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Sam

I believe Rav Belsky holds you wash on 3 slices and as far back as I remember I never from teenage years andon I always ate minimum 2 slices. 2 slices (especially small ones without fries) is not a big meal for any normal male. I don’t know anyone who gets full on one slice and I would venture to say that most adult women eat 1.5 to 2 slices as well unless they are dieting or just want to be hungry.

Vogue

Popa is neither a guy or a girl. Popa is a concept.

To answer your question, I’m a guy but I can imagine what you are going through and its certainly a challenging transition to go from a modern upbringing and shift to a more heimish one. The issue you are having is common with people who change and move to the right. Guys have this problem just as girls do. Anyways I think the smartest and safest thing to do is make strong gedarim. Decide that you will no longer go over to guys you know. If they come over to you explain briefly why you no longer can chat with them and part ways on a friendly note. You will have to have a “script” prepared and expect it to be uncomfortable the first few times. However the only way this will work is if you make up your mind that there’s no exceptions. You can’t talk to any of the guys you used to know.

MorahRach

Many people aren’t 100% sure even after their wedding night. You hope you did the right thing and that Hashem led you to the right person.

Torah

I think if Popa is single you 2 should date. You seem to find almost everything he posts as funny. I think if there were a PBA fan club you would be up there. Maybe you two would connect in real life too.

Oomis and Wolf

Don’t you think its time to settle down?

Brony

Good one.

Yitz17

It has other effects which are immediate. I have smoked in the past and so have some of my friends so let me share with you some effects it had on us. I’m talking about a significant smoking habit of half a pack a day or more.

1. Breathlessness. You get out of breath very fast and it makes it harder to walk, run, play ball or do anything requiring physical activity.

2. Weakened immune system. You catch a cold much quicker and it lasts much longer.

3. It ruins your voice. Your throat gets dry and achy and it ruins your singing voice so forget about singing zmiros.

4. Tight chest pains. I got this and some smokers get this as well you feel a tightness or gripping in your chest that comes and goes its very uncomfortable and frightening.

5. You become more nervous and you NEED your smokes and if you don’t get them you act tense and moody.

That’s not to mention that you will reek. Your breath will stink your clothing will stink and many people find the smell offensive. Its also a tremendous waste of time. If you smoke a pack a day that means you waste about 2 hours a day smoking! I strongly discourage anyone from taking up smoking.

Wolf

“Considering I haven’t posted anything along those lines in at least half a year…”

I noticed and thanks for stopping. Has it had any impact on your life?

jbaldy22

Habitually and compulsively are quite different. A compulsion is almost as destructive as an addiction. The bottom line is the person is having a very hard time controlling themselves and is effecting their lives negatively.

popa_bar_abba

I guess that means he must be a math teacher :-p

Sam

I don’t know much about this minhag but many of the things the non Jews do on their Holidays was actually borrowed (stolen) from us. According to my googling it was an ancient Jewish practice to paint eggs. Do your own googling and get back to me.

Rebbi1

Wow I thought you were joking until I did some googling. Turns out that it is a Lubavitch and Karlin minhag. I found articles talking about it but they didn’t have sources.

Letschmooze

Most Kohanim especially those into their yiddishkiet are proud to be Kohanim. Maybe you know the wrong Kohanim.

Shticky Guy

You mean I have to wear 3 years ago’s style? Its probably coming back in soon anyways.

HaLeiVi

There still is no word for fun.

Downominator. Remember D for down. N for North.

Shticky

Clothes have a din of orlah? Please explain.

Ah nachas. Great story baal habooze. I found some answers on aish dot com on Rav Asher Alports torah page that you can share with your son.

The Torah forbids the consumption of orlah, the fruits produced by a tree for the first three years (Leviticus 19:23). The Talmud (Shabbos 33b) relates that when Rebbi Shimon bar Yochai was forced to flee to a cave to save his life, a carob tree miraculously sprouted there to provide him sustenance. How was he permitted to eat the fruits, which are considered orlah?

Rabbi Yissochar Dov of Belz (Imrei Daas) cites the Talmud (Yerushalmi Orlah 1:1), which rules that if a tree grows in a place which isn’t designed for human settlement, which was the case with the cave of Rebbi Shimon, it is exempt from the laws of orlah.

Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky (Derech Emunah Hilchos Maaser Sheini 10:6) notes that Maimonides rules that if a tree grows on its own in a public area, such that its fruits are ownerless and available to all, the laws of orlah do not apply to it.

The M’rafsin Igri gives a few answers. First, a tree which grows miraculously is exempt from all laws governing fruits, such as orlah and ma’aser. Second, the tree may have already been planted elsewhere for more than three years, and if it was transferred to the cave together with its roots, its fruits would be immediately permissible. Alternatively, Rebbi Shimon may have eaten the carob fruits while they were still small and not yet legally classified as fruits which are forbidden as orlah.

Haifa

Someone actually called 20 minutes before Shabbos? What coumd you pissibly prepare on such short notice?!

I will be dan lekaf zchus that the person was going to call earlier and got busy or it slipped their mind and they remembered 20 minutes before Shabbos. Hey when you can give the benefit of the doubt why not give it?

Sam2

Actually Kabbalah aside even for pshat if you will look at meforshim like the Malbim and Rav Hirsch its apparent that to get correct pshat you need the correct translation of each word. Neither of them are kabbalah perushim. Rather pashut pshat according to their understanding of dikduk.

Torah613Torah

“I’m really enjoying the back and forth on this topic. Thanks everyone. :)”

Are you having fun? If yes say it in Loshon Kodesh 🙂

benignuman

Schok means laughter not fun (az yimalei schok pinu). There is no word for fun and there is a big difference between fun and laughter so dont make it like its the same thing. Another thing to keep in mind when dealing with the words of the Torah is that Loshon Kodesh is precise. It is the Language of Hashem that He used to create reality to create everything. A thing is intrinsically its word in loshon Kodesh so Loshon Kodesh will be exact always exact.

Torah613Torah

“In conclusion, my seminary teachers were wrong, and fun is a Jewish concept.”

I think they were right that technically since there is no word for fun, fun is not a Torah concept. Enjoyment is a Torah concept however all enjoyment and pleasure should be for a higher cause. We certainly don’t “need” to have fun the way we do today. We waste a lot of time and look for ways to have fun because we are bored not because we need some relaxation to go back to our avodas Hashem. Ill leave it at that. Lets put it this way, many things that are fun and that people do for fun may have not mutar aspects to them and they often dont lead a person to more avodas Hashem. When was the last time someone you knew came back from a day of fun at an amusement park and had “more” cheishek for a daf gemara or davening or other mitzvos?

Hrolfr

My first pair of tefillin were made in EY and shipped to NY. I second DY have someone you know either your Rav or a Rav or Rosh Kollel or someone you know who is connected make a recommendatio for you of a sofer he knows or put you in touch with someone who can help you.