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It’s not just a matter of being able to erased. I imagine if you ask an OT, they will tell you that one needs to press harder with a pencil than a pen. Which means they have to hold the pencil with a firmer grip. It trains their muscles so that they can write the letters properly. When they master that, they can use the easier to write with pen. Kind of like having to memorize the multiplication tables at age 8, but then being able to use a calculator when older.
I used a mechanical pencil for math even in college- so much easier to correct an answer. white-out is just messy, smelly, hard to write over it. Erasable pens did not really exist then- those that claimed to be erasable were not really that erasable.You need to find someone on-site with access to a local newspaper/advertising circular where they may list these sort of things. Perhaps even the (Hebrew) yatid might have summer rentals listed. Sorry, I don’t have any Bnei Brak contacts, but maybe someone else in the CR does?
By the way, are you looking for a regular apartment of a family who is going away for the summer, or a designated vacation apartment/short-term rental?Great idea, DY. Any idea when that will be? Oh, I think 9 Av, no? I think then no one will object turning a day of mourning into one of celebration.
We learn from Dovid Hamelech not to daven for nisyonos. We might not pass them. And with this particular nisoyon, there are no second chances.
i was not sure that I understood her either, so I focused on the dating with intent part- that people go into a date actually believing that this is the one they are going to marry, unless proven otherwise. That makes dating much more tachlis-oriented and not about dating until one sees stars and falls hopelessly in love while riding off into the sunet.
Is that what you were referring to bmyer?I rather daven to die misas neshika like Moshe Rabbenu and Aaron Hacohen
This should take care of problems divulging personal information like Wolf was describing. But it also sounds like it would be expensive- can yeshivas afford to outsource their tuition committees?
Perhaps a similar identification number system can be done even if there is no outside compnay involved?It is possible, and it is done in chassidish circles and to a somewhat lesser extent, in Israeli Chareidi Litvish circles. The parents check out extensively, in essence do the preliminary get-to-know you dating, so by the time the couple meets, they know that this can really be someone they can marry. There is no need for prolonged dating then. Amomg chassidim, 1-2 dates is enough, Litvish can get engaged after 5 or so.
Of course western society has affected our views on dating/marriage.little tikes is the toy brand
tyke is a small child. note spelling difference.
It was an obvious and cute play on words.LB, I hear where you are coming from. I think that the standard of dress should be ok no matter where you are or who you are with. If you are embarrassed to be that way in front of the Rav, then maybe it is not appropriate at any time. That said, tznius does not mean plain or nerdy. You are allowed to look nice, dress well, be fashionable, wear heels as long as the look you are giving is attractive but refined, and not provocative.
In terms of heels vs flats, it probably depends on the woman’s height (and her husband’s) and whether she is comfortable contorting her feet.So is it 2 days or one- calendar or article?
I never did understand why you need a day off at all either. If kids were up late the night before, then start school an hour or 2 later. When I was growing up, we had school, with a scheduled trip. That was inevitably ruined because it rained.not a rant, troll thread.
Disclaimer: RebbYidd23 is rarely meant to be taken seriously.That was my first assumption, but what did he mean then that everyone- men and women and children – are baalei brit on yom haatzmaut! That made no sense, so I had to find another explanation. Also, while the father of the baby and sandek may be allowed to get haricuts, they don’t say hallel with a bracha.
i’m not sure it is good or bad, just may be a source for what bmyer was describing in the OP.
But think about it, say he rejects 15 of the good 20 for “picky” reasons. And then goes out with 5 but the dates do not work out. So now what does he do, does he go back to the rejects and find 5 more to go out with, can he evaluate them objectively when he has already rejected them, even if the reason was a bit arbitrary? Will he instead start collecting new names? but what if one of those 15 would have been a real good shidduch for him, maybe even his Bshert?
All I can say, is I am glad that when I was dating, I never had such a long list of possibilities all at once. Whenever a shadchan would mention several possible names for me at once, I never took it as seriously or evaluated them as objectively as when I had one name to check out.bmyer- good one
how old are the little tikes?It must be very lonely being the only perfect person around.
Now I have to do something about my ears, they hurt from all that shouting.Sun is also a school day off? I checked the misrad hachinuch website and on the school calendar posted there, only Mon is listed as a day off. Is this something new/change? By the way, chihuch atzmai is off on Sun.
I don’t understand the logic of your last statement. How does kids having off Mon morning affect whether people can get haircuts or not on that day? Or is the fact that haircuts are allowed a reason to celebrate and have a day off? So then 20 Iyar, 21 Iyar… should also be days off.What is a baal berit? Are you referring C”vS to the A”Z of that name? And by calling everyone A”Z on yom haatzmaut, admitting it is a wrong practice? See shoftim 8:33:
×´×××× × ×××¨× ×××ĸ××× ××׊××× ××× ××ĸ× ×ר××Ē ××××××××´
ר׊״×: ××ĸ× ×ר××Ē-×× ×Š××the problem is, that it was never really won, and never really over. There was a truce, with Israel coming out on top. Until the fighting started up again, and again…
But I guess, it is like chanuka, which came after a specific series of battles was won, although the war restarted and continued for many years.
If we follow Chanuka’s example, when the day of celebration was when the Beis Hamikdash was re-dedicated, we should find a day of spiritual significance connected to the battles- maybe regaining the kosel in 1967 and being able to daven there? So it would be Yom Yerushalayim. And if you move it over several days, it is 3 Yimei Hagbala and no sefira issues for all deos.I think being picky comes from having too many choices, sometimes. For example, say a guy has a list of 30 girls. Say 20 sound more or less like what he is looking for. How to decide who to go out with? Probably not alphabetic order or order in which they were suggested. More likely pickiness will determine which ones get a no- this one’s name is unappealing, this one is too tall, this one has too many siblings, this one’s mother is not in the right profession, etc. If each potential shidduch could be evaluated on its own, without comparison to others, as if this was the only offer, maybe people would not be so picky?
Origin is probably the same as such accepted customs as holding up colorful arches for the Kalla to walk thru as she enters the hall for the first dance, raising the chosson (sometimes also kalla) up on a chair, etc. People think it is fun and adds to the simcha.
Note, while Lost my sparkle’s story might be an extreme example of what can go wrong with confetti, it can also be dangerous because it makes the dance hall slippery. Not to mention how annoying it is to remove it from the Kalla’s dress.Within certain boundaries. I don’t think it is appropriate, for example, to pyschoanalyze the avos and then try to apply that analysis to our current lives. Also, one should realize that even when there is symbolism/different meanings, it does not take away from the pshat itself- the events are true and meaningful in their simple sense first and foremost, as opposed to certain streams that prefer to “interpret” the Torah as being only a metaphor- is that what you mean Golfer?
And also, one should know the difference between a pshat presented by a rishon for example, and one that the person comes up with him/herself.It all depends what the pickiness is, why are they saying no. A person in shidduchim should have a good idea of what he/she is looking for, what is most important. And then stick to shidduchim that basically fit that overall picture, without nitpicking at the less important issues. If one can prioritize what is more important, non-negotiable and what is less important, but nice to have, then one can be focused without being picky.
To go out randomly without any filtering of what is a good match and what is not, is not just a waste of time, but can lead to frustration and burn-out that can affect someone’s ability to find the right match.The icon in the title looks like a dog, not a cat and definitely not a hat. How do you get it there anyway?
Ever hear of a washing machine/dry cleaning? Nurses wear white, and their clothing is not meant to be worn once and thrown away.
Today dressing in white seems impractical, but actually, white used to be the default color -especially for babies/little kids, since it was easier to wash with bleach; color-fast detergents are a relatively new invention. Also, I think certain dyes, depending on the culture, were reserved for the ruling class.If Lag BOmer is not being “officially” pushed off, why are governmental schools off on Mon 19 Iyar, Lad B’Omer?
I have a problem with pushing off Lag B’Omer, not with changing the happenings at Meron. Push it off until later, make a more restricted event when it comes out Motzei Shabbos, but you can’t change Lag to Lad.
By the way, ubiquitin, Chazal said not to blow shofar/take lulav on shabbos, they did not push off Rosh Hashana to start on Sun 2 Tishrei instead of Shabbos. Meaning it’s Rosh Hashana, just don’t be michalel shabbos. Same for Lag B’Omer- do what you have to do to avoid chilul shabbos, but don’t “celebrate” on the wrong day!No, Matan Torah does. Before then there was no Am Yisroel and Avos kept the mitzvos from intuition, not because they were commanded. And Rochel/Leah and Rivka, who did the face covering, were raised and educated by Lavan/Besuel who definitely did not define Judaism. It seems that it was the custom in Charan; that’s how Lavan intended to trick Yaakov when he agreed to give him Rochel.
Leah wore a veil/had her face covered at her wedding to Yaakov (which is why Yaakov needed simanim to make sure she was really Rochel…) Rivka covered her face the first time she met Yitzchok. So the “minhag” predates even Judaism!
So who instituted Lag B’Omer- not the Knesset or the Rabbanut! According to all minhagim, whether partial or full, 5 Iyar is time of mourning and Lag B’omer a time off from mourning. Chasham Sofer is apparently not the accepted opinion regarding Lag B’Omer. Does the obligation of establishing a day of hodaah trump the accepted minhag and its accompanying halachos? For argument’s sake, It could have been another date- say the date of the UN vote on the partition plan- now that was a miracle! – or the date of the truce “ending” the War of Independence. 5 Iyar was actually not such a happy day- all the surrounding Arab countries declared war, threatening to destroy the new state, many people – soldiers and civilians- were killed in the war that officially started that day. Am Yisroel’s deliverance did not come on 5 Iyar, it was a political moment that was chosen because it marked Israel’s independence, not its salvation. While Religious Zionists have redefined its meaning, and B”H recognize Hashem’s role in the miracles of Israel’s founding, that really is not what Yom Haatzmaut was all about.
If you look back at my post, I mentioned Purim Meshulash- the point was that Chazal did change things when necessary. Obviously, it was not felt necessary for Lag B’Omer.
Of course that was before Meron became such a happening. The solution then is not to change Lag B’Omer but to change the celebrations at Meron, which as I stated, can be done and it seems will be done this year.Jewish nationalism as practiced by the Zionists was not formed because of “Yisroel, Torah, Kidshe Brich Hu, chad hu” but rather so that the Jews could be like all other nations-just like the Germans, Russians, etc have a country and a culture and a language and an army, so too the the Jews. Kind of like the reason behind Bnei Yisroel asking Shmuel for a king, and why he got angry. Note, however, that Hashem granted their wish then, and granted the Zionists their wish as well. Just like malchus shaul, after some ups and downs, eventually gave way to the true malchus of beis David, so too may this interim Jewish government give way to the true malchus of Mashiach.
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Chazal instituted the celebration on Lag B’Omer. Note that it literally means the 33rd day of the Omer, when R’ Akiva’s students stopped dying and the Yartzheit of R’ Shimon Bar Yochai. Celebrating it on the 34th day of the Omer is as meaningful as celebrating it in Cheshvan. Chazal have changed the day of observance at times when it may have interfered with shabbos- such as Taanis Esther pushed back to Thurs, and shushan purim on Shabbos for those in mukafim – the mitzvos that cannot be done on shabbos are done instead on either Fri or Sun. But Chazal did not feel it necessary to change Lag B’omer if it falls out on Sun, so it is very curious why the Rabbanut should feel that they know better. Just like we wait to light chanuka candles until after shabbos ends instead of the usual time, there is no reason why having bonfires motzei shabbos has to involve chilul shabbos. Those who care about shabbos will be sure to light their bonfires in a way that does not involve chilul shabbos, and those who don’t, will unfortunately be mechalel shabbos no matter when lag b’omer is. To give kids off a day of school on Lad B’Omer and encourage bonfires on Sun night is totally pointless. Meron on the other hand is an issue – in fact, the Boyaner Rebbe has pushed off the main hadlaka this year to 3 AM (I think that’s the time) to give the police etc enough time to do all the last minute preparations after shabbos ends, and the buses to bring people after shabbos ends. Other preparations can be done before shabbos. So there does not have to be any chilul shabbos and we can still keep lag b’omer the way chazal instituted it.
the last part is a typo- you meant to say yom haAtzmaut had to be pushed off to Monday night/Tuesday
Would it help if I write up some really long, boring posts to induce the ZZZZs?
You’re right Wolf, I guess I was assuming a certain degree of common sense that might not be universal.
ooh… (suspenseful acapella music in background)
when the cat’s away the hat comes out to play.are you suggesting somebody edited the title, but not the URL?
Joseph- there’s non-see through and then there’s non-see through. There are veils that block others from seeing the kalla’s face, but she can still make vaguely out objects, and those that can double as black-out curtains.
But Nechoma is right, LB is probably referring to back veils, I just assumed she meant front because that can be different based on custom.Really, 29, thanks!
I didn’t know there was a night shift. It can get frustrating for those of us on Israel time to have to wait so long for new posts, so glad to hear it!
I don’t know about time and a half, but I vote that you get a raise for giving out compliments.If the authorities issue a severe storm warning and tell people to stay indoors, the Rabbi does not have to do anything. People will use their common sense and realize it is pikuach nefesh to go out.
Chasidim tend to wear thicker veils, that cannot be seen thru at all. Don’t know about any difference in length.
RebYidd, why is he putting feathers in his cat (see title). Hat, I understand.
LB, if you feel uncomfortable with such an umbrella, and think that they make people stick out, then without making a big issue of it, just don’t use it. Tnznius is nuanced, sometimes one person can be tzanua doing or wearing the same thing that will make another person not tzanua.
By the way, my umbrella is not black. It is just so much easier to identify it when I put it down. and less likely for someone to mistake it as his and take it by accident. Kind of like a something-other-than-black suitcase on the baggage claim carousel at the airport.Tznius is more than appearance, what clothing is worn. It is demeanor, type of speech, etc. anything that would draw improper attention can be considered not-tzanua. It is not codified in Halacha, but comes from instinct- a tzanua person will not only dress tzanua but also act tzanua. LB is on to something, although I have treated her question mostly as a joke question.
Don’t ashkenazim hold by that too?
Of course, if it is pikuach nefesh to go outside/walk to shul, one would be allowed to daven in private at home.
I’m not even sure that many of the examples given are being more machmir for example- not saying a bracha on a mitzva aseh shehazman grama. Maybe it is the ashkenazi who is machmir because she is saying the bracha?
Maybe a sheitle is more a chumra than a hat/tichel? Maybe a hat on top of a sheitle is most machmir? I think most of these examples are just differences in halacha, except for the ones in the original OP.another advantage of umbrellas, they can be used in crowds to avoid any untzius contact, such as when boarding a crowded non-mehadrin bus.