WinnieThePooh

Some high traffic areas of Manhattan have no honking signs. It’s so the neighbors don’t suffer all day from drivers with no patience who honk their horns in standstill traffic because somehow they think that will get all the cars moving. I don’t think it is illegal in all of NYC, but I could be out of date, it’s been a long time since I have been there.

This is actually a real question that can potentially involve 2 issurim- 1) getting a garment wet can be an issue of cleaning (melaben) and 2) of squeezing (sechita, the mealacha of dosh), if the garment gets wet enough to squeeze. As far as I know the Halacha, and it pays to ask your Rov of course, wiping with a disposable napkin is ok, or something like a rag that is designated for spills. You would still have to be careful not to squeeze-meaning avoid getting it soaking wet- whether it is the cloth or your skirt that got soaked by sitting in the puddle.
There is a story I heard once about a Rav who got out of bed in the morning and stepped into the negel vassar water with his socks on. Since he was afraid if he stepped down or pulled off the sock he would squeeze, he sat like that the whole shabbos.

Joseph, maybe among the Yiddish speaking chasidim, they use Yiddish names. But Litvish chareidim do not. If they name after someone with a Yiddish name, they change it to the Hebrew equivalent (eg Faiga becomes Tzipora, Gittel, Tova). I am speaking from my experience- from hearing the names in the playground, seeing the names on class lists, knowing girls who if they do have a Yiddish name (because they have American parents), hide them, change them, use only a middle/first name instead.

Back to the OP, most Americans who hear Sivan would think, why would someone name their kid after a month? If it was just a made up name with no other meaning, I think it would be less likely that the kid would feel uncomfortable.

You’re right, of course, RebYidd, but Gox3 was referring to annarexic, whatever that is…from the context it seems it must be a positive superlative.

I grew up with a Hungarian grandmother and her choleptzus was my favorite dish- she served them sukkos and Purim. When she was no longer able to make them herself, I realized that the only way I could still eat them was if I made them- my mother never made them, because my grandmother supplied for the whole family. I made them happily for a few years, until my husband finally got up the courage to tell me that he does not like choleptzes. Haven’t made them since, but this thread is making me hungry for some.

My kids have seen more real guns in real life on security guards, policemen, soldiers. On the other hand, they don’t watch TV.
Even though I discouraged guns as toys, somehow, boys will be boys and they will play “cops N robber” and improvise a gun. And they gravitate to the Playmobil police sets, guns and all. Oh well. At least they think of guns as something to protect you, not hurt you.

wow, a whole thread about me!
The problem is that there are no maple trees in the 100 Acre Woods where I live, that’s why I eat what comes from the hives- whether it was honey or maple syrup.
Can you send me some pancakes please, I’m getting hungry!

I’m not commenting on whether is is appropriate to publish photos of women or not, but I would like t o comment on the premise that this picture is a reason to permit:
Yes it is a touching picture, but still, do you really learn what a happy, healthy marriage is like from looking at a picture of a husband and wife? even people in bad marriages can pose with smiles. And if one says that R’ Wosner’s expression is showing how to relate to one’s wife, then it would technically be enough just to show his face, with a caption stating that he was looking at his wife at the time of the picture.
If one wants happy, healthy role models than the proper way would be, if possible, to spend time in such a couple’s home. Stories about how gedolim treated their wives can also teach something, much more clearly than a picture, which is subject to the interpretation of the viewer, can.

I imagine there are also many BT families and young men in the Chabad community, that it should not be so difficult for you to marry into Chabad. But…
Just curious, have you explored your rich sephardic heritage too..perhaps as a great-granddaughter of the Baba Sali you will find treasures of your own?

770chabad- back to the Yiddish in Chabad school issues. I’m asking out of curiosity, not to put down. I still don’t see how this works- I can see how it works in other chasidus, where they are insular and Yiddish speaking at home. But I never suspected that Chabad, with the large influx of BTs, was the same way- so you are saying that kids from BT homes, who never spoke Yiddish in their lives, whose parents don’t speak Yiddish, will switch out of public school, say at age 9, and go to a Yiddish speaking school, and the sefarim you described is enough to get them through? Or maybe these kids stay in the local Chabad day schools? But then you are creating a sub-community within the community, the BTs will never integrate.
The other issue that you did not answer, is how a boy who only learned to speak, read, and write English at home in his after-cheder time, can grow up to be an eloquent Shaliach who can communicate articulately with the people in his very out of town communities where the locals do not speak Yiddish. I imagine that shlichus goes beyond putting tefillin on someone and teaching them how to say shema and serving lots of meals on yomim tovim- they must talk and express themselves, teach deep concepts etc. How do they manage?

770chabad- your brothers really don’t learn any English? How does this work, considering the number of BTs in the Chabad community, who obviously feel much more comfortable in English than Yiddish? Where do their kids learn- or are there separate schools for FFB Chabadniks and BTs? And how do bochurim with no English skills grow up to communicate effectively with an English speaking secular Jewish public?

Yes, Syag I was thinking the same, but acknowledge that for some families that could be very difficult to impossible to do.
Another point in favor of the healthy baby- why should the babysitter get sick? Or catch something that she could pass on to her family/little kids, as the case may be?

knafaym- did R’ Ovadya wear the traditional garb before he became the Rishon L’tzion? I was under the impression that the clothing was associated with the title, and not with being a major sefardi posek.

Daddysgirl, to answer your question on the other closed thread about why I did not join this party until now:
1. I don’t usually hang out at mixed parties that rock with guys and gals, even if they are virtual ones, and even if the food is good.
2. I usually only contribute to threads if I have something new to add to the conversation, or an important point to stress. Since I have not yet figured out how to post those cute pictures, I have nothing to add to this topic. Nothing personal. I did find it ironic that the two threads were going on simultaneously, almost back-to-back- one where you welcomed yourself to the CR, and one where you discussed leaving.

It’s a natural outcome of an anonymous online forum- natural barriers are removed, so a teenager can be talking to a respected Zeidy like a peer, when normally that would not be happening in real life.

By the way, Daddysgirl, does this mean the welcome party on the other thread is over?

Chazal compare someone who gets angry to an idol worshiper – because they lose control and no longer can think rationally. That sort of anger is never good or healthy.
Yet anger of a different sort can be good, sometimes, I think. Say someone gets angry at an injustice, and it propels him to take action to correct that injustice. But that is not the type of anger where one loses control, I am not sure it would even qualify as the basic definition of anger.
Slow to anger means it takes a lot to get angry, the person does not easily get angry.

Chochom: “By the way did you know that it was really meant to be called hurricane Israel but some senate people had it taken down from the name list?”
Couldn’t be. They alternate male and female names. Harvey and Jose are male, Irma is female. Maybe Israel was suggested a different year?

Ironically, I just had such a case, but I doubt it is a cause for OTD. My boys’ school is doing an Elul campaign to promote proper davening and neigel vasser- they get a stamp from the Rebbe each day that they daven nicely and bring in a note from home that they washed properly. The note explaining the campaign to the parents said the kids should be encouraged to wash with water next to their beds, as they learned in school. Now I know many people are makpid on this, it happens to be that we are not and go by the opinion that it is fined to wash in the sink too. My son mentioned this to me, before I read the note, and I said, but we follow a different opinion, and the point is to wash neigel vasser and it’s fine if you do it from the sink. I don’t know if I would have said differently had I read the note, I didn’t know I was outright contradicting what the principal had said. On the other hand, is it proper chinuch to set up water bowls by their beds just during the next 2 weeks of the campaign? Besides that, practically speaking, considering how tight their beds are, someone is sure to end up with a very wet bed.

Gadol, I don’t understand what you are saying- are you saying that there is no place for a bright kid to ask a challenging question because it might disrupt the flow of the lesson, and that just doing so is chutzpadik? But what are bright kids supposed to do when they have questions? Resort to finding answers online? The only “question” that we ignore is one from the Rasha, who is not really asking a question, but has an agenda to shove. Is that what you are talking about? It didn’t sound like it from your description. I don’t think any legitimate question, from any kid should be pushed aside and labeled chutzpa. No question coming from intellectual honesty or curiosity should be thought of as a disruption. If the teacher can’t handle it during class time, he should discuss it- or have someone else discuss it if it is beyond his league- with the student after class. Kid should not be expelled for that!

Sheino Yodeia Lishol: “There are no mechitzos in the grocery stores with tight isles; @ pta in the schools; in doctor’s offices. why all the fuss ”

there are in certain places- I have been to medical clinics in chasidish neighborhood that in addition to the regular seating, have a separate area that men can sit with a curtain around the area. And there are grocery stores with separate hours for men and women- (I have yet to see an island, tight or not, in a grocery store- but they do have aisles). And I am sure that in the chasidishe school system, Tatties go to meet the boys’ Rebbes, and the Mommies, to the girls’ teachers.

Yes and no.
yes: like RebYidd said.
No: Loud music means that boys and girls have to leave the hall to hear themselves think. Once in a mechitza-free zone they can mingle and meet their zivug. So loud music solves the too tall mechitza problem discussed on another thread. That is assuming that 1) shidduch age kids think and want to hear themselves do so; and 2) their hearing has not been permanently damaged and they can still hold a conversation outside with their zivug; and 3) Joseph’s tznius patrol doesn’t shoo them back inside behind the correct sides of the mechitza.

Waze is useful, and every time we get lost or end up stuck in a construction zone, I wish we had it.
yet Waze is not fool -proof, and relying on it blindly has gotten people into trouble- like leading you into non-safe neighborhoods (like Arab rock-throwing areas in Israel), or unlit, winding back-roads that might shave a few minutes off of the travel time, but are not as safe as the main roads at night. It’s a bad idea to lose those map-reading skills. Just as it is a bad idea to lose the ability to communicate with others in person with full sentences.

In Israel, the answer is simple. Boys chadarim and Talmid Torahs start Rosh Chodesh Elul, same as the big boy Yeshivas, while girls follow the education ministry’s calendar, starting Sept 1. Except this year they started 2 days earlier than that, I guess so they can squeeze in everything they need to before yom tov. Last year Rosh Chodesh Elul was Sept 4, so the girls actually started before the boys.

Our building has one tree growing on the shared building property, next to the parking lot. It gives a bit of green amidst all the grey concrete. It shades the parking spots, shades our windows and gives us a bit of privacy so the neighbors in the next building do not have a clear view of our windows.
Until… one neighbor decided to build his sukka last year in a public area next to the parking lot (right under our bedroom windows). And under the tree. So he cut down all the branches on 1 side. There were 3 limbs left. This year, he decided the largest limb was covering a corner of his very large sukka. He asked one neighbor if they minded if he cut down the tree. They said they did mind, but he can trim a bit if it blocks his sukka. He went and cut down the largest limb. Never asked us, even though that limb was closest to our apartment. Now we have no shade and no privacy, and while he may enjoy his super large sukka for 1 week of the year, we are left to suffer for all 52 weeks. I miss that branch. Now every time we hear the neighbor drilling on his sukka (last year it took him about a month to build it, usually around my kids’ bedtime) I will miss that tree even more.

To continue what iacisrmma was saying; The Mishne describes 10 items that were created during twilight of erev shabbos, Pi Haaretz was one of them. These are things that are above the natural order- which is why they were not created during the 6 days themselves, but still part of the physical world, not totally spiritual, which is what shabbos the 7th day represents- hence they were created in the time between the 6 days of creation and the actual start of shabbos.
Moshe specifically asked Hashem to make a new creation- V’Im Briya Yivra Hashem-, to show everyone that Korach was wrong.
Yet, The Ibn Ezra in 16:30 argues with those who say Briya means a new creation, and that it wasn’t something new or special- but like any other earthquake (I think his description more resembles an earthquake than a sink hole, because he talks about countries, medinot, being split- a sink hole would be in a specific small area). He then continues in passuk 35 to say that Korach himself was not swallowed but was burned up with those who brought the ketores.
The RaMBaN argues with the Ibn Ezra and stats Briya has to mean a new creation- and the novelty wasn’t the earth swallowing people- because that happens a lot – he specifically uses the term Ra’ash, meaning earthquake, but the fact that it closed up as if it never had opened, like a mouth opening to swallow something and then closing- that was the supernatural part. Rashi also holds it was a supernatural event