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Tuvya is one of Moshe Rabeinu’s name. It’s used, but not so common. Never heard of the variation Tuvyahu.
If you like the name, great- it doesn’t really matter if it wins the popular vote on the CR.The method of growing bug-free greens in special greenhouses, in boxes of sand, not the ground, was developed by Gush Katif farmers. With their expulsion, they moved their businesses to other locations. Marketed under various names, such as Aleh Katif.
Bugs can fly in afterwards. Which is why the packaging tells you to soak in soapy water for 3 min and rinse well. I’ve found bugs floating in that water.
Supposedly they are still sprayed.
They are more expensive than regular produce. Since the stores I shop in don’t even carry the non-bug free type, I have no idea how much. I imagine the price difference in the US is even higher, since it is imported.
There are other types of bug free products- some undergo special washing/inspection before packaging (Bodek) and some are grown in special conditions in South America (I think that one is called B’gan)Yes, I know what you mean. Every time I came to sit down and take a break from real work (ie Pesach cleaning), I found I had nothing to waste my time on and went right back to work!
My reward was the pretzel I found under the mattress.The line about the CR was just incidental, no follow-up on it. But none of the articles were supposed to make sense, that was the point of the comedy.
LB, while hangers have no problems, and I am a bit bothered by your use of the term energy, since it reminds me of Eastern practices that could be questionable, but you are picking up on something that can be found in halacha- the idea that an object can pick up something that makes it more than just an object- for example, an object retains some kedusha if it was used for a mitzva, or l’havdil, it retains some tuma because it was used for an aveira. Used chanuka wicks, lulavim and esrogim after sukkos- they retain some status after they no longer serve their purpose, many people do not throw them out but burn them with the chometz. And objects used for avoda zora need to be destroyed. which brings up the Indian hair issue- clarification – either the hair was donated to the temple, and was then used in their rituals and therefore considered an actual object of avoda zara, or it was donated in order to be sold and raise money for the temple. These possibilities raised serious halachic problems that led to people avoiding Indian hair altogether. It was never about using hair from people who were idol worshipers.
10 agurot has buying power- you can buy a plastic bag at the supermarket with it.
LB, for those living in Yerushalayim (or other walled cities) it is not an extra reading, but their real ones!
The real interesting Purim is for those living in places where it is a safek if it is walled or not, or if it is part of the walled city or not. There are different opinions for those places- including keeping 2 days of Purim, meaning 4 megilla readings, 2 seudos, mishloach manos and matanos l’evyonim 2 days in a row.
And then there is Purim Meshulash- unique for the walled cities, when Shushan Purim comes out on shabbos, then it is split into 3 days with megilla and maataos l’evyonim on Purim/Friday; Seuda, misloach manos on Sunday and on shabbos, shushan Purim, daven like on Purim – with al hanisim and special Purim leining.
Actual clothes-related mitzvas: (feel free to add to the list if I left anything out.) Disclaimer- one should of course ask one’s LOR how to apply these.
1. not allowed to wear shaatnez, a mixture of wool and linen. Items made of wool would therefore need to be checked to make sure they do not have linen threads or linings etc. There are some clothing that are more prone to shaatnez problems and need checking before wearing. Some manufacturers use scraps to finish off clothing that may be problematic.
2. the most obvious, clothing should meet tznius standards
3. women do not wear men’s clothing and vice versa. This applies to also non-clothing, such as accessories and grooming behaviors, some examples that come to mind: women do not carry weapons, men do not dye their hair or wear wigs. (I don’t know what English barristers did if they were frum, perhaps in those times wigs were considered men’s items)
4. special clothing are worn for shabbos and yom tov
5. a mourner tears his clothing at the funeral, and does not change his clothing during the week of mourning. One does not buy/wear new clothing during the month/year of mourning.
6. One does not wash clothing or wear freshly washed clothing during the 9 days before 9 B’Av (due to mourning).
7. One does not do laundry during chol hamoed. exceptions for 6 and 7 are for small children who need constant changing.
8. During the period of mourning between Pesach and Shavous (popularly known as sefira), one does not wear new clothing that would require a bracha of sheheheyanu- generally said on items that are purchased infrequently that bring special delight when worn.
9. Kittle (white robe-like thing) is worn by men at Seder and on Yom Kippur, some also on Rosh Hashana.
10. Tradition to wear white on Yom Kippur, to resemble angels. see 9.
11. we don’t wear leather shoes on Yom Kippur or 9 B’Av
12. Men if wearing a garment with 4 corners, need to put tzitzis on the corners. It is accepted to purposely wear such a garment to fulfill the mitzva.
Anything else. It’s amazing how many mitzvas/minhagim there are with clothing!
First of all, the “in” in the title was redundant since the I in IRL is for “in”.
Story line was that the office staff of a magazine had to spend an over-nighter redoing all the articles for a magazine since the originals got deleted the day before printing. A secretary was given the job of writing the political column- and since she knew nothing about the topic, she wrote that she went undercover in Yeshiva World’s Coffee Room to find the inside scoop.
She must have learned a lot…
We, and the people I know, don’t sell the whole house. We sell certain cabinets, closets etc. These are listed in the sale contract and we label each cabinet “chometz, sold.” Everything else belongs to us and we use. And many people I know do not sell anything at all, instead they carefully get rid of every bit of chometz. As far as I know, it would be very problematic to live in the house and use your clothing, Pesach dishes/pots, etc, if you sold it. Please speak to the real Rav of your shul- who you will use to sell your chometz – and clarify this point with him.
By the way, LB, I think going up to a stranger in the supermarket to ask halachic shaalos is even worse than asking CR people- at least here you can form some opinion of how the person thinks, what he/she believes based on how he/she posts. How do you know that he really was who he says he was, and that he was giving you a serious answer?
Personally, if some stranger came up to me and blurted out what seemed to be a random question 2 days before Purim, I would think he was joking and maybe would respond in kind.
One more point- I don’t think people actually sell their pots and pans to the goy- only the chometz on them- if they did, they would have to toivel all the pots and pans after they buy them back, no?
I know we do it, but I never really understood it. Assuming the pots are clean, no real chometz on them, and cabinets were washed down from crumbs. All that would be left would be a taam of chometz on the pots themselves, but would that count to be sold? Anyway we do biur chometz, and nullify anything left. So what exactly are we selling to the goy when we sell our pots/pans/kitchen cabinets?
LB, afikomen must be eaten by halachic midnight. If the piece hidden away is not available (e.g. kid who hid it fell asleep and no one else can find it, or kid drives too hard a bargain), or not enough to cover everyone’s minimal shiur, then any matza can be used for tzafon.
Eating matza is a very important part of the seder. One should not fill oneself up during shulchan aruch so as to have room for the afikomen.
I never understood all the emphasis on cooking fancy foods for shulchan aruch- who is hungry after all that matza and who can eat a big meal so late at night?
And by the way, if anything (hand) shumar matza gets more expensive every year. That’s why it is called lechem oni, because it makes you poor. (sorry, old joke)
Adaraba, There are those who are machmir and don’t sell chometz (they get rid of it all) and don’t eat any chometz that was sold by others after Pesach.
there are those who only sell items that would be a big loss to throw away.
There are those who sell closed packages only.
There are those who won’t sell actual chometz, but will sell not-kosher-for-Pesach things that don’t have actual chometz in them.
There are so many different approaches, which is why that now that you have a basic understanding of what the issue is, you can ask your LOR.
There is something called Hashkafa (outlook). Our behavior does not just follow the black and white halacha, but also an outlook on how a Torah observant Jew should behave. Even if there is no halacha outright prohibiting a hot dog eating contest, it certainly sounds like it goes against Torah Hashkafa.
Lb, one thing about your story – perhaps your therapist was right in this particular circumstance. And I agree that is someone starts up with you, best to walk away so that it does not escalate. But if someone is starting up with someone else, the rules change- how can anyone stand by while another person is being hurt? It sounds like this guy was behaving an awful like a bully. On the playground, we would encourage kids to not let the bully get away with his actions, and that keeping silent is really supporting him. How can we expect our kids to do the right thing if we are afraid as adults to stand up to the bully?
Lilmod, you missed the strongest argument about Yom Hashoa- it’s official full name is Yom Hashoa V’hagvura, meaning they are commemorating the bravery and might of the victims, hence the choice of the Warsaw uprising as the date.
That is assuming that the target audience of the sefer is on social media and has internet access.
I think people still find their sefarim by browsing the sefarim store or when being sold in back of the beis medrash/shul.
Maybe it will change, but so far, Amazon is, if at all, a supplement to the traditional means of distributing/selling sefarim, and has not replaced it.
Perhaps the model will change, as more and more frustrated authors really want their work out there, but can’t afford the traditional way.
iacisrmma, do you know where that came from? And why do most people go around quoting a midrash (if it is that) rather than a direct line from the megilla?
My son brought home a Purim crossword. One clue was “Esther’s uncle”.
Of course YY, but by then maybe she will have more of an idea of what goes on in her shul, based on what she saw at the night reading or she can ask around.
It’s great, CTL for the general public, but I don’t think it works for sefarim, at least not yet.
I think that is smart. Anyway, this year megilla will be right after Maariv on motzei shabbos, so everyone is already in shabbos clothing.
ZD’s is right. Artscroll mostly does big projects with big sponsors. When they do put out a regular book, it is either from a big name person who is more likely to sell big, or from those who can bring in their own sponsors. The traditional model of publishing company does not really exist these days. There are many publishing companies out there, but the way they work, is the author has to come up with all the money to print/distribute etc the book, plus the company takes a fee for the service. The author then gets a % of each book sold, and hopes to come out even, which will only happen if the book goes into a second printing. Or he can look for sponsors for the book. Depending on the quality of the book, it is harbatzas Torah, not wasting money on a vanity book.
No thanks, I rather not know.
Some OOT communities list that as a reason people might consider moving to their town in their promotional ads.
Theshver- wow!
Just proves that there is tachlis to the CR. May this give you chizuk, bochur.
LB asked if adult women dress up, so I told her what it is like in my neighborhood. It could very well be that her neighborhood is different, and then by all means, LB dress up. But I think if women do not dress up by you, you would feel pretty uncomfortable coming in costume to shul. Just a heads up.
There’s the story that Ruchama Shain wrote in her book about her father, “All for the Boss” when she got a beautiful doll as a child, and her father smashed its face so as to avoid the prohibition of having a pesel (idol).
So there could be an inyan about dolls being a graven images and not allowed (when whole). I don’t know if that would only apply to a porcelain doll, or to any doll, whether made of plastic or soft material.
I actually never heard anyone else having this practice. I have seen dolls of all types in many frum homes, and they are intact until the kid over-uses them.
If you want the parent to still like you, avoid the dolls that make noise or sing the same song over and over and over again.
Lilmod, with the added advantage that if placed on as slightly different angle, you can market it as a segula for not speaking L”H.
so one option left- Maybe skip the organizations, and just speak to rabbanim of local shuls- surely they will know about people in their own communities who need rides, but are not in contact with organizations to help them.
Sometimes Chesed can be even greater when done privately and not thru an organization where everyone knows that you are doing it.
Rochel Imeinu told Lavan that she could not get off her camel when he came looking for the terafim because she was pregnant. (not exactly, but I guess a small child would not understand the real explanation)
Mordechai was Esther’s uncle. (that one contradicts what is clearly written in the megila, “…bas avichayil dod mordechai” dod is referring to Avichayil, not mordechai). To be fair, I don’t remember a specific teacher actually saying this, but I remember it being “common knowledge”.
When my kids take out the toys that I just put away and make an even bigger mess than there was before I cleaned, I tell them that they are giving me Avodas Perech. If I was translating that, I might say working like a Hebrew slave.
Meno, you’re right. I actually was thinking about practically how you would use it to freeze a sample, since a solid cannot transfer its coldness to another solid efficiently- if you add ethanol to a bucket with dry ice, the temperature is around -20 and anything you put inside will freeze immediately.
golfer, kerach yavesh.
If everyone re-reads the OP, she never stated that her old friends did not approve of her new friends, or that she had to choose between them. From other threads, Johnny has told us that she feels socially isolated, that she was dumped by others who she thought were her good friends, and that she is unhappy in HS and does not feel that she fits in. So finding good friends even if they are not in her grade is great for her. But she is worried that people in her grade are talking and this will make her fit in even less with her own classmates. Legitimate worry.
Johnny, I think it is worth the price. Good friends are so important, make all the difference. Age differences in friendships matter less as you get older and the gap is less meaningful. It looks like things might be improving for you, and I am happy to hear that. People talk, they will move on to something more interesting once they get used to the idea that you are friends with these girls. Don’t prevent the new friendship from doing things with your class when necessary, continue to be friendly with your own class, and I think they will forget about it and no longer think it is strange.
I don’t know who you called, but try tomchei shabbos- they use volunteers to drive around the deliveries, or bikur cholim organizations- maybe they know of people who need rides to the hospital or medical appointments. Ask the rav of your shul if there are eldery people who might need a ride to shul or shiur. Go in person to these organizations so they can meet you and evaluate whether they can trust you. Single people can do lots of chesed!
If you do find some be aware of the safety precautions that you need to use- you need heavy protective gloves and safety goggles to avoid getting a freeze-burn from the “smoke” released. Dry ice, for those who don’t know, is frozen carbon dioxide, which is much colder than frozen water (-20 degrees C vs 0 degrees C). It is used for snap freezing things like cells and tissue. It is also used by dermatologists to freeze off warts. I doubt you will find any outside a controlled lab or clinical environment.
You know, after reading thru this thread and others of the same type, I think this guy might not be so bad for RebShidduch afterall. He is probably more her type than the Lakewood learning guys that she thinks she wants. Anyway, it is highly improbable that she will take anyone’s advice here. i agree with bmyer, no point in sticking around this thread anymore.
I think it’s great that you found some good friends. As long as they are good girls and are good for you, try not to care about what others may be thinking. I know that what others think about you is very important to a teen-ager, but so is having good friendships, so you have to balance out the positive that you gain from these friends and the negative (what your classmates may think).
Keep this in mind- just because it is Purim does not mean that tznius and good taste should go out the window. And I don’t think it makes a difference if one is in a shul or not- if a costume isn’t tzanua then you shouldn’t wear it no matter where you are going.
adult women in my neighborhood generally do not dress up – and I find that the exceptions get a lot of attention. Somehow, I find that contradicts the concept of tznius and I would not be comfortable with that.
As far as dressing up as a non-kosher animal, I see plenty of butterflies and ladybugs, monkeys, rabbits and other assorted mammals, but they usually aren’t any taller than my waist. Nothing wrong with buying Purim costumes on sale in November, but it would not be in good taste to wear something that was obvious haloween-themed.
He heard it as a young child before the issur of kol isha applied and remembered it to this day.
Actually, I know the song and I don’t think I have heard it since my young childhood.
“where Presidents and the Postal service are not afraid to talk about G-D. “
Was that the postal service’s words or LB’s rephrasing?
In any case, my original point wasn’t that Israelis start dating earlier, but rather than they get married earlier. If one compared a typical class of 20 or 21 year olds in an Israeli BY vs an American BY, there would be a greater % married in the Israeli. I see however a change in this, and Israeli girls are no longer getting married as fast. My theory is that it is because of money/apt issues that used to not be as big a factor.
I hope Shopping, that the system is correcting itself before it reaches the crisis levels seen in the US and that creative solutions are being used. I hope that the mentality of following the herd and sticking within a very narrow box does not prevent these much needed changes.
Lilmod, I really can’t dispute your points, since both of us are talking based on our own experiences, which obviously represent a small sample size and may not reflect what goes on in general.
I still don’t think that Israelis start dating later is an issue- just like some wait until 2nd year Pesach, there are also some US girls who wait until they calm down from the seminary high, until Chanuka or Pesach of the year they come back. And although there are girls who stay in the US for seminary and may start dating, there are also girls who stay 2nd year in Israel and start even later. Just like in Israel, there are those who start right away and those who wait. And if there is a tendency to hold back girls, it will shift the age only a few months- parents may hold back a girl born in Oct/Nov/Dec – so instead of being the youngest in the class, she will be a few months older. In any case I know there is this trend now, I don’t know if parents did this 20 years ago.
Anyone else getting the feeling of deja vu?
I wasn’t talking about a situation where the husband made a mistake in halacha. In that case, I would suggest that she asks him, are you sure, do you mind looking it up or asking a rav rather than outright telling him he is wrong and that she knows better.
golfer, using long, difficult words doesn’t mean that the posts are too lengthy, but that one has an advanced, well-developed vocabulary. Anyway, I personally rather read erudite posts than those that are replete with grammatical and spelling errors and are deficient in punctuation.
translation: wiht long hard words doesnt mean the posts are 2 long but that he knows lots of words anyway i like to reed smart posts better than posts full of bad grammer & speling with no dots or comas
As far as your motto, if you cut out the baloney, lots of threads will need to be deleted!
“The question was how to make him stop saying inappropriate things to me? “
Oh, I am so confused, I thought this was the question:
“Would it be okay for reb shidduch to date someone like this even if he does not want to learn full time and he went OTD and came back on and is trying to be as frum as he can for reb shidduch?”
Seems you have answered the first question.
As to the second question, you said that you play music together (“he somehow convinces me to put not Jewish music on”) and have told him about your ideals for marriage (“I talk about moving to lakewood and marrying a full time learner all the time in front of him. “). Why are are you talking/spending time with a guy at all? Maybe if you stopped sending him mixed messages, he will get the hint that you are not his type.
I think this may encourage translating well written posts into text-speech.
I don’t recall ever posting boys names, or anyone else ever doing so, and as I already told you I am unfortunately not familiar with today’s shadchanim in Lakewood.
I guess it depends what is meant by OTD- does it mean he smoked in the past but will give it up for rebshidduch?