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Sacrilege

Don’t you feel great everyones got your back here? Lol.

Chesedname

I think its best to avoid insulting the Mods for common sense reasons.

Wolf

Actually, there’s a time and place for everything. I don’t think its proper to clean up after everyone if its going to take away from your “Torah time.” If you set a certain amount of time you learn a day or you have a set quantity you learn a day and you cut it short to clean up I’m not so sure that’s a good move. Cleaning up the Shul is a nice thing but should be done on your own time, (ie, if you take 3 hours leisure time a day/night factor the time it takes to clean up, into that time, it is probably an aveira to learn less Torah, just to clean up). If you clean up after yourself you care about the shul, if you clean up after everyone, it means you care more. Then again there could be people in the shul who care just as much as you and would clean up after everyone but they really don’t have the time. In such a case machshavah is kamaysoh (if one has intention to do a mitzvah but he is an ones and he wasn’t able to Hashem considers it as if he did it)

Ramateshkolian

Let them fight they are kids. Eventually the little guy will learn his lesson and stop messing with the older one. Its an important lesson to learn that usually requires some pain.

Sacrilege

This may be a new concept for you but phsical attraction isn’t about inner beauty. Mother Teresa had lots of inner beauty but I don’t think any seeing male would be physically attracted to her. Yes after a few years of marriage your husband will love you for who you are and will be attracted to you even if you are a little overweight but don’t think it wont effect the attraction if you get very fat. Its just human nature. He’s out there all day and if he sees your skinny friend, or the neighbors wife…looking pretty and a healthy weight and then comes home and sees you with your 50+ extra pounds its going to bother him. That’s reality.

hudi

Real means you are the same in and out. You do what you say, say what you mean and act on what you believe is correct. You don’t just follow the crowd uunless you believe the crowd is right.

Sacrilege

Men aren’t shallow or shallower than women, we are visual there’s a difference. Does it make someone shallow just because looks is important to them? If its the only thing then yes Id say that is shallow but if its not the only thing I wouldn’t call that shallow.

Mischiefmaker

Is that all it takes to feel better when you are stressed? Wow I wish it were that easy for me!

Anyways I answered you on the thread about 4 amos and shemona esrei. I think you will find my reply quite helpful.

Shouldnt be here

You can do it too. I don’t have a monopoly on Zikuy Harabim.

Uh what (positive) purpose is there to this?

I think its a pretty big accusation to make that the Satmar Rebbe and the Agudah Rabbonim and all the other Rabbanim that have been ok with pro gay or gay candidates are going against the Torah. Let’s stop being so ARROGANT and maybe ask some of those Gedolim or even our own Rovs what the Heter is. If Daas Torah is ok with it then obviously it is us who is wrong and we lack understanding. This is not a simple topic and obviously there are many things to take into consideration.

By supporting a candidate or endorsing one we in no way say we are in agreement on ALL the issues, just that we feel this candidate is more beneficial to the needs OF OUR COMMUNITY.

Everybody knows homosexuality is assur according to the Torah and nobody will think “oh if the Jew support this candidate it must be that homosexuality is mutar” and if they do its their problem for being ignorant because our Torah says that Homosexuality is assur and the Christians believe in the old Testament and also agree its assur, so what will be lost by voting for a pro gay candidate?

You are forgetting, at issue is marriage not whether its legal or illegal to be gay! The gays will keep on doing what they do whether gay marriage becomes voted into law or not. If you think about it, this won’t effect the amount of gay people there are. Its not like the second it becomes legal all of a sudden millions will become gay because they can marry a gay person. We all agree that that is absurd? So in reality gay marriage will not effect the spiritual atmosphere that much if at all. We have to keep educating our kids about what’s right and wrong regardless of what the non Jews do.

In reality it is the Torah learning that controls the world and keeps things at bay. Its our job to do what’s necessary to make sure Torah learning continues and grows. That’s the best way to fight Homosexuality or any other immorality.

Wolf

So that was you jogging? I thought it was a truck driving by at high speed 🙂

Sacrilege

True but in general the weight usually doesn’t bother women as much as it bothers men and I think most wives will still be just as attracted to their husbands with the extra pounds while the male psyche…well it justs works differently.

$25 per hour? That can get pricey…

Sacrilege

Sometimes we think we are something that we aren’t but other people can see what we don’t. You may have thought you were Yeshivish but maybe you really weren’t or you were giving off a secular impression.

Its strang how people get impressions of people that just aren’t who the person is. I know a guy who isn’t that Yeshivish but he looks more Yeshivish than he is and the girl said after too dates that he is “too” yeshivish which is funny because his impression of her is that she was too yeshivish and she was she dressed extremely plain, no makeup…from a very yeshivish Seminary.

The question is what do we go by? What the person looks like or what the person says? But how do we know they are what they say?

Popa

When Davening the Kavanah should be sincerely for the other person, its wrong if the whole intention of Davening for the other is for yourself to be answered. The point is you daven for someone else too and therefore you will also get answered quickly.

But if each one is focusing on themselves it probably won’t be very effective because the whole zchus is that because you are Davening for another you “deserve” to be answered “first” but if you are only doing it to be answered first you cancelled out the zchus. Or so it seems.

Mosherose

I don’t know where you picked up your Hashkafos but it is well known that the Gedolim of the previous generation looked at their wives and spoke to them on a daily basis. It is well known that Rav Shmuel Berenbaum ZTVKL used to talk to his Rebbetzin in his office. It was no “secret” there’s nothing wrong with talking to your wife. In fact you are probably Oiver many issurim by not talking enough to your wife. There’s a Mitzvah and Chiyuv to make your wife happy. If you don’t talk to your wife I guarantee you 10000000000% she’s not going to be happy and say good bye to your shalom bayis because she’s going to cause you all kinds of Tzaros. You really need to seek guidance, btw were you ever on a date? Did you ignore each other for 4 hours? How’d that work out for you?

Mosherose

If you are so crum oops I meant frum why are you wasting your precious time on the internet? You should be busy preparing a chabura or something….

Feif Un

From listening to a Daf shiur one won’t ever become a Talmid Chacham (especially the way many listen, I’ve attended various Daf shiurim so I can attest to how little most listen).

This teacher is talking about sitting and learning seriously for a few hours and looking up some Rishonim and Achronim, not just some passive Daf shiur.

Pascha

I hear. That sounds like good advice. I like the daily learning bit, it certainly shows she cares to grow.

Sacrilege

Guys obviously have a harder time figuring girls out than girls do. Especially if she acts all frum on the date.

Would the 2 of you say as a rule that girls try to come off frummer than they are on dates?