wanderingchana

I worked for several years before our first was born. I had waited so long to be Mommy that I couldn’t bear the thought of going back to work. We made sacrifices so I could work part time. I can’t tell you what I did all day every day, but even if I was just staring at her and making silly faces, it was time well spent.

She probably just can’t imagine the bond that a mother feels to her child. She certainly can’t get that from being around friends’ kids. To be honest, it sounds like she’s still a teenager, and she’s been listening to her friends too much..

I have found John Loftus’ articles fascinating.

young lady?

minyan gal – I am flattered at your kind words – I don’t think of myself the way you describe me at all! There are many, many people who are waaaaay more knowledgable than me. I love learning also, and I have a lot of respect for the work Chabad does. The first Shabbos dinner we were ever invited to was with our local Chabad shluchim. My kids went to Gan Izzy when they were little. I hope your love of learning carries you for a very long time!

“You don’t have to be frum to be a mentch, but you must be a mentch to be frum.”

This should be hung in every beis midrash!!

minyan gal,

A rabbi once told me that it is easier to work with someone with good middos who’s learning about Frumkeit, because it’s an education issue. Someone who purports to be frum but is lacking in middos is a much harder problem to deal with.

Another rabbi once said, don’t judge Judaism by Jews. That’s especially important for me to remember when I hear about frum Jews pulling “shtick” (I don’t mean wedding “shtick”). We are human, we all make mistakes, and sometimes it is hard to be dan l’kaf zechus (to give the benefit of the doubt).

As a BT, I admire and respect you, especially for taking this on later in life.

Having said that, I don’t like to clean. I do like to live in a clean house, though. LOL

AGREED!!

1. Middos

2. Middos

3. Middos

I have a LOT of chocolate.

A couple years ago, my daughter was having a difficult time adjusting to a new school. She was telling me everything was fine, so I was shocked when I was called into the principal’s office. The school social worker proceeded to point out where she had highlighted the word “impulsive” every time it appeared in the comment section of my daughter’s report cards, going back to kindergarten.

I felt completely blindsided. This was the first I was hearing that there was a problem, never mind a serious problem and never mind that it had been going on for a couple months. It was several weeks before I really grasped the whole situation: my daughter felt vulnerable and insecure in the new environment and was acting out because she didn’t know how to handle it. Unfortunately neither did anyone at the school, and when they realized they had dropped the ball, they went looking through her records to find a way to avoid accountability for it.

Both her morah and her GS teacher were first year teachers (and the GS teacher was fired a couple months later), the general studies principal was new, and the special services coordinator was either new or on maternity leave. Plus my daughter was one of 4 new girls in a class of 24 – seemingly she just fell through the cracks.

I felt horrible and told them I would do anything I could to help her. I also told them I wanted to be informed MUCH sooner than I previously had been. If only they had been upfront sooner, maybe things would have started out much better for my daughter.

This school also seems to keep parents at bay unless they need them to do scut work. The office is not a warm place. I haven’t found another school that’s a better fit as far as hashkafa, so we’re stuck for now. I will say that her morah this year was just fantastic, but I dread next year, because I can seeing it being like oil and water…

This evolved into more than I planned, so to answer your question… yes, I do read report card comments!

Ender, ever been to the South? Actually, I have personally seen/heard both things in the Midwest also.

Someone please enlighten me. I’ve never thoguht to get a ponytail shaitel and I hate wearing sheitels anyway. What’s wrong with a ponytail sheitel?

I was Pat.

What if the younger has bad feelings toward the older for not giving her blessing? Why can’t the older sister just be happy that the younger sister found her b’shert?

The 18 yo didn’t get to go to seminary like her big sister and now she should let go of her b’shert because of her big sister? Who is the 19 yo to “not allow” her sister to get married??

I think that if men can post on the women’s threads, that nawthenehs can post here!

(and yes…. go Mavs!)

Keep your eyes out of other people’s cars and on the road in front of you.

Good Yomtov,

The YWN CR

I give a post about three lines. If it’s too hard to parse, I move on.

For the teens and anyone else who needs:

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/get-your-exclamation-points-here

You may not be getting up for coffee with an IV, but you’ll be getting up to visit the room with no mezuzah.

water in the middle of the day – OK

wine at any time – not OK

YW Editor/Mods, I also would like to know the answer to Wolf’s quesitons.

MII – refuah shleimah. I know what you mean about imamother. I go there about once a year now just to remind myself why I left.

I’ve had a small flag in our yard since they got bin Laden, and it’s still there. I hate shopping and crowds, so I stay out of stores on these days. I am not against having turkey on Thanksgiving because it has no religious significance (but I’d rather go to a restaurant and order pasta). When I see a service member in uniform, if I have the opportunity I thank them for their service to our country.

Sharpie, I think you should ask your Rav everything you asked here…

Could someone post my stats, please? 🙂

382/14

I was about 4 and my little cousin was turning one. I got all excited when I saw one of his presents and my aunt thought I was going to open it (maybe I was, LOL). She pushed me off to the side and I sat there stewing. There is a picture of me pouting while my aunt made a big deal of the gift and my cousin just stared at it.

I hope the victim has health insurance. It’s bad enough his legal fees are going to be through the roof. Maybe someone will start a fund for him.