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Deiyezooger

I agree with smartcookie. Please use a spell checker. Your post looks ridiculous.

SJSinNYC

You are 100% right, but talking doesnt affect the neshamos, it can only distract others listening to Kaddish to answer and its actually a very improper thing to do. People do not appreciate the value of Davening in general. Kaddish suffers along with Chazaras Hashatz and leining.

Im always bothered when I see people who look like they had a proper yeshivah education, some even are in Kollel or look like learned people and they will talk during Chazaras Hashatz or Kaddish. However my opinion is it is a general feeling of disconnection from Tefillah.

I have a theory and I hope Im wrong but to me it seems that most people dont believe Hashem is listening to their prayers or they dont believe that their prayers even mean anything or have the power to accomplish great things and therefore why bother Davening with Kavana or caring about Davening too much or the fact that one can be disturbing anothers Davening.

I dont know. But frankly I think its very rude to “bike ride” through a cemetery. I dont know if its a Jewish one or a non Jewish one, but regardless, the families likely dont appreciate it and anyone there at the grave of a loved one at the time of this recreational activity will likely be very bothered.

The Wolf

First of all I dont know you personally but you have this manner of putting yourself down and saying negative things about yourself which really makes me uncomfortable. I dont think its proper for you to put yourself down whether you really have a low self image or just for fun because some people will take it seriously and if you really feel this way about yourself you need to speak to a professional. If you are doing it for humor, its not funny and insensitive to those who themselves struggle or have struggled with self image issues.

Now on to your post.

I think you have made a very valid point and I have seen this done elsewhere. You are 100% correct that it is wrong and disrespectful. It shows I dont care what you have to say r that you are boring…Its especially rude when the person is right in the line of sight of the Rav or speaker…If the Rav is speaking for a long time and goes on and on and is really very boring, I cant judge someone who is sitting in the back and knows for a fact that he cant be seen by the Rav for taking out a sefer and finishing maavir sedrah or whatever.

What you are saying is WRONG. Even on the most chomer aveiros including murder, eishes ish, etc. one can do complete teshuva.

Many people somehow have a wrong hashkafa on this matter.

Incorrect. Once you brought a Mamzer into the world thres no undoing that. Although there may be some way to do Teshuvah Im not sure theres a 100% Teshuvah for making a Mamzer.

Sacrilege

I can’t believe you have no response to my comment. I thought you would find it punny 😉

Sacrilege

The Rabbanan in the Gemara say that Tefillah is an exception bedcause Tefillah is a request from Hashem for mercy and women need that just as much as men do.

At the minimum you should Daven Shemonah Esrei. I think any competent Rav would agree with that statement. I challenge you to ask one.

With all do respect its not up to you to do “what works for you.” Trust me my life would be soooo much easier or entertaining if “do what works for me.”

I once complained to a Rav “I don’t feel like doing xyzabc so I don’t do it, I want to feel like doing it but I don’t. Well he said “your mistake is viewing it as though you have an option. You don’t have an option. You must do what Hashem commanded you. Now once you are going to do it anyways because you must, doesn’t it make more sense to try and do it with as much enthusiasm and enjoyment as we can muster?”

squeak

You are right. Give all your assets away to charity and then get back to me 😉

Sacrilege

Well if you took on Maariv for a particular reason definitely stick with it unless it becomes too much of a burden.

But seriously you have a chiyuv to daven Mincha. Its not really optional. I don’t know your work environment but I can’t imagine there isn’t even 5 minutes to quickly Daven a Mincha.

People find time to do the things that’s important to them (like eat, go to the bathroom, shmooze with friends, send text messages…) nobody has time for Hashem. Its depressing.

Sacrilege

Mincha according to many seforim (Halachically Shacharis is most important) is the most important or powerful Tefillah of the day because during our hectic work day we take off the time to recognize that there’s a Creator and everything we do in business or elsewhere in our lives is totally worthless without His blessing and help. We can’t succeed without Him. The Gemara says that Eliyahu Hanavi was Davening and Davening and was finally answered by Hashem at Mincha time (on Har HaCarmel)

That being said your father can be matir your neder if you never said bli neder. I don’t know all the rules but its an easy process.

If you already are Davening 2x a day make Mincha #2.Mincha is shorter than Maariv, its just ashrei shemonah esrei and aleinu I don’t even think you need to say tachnun. Look at it as though you are davening “Maariv” a few hours earlier.

You certainly have the 5-10 minutes it takes to Daven a quick Mincha. Although it may mean less time in the CR here we will all be happier knowing you are Davening to Hashem and putting Him before us.

The Rambam says you can do Teshuvah on anything however If a Chillul Hashem is involved it will require Missah to be completely mechaper.

However the Rambam and Shaarei Teshuva as well as other sources (I believe its a Gemara) That if one sins and says Echta Veashuv – I will do Teshuvah afterwards his Teshuvah is not accepted.

Your question wasnt can someone do Teshuvah on murder but “how can someone.” As though it happened…Im trying very hard not to read too much into this…

Either way if you want to know how to do Teshuvah on such an Aveira you should learn through the Rambams Hilchos Teshuvah which isnt too long and the sefer Shaarei Teshuvah by Rabbeinu Yonah.

twisted

You reminded me of some weird stuff I have had. Lychee fruits Sabras and wheat grass!

Mod-80

Personally I think Mitch Hedberg (RIP) is much funnier than SW.

Heres a few.

I don’t own a cell phone or a pager. I just hang around everyone I know, all the time. If someone wants to get a hold of me, they just say ‘Mitch,’ and I say ‘what?’ and turn my head slightly.

I know a lot about cars. I can look at a car’s headlights and tell you exactly which way it’s coming.

I like rice. Rice is great if you’re hungry and want 2000 of something.

I like to play blackjack. I’m not addicted to gambling, I’m addicted to sitting in a semi-circle.

I wanna hang a map of the world in my house. Then I’m gonna put pins into all the locations that I’ve traveled to. But first, I’m gonna have to travel to the top two corners of the map so it won’t fall down.

The depressing thing about tennis is that no matter how good I get, I’ll never be as good as a wall.

With a stop light, green means ‘go’ and yellow means ‘slow down’. With a banana, however, it is quite the opposite. Yellow means ‘go’, green means ‘whoa, slow down’, and red means ‘where the heck did you get that banana?’

You know, you can’t please all the people all the time… and last night, all those people were at my show.

I like an escalator because an escalator can never break, it can only become stairs. There would never be an escalator temporarily out of order sign, only an escalator temporarily stairs. Sorry for the convenience.

I’m sick of following my dreams. I’m just going to ask them where they’re going and hook up with them later.

I play golf. I’m not good at golf. I never got a hole-in-one. But I did hit a guy. That’s way more satisfying. You’re supposed to yell “Fore.” But I was too busy mumbling “There ain’t no way that’s gonna hit him.”

I went to a doctor. All he did was suck blood from of my neck. Don’t go to see Dr. Acula!

Hope you enjoyed 🙂

SJS

The “Is fun allowed” was a question to Squeak who said we were reverting back to germanic wedding styles. As I’m half German and understand the “no sense of humor” thing, it made me laugh and was a natural question.

Again, where did I define my version of fun?

Sorry it got lost in translation. I thought you were talking to me and saying that teen boys and girls should look at each other because its fun.

BP Totty

Thanks for trying to set us up but I honestly think we arent for each other. Our views on things dont exactly match up. Besides, shes looking for a professional and a Talmid Chacham of which I am neither.

1987

“So before anyone wants to start a new topic that they KNOW will cause such discussions, please refrain.”

You forgot to take your own advice…or was this what you wanted…?