo you dispute Hillel. You have your own shitta?
Hillel was talking about falling into a nisayon. Please go back to my post and tell me how not sharing in any of the scenarios I presented can lead one into the types of sin that Hillel was looking to prevent.
And, also, please answer my question regarding your phone conversations. Are you meticulous in your behavior to make sure your wife listens to all of your phone calls?
The Wolf
December 29, 2015 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120072WolfishMusingsParticipantEmail is very much like snail mail. Should the spouse read all the personal communications?
… and phone calls.
Joseph, do you make sure to never make or answer a phone call without your wife present? Or do you just record them all for her later listening enjoyment?
The Wolf
December 29, 2015 5:32 am at 5:32 am in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120063WolfishMusingsParticipantIt’s important to raise the flag so that those who are mistakenly negligent in this inyan and “keep whats personal private” are made aware of the pitfalls.
TWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEET!! Hey, Ref! Can I get a “moving the goalposts call here?”
You’ve gone from making emails available to sharing everything.
Not everything I don’t share with my wife is something that will result in a potential pitfall.
If I keep secret some embarrassingly horrible poetry I wrote in my teens, what pitfall am I likely to fall into? The “sin” of writing more bad poetry?
If I don’t tell her about the time I really disappointed my mother resulting in the loss of her wedding ring*, what nisyaon am I setting myself up for? That I’ll purposely lose her ring?
If I don’t tell her about a surprise gift that I’m getting her, what pitfall am I falling into — the “sin” of making her happy with a surprise?
If I don’t tell her about the time that I stupidly dropped a bowling ball on my foot and was in a cast for two months**, am I setting myself up for the sin of doing it again?
If a friend confides in me that he’s having financial problems/personal problems/whatever and asks me to keep it in confidence (and it has nothing to do with my wife), what sin am I potentially falling into by not telling her?
In other words, there are plenty of things that I can choose not to tell my wife that have nothing to do with potentially falling into a sin in the future.
The Wolf
* No, that never happened, it’s an example.
** Nope, that never happened either.
December 29, 2015 4:19 am at 4:19 am in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120061WolfishMusingsParticipantWolf: It working between yourselves doesn’t necessarily mean it works between you and Hashem.
… and it doesn’t mean it doesn’t. So, unless you’re a navi, or until you show me somthing in the S”A stating that it is forbidden to not tell your spouse everything, I’ll thank you to allow me to run my marriage.
And, before you ask… no, she doesn’t have the password to my email. But then again, my computer is always logged into my personal email. If she wanted to look, all she has to do is open my computer.
The Wolf
December 29, 2015 3:59 am at 3:59 am in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120058WolfishMusingsParticipantAh, but Reb Wolf, in this case the primary consideration is what Hillel said:
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No, I don’t believe it is. I don’t believe that everything that I don’t tell my wife is something that is something that is in the nature of a nisayon. Somethings are just private to me, that’s it. Other things are of a confidential nature that have nothing to do with her and are none of her business. I respect her privacy and she respects mine. I trust her and she trusts me — and that works for us for a quarter century. Anyone who is happily married for a quarter century is clearly doing something right regarding how their relationship works. So, since this works for us, I’m not changing it. And if something else works for another couple… then all the more power to them. I wouldn’t presume to say that just because it works for me, they must do likewise.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantHowever, when all is said and done there is absolutely no mekor for Chanuka presents
There’s also no mekor for our having baked tilapia in lemon sauce on Friday nights instead of gefilte fish. So what?
The Wolf
December 29, 2015 3:25 am at 3:25 am in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120056WolfishMusingsParticipantYou are two halves of one whole. Would your right hand refuse to share with your left hand?
Your analogy is flawed, of course, because your two hands don’t have their own identities and personalities.
You see, Joseph, you can choose to share everything with your spouse if you want to. But one thing I’ve learned over the years is that what works for one couple does not work for every couple.
If sharing everything works between you and your wife — God bless you both. However, for some couples, oversharing is a bad thing — and unless you’re privy to the dynamics of their marriage and personalities, then it’s rather presumptuous of you to demand of them why they don’t.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantNone of the above.
(With complete sincerity)
The Wolf
December 28, 2015 1:46 pm at 1:46 pm in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120048WolfishMusingsParticipantWhy wouldn’t you share your personal feelings/poetry with your soulmate?
Because sometimes you just don’t. There’s nothing wrong with having private feelings.
The Wolf
December 27, 2015 8:25 pm at 8:25 pm in reply to: Do You Allow Your Spouse To Read All Your E-Mails? #1120024WolfishMusingsParticipantAt will, all your emails, any account you have, at any time.
She’s never asked. However, if she asked… personal, yes. Work, no.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantassur bhanaha
Please provide a cite that things that are gained through chukos hagoi (as opposed to actual avoda zara) are, in fact, assur b’hana’ah.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantnow a days the universal siman is as ma brought red for meaty and blue for dairy having it different is a problem lehalocho
Whenever anyone says that any minhag or such is “universal,” it usually isn’t.
I know several households that have different coloring schemes. We personally also use red/meat blue/dairy green or yellow/parve, but it’s certainly not universal.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantMy mother bought a plot for herself many years ago, near where her parents were to be buried.
All I have to say is that I’m very happy she did. I don’t think I could have handled the idea of suddenly having to “shop” for a plot when she did pass away.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantWhy is it our responsibility alone to raise the level of conversation? It’s yours too. If you want more serious conversation, start a few serious threads.
The Wolf
December 27, 2015 3:28 am at 3:28 am in reply to: Are the girls causing their own shidduch crisis?? #1120615WolfishMusingsParticipantA federal court in Utah has overturned the states law against it less than two years ago.
Actually, that’s not entirely true.
The courts did strike down the provisions regarding cohabitation with more than one “wife” at a time. However, the courts also upheld the restrictions on actually marrying more than one person at a time. IOW, you can live with as many women (or men) as you like, but you can only be legally married to one. If you marry another before the first marriage is dissolved, you can still find yourself charged with a crime.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantWhy not what?
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipant“Mr Duck, there a Mr. Disney on the phone for you. Something about breach of contract for appearing outside an official Disney venue…”
The Wolf
December 26, 2015 11:34 pm at 11:34 pm in reply to: Are the girls causing their own shidduch crisis?? #1120603WolfishMusingsParticipantI have daughters in their 20s in shidduchim, and beli ayin harah they are good girls with good professions. They have not had a dates in months, not even a call. They are not being picky or have some of the demands you post.
I feel badly for your plight, but perhaps this is a sign that your daughters should take more active steps to find husbands than just sitting by the phone waiting.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantIf you want a light-hearted discussion, then start one. No one is stopping you.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantAs it turns out, I didn’t end up learning last night… I ended up cooking instead. Does that mean that everything I made is treif?
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantVienna is not a Chabad outpost,
I didn’t mean to imply it was… but they could certainly tell you what’s out there. 🙂
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipant20 is also old enough. 18 too. Many would even argue younger.
It depends on the individual. No doubt some at 20 are ready. Others not.
The Wolf
December 24, 2015 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm in reply to: MODERN ORTHODOXY: The Fundamental problems #1119044WolfishMusingsParticipantShiv’im panim laTorah applies only to Torah approaches
Ah yes, the Henry Ford approach to Judaism.
“You can have your Model-T in any color you want, so long as it’s black.”
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantWhat if a 35 or 45 year old doesn’t trust their own instincts. Should he/she also not get married yet? 55?
If they can’t decide for themselves who they should consider for marriage, to the point where they are abdicating all authority and responsibility for the process, then yes, at any age, they should not get married.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantAnyone else donning sackcloth?
Nope. Not changing my routine at all.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantYou can start by contacting the local Chabad House there. Google “Chabad Vienna” and it’ll be the first link.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantWhat were you expecting?
Approval? Applause? Appreciation?
Not necessarily.
It’s one thing to trumpet your way of life. It’s should not be necessary to condemn everyone else in the process of doing so.
The Wolf
December 24, 2015 6:00 pm at 6:00 pm in reply to: Artscroll gemara now coming onto technology #1149501WolfishMusingsParticipantThey’re saying it’s a bad thing because they feel the risk of engaging in negative behavior with the hardware (which some people will only get once there is a positive use such as Torah) outweighs the benefit of having it for positive purposes.
And the risk of getting hit by a car when crossing the street outweighs the benefit of it when I’m doing it for recreational purposes… and yet I don’t think the OP would ever say “don’t cross the street unless you’re going to shul or work.”
The Wolf
December 24, 2015 5:56 pm at 5:56 pm in reply to: High Schools in Monsey and the surrounding area #1120930WolfishMusingsParticipantWhy don’t you start by asking your friends and neighbors who have the same values and hashkafos as you? From there, continue with a Rav who knows your family and the needs of your daughter well. You might also want to ask some of her current teachers.
The Wolf
December 24, 2015 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm in reply to: Labels exist to facilitate discrimination. #1118262WolfishMusingsParticipanttheres always something to be proud of yourself.
Proof, please.
I don’t believe it to be universally true. I sometimes don’t believe it to be true even of myself.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantAnd I agree that a 25 year old MAN who does not trust his OWN instincts, is not ready to get married.
Or woman.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantCall them and ask.
(718)853-8500
The Wolf
December 23, 2015 4:58 pm at 4:58 pm in reply to: Artscroll gemara now coming onto technology #1149499WolfishMusingsParticipantThis doesn’t answer your question, but you could do that with a chumash.
Yes, but I’m not going to carry a gemara AND chumash (and a nach, and a Rambam, and a Shulchan Aruch…) with me wherever I go.
Also, those arguing against it haven’t said there’s no benefit, just that they feel the negative outweighs it (not that I agree).
But they’re saying (using my paraphrase) that it’s a bad thing. I want to know why.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantHi I am 25 currently learning kollel & I am ready to move on I would like to pursue a career as a Physical Therapist. I live in Queens and wanted to know what people thought is the best route to pursue this path?
Your best bet would be, of course, to find other frum PTs and ask their advice.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantLol, Wolf.
One tries one’s best…
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantSometimes, yes, sometimes no.
Care to give examples?
Still waiting…
Or was your OP just a “let’s throw this up on the wall and see what sticks?”
The Wolf
December 23, 2015 4:48 pm at 4:48 pm in reply to: Artscroll gemara now coming onto technology #1149497WolfishMusingsParticipant(Example: I’m learning gemara and they quote a passuk, but I’d like to see it in context and with Rashi. I can do that very easily on my iPad. I can’t do that with paper because I don’t carry an entire library around with me. Is it bad that I can do that? Does my ability to delve deeper into sources or rapidly find related material make my learning any less valuable? If so, please explain why.)
I’m still waiting for someone to explain to me why this is a bad thing…
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantDoes the YWN Cofee Room qualify for being a “Moshav Leitzim” in which one is adjured not to sit?
I’m here, so I would definitely advise you (for the sake of your neshama) to not be here.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantSuicide is assur. Just as someone killing someone else is assur, someone killing himself is assur. I do not even understand how you can question the possibility of suicide. It is a clear-cut issur.
No, it’s not. R. Yaakov Emden, for example, maintains that one can commit suicide as a kapparah. You may say “we don’t hold like that…” but it’s clearly not as clear-cut as you think it is.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantNYC spent $20000 per student in public school.
IIUC, a good percentage of that goes to educate children with severe learning disabilities… situations most yeshivos don’t deal with.
That’s not to say that it’s inexpensive to educate non-disabled kids… but it’s not $20K either.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantDo you insist the school operate at a non profit or do you believe they are entitled to operate at a profit?
Are they presenting themselves as a non-profit to get tax breaks? If so, then they should not operate at a profit. If not, then yes.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantIt’s clear from Chazal that the existence of mamzerim is itself harmful to klal yisroel. There are even dei’os that you do not say the mi sheberach at the bris of a mamzer “likayem es hayeled hazeh” since we don’t want him to survive, we don’t want the perpetuation of mamzerus amongst klal yisroel.
So, is it proper for a mamzer to wish to die?
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantI think the terribleness of bringing about mamzerim you are referring to is primarily directed towards the initial circumstance. After the fact, if “containing the damage” was Hashem’s top priority, why would He permit mamzerim to marry at all?
In other words, what Hashem hates is the behavior that causes a mamzer in the first place, as opposed to the mamzer himself.
Well, I think we can all agree that the *primary* place to stop mamzeirim is in the original sin that resulted in the condition in the first place.
For mamzerim to find permitted and suitable potential spouses would be miraculous; why should they deny themselves happiness due to sins that were not their fault?
I’m not saying that we should deny it to them. My question is, if he wants to deny it to himself, for whatever reason, is it okay for him to do so?
I think the focus would be better placed on preventing the sins from which mamzerim originate.
Again, I think we all agree that that’s the case. But now we’re dealing with an after-the-fact situation.
Umm, what? Where in the Torah is it ever suggested that murdering a mamzer is permitted?
I was not, under any circumstancing, suggesting that it was okay to go around murdering people under any circumstances. My question was about suicide, not murdering others.
I think your focus on this issue is a bit off. What HKBH does not want to happen is the circumstances that produce a mamzer ab origine, e.g., adultery, not the mamzer per se.
I agree, to an extent. However, when we hear about the terribleness of being “marbeh mamzeirim” in the world, we don’t hear it with the caveat of “we only mean the original circumstances, but you mamzeirim who already exist, we don’t mean you…”
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantOf course suicide is out of the question.
Why is it “of course?*” If it will reduce the number of mamzeirim in the world (and is voluntary on his part), why is it so “of course?”
The Wolf
*(Just to be clear, I’m not saying that it is okay either… I would just like to know why it’s being dismissed so out of hand.)
WolfishMusingsParticipantWhy would you think this is not a clear-cut halachic question?
And if for whatever reason you assumed he IS obligated in the mitzvah, why do you think he can get out of it? cf Chizkiyahu
I don’t think Chizkiyahu is relevant here. While he may have forseen that he would have a wicked child, it was in no way certain that it must be that way (or else the idea of free will goes out the window). Here, however, it is certain that the children will be mamzeirim. Free will has nothing to do with it.
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantWhere are you coming from? does this have anything with the problematic gitin that were issued?
No. Just curiosity. To the best of my knowledge, there are no mamzeirim involved there.
He can marry a mamzeres and have 1 kid so two turn into one
No. Unless the parents die right away, it’s two turning into three. And it still doesn’t answer the question (inasmuch as the mitzvah of p’ru u’r’vu is at least two [and maybe three]).
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantAppropriate or inappropriate?
Sometimes, yes, sometimes no.
Care to give examples?
The Wolf
WolfishMusingsParticipantMod? are you scared of your Gilgul? Closing all the threads wont make the issue run away.
They don’t have to make it go away. They just want to prevent you from discussing it here – which they are more than capable of doing.
The Wolf
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