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Pixelate
Why should you assume you did something wrong unless something occurred to make you doubt if you did what you were supposed to do or did what you werent supposed to do. Meaning why would you assume you didnt make kiddush friday night if thats what you always do friday night…?
I never ate lunch on Shabbos.
TAOM
You are welcome! Hatzlacha!
Cheers. Drink up.
pixelate
What does that even mean? You arent sure if what you did was assur? You need to explain.
Popa
I think Shammai was wise enough to know not to do this when shopping with his wife.
the-art-of-moi
No offense to your teachers and all that but they didnt do a good job teaching you about Teshuvah. The truth is you should contact a shul Rav who is a big talmud chacham, he will probably know enough to guide you on how to properly do Teshuvah. I think a lot of what you have been doing is counterproductive and making things worse.
The reason why you have to do Teshuvah is for you not for Hashem. The reason you daven is the same, Hashem knows everything, He knows what you want and need and what you are going to say before you say it. But we need to do the act of saying the words and feeling the meaning behind them.
When we do Charatah and say the words, “Hashem I did xyz…” try to picture yourself standing before Hashem and actually saying what you did wrong. That has a very powerful affect on a person and seforim say I think I heard that its from a Rambam, that when you admit what you did it makes it harder to ever do it again. Also, if you aren’t sincere in your regret you will have a harder time saying it out. Thoughts are thoughts we dont give much value to them. Words are more valuable and powerful (not to say that thought is cheap but thats just the way we view it).
Charata doesnt mean guilt. It means regret. Regret is very different from guilt. Regret is “I wish I hadnt done that.” “I wish I hadnt acted that way” “I wish I hadnt lowered myself….” You can feel guilty without having regret. Guilty is more like you did something that you know you shoulnt have and you have that nagging guilty feeling. Would you do it again? Maybe. Possibly. Regret means you deeply wish you hadnt done it and you wont do it again because you realize the hard you caused to yourself or to another…
Kabbalah al haasid means setting up Gedarim so that it wont happen again. Theres no limit to how many gedarim you can set up. If you know that theres something you cant stay away from you need to put it in quarantine. Make sure that you are 10 steps removed from it. Theres more to this. You also need to have positive alternatives to bail you out when you are in danger of doing the thing you shouldnt. Additionally, if possible, arrange with a trusted friend or mentor to be able to call them when you feel that things are getting chaotic and your mind is leading you to do the thing you dont want to do. At the end of the day, YOU are the boss. You have bechira which means free choice to say NO to anything that is bad for you. However the bechirah is to say no before being in the situation of sin. If someone has a problem with watching TV his bechirah is to choose not to go into the room when the TV is on. Once he goes into the room he may not have the power to resist looking. You understand? So utilize that bechira and Hashem will help you.
Ice cream is that a dish?
the-art-of-moi
It may be better not to do this on Shabbos. One is supposed to be happy on Shabbos and if reading mussar seforim will make one sad they shouldnt read them on Shabbos.
Btw I want to tell you something very important about Teshuvah. If you sincerely regret it thats it you are done. Theres no use living in the sadness and regret. Hashem wants you to do Teshuvah which means sincerely regret what you did and then FORGET ABOUT IT AND MOVE ON. If you sincerely believe that Hashem forgives when you do Teshuvah then you would just let go and let yourself move on. We all make mistakes, some make big ones. It doesnt matter what the mistake you must move on and focus on the good and living positively. Dont dwell on your aveiros and live in the past.
Because 7 ate 9
TAOM
You are welcome! Look for some special spirital activity that you can incorporate into your day that will give you that feeling of closeness. Maybe try to go through the whole tehillim (with a translation so you know what you are saying) do 3-5 kapitlach a day or find a daily chessed activity to do…
Wow Goq I never expected that from you.
TAOM
Please let me know what you thought of the shiur once you listen to it.
Thanks
The Jewish donut problem: what to do now that you look like a donut after eating so many over Chanukah.
As long as it suits America’s purposes.
No wonder the Germans came up with the idea of concentration camps.
Polygamist bar Abba?
Well maybe you should see and not ask us. It could be he is fat or overly skinny or very tall or short or has a distinct look. Really you should call this person up and say “I dedicated a whole thread in the cr to your ridiculously vague and derogatory sounding comment of wysiwyg so please elaborate.”
Live right
You are right one only raises him or herself by kaddosh and not at the end of shemoneh esrei.
Thank Hashem for English translations of the Chumash otherwise some people would never know what really happened to Dina, or how Avimelech knew that yitzchak and rivka were married or the whole story of Yehuda and Tamar. Its ridiculous how the Torah could say it but the Rabbeim may not translate and tell us simple stories in Chumash. They wasted great opportunities of teaching us about these matters in a Kosher way as opposed to how most kids learn about these things.
Taom
Chanukah is just a reminder of what is constantly going on. Hashem is always close to you and always loves you. Take the message of Chanukah and live with it! Btw there’s an excellent shiur I think everyone should listen to especially teenagers, it is by Rabbi Dovid Roberts titled Finding Happiness in Unexpected Places. You can find it on Torahanytime.
Ready a big one? They tell us as kids that Chava was taken from Adams rib. That’s completely false and am haratzus.
What’s the problem other than what I already mentioned?
nonikname
Usually people who do broadway know how to sing.
Our society has certainly become geek like.
Veltz
I don’t know what you mean with epcot and Lakewood has tons of non Jews.
What exactly does a Chinese city mean? Are they going to start building special cities for the various nationalities that live in the US? If yes I want them to build Jew city. No gentiles. Don’t know what we will do when we need a Shabbos goy but I’m sure we will figure it out.
Mazel Tov! Lots-a nachas!
They probably dont know how to do it. Or they are paranoid and dont want you following them.
HaLeiVi
Matisyahu (ben Yochanan of al hanissim) had a a son Yoachanan but he was not the yochanan kohen gadol who became a tzeduki. It is not clear who that yochanan was. According to Abaye in Brachos 29a it is Shimon (ben matisyahus) grandson. Either way it was definitely not Matisyahus father and almost definitely not his son.
Popa
Lol. When will you be there next I want to see if I can spot you in a crowd.
Rebyid
Basically what the pagans used to do swear by their idols so if they swear falsely it is swearing falsely by something false or even modern day false god’s.
Good question maybe she had signs of age on her body but not her face?
Oh so just have gadol day to get it over with. How nice. If I were you I would actually ask them for some spiritual guidance a bracha is great but they can give us guidance in what to improve in our avodas Hashem and how to do it.
I don’t know but I thought that I had many more threads than I found and my first thread was not the one that shows up as first. I thought I had more before that.
Is it possible that some stuff is missing? Other than deleted threads due to content.
what stuff
I’m feeling nostalgic I want to look back on my old threads from when Ifirst started posting how do I do this?
If you go to your profile you can scroll through all the threads you have posted on in chronological reversed order. Click on an early one.
In the state of boredom.
Tyrwhitt looks nicer.
Good luck finding guy in low 20s who can be called a Talmud Chacham while keeping a straight face.
Theres also the concept (Rav Yehonoson Eibeshutz discusses this) that bad things can befall a person due to his sins not out of punishment but rather due to hester panim. If a person turns his back on Hashem, Hashem will so to speak turn His back on him and leave him to the mazalos and nature…
Popa
No offense but I didn’t think EY was your schnit.
Popa
Ridiculously long name for a store of any kind.
Lab
You are right because Halachically the menorah had to be lit every day.
Popa
Welcome to boro park.
147
Cute
tzaddiq
I think a deep fried latke would bob up and down no?
LAB
Is this better?
Oh dreidel, dreidel, dreidel,
I made you out of plastic,
And when it’s dry and ready…