wanderingchana

Nesting? If you don’t trap that thing pronto, your problem will increase exponentially.

Health, you’re a doctor and ACOG is the lobbying organization for OB/GYNs – no one expects that you or they are going to be supportive of women choosing anything but a hospital birth.

This “other finding” – of a tripling of the neonatal mortality rate – are we talking about something like the difference between 0.02% and 0.06% (six hundreds of ONE percent) in a meta-analysis? While that would certainly represent a tripling of the neonatal mortality rate, it’s statistically insignificant (not to mention intellectually dishonest).

An OBGYN is trained to perform surgery – they are not there for most of the labor anyway, and if they do show up and it’s taking “too long” (i.e. they are missing dinner, ball game, etc.), things “start happening” – continuous monitoring, induction with pitocin, which becomes “failure to progress” (or, failure to be patient), which becomes a c-section…

If a woman is properly and thoroughly educated, low-risk, with a back-up plan in place, no one needs to judge her decision to have a home birth.

If it’s how they did it in the alte heim, then it’s good enough for me.

Seriously, best of both worlds – labor at home with a doula who has a fetal heart monitor as long as possible. The risk of contracting infection(s) rise substantially once you set foot in the hospital, and the longer you’re there the more time they have to “do” things…

So glad to see you check in! Glad to hear things are good. Hope you can stick around!

I do think it’s possible to sneeze without an accompanying “YEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAACCCCCCCCCCHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO”

(*sniff* excuse me)

The best thing to do is to sneeze into (not just toward) your elbow so you don’t send your germs flying all over everyone else.

If you’re davening at the time and find it impossible to sneeze without letting loose an ear-splitting “AAACHOOOOOO”, suppress it. My husband begs you…

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Haifagirl, welcome back! So glad to see you.

Goq: bring your lunch for a week, so when you don’t know what’s in the cafeteria for a whole week maybe she’ll stop asking.

Soliek, I am heartbroken for you for the life you’ve had, and I am in awe of your ability to keep going through it all. May Hashem bless you with things that are all good.

Once a meshulach outside a frum grocery started his spiel on me in Hebrew, and I would have told him right away that I didn’t understand a word he was saying (actually, I did understand maybe two) except I couldn’t get a word in edgewise. So I just stood there and smiled politely and finally he stopped and said, “You don’t speak Hebrew, do you?” I said, “Not a word!” So then he started over in English… Then he looked annoyed when I said I didn’t have any cash, and I said, “I’m sorry… do you accept credit cards??”

Trolling.

bpt +1

I disagree that she’s completely rejected frumkeit, if it’s true she’s sending her son to a MO school.

As someone who became frum as an adult, I feel terrible for her that she was treated so horribly growing up that she walked away from what I wish I’d had (granted, not in Satmar, which is maybe part of the point).

I look back on my secular childhood and the trappings all seem so hollow now. Even then I felt deprived because we weren’t even “middle class” economically. That’s the thing with secular society – it’s impossible to become happy with what you have at some point. She doesn’t even see how her publisher and the media have already exploited her. I read that the dress she wore in that story was bought by the magazine, for the picture. Clearly she’s making a statement by wearing it – ‘THIS is how much I reject my upbringing’.

I just hope she’s able to find peace in her relationship with Hashem. Ultimately she doesn’t answer to any of us – only Him.

“amendmentation”?? LOL…

Must be Olde English!

“Another positive: Our dropouts come almost exclusively (I said ALMOST) from dysfunctional families.”

How is there anything positive about that? Doesn’t anyone feel any rachmonus for her at all?

I think there’s a lot of truth to the things that have been posted here about her upbringing, but what good will it do? If she comes here and reads this stuff, it’s just going to validate her decision to go off the derech in her mind.

I am greatly saddened that the tone here is ‘how it reflects on us’ rather than what a tragedy it is that she felt driven out of her own community. She didn’t get the nuturing she needed growing up, and she sure isn’t getting it now. She’s still a Yid, and she has a 5-year-old who is being influenced by her. I do hope it’s true that he’s in a MO school, and I hope that he is being treated with more compassion there than his mother received growing up.

Ha. All 732 calls go to voice mail – I don’t know anyone in Lakewood, so they’re always robocalls.

besalel… LOL!!

I remember learning something like, if you greet someone with a sour face it’s like you’re stealing from them. I am paraphrasing and I don’t know the source. Anyone?

Kinda like saying people who live longer, have longer lives than those who don’t…

The only way you would catch me rooting for the Giants is if they were playing the Steelers or Ravens.

Rushing to get married, rushing to spell “school”… please slow down, and take the time to do both properly.

Aries, I’m with you… I hope you’re just taking a break because I greatly appreciate your posts here. But I *do* understand the need for a break once in awhile… (at least *you’re* missed…) 😉

Those magazines at the checkout in chain grocery stores are horrible. Only out of absolute necessity will I take my kids to those stores and then I push them ahead of me at the checkout. I avert my eyes as much as possible but if something catches my eye I just cringe inside. It’s just awful that secular society pushes those images and “stories”.

Oomis: I think that if he knew you were saying a bracha, even if he didn’t hear the whole thing, he can still say Amein (but not loudly). 🙂

But then if you said it loud enough for people to hear in a coffee shop, someone else might come up to you and say you it’s not tznius 🙁

*sigh* can’t win sometimes…

Patriots by 7!!