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Dr. Uri

You seriously have a hang up with this issue. Dont get me wrong it really bothers me too and I have spoken about it here and with people in the real world but repeatedly posting here like a broken record really accomplishes little.

DY

They stated that he’s a chossid (for those who can’t tell from the picture! !!) Why the need to go into the detail of what he wears on his head on shabbos? Maybe they should also write if he eats galla or ptcha on Shabbos. Its irrelevant what he wears unless they are trying to be divisive by focusing on that point. I don’t want to get into this whole thing because its not a healthy topic. Just read the article and tell me if that line doesn’t stand out like a sore thumb. Its a statment of some sort and I don’t believe its an advertisement for streimels.

I have an imaginary teddy bear. I have no use for it you can have it if you want it.

Brony

You are bothered by the English? Im much more bothered by the sinas chinam!

Absolutely disgusting. I guess YWN is soon to be the new and improved VIN.

DaMoshe

You do realize that the Chassidim are more machmir on Hilchos Tznius than the non Chassidish (or rather that they “keep” Hilchos Tzniyus vee es darft tzu zein)?

I am not Chassidish but I definitely applaud their lifestyle (most things at least) and think that with regards to certain things they got it right. The lack of Tzniyus and mingling by simchos and what not that goes on by the non Chassidish velt is utterly disgusting. I was recently by a “Yeshivish” vort and they had one of those half mechitza thingies where theres some trees here and there and the middle is divided by a table where if you just look up you can see the whole ladies section. If that wasnt enough there were women coming over into the mens section. Is this what Hashem wants from us? It has become so common place that by “shmorg” style events men and women mingle that we have forgotten that theres even something wrong with it.

I think anyone anti Tznius is actually someone who is not healthy in these areas and wants things to be in a non Torahdig not Kedushahdig way. I think on some level they feel threatened by others who control themselves in this area.

OneOfMany

I miss the pralines and cream flavor havent seen it in ages!

I am a koifer.

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/does-not-believing-in-the-shidduch-crisis-make-you-a-koifer

Gavra

You do realize that in those days they learned baal peh (I think even once the gemara was put down in writing the preferred method was still baall peh) so it was possible to do some cooking while reciting mishnayos baal peh or thinking in learning.

Much harder today when we learn from sefarim and most people don’t know much of anything baal peh. Additionally we aren’t the amoraim and if we tried to learn and cook the likelihood of the food getting burned or ingredients left out. ..is high. Although I have listened to shiurim (nothing too involving) while doing other things so it is possible to do light learning while doing something else as lkng as the something else doesn’t require too much focus.

Shopping

It seems that people who become members of your thing tend to disappear. Maybe just a coinkydink.

YehudahTzvi

The Hebrew is in Tosafos opening words Hamalach in Gemarah Niddah daf tes zayin as rebbi1 said (I dont know if its there or not but I am assuming rebbi1 knows what he is talking about).

Don’t know but id be suspicious of any stranger asking me to sniff paper.

Rebdoniel

Les Mis is full of trashy material like violence, rape, and child abuse. There is absolutely nothing uplifting about watching this kind of filth. It is not worth subjecting oneself to this material, simply because it contains a minor message about forgiveness at the end.

Thanks for the laugh. You don’t need a teddy bear you have tens of imaginary friends in the coffeeroom.

Rebdoniel

When you stop going to watch trashy movies in theaters come back and talk about your complaints about baalei tefillah. Maybe the reason you don’t feel the Davening is because of what you watch and has nothing to do with the baal tefillah or his nusach. As you said a few months back on a thread you had to go to the theater to see Les Miserables. Should I go on?

When he was an elderly widower, Rabbi Eliyahu Lopian (“Lev Eliyahu,” 1876-1970) was a guest for dinner at the home of a certain couple. At the end of the meal, the couple had to excuse themselves for something that required them to leave the rabbi alone for several minutes. When they came back, the couple was astonished to find that the venerable and humble rabbi had, quietly and without any fanfare, washed and dried all the dishes.

REB YAAKOV SHOWS US HOW TO RESPECT A JEWISH WIFE

Rabbi Yaakov Kaminetsky was famed within his lifetime (1891-1986) for being a tzadik (one who fulfills all of the Torah). Three stories about him involve his saintliness in marriage.

A few years after his first wife passed away, Reb Yaakov (as he is affectionately called) felt ready to re-marry. He was about sixty. Reb Yaakov was Lithuanian and followed the customs of Lithuanian Jewry. His second wife was Polish and followed the customs of her section of Poland. Reb Yaakov, also, had a private custom of never eating dairy on Fridays. He said he had no idea why, but not eating milchigs (dairy foods) Fridays was a custom in his father’s family. He was confident that it had a holy basis and he observed it uncompromisingly.

He married his second wife shortly before the holiday of Shevuos. It is customary to eat dairy on Shevuos. As it turned out, Shevuos that year came out on Friday. His wife’s custom for the first day of Shevuos was to prepare a lavish dairy kiddush, and then serve a traditional meat meal after the kiddush. They were married such a short time that they couldn’t have possibly learned all of each other’s customs. The rebitzen thought that she would please her husband by preparing a generous dairy kiddush featuring that Shevuos favorite: cheesecake! Milchigs on a Friday!

Rabbi Kaminetsky came home from synagogue with a gathering of guests, all yeshiva scholars. When he walked in, his bride was proud as a peacock. She honored yom tov as if for a king. The house was nearly wall-papered in cheesecake! She had evidently spent enormous time and care, buying, baking and preparing a royal spread. It was obvious that her intentions had been extremely selfless and noble. Inside himself, he was aghast. While he knew he had to express delighted and appreciative surprise to his rebitzen, he was in a real dilemma. He had a vow never to eat dairy on Friday. He also had a vow to keep a wife happy. Not eating the milchigs would break her heart. Eating, and breaking the vow to never eat dairy on Friday, was not an option.

She said that she had to go into the kitchen to make some last minute arrangements. This gave him a moment to think. He turned to the three among his guests who were the greatest scholars. He explained the dilemma. “You three are Torah scholars. You can form a bais din [court]. You will do ‘hataras nedarim’ [the Torah court procedure for canceling vows, which may only be done under certain conditions – fortunately this case contained an allowable condition – ask your local orthodox rabbi if you have practical questions]. They finished the vow-canceling ceremony just in time. He ate his wife’s cheesecake.

Story number two about Reb Yaakov tells of him coming to a dinner sponsored by a major Torah organization. He was with Rabbi Shnayer Kotler, late Rosh HaYeshiva of the prominent Lakewood Yeshiva. Appreciate that BOTH WERE EXCEPTIONALLY HUMBLE MEN.

Both of these distinguished Torah giants were about to come in the main entrance of the banquet hall. Reb Shnayer said, “Let us not go in this way. I know of a back entrance. If we come in this way, everyone will stand up to give us honor. Let us not impose on an entire crowd.”

To his astonishment, Reb Yaakov said insistently, and surprisingly out of character, “Let us enter specifically through this main door.”

“But, why?” said Reb Shnayer, in amazement at his friend who was world-famous for humility.

“Our wives are in there,” Reb Yaakov replied. “When the entire crowd stands, this gives honor to our wives.”

Once Reb Yaakov, who lived in Monsey, was in New York City for a simcha. A young man from Monsey was asked to give the tzadik a ride home. He gladly agreed and eagerly introduced himself to the Rosh Yeshiva as his ride. Reb Yaakov said that he first had to inspect the car before he could accept the ride. He got into the back seat and sat for a moment. He then came out of the car and said he would accept the ride. The reason he went into the car first was to make sure the seat would be comfortable for HIS WIFE.

from Rabbi Forsythe shalom bayis website

Popa

Aha so you’re a defector.

Popa

Haleivis post wad conplaining that the Rabbanim make it too hard on geirim. You say they make it too easy? Or you want them to have Ruach Hakodesh and know what will happen in 10 years time? If you have Ruach Hakodesh so maybe you should get involved with the geirus issue. Also please give me the winning Lotto numbers it would really help me lol.

Squeak

I’m sorry but in Brooklyn Chassidish girls are allowed to walk outside as much as they like and once they get married (which is usually at 18-20) they usually get a license and learn to drive although this depends on how extremely chassidish they are. But average chassidish women drive today.

Mod72

How can they steal the info from the chip how do they do it?

Be careful who you get the second time because I know people who are on marriage #3 and 4. Make sure you are clear on what you want and need and realize that getting married at your age after a divorce is extremely different from the first time around and your needs will be different as well. Don’t rush into anything out of desperation because a lot of women do that. Also I don’t kniw how many kids you have and their ages but if they are young and they live with you its important to find someone who is kind and will be good to them as well not just to you. May Hashem guide you to true happiness.

There is no nature only Hashem.

Yes I agree he does get away with everything and things always work out for him. If he were a republican he would have already been impeached due to benghazi. Anyways lets pray for those who are hurt and in danger in Oaklahoma and hope that there be no more casualties.

Popa

Most geirim are not typical people I mean just think about it. For a non Jew to go through the search and effort to become a ger (you say you know some well they all have a story some longer than others) but none of them are typical people. They are all spiritual and emotional people. You don’t get attracted to Yiddishkiet unless you are a big baal hergesh. I am with Derech Hamelech on this. They aren’t taught how to integrate. Ever see the baalei teshuvah with the weird hat and weird suit and all that? Why doesn’t anyone teach these guys how to dress? Take them to a darn suit store and hat store and make sure they look normal! Same thing with the havaarah. Why don’t they work with them and teach them how to pronounce words properly? Teach them the nusach hatefilah and kiddush…I have heard bt and geirim make kiddush and I feel bad for them because it sounds really funny.

Another thing is that geirim are different there’s no denying that they lived 20-30 years as non Jews in a totally different environment that is so different from a frum lifestyle. Its just a huge change and it takes time to adjust and without the proper support system you just burn out. Everyone needs friends and wants to feel like part of the crowd and if a ger walked in to most shuls there may be one or 2 “tzaddikim” who would bother to try and make him feel welcome and everyone else would just shy away.

Dr Uri

I think you are exaggerating. Yes probably every shul has a little bit of talking and some have a lot to the point where its almost like they came to shul to talk. However I wouldn’t classify all or most shuls like this.