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  • in reply to: Burn a Koran Day #695982
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    Kasha

    I dont have sources but not everybody holds this way and I asked a competent posek this shaila and he told me we may enter Mosques.

    in reply to: Burn a Koran Day #695977
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    It is Mutar to Handle even not for burning purposes. Islam is not Avodah Zara and one may even enter a Mosque or Daven in one.

    in reply to: Mikvah – showering afterwards #695073
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    There are many who Mattir taking a brief shower as long as the intention is not to get the mikvah water off but some other intention like the mikvah floor is dirty…

    Please note that just because you couldnt find a Halacha in the shulchon Aruch doesnt mean it doesnt exist. Did you check the Nosei Keilim as well as other Halachic sources?

    in reply to: Suffering for others #694982
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    It says in many Seforim that Tzaddikim are treated harshly and receive illnesses and other problems to be Mechaper for the dor. A Tzaddik of high caliber knows how to be mekabel punishments on himself so that they won’t happen to others. That’s one of the reasons many of the greatest Tzaddikim suffered greatly.

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695055
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    aries2756

    If we are talking about a case where we know he/she will find out then obviously it is better to say in advance. In a situation where theres a very good chance he/she wont find out there is no reason to tell and if it comes out somehow the couple will find a way to deal with it then. They may need to consult a Rabbi or counselor or both but their marriage can be salvaged if they do love each other in the odd chance that the info will get out.

    I suggest you bring this up with Daas Torah as I have instead of seeing this from a womans emotional view on this type of thing. Think big picture is all im saying.

    in reply to: Help Yedei Chesed win the Pepsi Refresh Project! #695830
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    Let me start off by saying I dont advocate people using facebook, however there were Tzedakos that won a lot of money from Kohl’s grants. Maybe you can get ahold of all those people that signed up to vote for those charities and have them vote for you?

    in reply to: Letting go of anger #696075
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    Kapusta

    It is famous. Many Jewish as well as non Jewish self help authors quote it. 5 years is too long I prefer 5 weeks or 5 months. if something will be important for a year or 2 its a pretty big deal no? Its a lot to ask from someone not to get angry about something that will have such a lasting effect.

    in reply to: Infusing children with awe and joy #694939
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    Popa and Sm29

    You are welcome.

    in reply to: Insubordinate Wife #694798
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    This needs a Rov and a qualified marriage counselor.

    in reply to: Help Yedei Chesed win the Pepsi Refresh Project! #695825
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    YW Moderator-72

    Let me understand this your goal is only to get under 100?

    in reply to: Asking Shaalos – When Should a Rov Be Available #695675
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    One should respect that their Rov is only human and try not to bug him at crazy hours over silly shailos. My Rov told me some whacky shailos he got at 3 am that weren’t nogai for weeks into the future. Some people think everything is an emergency and its not fair to the Rov.

    in reply to: Asking questions, Rationalism #694705
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    There’s nothing wrong with asking questions. However one must understand that as much as we can give answers we will NEVER and can NEVER understand Hashem because He is so beyond our understanding. Anything we ever do gain to understand of Him is what He has allowed us to know and understand and that will still only be like a droplet in comparison to the ocean.

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695049
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    Ok you dated 1.5 years. Mthats not the norm for most circles. Most people in the yeshivah world no pun intended date 5-10 dates and are engaged that uis sually a month or less. In those situations I think most girls don’t know the guy enough to look away and accept him even though he made some mistakes in his past. So in the yeshivah world a guy with a past is doomed if he has to tell everything. I’m not saying its politically correct but a guy really can’t be honest in the yeshivah dating system and expect to marry a regular girl.

    in reply to: Thoughts On Shwekey's New Album: Libi Bemizrach #700977
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    Can you please rephrase that? Perhaps as a statement rather than a question

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695047
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    SJSinNYC

    Would you have married him had he told you in advance think about how much you liked him during the dating phase did you like him enough that you would have said yes? Don’t think about your current marriage and how much has occurred between you. Work only with how you felt pre engagement if you can go back there.

    Answer honestly.

    in reply to: Why do children suffer? #694956
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    ASF

    I think the best approach is giving the available answers but also mentioning at the end that in reality there are no questions and we should train ourselves to have Emunah that Hashem knows what he is doing. There are no questions on Hashem He is perfection. Its almost funny how people have questions on Hashem yet there is so many other things they don’t understand yet as well which they don’t ask.

    Its like walking into the control room of the Penatagon and seeing hundreds of buttons and levers with different colors and asking a General oh you see that green one all the way overther, what does it do? He will likely say “oh so you know what all the other ones do that you are asking about this one?”

    in reply to: Why do children suffer? #694951
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    First of all, the truth is one shouldn’t ask this question. If we have proper Emunah in Hashem we won’t have ANY questions and will realize that as mere mortals we cants understand what Hashem does.

    However one major reason many baffling things happen is due to gilgul neshama where neshamos need to come back and get a Tikun as Kapusta mentioned and this is a tikun for things they did in their previous existence.

    Kapusta gave a very good answer.

    in reply to: Asking for a Good Year #694758
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    Kapusta,

    Most people are not Tzaddikim. That doesn’t mean they aren’t good people but as the Gemara says Beinonim.

    in reply to: Where can I get Jewish Books for Cheap? #943172
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    There are many Jewish books for sale on Amazon as well as ebays half.com at reasonable prices. You may also find some decent prices for used Jewish books on abebooks.com or alibris.com. You can also try searching specific book titles in google shopping and see the websites that come up.

    Good luck.

    in reply to: Schnitzi #706930
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    You haven’t heard of Schnitzi?! How can you go into Rosh Hashanah like that?! 🙂

    in reply to: Schnitzi #706928
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    Call them up 718-338-4015

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695040
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    mybat

    Not sure what you mean please elaborate. We aren’t talking about anyone who has any diseases obviously so what else are you referring to?

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695038
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    so right

    A girl is different for Halachic reasons with regards to having had relations but in everything else it goes for both. As I am a guy I will speak from the male perspective.

    If the guy is not who he was when he made those mistakes theres no purpose sharing it. Its not a matter of honesty. Its a matter of doing whats in ones best interests and the best interests of the couple. As insensitive as it sounds its usually not in her best interests to know that he had a rough past past and that she isnt her first. The guy did Teshuvah and moved on with his life and the mistakes he made should be left in the past. Its really not relevant to his current wife other than anecdotally. Theres no good that will come out of it. (The bad certainly outweighs any imagined good, you dont introduce something into your marriage that will in 99.9999999999999999999999999% of cases lead to a worsening of your relationship)

    If they are already married why say something that can very potentially spoil the marriage and ruin how she feels about him? She loves him for who he is today right? So who cares what he did then? Otherwise a person cant heal and can never get past them.

    Even if they arent married. He is who he is today. His past is not relevant and theres no reason why he should be limited because of his past mistakes. If someone with a past must say it on a date then its very likely that only people with pasts will end up with each other. However that severely limits the market for people. A guy who had a past can be an amazing husband and I think in most cases makes a much better husband because of the amount of work he had to do on himself to change and become a better person. Why should a regular girl not marry such a guy? But if he spills the beans she wont marry him. Not for logical thought out reasons but solely because she will see him as lower than her, inferior, tainted, or damaged. However thats not the case. He is a great guy his past is GONE he moved on. Why does it have to haunt him?

    in reply to: Eretz Yisroel – one great CD! #694553
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    d a

    Dont let it effect your B’Simcha Tomid 🙂

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695034
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    aries2756

    You can leave your past and not mention it to your spouse and if someone from your old life stops you and says hi you can just make up something.

    If he would then go and spill the beans shed get on his case for not being honest however the truth is had she known all this she wouldn’t have married him!

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695033
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    aries2756

    Its not lies to not tell your spouse about your past. If its not relevant your spouse has no reason to know especially if they like the person. Airing your laundry is just asking for them not to like you as much. I would think most spouses would prefer not to know and I cant imagine any good coming out of letting your wife know you were once a druggie or you were at risk and shes not your first….most mainstream girls DONT WANT TO HEAR THAT and wont accept that. There are times when one should lie like for sholom bayis….

    in reply to: Infusing children with awe and joy #694935
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    Rav Moshe Shmuel Shapiro – The Vilna Gaon’s Overflowing Cups

    In the first pasuk of Emor it says twice to tell the Kohanim, Emor and V’Amarta. Rashi quotes the gemara in Yevamos that says the double language is, “L’Hazhir Gedolim Al HaKetanim”, to tell the adults to caution the children. How do Chazal see this from the fact that is says to tell them twice asks Rav Moshe Shmuel Shapiro.

    He answers that the Dubno Magid once asked the Vilna Gaon what is the most effective way to influence children. The Vilna Gaon answered with a Mashal. He said to take a large cup and surround it with smaller cups. Then pour into the large cup and keep pouring until it spills over the top right into the little cups. To have children absorb the lessons, you must fill yourself with an overdose of whatever traits you want to teach them. They will become filled from the overflow.

    The Kohanim were implored twice, to give them a double measure of Kedushas Kohen. The reason for this is obviously in order for it to spill over to the children.

    Taken from Revach.net

    in reply to: Help Yedei Chesed win the Pepsi Refresh Project! #695804
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    Thanks

    in reply to: ??? ???? ?? ??? Whats the correct phrase? #694565
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    Thanks artchill

    in reply to: Help Yedei Chesed win the Pepsi Refresh Project! #695802
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    How do I vote via text hook me up brother :-)!

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695029
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    aries2756

    This Posek also deals with marriage counseling and shidduch counseling….

    If a guy or girl has truly changed his or her ways and cut off ties with their past life then he/she will not be approached by anyone from his past in the street. Thats a ridiculous thing to be concerned about.

    Just because you are married to someone doesnt not mean you have to know everything that ever happened to them in their past.

    Marriage is about the future not the past. the past only makes problems and one with a troubled past only hurts themselves by sharing their past.

    Lets be realistic, any person who had a regular straight life no real issues will be extremely reluctant to marry someone who had a troubled past. There is no rational reason to SEVERELY limit your marriage prospects and tell them about your past. People who didnt have a past are just not open minded enough to accept someone who had a past.

    in reply to: Help Yedei Chesed win the Pepsi Refresh Project! #695800
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    Voted this needs to go viral!

    BTW any other organizations worth voting for on the Pepsi website?

    in reply to: Why Are Kids So Sensitive These Days? #695026
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    Aries2756

    One important correction. Once a person changes their lifestyle and does Teshuvah they can date a regular person of the opposite gender and they don’t need to discuss their past. It isn’t a girls business that the guy used to be a “bum” or at risk…a few years ago if now he is healthy normal and balanced and leading a Torahdig life.

    I asked this question to a respected Posek and he said unequivocally that your past should remain the past and is not your spouse to be’s business whatsoever.

    in reply to: Eretz Yisroel – one great CD! #694551
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    Dovid Gabay

    in reply to: Eretz Yisroel – one great CD! #694549
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    I guess I will have to listen to it again.

    in reply to: Beware #768466
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    Ok so what do they really do as gang initiation? Anything we should be informed of?

    in reply to: When did Avraham Fried become "Avremel?" #745318
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    Its sad that “Avremel” feels the need to be hip. As long as he doesn’t try to hip up his music like some other people in the industry it won’t bother me. His music is Jewish music at its finest.

    in reply to: Best Kosher Sushi in Brooklyn? #694492
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    Kasha,

    I used to think like you. Then I tasted it and thought, not bad. By the 3rd time I was hooked!

    in reply to: Best Kosher Sushi in Brooklyn? #694491
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    Kasha

    Not such a good Kasha…because its GOOD! Duh! 🙂

    in reply to: Best Kosher Sushi in Brooklyn? #694488
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    Kasha

    They have Sushi everywhere. Its a Japanese dish that is served in rolls with rice on the outside and vegetable or fish or a combo of the 2 as well as possibly other interesting things like nuts or creamcheese…are in the middle and the outside is seaweed and rice. There are many types of sushi. Your best bet is googling it.

    in reply to: Best Kosher Restaurant in NYC area… #885037
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    I second smartcookie on T-fusion. GREAT FOOD!

    Jose

    http://www.dakshinkosher.com/Welcome.tpl

    They are Kosher under the OK.

    in reply to: Rebbeim Strike #693975
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    Many of the same people who aren’t paying tuition have all the money in the world for fancy cars, cable tv, vacations, summer camp, summer homes, and other extravagances.

    PRIORITIES!!!!

    in reply to: Shuls/Yeshivos in Boro Park that have a moving Rosh Hashana Davening #693503
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    Yakov L

    Do you know the schedule for Emunas Yisroel?

    in reply to: Beard #1206676
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    Helpful:

    “The CI essentially said a man without a beard is ”dressing” like a woman, hence he would almost vomit.”

    I think we need the source of where the CI said what he said. Lets not start reading into it and making up our own perushim of what he meant. There were a number of Gedolim and really great Jews who didnt have beards. It was the Litvish minhag not to have a beard so many great people didnt have beards until they became official Rabbis or Rosh Yeshivah.

    in reply to: Two Boys in Four Days #690354
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    Mazel Tov, you should be zoche Lehachnisam Bivriso Shel Avraham Avinu Bshaah Tovah Umitzlachas.

    in reply to: The Most Severe Issue of All #696050
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    Wof and Mod-80:

    Count me in I highly doubt he would vomit or even said that he would vomit.

    in reply to: Breach in Tznius: Recent affliction attacking Klal Yisroel #1025797
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    SJSinNYC:

    If thats how women think about Tznius its a sad situation indeed. Thats seriously cutting corners. I think some women dont understand that slightly untznius is TOTALLY untznius! There really is no middle ground, its either Tznius or its not.

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    apushatayid:

    Im with you 100%. The anonymity of the internet allows people to say all kinds of ridiculous and make things up. I live in Brooklyn as well and have not noticed these girls congregating which leads me to believe that some people just have it in for women.

    in reply to: The Most Severe Issue of All #696047
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    Astrix:

    I know many choshuveh Ravs who dont have beards and many choshuveh baalei baatim who dont have beards. I also know of many people with beards who are total am haaratzim and worse…

    Lets not judge people by what they look like.

    EDITED

    in reply to: How was your fast? #718361
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    Hello Kitty:

    I find that if you watch project inspire videos and listen to shiurim from rav leff, Krohn and others the time passes rather quickly. Its not supposed to be easy. We tend to forget that we are mourning. We are all mourners on Tisha Bav. I dont think anyone who just lost a loved one thinks oh I just wish the shivah would be over already so I can just get on with my life!

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