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Jobless
Your husband doesn’t have to complain but there are ways to voice issues to superiors. Coming home at 4 is not normal. He’s not Warren Buffet. He needs to find a way to explain to his boss that he has to scale back a bit and maybe others should pitch in more. He won’t be fired if he’s as good as you say he is and as dedicated as you say he is. Companies don’t fire people who are willing to come home 4 am!
Jobless
You sure he’s at work? I don’t want to scare you chas vshalom but you should check up on him. Why don’t you call the place (not his cell) and see if someone picks up call until someone does. At lleast establish that he’s at work and not elsewhere. If he answers and asks why you called the office and not his cell say you weren’t sure if he was in the car yet and didn’t want to call his cell while he’s driving so late at night…
jobless
The next time you get the chance, say Shabbos, have a real serious heart to heart with him. Explain that you are lonely and tell him that you dont want him working such late hours. Try to work something out where he cuts back on the hours. Maybe theres even stuff you can help him with so he can come home earlier who knows?
You are his wife you have every right to his companionship.
There are guys that get caught in destructive patterns be it work related or time wasting or other things. You need to find out whats really going on and the only way to do that is have a serious long talk about it. Ask the questions that need to be asked. Feel out his answers. See if he is being evasive. There must be some reason why he is out so late and you have to get to the bottom of it. Is he a workaholic? Find out. Does he maybe push off his work to the last minute? Find out. Maybe he isnt so productive at work and thats why he has to stay extra to finish up. Whatever it is speak to him about it in a nice sensitive way, non confrontational and try to get to the bottom of it. Being at work until after 1 on a regular basis is not so normal unless the guy is extremely driven and is going for something (partner) but if thats what he wants and its important to him, dont expect him to throw his plans out the window.
Sister Bear
If you want easy to read get Garden of Emunah the book is a must read.
Ben Torah
Which basically means voting is a sham becomes the electors can vote for whom they want anyways despite who got the popular vote no?
WiseWoman
There are 100’s of frum therapists. Its like a shidduch. You need to find the right one.
I know of one who is supposed to be really good.
Do you want the info?
Anyone I know with anxiety has seen a therapist or needs to see one. It will take over your life. Im not kidding you.
Sacrilege
We hear what we want, dont we? 😉
Many things in life are open to interpretation sometimes we hear what is intended. 😉
Smile E. Face
Sorry I thought you were being serious. My bad.
HIE
Thanks. You are lucky to have such easy access to Rav Belsky! Take full advantage!
Smile E. Face
“if anyone wants to donate to my sem fund, this is a shameless request to start sending me $! cuz i h8 scholarship essays…”
Are you serious??? Because you are lazy and dont like to write essays you think we should donate to your sem “fund?” Thats absurd.
You think anyone will feel one ounce of pity? If you cant write have someone help you or ask for help with that.
Sacrilege
What an informal way to set up a date lol!
jobless
Again, you need to ask him why he feels the need to stay so late. Maybe hes a workaholic, maybe he gets paid overtime, maybe your expenses are greater than you think and he is being responsible and making sure that you live comfortably. Theres no sure thing in this economy. But please, you should talk to him, nicely of course but ask him whats going on.
good.jew
How ironic.
Sacrilege
“”Extras” she can pay for but many families make their young children pay for extras. As one gets older, especially when entering Shidduchim things that were once “extras” now become “must haves”.”
Girls and guys today are spoiled. I work and my parents make me pay for most things. Its not easy but I accept responsibility and Im proud of myself that im not a leech like most frum kids these days. They suck money and they dont even appreciate. There are parents that can spend millions between shidduchim, the fancy wedding, and getting a house and the kid is still an ungrateful piece of….
Girls, if your salary doesnt cover your expenses you better learn how to shop on SALE. Yeah theres something called shopping on sale and looking for bargains. If you want to have ten pairs of shoes all over $200 then you better make sure your salary can pay for it.
Todays “needs” are ridiculous. Do you girls know that some of your parents REALLY CANT AFFORD your lifestyles but they dont have the heart to say no?
Next time you buy a dress that costs more than $300 think about if you really need it and if your father can really afford it.
For all you know your father is in debt and has CC bills up to the wazoo.
Responsibility. Does anyone know what that means anymore?
cb1
Yes definitely. You get to sit up front next to the Rebbe.
Sacrilege
Ok but it sounds like you are trying to starve yourself if its to lose weight get on a normal diet. You can really screw up your metabolism with starvation. Starving yourself is unhealthy. Even if you arent a big eater you should still have some food at least 2x a day. Maybe try fruit for breakfast. Its what I do.
WiseWoman
I take back my earlier advice, you need to speak to a therapist. Its obviously some kind of compulsive thinking or whatever and it could be you need to talk this out and be given ideas of how to change your thinking.
HIE
I always wondered about this. What about Mincha or Shabbos Mincha? Musaf?
Thank you!
Most Jews love food its just how it is in our religion.
Jam
Because once you start its hard to quit and people have little self control. Smoking is addictive its very hard to quit. My bigger question is the kids that start. Any yeshiva kid that starts is a certifiable moron and his parents should teach him a lesson. No more money whatever it takes. Its easy to break the habit in the beginning, but once it gets in there its really tough.
From an ex smoker.
Sacrilege
Im sure you go a whole week not eating.
squeak
LOL!!!!
apushatayid
I love his shiurim. He really has a fresh perspective that I dont get from some other speakers out there. He doesnt say the same stuff you hear everywhere else.
I wonder if peoples genders should be mentioned under their user ids so people have a clue….
blinky
Mochel. Its ok. I love how we are rewriting history here. I hope nobody is sitting there reading this and thinking “wow they are so smart I wish I knew my history like they do!”
WolfishMusings
I saw it as a kid so I cant remember but I recall it being funny lol.
BP Totty
Azoiy darf men tein! You said it the way it has to be said.
blinky
Napoleon Armstrong you mean?
Wolf
Shabbos with the Amish?
Shabbish with the Amish. Sounds like the title of a Jewish reality-television show. 🙂
You sure you dont mean Shabbos with the Heimish? 🙂
popa, arc
The Rabbi is normal. Hes not extreme. Stop with this left right business. Hes very down the middle. As far as I can tell he is also pro college and working so maybe that puts him to the left or down the middle. Now im confused whats the middle? Can that be the middle?
BPT
“I think you’re confusing Che with the person that invented the Chi pet.
Chia pets you mean. Chi pets are what Chinese martial artists have. Haha.
Besides – everyone knows that America was discovered by George Washington. Its spelled out pretty clearly in the Constitution.”
Uh no actually its pretty clear in the constitution that Napoleon was the first president.
Sms007
Well according to you women shouldn’t be in the streets or anywhere else either where they can possibly
1. Bend down
2. Run (always see girls or women running for busses or stam rushing)
3. Cheer or get excited (when they meet friends or whatever on the street or in noisy restaurants)
According to your standards women shouldn’t be allowed out during “mens hours.”
Sacrilege
Again with the smells 🙂 you must have a sensitive nose.
Scarilege
Super senses in all areas. We will leave it at that.
Arc
Yeah what he says is deep but presented in a very down to earth way.
Helpful
That’s not helpful. I’m not an extremist.
Haleivi
Why can’t it be a direct quote?
SJS
Mosherose will be jealous of you, you do a better mosherose than mosherose lol!
Blinky
I hear. You are on the right track but it needs refinement.
Coke
He is a Talmid of Rav Heinoch Leibowitz Zatzal of Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim. I heard many of his shiurim his Hashkafos are mainstream yeshivish-normal. He’s very normal. Listen to a shiur for a few minutes you will see.
He understands a lot about human psychology and makes very important points in all his shiurim. Its different than anything I have listened to and I will tell you he will give you a new perspective on many areas of Yiddishkiet.
I’m wondering if you Mods can think up a good title under my name?
Mod 80 any ideas? 🙂
Sms007
I know when I bowl I bend my shoulder a little there’s no need to bend over in an exaggerated way. You are a girl, I think get up and simulate it and you will see you only need to bend from above and your skirt shouldn’t move.
Jobless
Yeah as Poster said, talk to your husband. He needs to know how you feel.
Rebbitzen
Meds should be a last resort.
Pashuteh Yid
Hashem cursed the children of Cham. Hashem blessed the children of Avraham. Oil and water don’t mix. Eliezer was a Tzaddik and him and Avraham were very close even though Eliezer was his slave. The only reason Avraham said no was because Hashem said that Elizer being a descendant of Canaan and Cham is cursed. If there was any other reason Avraham would have said it. Maybe Avraham did say it won’t work out at first and Eliezer pressured him for the reason and so he forced Avraham to explain.
Rabbi Shafier. He gives great inspiring Shiurim (mostly geared to men)
Sacrilege
With a sense of smell that powerful you lead me to believe you may be a Kryptonian 😉