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  • in reply to: Controversy In Israel – Woman says Sheva Brachos #1180936
    WolfishMusings
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    This is on top of the other ramifications

    And no where does anyone say that this is deserving of death or a curse. Had he said that it was wrong of her to do so, I probably would have said nothing. But in wishing death upon someone over this (and not having the same or greater outrage for people who do far worse things) is just plain wrong.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Take the TV out of the Restaurant or we will shut you down #1181028
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    You’re free to disbelieve my statement. It wouldn’t bother me.

    In other words, you don’t know squat. You either assumed it or just flat out made it up.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Controversy In Israel – Woman says Sheva Brachos #1180932
    WolfishMusings
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    I did not say I wanted to kill her for her disrespect. Only to disintegrate her. I should think the distinction is apparent.

    Big deal. Same thing. Bottom line is that you wished that she was dead.

    She can do that garbage

    Praising HKBH is garbage?

    in a reform “synagogue”, not in my orthodox shule. That impudent woman knew what she was being deviant.

    And you’re a mind reader too. Wow.

    Again, I ask, how about you save your outrage for things that are far worse in our community than a woman praising HKBH.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Take the TV out of the Restaurant or we will shut you down #1181024
    WolfishMusings
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    It never got to the point where a public boycott was initiated since the owner was cooperative and made the necessary changes. So there was no boycott. It was all dealt with privately directly with the owner.

    That’s all beside the point. You asserted that the aborted boycott movement was backed by “chosheve rabbonim” and the like. The fact that the boycott never manifested itself does not change that fact. So, again, I ask, who are these people who backed it?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Take the TV out of the Restaurant or we will shut you down #1181022
    WolfishMusings
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    The owner knows. The case has been B’H resolved and there is no need for the public to be privy to the information.

    You’re the one making the assertion. Burden of proof is on you.

    In other words, I think that (a) you don’t know or (b) it didn’t have the backing of “chosheve rabbonim…” at all.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Controversy In Israel – Woman says Sheva Brachos #1180930
    WolfishMusings
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    A few weeks ago on Shabbos night, a woman said kaddish in my Chabad shule. Don’t know who she was, but I burned with disgust. I don’t know how the sages turned a person into a heap of bones, but I would have done it and stuff the paperwork…

    You “burned with disgust” and wanted death for a woman because she praised HKBH?

    How about having some disgust for some of the things that are *truly* wrong with our communities?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Take the TV out of the Restaurant or we will shut you down #1181019
    WolfishMusings
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    The action was taken under the auspices of some of the chashuve rabbonim and dayanim of the community.

    Who?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Self-Fulfilling Heresy #1180252
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Thank you for being so kind, thoughtful and considerate of another person’s feelings Joseph. Next time I need a fire extinguished, I’ll be sure to call you to bring your flame-thrower and gasoline.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: halacha thread by Sparkly #1180575
    WolfishMusings
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    why cant we eat milk and meat together (besides for kosher)?

    “God said so” isn’t good enough of a reason?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178516
    WolfishMusings
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    The Torah Temimah and Rav Emden and some of the others lived fairly recently. In fact, the Torah Temimah passed away in the 1940s and even lived in America for a time. So it was the way of the world from Matan Torah through the modern era and only changed when Susan B. Anthony or Betty Friedan came along?

    None of that matters. I was throwing you a bone. Don’t want it? That’s fine… but my point still remains – saying that a marriage must be the way Rabbi Miller describes it (or else it’s not a successful marriage) is just plain wrong.

    Many people claim that they see with their own own eyes and/or experience that toeiva “marriages” are “successful couples” where the so-called “marriage” works.

    Really??? You’re comparing a marriage of the type we’re discussing to a homosexual marriage? You think that they’re both the same???

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178502
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf: The Torah ideal isn’t for the man to be dominant and the woman submissive.

    Torah: ????? ???????? ????????????? ?????? ???????? ?????

    We’ve covered this before. That’s not a statement that things *must* be that way. In the same Parsha it also says ???????? ???????? ???????????? ?????????? ???????? ???????? ??????. Does that mean that a woman can’t have painkillers during childbirth?

    It doesn’t matter how many other sources you bring because I can see with my own eyes that there are successful couples where the marriage works even though it isn’t in the dominant male/submissive female paradigm. Saying that it must be that way for the marriage to be successful is false — and it doesn’t matter how many sources you bring to the contrary because the evidence of my own eyes and the experiences that I personally have gone through are more convincing to me.

    However, I will throw you a bone on the matter. Many of those sources you brought were written at a time and in a culture when, perhaps, the dominant male/submissive female paradigm was dominant and expected. But today, the culture is very different than back then — and people’s expectations of themselves, their spouses and their roles in marriage have shifted significantly since then. So, I’ll grant, it’s possible that the statement that a marriage must work that way was true in certain times, certain places and certain cultures — but in the America of today, it is not.

    You can decry it. You can wail and gnash your teeth about it. You may state that it’s a betrayal of everything the Torah holds dear — but it doesn’t matter. You can’t change people and their expectations by whim. You have to deal with the reality as it currently exists and, as it does, your preferred paradigm for marriage does not have to be the only one for a successful marriage.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Public survey about davening #1177999
    WolfishMusings
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    How long is your shmoneh esrei?

    Exactly 19 b’rachos. Oh, you wanted a time? Sorry… I don’t time myself.

    what do you do to make it more meaningful?

    Concentrate on the meaning of the words.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Stop mispronouncing Jalape�o! #1177912
    WolfishMusings
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    How do you know whether I pronounce it correctly or not?

    /?h?l??pe?njo?/

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178500
    WolfishMusings
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    The husband and wife ARE partners! BUT at the same time, they do have different roles and the husband’s role involves being the more dominant one in certain ways.

    And I disagree with that being a rule.

    As I said, if a couple works with the dynamic of the man being dominant and the woman submissive, then fine — that’s what works for that couple. But the same is true if it’s the exact opposite, or if their personalities are somewhere in the middle. My objection was to Rabbi Miller’s statement that it *must* be this way for a marriage to work. I know from my own marriage and plenty of others that it’s simply not so.

    No two marriages are the same, as the people involved in them are different. How each couple interacts with each other is up to them. To say that the man must have traits X, Y and Z and the woman must have traits A, B and C for a marriage to work is just false. Each couple has to determine on their own how their relationship is going to work and trying to force them into roles that are not within their personalities or that would upset the dynamic of their relationship is just asking for trouble.

    The Torah ideal isn’t for the man to be dominant and the woman submissive. The Torah ideal is to have a functioning, loving relationship — however the interpersonal dynamics between them works out.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178499
    WolfishMusings
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    I wrote my post before this was posted.

    I realized. 🙂

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178494
    WolfishMusings
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    I find arrogance to be offensive on anyone — man or woman. I certainly don’t find it to be an “ornament.”

    My apologies. I clearly missed the word “not” in the original quote from Rabbi Miller.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Best Not to Vote At All? #1177989
    WolfishMusings
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    I’ve mentioned in other threads (but will repeat here) that it is far more important that you vote in your state and local elections than in the presidential election.

    Don’t like Clinton or Trump? Fine… don’t vote for either. Write in your own name or leave it blank. But be sure to vote in the other races — it’s far more important that the state and local politicians see that Jews vote than the presidential candidates.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178493
    WolfishMusings
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    Rav Avigdor Miller (Awake My Glory): There cannot be two kings. The marriage relationship is two-fold. 1) The wife is submissive. This is not only Jewish but natural. There can be no harmony when there are two commanders. Without this indispensable condition, the home is disordered.

    I do not find this to be true.

    First of all, I find it strange that anyone would compare a marriage to a military formation. Of course, in the military there must be one person in charge. But a marriage is not a military brigade, nor is it a kingdom to be ruled. It’s a partnership – and like all partnerships, it has to be run according to the personalities and skills of the partners. If the partnership works with one dominant person and one submissive — then all the more power to them. But saying that it is impossible to work with two people who have equal say in the affairs of the marriage is downright wrong, as there are plenty of people today who have marriages where they work together — not as king and servant or master and servant.

    “Arrogance is unbecoming a woman” – Megillah 14B. For a man it is not an ornament, but for a woman it is as if she wore a mustache.

    I find arrogance to be offensive on anyone — man or woman. I certainly don’t find it to be an “ornament.”

    The Wolf

    in reply to: learning Zohar Kabbala #1180307
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Is there really NOBODY that does it like artscroll with HEBREW ZOHAR ON ONE SIDE AND ENGLISH TRANSLATION ON THE OTHER SIDE?

    Wow. This must be one of the great injustices of the world that you had to type out your complaint in ALL CAPS.

    On a more serious note, why do you want to learn Zohar rather than more conventional (and not to mention practical) parts of Torah?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: halacha thread by Sparkly #1180509
    WolfishMusings
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    Seforim and previous tzaddikim from earlier generations

    Yeah, I knew that’s what you meant. I was actually looking for an actual citation.

    Oh, and while you’re at it, have you come up with the citation for your rule that we don’t fast on Asara B’Teves when it falls out on a Friday?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178471
    WolfishMusings
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    Serving drinks is not the same as pouring drinks. I have never seen a wife pour her husband’s drinks for him.

    Eees and I pour drinks for each other all the time.

    We also hold the door open for each other all the time.

    ????? ???? ???? ???? ????? ?? ????? ?? ???

    We definitely don’t do this. Our marriage is one of equals, not master and servant or boss and underling and certainly not king and subject.

    If you want to say that this makes our marriage not a “Torah marriage,” then fine, that’s your opinion, but after 25 years, we’re not changing.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: halacha thread by Sparkly #1180495
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    they say

    Who is “they?”

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Diamonds Are Overrated! #1177690
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Wolf – huh? Who ever said anything about a religious issue here?

    Then I clearly misinterpreted this thread. My apologies.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Diamonds Are Overrated! #1177689
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Hatzaddik Reb Wolf

    Whatever.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Diamonds Are Overrated! #1177685
    WolfishMusings
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    Personally, I don’t think I would want a recycled engagement ring. Not to sound spoiled – I don’t know if I would need one altogether, and I don’t know if I would care if it’s diamond or not- but, if I were already getting one, I think I might find it strange to get a recycled one.

    That’s fine, but at least now we’ve gotten to the point that it’s your personal preference, not a religious issue.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: ??? ???? ??? – A Thank You to Women! #1180376
    WolfishMusings
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    “I am a Cohen and will perform the Avoda in the Beis HaMikdash and you are not a Cohen and will not perform the avoda in the Beis HaMikdash BECAUSE when Moshe Rabeinu said “Mi LaHashem Aelai”, my great great grandfather answered the call, and yours didn’t. Make sure you answer the call the next time you hear it!”

    Except that the pasuk says that it was Shevet Levi who answered the call. The kehunah, however, is not given to all of Shevet Levi, but to the descendants of a single individual from that Shevet. So, even if the person’s ancestor DID answer the call, he would still not have been a Kohen.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Diamonds Are Overrated! #1177673
    WolfishMusings
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    Are there any teachings that deter from inheriting an engagement or wedding ring from a family member who got divorced and/or had an unhappy marriage?

    My mother (who was divorced) gave me her engagement ring to use when I became engaged. I had the stones reset into a new setting and ring.

    With thanks to HKBH, happily married 25 years and counting.

    (And before anyone asks; yes, Eees know all along the origins of the ring.)

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Reply to Chance #1177324
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    It’s not the first time you made such a point to me!

    I know that I’m a genius, but I don’t know everything!

    Did it ever occur to you that I don’t know how to do that?!?

    Next time be Dan people L’caf Zecus!

    My apologies. I should not have been so blunt.

    For future reference, all you have to do is copy/paste the URL.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Reply to Chance #1177322
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Baloney. From the CDC:

    From 2001-2013, 28% of children younger than 5 years old who had measles had to be treated in the hospital.

    For some children, measles can lead to:

    Pneumonia (a serious lung infection)

    Lifelong brain damage

    Deafness

    Death

    (Mods, I know the rule is no links… but I believe this to be a serious enough issue [potential pikuach nefesh] that I am going to ask you to bend the rules and allow a link to the CDC website. Thank you.)

    Sorry, they’ll have to Google it.

    Based on that reasoning, let’s reintroduce smallpox as well. And why not let cholera, polio and rubella run rampant too? Who are we to think we can outwit Him who created these diseases?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Reply to Chance #1177321
    WolfishMusings
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    in reply to: Reply to Chance #1177320
    WolfishMusings
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    Not to argue against your point, Health, but a link to the original thread would be helpful.

    Thanks.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: learning Zohar Kabbala #1180284
    WolfishMusings
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    The book is called the Zohar. Is there an English translation? I don’t know.

    However, I would humbly suggest that if you need the English translation, then perhaps you would be better served learning more traditional subjects (Gemara, Halacha, etc.).

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Reminder! Do not leave kids locked in cars #1177284
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    I would not be surprised in the slightest if what happened was

    No, Joseph… you got it all wrong. I’ll tell you what happened.

    The “rescuer” was a person who decided that he needed some instant fame. He noticed that the back door of the car was unlocked and hatched a plan. He ran into the store, found the mother with the baby, grabbed the baby and ran out of the store. He then put the baby in the car and locked the door.

    Then, he started a commotion, calling the police and saying “there’s a baby in a locked car,” smashed the window and had the mother thrown in jail.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Kumzitz on the Hudson – 2016 – Kosher or Disgusting? #1177196
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    I assume you hold the same thing for Mordechai Ben David, right? I assume you believe that he’s “ruining the ruchniyus of klal yisorel & their children” as well?

    Mashiach Agent… I’m still waiting for a reply on this.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Who's monitoring the moderators? #1177201
    WolfishMusings
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    They even allow me to post. If they allow that, they’ll probably allow anything.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Tropical storm hermoine #1177475
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    I don’t know of any storm named Hermoine. Perhaps you mean Hermine?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: jewish holidays #1177461
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf, thanks for writing what I (and I think many others) were thinking.

    You’re welcome.

    However, if you can please do me (and everyone else a favor)… if you’re going to quote someone else, please do something (italicize, put in quotation marks, etc.) to the quotes so that it’s easy to distinguish between the part you are quoting and your own thoughts. Otherwise, it gets very difficult to read.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Are ther Bedouin who didn't wear hats during Davening #1176662
    WolfishMusings
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    I want to know if I should wear a hat or not,

    I don’t believe there is anyone who says that it is forbidden to wear a hat during davening. I highly doubt there is anyplace that has a specific custom NOT to wear a hat. So, if you feel more comfortable davening with a hat, then by all means, wear one.

    but In my shul people don’t wear hats so it would look a little weird and show offy

    Don’t worry so much about what other people will think.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Kumzitz on the Hudson – 2016 – Kosher or Disgusting? #1177193
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Lipas music is pure goyish music with the words changed over to jewish & is ruining the ruchnius in klal yisroel & their children. how far away are they from pure real goyish music once they are enhanced in rocken lipa?

    I assume you hold the same thing for Mordechai Ben David, right? I assume you believe that he’s “ruining the ruchniyus of klal yisorel & their children” as well?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: jewish holidays #1177458
    WolfishMusings
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    when 6 out of 7

    Five. The first and last days are Yom Tov.

    I’m glad I live in chutz laaretz. Being that how can a person feel the Tom tov kedusha when 6 out of 7 days a person is allowed to do melacha.

    Ummm… you do realize that that’s the way we’re *supposed to* observe it, right? In an ideal world, we’d ALL be keeping only one day of Yom Tov.

    I also think it’s absurd of you to question how people living in Eretz Yisroel can feel the kedusha of Yom Tov. I’m sure they do just fine.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: jewish holidays #1177457
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    It would be more correct to state that certain types of Melacha are permitted in certain circumstances.

    Yes, I know. I just didn’t feel like typing out “work of the type permitted on Chol HaMoed.”

    The Wolf

    in reply to: hair #1176945
    WolfishMusings
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    Wolf: There are sources (the ones the Ashkenazim rely on) that fish and dairy is neither halacha nor sakana. If everyone held that it was sakana, it would be assur for Ashkenazim as well.

    Well, something is either a sakana or it’s not. It’s ludicrous to say that it’s dangerous for Sephardim to eat something but not for Ashkaenazim. The fact of the matter is that one group is just plain wrong. But I suppose that’s another argument for another time.

    If you don’t like the example I gave, there are plenty of others: tefillin on Chol HaMoed; whether or not US government regulations suffice for the requirement of Cholov Yisroel; whether or not a woman has to wear stockings below the knee in public; whether or not an Eruv can be constructed in Brooklyn; and so on. These are all arguments in halacha, not minhag. So pick any one of these and go with it. Are people who take the lenient position in any of these matters apikorsim according to you?

    The Wolf

    in reply to: hair #1176938
    WolfishMusings
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    As I have told you many times before, any Rabbi who denies a halacha is an Apikorus.

    Many sefardim state that not eating fish and dairy together is a halacha. Does that make the rest of us bagels-cream-cheese-and-lox Jews apikorsim?

    (And before tries to say that it isn’t “halacha,” I’ll grant that they are correct — it’s more than halacha, as per the dictum of “sakanta chamura m’issura.”).

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Explaining Jewish Holidays to Teachers #1176665
    WolfishMusings
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    For Passover, just tell your teacher to watch the first half of “The Ten Commandments.” 🙂

    The Wolf

    in reply to: jewish holidays #1177449
    WolfishMusings
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    MA: I have asked you for a source that states that Hoshana Rabbah is not Chol hamoed.

    I believe we’re just arguing over a label here. We all agree that Hoshanna Rabba is a day where melacha is permitted (as on all other Chol HaMoeds) and yet, it has a charachter that is somewhat Yom-Tov like (especially in the davening).

    I don’t think whether or not you actually call it “Chol HaMoed” or not has any practical difference.

    (On the other hand, unlike Mashiach Agent, I fast on Asara B’Teves when it falls out on Friday. 🙂 )

    The Wolf

    in reply to: phone #1176606
    WolfishMusings
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    The wolf-I don’t want to be judgmental but from the sound of his username he sounds….young

    I figured as much myself. FWIW, it sounds to me like a kid who asked his parents for a phone, was told “no,” and now wants to show this thread to his parents and say “see, these people think I should have a phone…”

    Sorry, kid. You’re not entitled to a phone from your parents at any age.

    Nonetheless, I chose to include the “adult” option anyway, just in case I was wrong.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: phone #1176604
    WolfishMusings
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    what is the age to get a boy a phone?

    Why are you assuming that there is some set age that, once you reach it, you are entitled to a phone?

    Are you a child? Then you need your parents’ permission. You are not entitled to it at any age.

    Are you an adult? Then go buy one.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: jewish holidays #1177432
    WolfishMusings
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    There is a website called Hebcal which is an online Hebrew/Gregorian calendar. It’s very useful and completely free.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: Affordable gift ideas for your spouse #1175044
    WolfishMusings
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    would you present such a cheap $2 gift to your spouse…

    if you would then you seriously have problems & also don’t treasure or appreciate your spouse

    I guess that, according to you, I have serious problems and don’t treasure my spouse.

    I was always taught that it’s not the price of the gift that matters, but how much thought you put into it. If it makes your wife/husband happy, does it really matter how much it costs?

    Eeees asked me to order something on Amazon recently. I placed the order and (as a surprise) included a small kitten figurine (she likes cats). It wasn’t $2, but it wasn’t much more than that. I did it because I thought it would make her happy (which it did). It reminded her that I was thinking of her and wanted to make her happy. To me, *that’s* what makes the gift meaningful — not the price tag.

    However, if you want to think I don’t treasure my wife or that I have problems because the gift I sent her didn’t meet your price criteria, then go right ahead. We’re still very happy despite your perception.

    The Wolf

    in reply to: when Trump wins #1175153
    WolfishMusings
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    how many prisoners has obama freed illegaly recently?

    Considering that the president has the power to pardon federal crimes, why do you think his releasing of federal prisoners is illegal?

    The Wolf

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