whatrutalkingabt

“b) Except the fact that in real life you don’t always get everything you want, make the best out of it and have a blast”

I usually dont correct grammar mistakes…but this is grating on my nerves. Its “ACCEPT the fact…”

“Do you have hemorrhoids?”

Lol- that really made me laugh

You have the same sense of humor as someone I know very well. But its impossible for you to be him. You probably know each other.

“Oh, and lest you think I forgot professional shadchanim, I did not. The omission was intentional.”

I also have something against professional shadchanim. I had a very very bad experience with a famous one….

“I could not imagine what life would be like were I alone”

Aww- I hope you showed Mrs BPT what you wrote

I like yovoh better. But this album was also pretty good.

“I wonder why the R”Y won’t consider being mevatel the takanah of Rabbeniu Gershom”

Because which girl do you know that would want to be married to a guy who loves two women??? Theres a reason the other one is called a “tzarah”

Besides isnt that illegal in the US? (not that it cant change at the rate we’re going…)

“Ein somchin al hanes.”

“To me, the phrase “Hashem is mizaveg zivugim. Period. End of discussion.” is denying the imperative to do hidhtadlus to alleviate the problem. This is what I was addressing. “

I did not say that we shouldnt do hishtadlus and everything in our power to help these girls. All I said was that you can not make a blanket statement like that and say its impossible for these girls to get married.

We are mechuyav to have emunah that Hashem is all powerful and can do anything

Correction-

I agree with you 100%. I dont see what this thread is supposed to accomplish besides for sucking out every last bit of hope from girls who are still single

Yummy cupcake and Miss Frizzle- Couldnt have said it better myself!

To everyone else- Shame on you for putting fear and dread into these girls already broken hearts

Popa-

I dont know what you ate today that made you come up with all these ideas…

All I have to say is poor kid. At some point in its life, it will find out either that it has a goyish father or that it can’t marry for fear that it might marry its sibling. And thats besides from the issues it may have from growing up without a father.

I would think that a woman in her mid to late thirties would rather settle on marrying a guy who was not her ideal, than to do that to her child.

Theres gotta be a different solution to the shidduch crises. For some reason I dont think this is it

“his topics of conversation are more important than yours”

is that so?

and that sounds to me like someone is putting someone else down…

haifa girl

I agree with u- Haifa is seriously stunning. I spent a Shabbos there once

Rivky101…

you can also try the number 99 egged bus that gives u a tour around yerushalayim on a big double decker.

Or go camel back riding in midbar yehuda

ganei yehoshua is a beautiful park in tel aviv with lots to do

and once you’re there u can check out the azrieli towers

I think theres also a safari in tel aviv but you’ll need to rent a car for that

there’s also jeeping near bet shemesh

There is yad vashem in bayit vegan

Gan Hachayot is also there

Kad Vachomer is an adorable pottery painting place in the german colony- on emek refaim street

Gan havradim (near tachana mercazit) should be gorgeous this time of year

The machane yehuda shuk is always a sight to see (on yaffo)

There are plenty of gedolim around to get brachos from

Mini israel is cute but only if you’ve toured most of the country already

Yam Hamelech

Make sure you get to kever rochel

Enjoy!

He’s right that girls and women sit in their cars that way…I just never knew anyone can see.

Guess it doesn’t hurt to be more careful

Alot of people know that theyre doing something wrong but still dont want to stop because its hard. Like cucumber said- we all have a yetzer hara

A kallah walks down to the chuppah with a veil covering her whole face. So I dont see how that is a breach of tznius. If you’re talking about the mothers of the chosson and kallah then maybe you have a point

And about the gowns…the nature of a gown is to be form fitting but most frum people dont wear it so tight that its untznius

If the only thing thats bothering you, is that you dont feel butterflies than you shouldnt feel like you are settling. There is nothing wrong with not feeling butterflies. Most married peoplel will tell you that the love comes after the marriage

“if that is true, why is it that many to most wowen would not be caught dead outside without a sheitel (which in many cases is anything but tzuisdig) and find no problem with putting on a snood (which we know is not as flattering) as soon as she comes home?! it would seem to me that the opposite should be the norm”

I agree 100%. The issue of makeup is not as bad as the issue of shaitels. I think the men notice the hair way more than the makeup.

I wish it would be the norm to wear shaitels in the house and snoods outside and where I live now (yerushalayim), I do just that. But when I move back to America…I dont know if I’ll be able to because people in america think of snoods as undergarments or pajamas

Banana Republic, Loft and Macys are my stores. I also like Lord and Taylor but I dont go too often

The “all men are created equal” is not really a frum concept.

G-d created us different than other nations and he created men to be different than women. Men and women are not equal. Deal with it.

How many people do you know that are over 120, that you need to know what to tell them? ; )

You hear that, all you kollel bashers??? Time to fight that yetzer hara of yours and absorb a true Torah Daas.

Thanks Mod 80. Now I understand.

Quote from the original poster of this thread

“(In my case- both are working at the present time, but despite having secular educations, arent doing well, because of the economy, like many others)”

Aha. But immediately everyone goes straight to bashing the guys who are sitting and learning in kollel.

Its as if you are all self hating jews…I dont get it.

Are you jealous that you arent learning Torah all day that you have to take every opportunity to put down those who do?

Can someone explain to me why they hate kollel guys?

I never heard of married kids “demanding” a down payment from their parents. If they are demanding, than they were obviously brought up in a way that their parents spoiled them and always gave them what they “demanded”. Otherwise they’d never have the gall to ask.

My siblings in Lakewood payed for their own down payments. And the ones that didnt have enough to put down took out a loan and are slowly paying it back by living with less. I would never ever ask my parents to pay for my down payment, let alone demand that they do. I was brought up not to “expect” things coming to me

I agree with the Goq-

Definitely BPT or Wolf. If WIY was still around I’d say he’d be in the running also

Sacrilege- lol

Someone has to do the same for all mens heads. He’s no different than the rest, its just that he’s more verbal about it

popa-

not that i agree with it…

but its the same reason that frum male videographers are allowed to video a girls high school play where the girls are wearing pants and singing (live)

or why ur allowed to go to a male dr when there are plenty of women drs available