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LS, I thought this is a fantasy where we get to choose what power we want..I choose being a supermom. Didn’t ask for perfection in the rest of my life.
As for studying psychology, who’s going to take care of the kids and deal with all their challenges when mom goes back to school to become a psychologist? Ahh, but that’s where being supermom comes in- can do everything listed in my last post and study towards an advanced degree.

When Yiddin in the US or England or wherever say it, are they/should they be thinking “next year we should be able to afford a trip for the whole family and spend Pesach in Jerusalem’s Plaza hotel?” Or are they thinking, “next year we should be zoche to greet Moshiach and spend Pesach in the rebuilt Yerushalayim at the Bais Hamikdash?”

One super-power- to be SuperMom: to always stay calm, know the right answers to give the kids, take care of all their needs without getting burned-out, be totally giving without feeling a loss of self, expertly deal with tantrums and all the challenges that kids have, know how to solve learning disabilities, social issues, anxieties and phobias, and run a super-organized, clean, orderly home with 3 balanced home-made meals a day, and managing to do all this after work-hours.
LS, I think even you would say that all that perfection is not something you can achieve no matter how much you work on it or daven for it.

OK, since we dealt with the side getting the surgery, now to the other side.- why would the man care, or why would the girl feel that the man would care and there is a need to share the info?
Perhaps he could get upset, not because the surgery or the old nose could have been a deal breaker, and he is shallow and only into looks, but because he felt excluded from what may have been a significant event/decision/emotional factor in his wife’s/date’s life.
Or maybe there is a concept of deception here- maybe she feels uncomfortable about presenting herself as one way, when really she is/was something else.

Because that is the way to know if it will work or not. Otherwise, current sufferers will be running after “cures” that probably won’t help them. Most drugs do not pass the clinical trials, which implies that most of what is out there touted as the miracle cure is really not, and people would be wasting their time, money and ultimately life, on false leads. And since nothing would be organized, no one would have any clue what really does work and other people won’t be helped by the real cures. The studies don’t only study whether it works, but also set the best dosages, drug combinations, and of course, safety.
Of course, these people can join the “additional studies” and benefit from the experimental treatment before it is approved (as long as they are not assigned to the control group, an unfortunate but very necessary part of the study).

Regarding the curcumin case- I took a look at the case study (Zaidi et al, BMJ Case Reports 2017;). Indeed, her disease seems to be controlled by the curcumin, when standard chemotherapy did not work. Yet, if you read the discussion of the case study- they say that this is the only known case of myeloma being cured by curcumin. In the one phase I/II clinical trial conducted with multiple myeloma patients, no positive results were seen. The authors of the paper say more research is needed. Indeed, there are many clinical trials testing curcumin’s effectiveness as an anti-cancer agent, due to very promising results in preclinical research- ie cell culture and mouse cancer models. It remains to be seen whether it will prove effective in large scale clinical trials, The fact that it helped one mm patient means nothing if it doesn’t help another 99. That’s why clinical research is important. Also, curcumin has poor bioavailability (meaning it doesn’t get to where it needs to get very well), so researchers are developing and studying its derivatives are being studied. It can also have negative interactions with other drugs, so it’s not necessarily safe to take the supplement.

However, if the current studies do show good results, and a curcuminn derivative gets FDA approval and is marketed as an anti-cancer drug, the anti-conventional medicine people will shun it as a product of the “propaganda filled pharmaceutical industry-medical professional-FDA establishment.”

I am not sure how one can jump to the conclusion that the plastic surgery in question is being done out of pressure to impress people in order to get married. Let’s be dan lkaf zechus as to someone’s priorities.

I know some people who had nose jobs. They all were teenagers at the time, which makes me suspect that it was more a self-image/self esteem thing than to impress others for shidduchim purposes. At least one had it done together with correcting a deviated septum that was causing breathing issues, so it was not purely aesthetic. Don’t know what they told their shidduchim prospects/husbands later on.

East12th- I don’t know anything about treatment of psychologica l diseases with conventional medication vs non-conventional, but since you have cancer as an example, I want to refute that.
You said :”there are clearly environmental and lifestyle factors that are a major part of the problem.”
Of course. Yet one cancer develops, it needs to be treated- with the best that medicine has to offer today, which can often be successful, although unfortunately not always. At this point making changes in lifestyle and nutrition will not cure the cancer, although it may strengthen the person and make the chemo more tolerable. Stopping smoking will not cure lung cancer, avoiding sun exposure will not cure skin cancer, even though undeniably, smoking and sun exposure are strong factors in disease development.

By the way, aren’t the vitamin and supplement makers also in it for the money? Don’t they also use strong marketing techniques to convince people to buy their product? Aren’t they also making money off of sick people?

Real names that can written as 2 letters:
ST
ZC (see above discussion)
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Of course. The tefilla implies that next year we should be in Yerushalayim so that we can do the Avoda properly. Even people who live in E”Y and Yerushalayim want to see the Beis Hamikdash rebuilt and the shechina return, and are in galus until that happens, so the tefilla is still just as appropriate as it is in Chutz Laaretz.
Which is why when people sing it, no matter where they live, they say “L’Shana Haba’a B’Yerushalayim Habnuya”

I remember learning back in my school days (sorry too long ago to remember the source) that the miraculous nature of Moshe’s birth (and by extension also Aharon and MIriam’s) was only hinted to and not mentioned explicitly, in contrast to Sora’s, so that we do not make a mythology/cult worship surrounding Moshe…he was just a baby born to an Ish M’beis Levi who married a Bas Levi, we should not think of him as a wonder-child/supernatural being and turn him into a deity. Even though his birth was far from normal- 3 months premature to a mother who was 130 yrs old, house filled with light, born mahul, did not cry like a newborn…yet still this is not what we should be emphasizing when we think of Moshe Rabbeinu- not that he was some miracle baby/man, but that he was the ultimate Shaliach of Hashem.

You are not the first MO bochur to grow and become more right winged/yehsivish compared to his family. I know of many such boys who have made fine appropriate shidduchim. I think the key is to leave your environment/community and join one that is more like-minded. Once you are part of that community, then people you become close to there can look after your shidduch interests. Many bochurim like you go to E”Y to learn and stay several years. They become part of their yeshiva community and find shidduchim through their yeshiva contacts. Their background is not relevant at that point, because they have removed themselves from that background. I understand from your posts that you finished learning in Yeshiva in EY and are now back home. As long as you live at home, are around your very MO family and old friends, you will be perceived as one of them, which could explain why shidduchim are going nowhere. You need to show that you want something different for your future compared to your past.- perhaps by moving out to a different community, either to attend Yeshiva or college (preferably a frum one where you can make contacts within a more fitting community) or both together. Find yourself a nice family where you can be a ben-bayis there. Hatzlacha.

RoC post #1433548
The arabs are only against israel, not the jews
RoC post #1438968
Terrorists kill non zionist Jews because they are not muslim,

The only way to reconcile these two statements is to assume that RoC feels that the terrorists in question were not Arabs.

Effie:
“I don’t understand when women became the mediators of shidduchim, they don know hilkhos loshon horah ”
I take it you haven’t followed Lilmod Ulelameid’s threads here on the CR, or you would never have made that statement. And not just her- girl’s schools teach hilchot lashon hara and girls/women take part in mishmaros not to speak L”H etc. You can’t blame the shidduch crisis on women not knowing hilchos L”H.
By the way, there are plenty of ashkenazi families where the father does the checking, and consults with his rav/rebbe about the shidduch. In general, however, it is easier for a father to check out a boy and a mother to check out a girl.

Ah, the British Empire at its best.
So does that mean you are moving to the British Antarctic Territory? Would you change your name then to Rabbi of BAT? Antarctica has grown in popularity in the CR as of late, so expect some company.

CS: It’s based on the Chasam Sofer, but the idea was developed in a sefer in press that I had a sneak preview of- it’s called One Nation, I guess it will hit the bookstores in a few months. Interesting that it was the women who saw reality and acted to change things: While Yitzchak was hoping that Eisav the Ish Sadeh would be able to use his materialistic nature for good, to serve his purpose of supporting Yaakov the Yoshev Ohalim, Rivka realized it was not to be- she understood Eisav’s true nature, and therefore orchestrated that Yaakov would get the Brocho that should have been Eisav’s- the material good in the world, because only he would know how to use that properly, and that he would need to be able to support himself since Eisav refused the job. Leah also saw through Eisav and realized he could not fulfill his intended task, her response was crying and tefilla that she should not be fated to Eisav, but rather to Yaakov.
BY the way, when I said 8 shevatim and 4 shevatim I was referring to the sons each had herself and from her shifcha.

That explanation makes sense, as long as you are not using the terms tzadekes and baalas teshuva the way we normally use them. Rather you are using BT to mean she transformed her essence.
Here’s some more:
Eisav and Yaakov were supposed to be partners- with Eisav focusing on the material, and Yaakov on the spiritual, Eisav supporting Yaakov’s learning. Leah was meant for Eisav, since both were the oldest, and as the bechor, Eisav/Leah would have gotten a double portion of the shevatim- 8, with Yaakov having 4 to complete the 12 shevatim. When Eisav sold his bechora to Yaakov, Eisav rejected his role, and Yaakov had to take over Eisav’s task- hence he got the gashmi brochos from Yitzchak, He also got to marry Leah, who still was zoche to 8 of the shevatim. So Leah marrying Yaakov was not just about her changing, but also about Yaakov changing and taking on a task originally meant for Eisav, for which Leah was most fit.

Still does not prove anything- CDs survive because the women in their lives replace them.

Unemployment rates
US 4.3% (July 2017), 4.1% (Oct 2017)
UK 4.2% (July 2017)
Of course these numbers will vary greatly by state and city. Traffic of course depends on where you live.

From an article in the Telegraph, Oct 20, 2017, entitled “London now more dangerous than New York City, crime stats suggest” states that crime is up 13% across the UK.
“While both London and New York have populations of around 8 million, figures suggest you are almost six times more likely to be burgled in the British capital than in the US city, and one and a half times more likely to fall victim to a robbery. London has almost three times the number of reported rapes and while the murder rate in New York remains higher, the gap is narrowing dramatically.”

As far as criminal injustice, a google search will come up with many examples of wrongful convictions and bias in the UK, including a recent government report on the bias against minorities within the criminal justice system. Human-made justice systems are as fallible and corruptible as humans are.

Joseph, all of the population suffers from X chromosome side effects.

He’s just suffering the side effects of having a Y chromosome. Other side effects include not closing closet doors and leaving the water bottle out of the fridge.

Rabbi of Crawley – I think you are being naive if you think the Arabs are only against Israelis and not Jews. Why do Arabs shout about killing the Yahud? Do you know that Jewish American soldiers serving in the Gulf or Iraq were advised not to put Jew on their dog-tags? Why have Jewish sites around the world been subjected to terror attacks over the years if only Israelis are hated? Remember Leon Klinghoffer? Daniel Pearl?

Apparently it was already nightfall when he was actually let out of his jail cell- so no longer chanuka.
Does it count if Trump signed the release on zos chanuka (depending what time zone you live in of course; it was no longer zos chanuka, say for me or for cahbadshlucha)?

There’s lots of speculation/myth as to where the keilim that Titus stole are today. What about all the other Menorahs?

There’s a fool-proof method of never getting a shin. Use an Israeli dreidel. 🙂