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SJS
Your definition of fun is not very Torahdig to say the least.
Sacrilege
You want a Talmid Chacham
There’s a Ben Torah and then there’s a Talmid Chacham. Unless a guy is naturally brilliant and retains most of what he learns or a huge masmid and knows a lot he can’t be a Talmid Chacham. To earn that title takes years maybe a really serious Kollel guy who is learning shtark may earn that title by about 30 years old or so.
Oh and you also want him to be a professional? Start dating guys who are over 30….
Mamarochelcry
You shouldn’t give a darn what people say. Especially if you are truly an independent thinker as you say. You are contradicting yourself as Mod-80 pointed out.
There is no shortage of people who talk Loshon Hara, today its about you tomorrow its about someone else. Don’t give in to the pressure of Shadchanim. You have to be true to yourself and to who you really are inside.
If you do what you are supposed to then Hashem will take care of you. I would recommend that you should have some Rebbetzin that you respect to give you shidduch guidance because its not as simple as we want it to be and sometimes we need someone older wiser and more experienced to bounce our thoughts off.
Sac
Were you the kid in class who always had a brilliant excuse like the dog ate my homework?
Sacrilege
Wow I learned a lot of useless information here today lol.
Mod-80
Yes Orthodox homes have leftovers Sunday night.
Sacrilege
Its ok I don’t think we are for each other either. No offense.
I’m somewhat surprised that you can say you don’t know what you are looking for when you are the age you are and have been dating that long. Don’t you think its about time to figure that out?
Mod-80
Leftover cholent is part of supper in many homes Sunday night
Sacrilege
That’s the best you can muster? 🙂
Sac
You mean grasshoppers and celery soda?
Mod-80
Yeah they have ruufs in Chicawgo aka roofs in NY.
Moq
Uch I’m getting nauseous. Imagine a meal of grasshoppers and downing it with celery soda.
I find this thread disturbing…
Sacrilege
presence its self
Was that a Freudian slip? :-p
Sacrilege
A lawyer who doesn’t like debate?
Borscht is good stuff. Although it depends who makes it. The Russians know what they are doing.
Wolf
Yes there are other ways. But the most kosher way is through a shadchan.
Sacrilege
I don’t think we are the right type for each other but I think it would be a fun date. Although I predict lots of spirited debate…
Sac
I guess my mom has mad skill. She does get a lot of compliments on her potato kugel.
Dunno
Prove it? A boy isn’t supposed to look at girls period unless its on a date or something. Stam looking is assur. Many guys will rationalize that they are looking because they will then find out about the girl and then have it redt. Baloney. By the time this “gazer” gets married he has looked at 1000’s of girls for no reason. A guy who looks will look at the wedding, the bar mitzvah, the sheva brachos, the vort, the lchaim, the bris, the shabbos kiddush and when walking in the street. He just beacomes a big baal tayvah.
Almost all people marry girls they never saw before in their life so there’s no Heter to look. The only Heter would be is if a guy is at a wedding and someone wants to redt a girl to him and she’s there so probably then it would be mutar to look. Otherwise, its assur to stam look at every single girl.
Vlo Sasuru Acharei Lvavchem Vacharei Eineichem is the issur.
Sacrilege
Why do I suddenly find myself without an appetite for lunch…?
Sac
You make pk in the oven?
My mother usually fries it in a pan. Yum lol.
Jakyweb
Shidduchim my…foot. Shidduchim come about by living according to the Torah and going through the process with a shadchan. Looking at every girl you see until you find one you like and then inquiring about her is Assur. Its not a free for all we can’t look where we want just because we are in “shidduchim.”
Sac
I hear. Your grandfathers family is teimani? Or did everyone eat these yummy grasshoppers?
Sacrilege
If you are looking to pounce you always find an opening.
Phrum
Well I had never heard of or had lamb soup before so it was weird to me at the time.
Wolf
Shiny? Where? Oh look at the time I’m hungry.
SJS
Right…a guy should check out every girl wherever he goes because you never know…
Vlo Sasuru Acharei Lvavchem Veacharei Eineichem…your idea is purely Atzas Yetzer Hora.
Sac
What’s the matziv with all the food threads?
I once had lamb soup. Really strange it wasn’t bad but it was weird.
I sometimes put shout on before sending to the cleaners. Not sure what else helps.
Sac
I knew you would pounce lol.
Just to clear things up I don’t currently watch him I am TV and Movie free. But in the past I was a fan.
Moq
Swordfish isn’t kosher.
Mod-80
I think most people on this forum have some ADD tendencies.
Also supposedly the Torah Times magazine has a shiurim listing. There are other sources but I’m not familiar with them. However the websites that broadcast shiurim would be able to assist you. At least I hope they would.
Moq
Well said. Kallah comes in and so do all her “best” friends. Basically 1/2 the ladies section ends upby the boys and now whoever dances in front of the Kallah (the single guys) also try to impress the single girls who are watching. What a mess lol.
Y.W. Editor
I think you may have to collaborate with other websites that have such lists. Maybe get in touch with Torahanytime.com
Sacrilege
I have Canadian friends. The “aye” gets on my nerves. So much fun making fun of Canadians to their face about their accent 🙂 (who would have thought I’m so evil lol)
Sacrilege
You were right there is no Halachic problem with a woman looking at another woman not dressed up to Tznius standards. (Although nudity remains assur) However a girl should not accustom herself to look at the fashion magazines…and such because it will lead her to want to look and dress that way.
Sacrilege
You a CF fan? I used to be obsessed with him. Lol.
I’m with Phrum. A list of public shiurim in various communities with Rabbi name, times and toopics would be a huge asset and a big Kidush Hashem. You will have the zechus to be marbitz Torah that way.
Certain South American accents (when they are light not too heavy) sound very soothing.
Mod 80
He’s a Scotsman.
If the other women aren’t dancing its certainly less of a problem. However the father and certainly the brothers (especially if they are unmarried) have no place being on the womens side of the Mechitza. You are going to tell me the brothers and father (especially the single brothers )aren’t going to look at all the girls who are dressed to kill? Who are you fooling?
The Rabbanim have a distaste for when they bring the Kallah into the mens side. Its become mainstream so they don’t put up a fight. But men have no place mingling with the women.
Theprof1 said it well.
Best Ima
Go by the lists or info on Jewish websites. They tend to be accurate.
BEST IMA
Not surprised. The Mechitzah is there for a reason. Duh! Why do people keep pushing the envelope?
cleverjewishpun
I think what you need most is to get in touch with an intelligent and compassionate Rabbi who is open minded and can help you get back on track. I reccomend you check out the link I provided. There’s a phone number there to get in touch with Rabbi Suchard the founder of Gateways. He can likely help you or direct you to one of his staff Rabbanim who can help you get past what you are going through.