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Bais yakov maidel
Can you please discuss this with Rebbetzin Heller or your personal Rav, before walking down this path. You are taking a turn that you may later regret.
Lakewood
Because they dedicated their lives to carrying on the oral tradition of the Torah and learned every possible second and we’re tremendous Tzaddik and did great acts of kindness were able to avert evil decrees with their Tefillos lead Klal Yisroel…
And for the record “my Rabbeinu told me they are” is a very valid answer. Klal Yisroel has a mesorah. One needs a Rebbe. Sadly there has been a big breakdown in this area where people want to be independent and are turning their backs on dass Torah and don’t realize that what has kept us going strong all these years is our mesorah which is passed down Rebbe to talmid the connection to the Torah of the previous generation and their guidance.
Lakewood01
I’m sorry I think it’s actually ludicrous to say that chazal need your approval. Its also arrogant beyond belief. The Gemara is our mesorah. You need to work on the Gemara until you appreciate it but they don’t need your approval. The Gemara discusses niskatnu hadoros so compared to them we are a piece of bacteria. The Gemara says the smallest of the amoraim was on the madreiga to be mechyeh meisim. Such great people certainly don’t need our approval. By the fact that they are in the Gemara that is God’s approval. To think that your approval is necessary is just beyond.
Am23
Sorry twas a joke. Please forgive me.
“I want to be able to think that chazal were great people – and not because my tenth-grade teacher or a Rav said so, but because I myself think so based on his works.”
So what we’d be if for whatever reason you start to learn Gemara and it makes no sense to you or you? Are they suddenly not so great because you don’t like or understand what they are talking about? I really think that the above sentence of yours is very problematic. Chazal don’t need your approval. They don’t need Rav Chaim Kannievskies approval either. Most people will never learn Zohar and shouldn’t. Does that mean that to them or to you it shouldn’t be enough that they know Rav Shimon bar Yochai is great? We don’t learn Gemara to find out how great Abaya and Rava were. That’s just absurd.
Beis
And for the record why is it circular reasoning to say that a person can have emunah ah questions based on things they do? The spiritual world has rules and a structure and if you do certain things there are certain consequences. It doesn’t have to make sense to you to make it true and valid. Yes if you go now and eat a piece of pork tomorrow you will be less interested in Hashem, your daven ing won’t be the same you will feel spiritually deadened. That’s just how it works. That’s not to say that you may not have some valid questions. However it could be that the other stuff that you may have done is what caused that your questions should be so “important and urgent” for you.
Bais yakov
If you believe that it’s all Emes why the ” need” to see how it all breaks down? If you want to know tamed hamitzvos you can learn the chinuch. But why would you need to know more than that?
Whats wrong with opening a shulchon aruch seeing what you need to do and doing it knowing that that is the will of Hashem? Its plenty of information just knowing all the halachos that pertains to a woman “cold.” Have you so mastered halachos already that you feel it’s time to take your study further? You know halachos Shabbos cold? Halachos brachos? Halachos Yichud, Tzniyus, Kibbud and Yirah of parents… Theres so much halacha to know. Just mastering Shabbos can take many years. If you haven’t mastered what you must know then go do that. It should keep you busy for at least a few years.
You need a nursery in the UK?
I think it’s ridiculous when people try this on me. I would never listen to such a thing. Once I even told the person incredulously how can you redt me a shiduch when you don’t know me and only chatted with me a few minutes?! These people just don’t think about what they are doing.
Always
You learned all this in 5773? If yes you’ve been busy!
42
I agree. I have a reminder app on my phone so that’s my go to thing for anything I need to remember like to put on my pants before leaving the house in the morning…
Also, I would recommend getting an artscroll interlinear Machzor and take the time to peruse the prayers between now and Yom Tov. Specifically the Shacharis and mussaf shemoneh esrei.
Onit
To be perfectly honest it’s a bit late to start prepping now. I’m sure on aish hatorah and ohr sameiach website you can find some great articles. I’d also recommend listening to shiurim from Torahanytime website.
Bais Yakov maidel
I think at the root of things you have sfeikos in Emunah and you need to figure out why it is that you got to this point. There may be things you did and are doing in your life that are causing you to have sfeikos in Emunah. Certain aveiros cause sfeikos in Emunah and the person thinks they have valid questions but really their doubts stem from these issues. I think you need to speak to a competent Rav and or Rebbetzin who can answer your questions as well as maybe guide you in some areas in your life that need improvement. Our Torah is complete and perfect and there’s answers to all the questions (at least the ones that are muter to ask) and learning Gemara is not the answer to your questions. Asei lecha Rav. Call Rebbetzin Jungreis or Tzipora Helper.
Baris Yakov maidel
Read Rav Kaplan (zatzals) books and Rabbi Akiva Tatz you want depth and meaning.
Onit
I don’t see why you should wait. If he’s free now and she is as well why wait where there’s a chance one of them won’t be free? I say go for it now.
Do you also want to wear pants?
Realist
I never heard that one. Cute.
Onit
Very inappropriate to be calling a guy you are no longer dating. He isn’t your friend just because you dated him. Call his mother to redt the shiduch or have your mother call his mother.
Toi
That’s yoda-ish
Mod42
Nice pshat 🙂
Barney
Amongs the kids on the derech, how many are really on the derech, understand what yiddishkiet is about and are inspired by the life we are supposed to be living?
Turkey is not a problem (yet).
Draw smiley faces. Slow night in the coffeeroom….
Wow. People think of everything. Who reminds him to send out the emails?
interjection
You want names?
Lev Aryeh
+1
There are probably good well meaning people that were never yotzi tefillin in their lives 🙁
Smaller classes, well trained and vetted staff who are sincere in their Yiddishkiet. I know of Rabbeim who talk the whole Davening, including chazaras hashatz and kaddish, if you don’t really believe in this religion how dare you teach it to the next generation?! What we propose will never happen though.
Shopping613
You don’t have to forgive everything. If someone killed your family member theres no obligation to forgive them. If someone sexually abused you, theres no obligation to forgive them. If someone ruined your reputation, there’s no obligation to forgive them….
True forgiveness I think is wiping the slate clean as though the thing never happened and going back to being best friends or whatever the relationship was. However depending on the thing that was done, it is sometime best to cut off ties with the person and not try to get close again if it was a very serious offense and you suspect that the person may do something similar again.
Parshas Acharei-Mos
(Ha’Godol)
Kareis
Rabeinu Bachye divides Kareis into three categories – a Kareis that affects the body only, a Kareis that affects the Soul, and a Kareis that affects both.
The first category entails dying prematurely, either in years or in days. Let us say that a Tzadik, who has more merits than sins, but who stumbled over a sin that is subject to Kareis. He will die before his time is up. And a good example of this is the story of a certain Talmid who slept in the same bed as his wife, fully clothed during her days of Libun (after she had Toveled). And although he had committed no other sin, the Gemara tells us in Shabbos (Daf 13), he died prematurely. That constitutes Kareis of years.
On the other hand, take an aged Tzadik who slips up on a Chiyuv Kareis, and who is no longer subject to Kareis of years, seeing as has already reached old age. Yet he too, will die prematurely. This is called a Kareis of days, as he will not reach the age that was designated for him. And it is in this regard that the Gemara at the end of Mo’ed Katan relates how, when Rav Yosef attained the age of sixty, he made a party for his colleagues, because, he declared, he had left the realm of Kareis. And when his star disciple Abaye asked him that, age-wise, he was still eligible for Kareis of days, he retorted that since he had left the realm of Kareis of years, that was reason enough to celebrate.
And because the Kareis of days, unlike that of years, is not well-known, Hakadosh-Baruch-Hu publicizes it. Hence Chazal have said, that if an old man dies following an illness lasting three days, it is a sign that he transgressed a Chiyuv Kareis. The Yerushalmi states that if an old man eats Cheilev or transgresses Shabbos, then death in one day is a sign of ‘a death of fury’; after two days, it is a sign of ‘a death of confusion’, whereas after three days, it is a sign of a death of Kareis.
In connection with the current Kareis, the Torah writes “and that man shall be cut off from the midst of his people”. His body dies, but his Soul leaves the body and merits to go to the world of Neshamos, to Techi’as ha’Meisim and to Olam ha’Bo that comes after it.
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The second category of Kareis, ‘Kareis of the Soul’ affects someone who has performed more sins than Mitzvos, and those sins include a particularly stringent one, such as eating Chametz on Pesach, eating or working on Yom Kipur or indulging in adultery or incest. When he dies, his Neshamah leaves his body, it is cut off from the world of the Neshamos. About him the Torah will use the expression “And the Souls that sinned will be cut off” or “And that Soul will be cut off from its people” (and the like, always inserting the word “Soul” or “Souls”). It is possible that he is not subject to Kareis of the body, and that he will live out his life in tranquility in this world, as the Pasuk writes in Koheles “And there are some Resha’im who live long in their wickedness”.
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What happens then to those Neshamos? R. Bachye citing the Ib’n Ezra and the Rambam, maintains that they simply die like animals, as is implied by the various expressions that the Torah uses in connection with this group of sinners – “Hikarfeis Tikareis” and “ve’nichr’sah ha’Nefesh ha’hi me’amehah” and “ve’nichr’sah ha’Nefesh ha’hi mi’Lefonai” (“and that Soul shall be cut off before Me”) – and G-d is everywhere.
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My Rebbi used to say I have an eizeneh kup.
Whats next, a song about this?
Rebdoniel
Oh, so now Josh Groban is a prophet? What’s next?
Fleishig sushi?
Squeak
If you are a woman there’s nothing wrong with that. If you are a man, well that would look bad.
I would vote popa color war general.
Root beer is liquified toothpaste in a bottle.
MCP
I am not judging its just improper to discuss non Jewish music and to be choteh umachti. I guess I have to take a reality check about what kind of people come here.
stanleyc
“Its a potential way for people to get through a rough time”
A bad date is not a rough time, and drinking is not the answer it just helps you to forget the question.
Another bump
Stanley
No snark intended. Its not acceptable to drink oneself under the table except ( according to some opinions) on Purim when it is a mitzvah. There is no valid reason why a person should respond to a bad date with “oh let me get slammmed out of my mind. ” If indeed there is such a minhag growing I have not heard about it and pray that it is not true. However if people can get slammed on Shabbos on a regular basis forno good reason I guessthey can do so in middle of the week as well.
If you don’t understand that just makes it worse.
Is beer a soda?
Popa
There’s a mitzvah Doraysoh of Veahavta Lereiacha kamocha that obligates us to love a Jewish stranger we just met with unconditional love. So its possible to do it from the first instant you meet someone.
Veltz
I’m not sure you were sober when you wrote your last comment.
It may snow lol.
Stanley
Theres a minhag to abuse alcohol by many people today. What’s your point?
Torah
You seem to be on a mission to send everyone to therapy.