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lawgirl
Theres nothing wrong with being smart. Either way, in my experience most smart girls prefer smart guys anyways. I dont know you but you should think about if you really want to be married to a guy who is significantly less educated and less brainy than you are.
Theres one thing to be uneducated, but a guy can make up for that with sharp wits and a fast intellect. However if he has neither I think most smart girls will just find that the chemistry is off and that he lacks “substance.”
Intelligent people tend to enjoy intelligent conversation and therefore should be paired up with intelligent people. Most smart guys wont be intimidated if they are less educated but are still plenty worldly and have a good head.
Its the feeble minded guys that tend to be scared off by educated brainy girls.
Thats my opinion anyways. Maybe only date smarter guys or guys who have degrees or whatever it is…smart people have a reputation and the Shadchan will be able to find you smart guys to date. Either way your whole theory with the triangle and all that makes fun reading but isnt based in Torah reality.
We Jews have Emunah and we believe that Hashem has a zivug prepared for us and when the time is right the 2 of you will meet and and connect. It can even be someone you once dated but it didnt work out because the time wasnt right. It has nothing to do with male female ratios and all that other garbage. No offense but if you have Emunah you will understand that in an extremely theoretical case where there is only one single guy left in the world every other single girl can date him but if he is meant for you, he wont click with the others and you will get him and no other girl will.
Yanky55
Listening to non-Jewish music is not Halachicly prohibited, at least not the tune. That is simply unhealthy for your soul, as the Mishna Brura quotes in the name of the Shelah. However, the words of the song may qualify as “divrei cheishek”, having sexual connotations, and therefore are prohibited as per Shulchan Aruch OH 307:16.
Hey I didnt write the Shulchon Aruch im just quoting the Halacha. If you have an issue keeping Halacha thats between you and Hashem DONT take it out on me.
He who worships himself is like one who worships idols. There is no difference between worship of oneself and worship of idols – The Kotzker Rebbe –
tzum zach
I like srulys CD and I look forward to his new one coming out soon!
Can you guys please sticky a thread about how to do things like making bold, italic, block quote…?
myfriend
Copyright Issues from Halachically Speaking
During the summer months it is very common to listen to more music than
usual while walking, driving, or doing any other activities. Therefore, it is proper
to discuss what one is and what is not permitted to copy as far as music CDs
and tapes are concerned. One should not say that copying is permitted. That
for stealing from music producers and artists. Many people are accustomed to
Every CD that is copied steals at least five dollars from the producers. If all the
money lost on the CDs that are copied would be added up the producers etc. are
losing a lot of parnasa, despite their investing a lot of time and money to create
something that the public is interested in. One wonders why some people who
are very stringent to keep every custom even when it may have little backing in
A CD or tape which is no longer sold in stores and is not possible to buy may
be copied from a friend.96 However, one must make sure that the item is really
not available for purchase. Many old tapes are still being sold online (by the
original producer or someone who bought the rights to them). One who owns
a CD or tape and is scared it may get lost is permitted to copy it. One who had a
CD or tape which broke may make a copy of it from a friend. One who owns a CD
or tape may make a copy of it for personal use. For example, he may make a copy
for his car, since it can be assumed that the one would not buy another copy of
the CD or tape for his car, so no loss is being caused by the copying.97 A CD or
live at home. However, once a child gets married a copy may not be made for
that child. It is permitted to copy a song off the radio since the quality is not
as good as it would be if one were to buy the CD or tape. Music that is offered
on the internet may not be copied since it is only put there for one to listen to.98
Some producers maintain that the forty-five second clips that are offered on the
internet may be copied. Copying a CD or tape is forbidden even if one would
never buy the CD or tape.99
94.
Horav Yisroel Belsky Shlita. Refer to Igros Moshe O.C. 4:40:19, Yabea Omer C.M. 7:9, Mishnas Zechuyos
(number 21).
95. Parshas Yisro 20:13.
96. Refer to Igros Moshe O.C. 4:40:19.
97. Refer to Rivevos Ephraim 4:248, 3:596.
9:footnotes 26-27.
99. Horav Yisroel Belsky Shlita. One is not allowed to copy even one song from many CDs or tapes to make a mix
(Horav Yisroel Belsky Shlita). If one who copied a CD or tape despite not being allowed to do so may listen to it in
Helpful
Downloading music off the internet that one didt pay for is stealing. Copying a cd your friend baught and keeping that copy for yourself, or putting it onto your ipod is stealing.
Its really not a chiddush. Should be pashut to all.
Pascha bchochma
Its a big problem when they know one or 2 or even a few frum people and they generalize based on that. You should make it clear that there are exceptions but by and large most Jews are honest hardworking law abiding citizens.
Pascha
Are you referring to frum Jews? Or Jews in general? Yes there are many non frum Jews who have made chillul Hashems. Madoff…what’s your point?
Yushka2
First of all I’m only talking Jewish music. It is assur to listen to non Jewish music. Classical music is different and I believe there are many who are matir. Bottom line as long as there’s no singing and no lyrics.
About copying: It is assur to copy or download music that one has not purchased. Yes one may listen to their friends ipod or cd sincle that falls under normal use, however I don’t know what the Halacha would be if your friend had illegally downloaded or copied the music
Sacrilege
So what’s better? Accounting? Finance? Everything got hit!
Phrum
The words Chaverim Kol Yisroel are from Rosh Chodesh Bentching which I’m sure you are aware. The point is that when will all the preceding things happen (Moshiach and Kibbutz Goliyos)? When we are all chaverim.
Pascha
Can you elaborate on what those chillul Hashem stories were? How do you know that what you were told is how it happened? Why are you so quick to accept Loshon Hora on your brothers and sisters?
“Please don’t honk. I’m running out of places to hide the bodies”
“Life is painless for the brainless”
Hope they win!
AOM
“”Im ata ma’amin she’yecholim l’kalkel, ta’amin she’yecholim le’taken” If you believe that you’re able to ruin things, Believe that you’re able to fix them. -Rav Nachman of Breslov”
I think its one of the greatest quotes of all time. Who knows how many neshamos were given chizuk from this quote alone?!
mischiefmaker
Whats called too long? Its not a crime to take your time in a store…
popa_bar_abba
This place is becoming the place to go for Seminary info lol.
Venomar Amen!
TheChevra
Before asking this Shaylah, first make sure you know what a Moser is. There are people who think going to police about child molesters are mosrim. This is discussed on another thread. So before you kill anybody make sure you know that he is actually a moser or else you become a murderer. For th record Im not recommending you kill anyone, but if you do know of a real moser that is causing problems for teh community you should discuss this with a competent and discrete Rav before doing anything you cant undo.
If I am I because I am I, and you are you because you are you, then I am I and you are you. But if I am I because you are you and you are you because I am I, then I am not I and you are not you!
“People are accustomed to look at the heavens and to wonder what happens there. It would be better if they would look within themselves, to see what happens there.”
Both from the Kotzker Rebbe ZATZAL.
Jam
psach libi bsorasecha said it thats not called mature.
Im not sure if its appropriate to do so “during Davening” but before Davening it may be ok. Although technically that would only apply to Mincha because in the morning one shouldnt do anything other than whats necessary to get to shul/school before Davening. Also, always say Birchas Hashachar first thing in the mornining after Negel Vasser.
yeshiva11230
He should be tarred and feathered…Actually, its not your business unless its your Torah he is stealing.
Jam
Middos comes with maturity. Talk to a 20 year old guy and tell him that marriage is about giving and loving the other person and putting them first. Most will run the other way fast or burst out laughing at your “obvious ignorance.”
LAer
Yeah he loves us to death.
Moq
You’re a professional Shadchan? Or do you just dabble?
Guys tend to mature at a slower rate than girls and therefore a 20 year old guy will still be a baby. It is possible also that part of the reason for this is society and the way things are set up where a guy doesn’t feel the need to be grown up until he is in shidduchim age. If the trend changed and guys started getting married at 20 then I think the pressure would be on to grow up faster.
That being said, I think many girls at 19 are very immature even though they are dating. There’s often a big difference between a 19 year old and a 21-22 year old girl.
It used to be that girls are mature by 18 or so but that no longer applies. Just look around. People in general have no interest in growing up. We aren’t as mature as our parents were at our respective ages. (I refer to anyone under 35) that’s just the way things are today.
Maturity though doesn’t necessarily have to correlate to age. Its usually a combination of age and what the persons temperament and life has been like.
Mischiefmaker
You can’t force Hashem to do something He isn’t willing to do. I don’t know what it is you need but if you are asking for a miracle well….a segulah won’t get you a miracle. Davening can. Teshuvah can.
You want a powerful segulah well here comes 2
1. If I remember correctly you are a girl. If so I’m not sure your Tznius level but maybe it is lacking. Learn the Halachos and keep them 100%. That also applies to how you walk and act. Become a Tzanua. If that’s all in check look at #2.
2. Learn the Halachos of Shmiras Halashon of the chofetz chaim. Know them COLD and start keeping them strictly. Yeah its hard its VERY HARD. You might think impossible. But if you want big favors from Hashem you need to make big gestures. But don’t do it because you want whatever it is. Do it because its what Hashem wants.
BEST IMA
The foods good but Im not ready to rave about a burger. Actually, the only burger I can rave about is the one I had at TFusion steakhouse. It was this MASSIVE 16 ounce burger that tasted amazing. The best burger I have ever eaten in my life. I dont know if they still have it as it was a over a year ago when I had this. Its a great restaurant either way. Really top notch food. Again I havent been there recently but it was great when I was there a little over a year ago.
iluvhashem
Maybe you were the exception?
mischiefmaker
Increasing Emunah and Bitachon are the best segulos under the sun. Works for everything.
Read Garden of Emunah.
Moq
Its hard to have a perfect mosed. Impossible actually but there are certain yeshivos that have learned from the mistakes of the last 20-30 years and are changing the mehalech, hiring younger better more caring Rabbeim, focusing on Hashkafos and caring about the boys and trying to give each kid what he needs. At the same time providing a challenging English department with great to go along with it. I applaud the yeshivah I am currently thinking of and Halevai more yeshivos did the same.
Moq
Thank you for your eloquence. I dont think theres much if anything id add to that.
p.s. Are you a male a female?
Myfriend
That’s far from the typical. Maybe only for the long term learners.