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Very funny Uncle Ben.
It’s like in Mitzrayim when Klal Yisroel didn’t change their levush. Same idea.
Yes and no
Could be a product of a trauma or abuse etc.
rational- i agree that pictures are uncalled for.
Just don’t agree with your statement “To reduce a bas yisrael to her physical attributes? Horrible.”
Because it’s important that a wife is motzei chein b’einei baalah
What does it mean when you say bump
Yes, but what if someone felt they weren’t ready for marriage so they rejected a potential match? Should they get punished by not ultimately marrying their bashert? They were being responsible by not putting someone else in the situation of being married to someone who doesn’t want to be there or isn’t ready for it.
Does anyone have a definitive answer? I’m wondering the same as poppa- I would think that if Hashem wanted something to happen it would. How can a human being “reject” that which Hashem wants to happen?
It’s OK to state your opinion when you feel someone did something wrong but please be nice about it!
For anyone on this chat giving mussar to OP, please do it respectfully.
daas- firstly, I got married when I was 22, almost 23. So there’s hope ๐
Also, I couldn’t help but notice your post on the thread about pictures and shidduchim- you might be passing up your bashert that way. Boys are VERY DIFFERENT in real life. Trust me! I know this from my own experience.
A boy that you would find very attractive in real life might not be photogenic.
If you hear good things about the boy, just go out. Don’t ask for a picture.
That being said, I agree that shidduchim is very hard for single girls in today’s gen. I know lots of nice girls who are 23, 24, 25 and older. It has nothing to do with you personally! It’s the curse of today’s generation and Hashem is the only One Who decides when each person gets married.
Just keep davening to Him and iy’h you should find the right one in the right time.
I hope to hear good news from you soon.Did anyone have an experience where they almost didn’t agree to go out with someone based on their picture, and then they went out and actually really liked the person?
Also, what about the many times when people went out with a potential shidduch and they didn’t like him/her right away, only to end up marrying him/her?
Why limit yourself?
Seeing a picture and then saying no to a date because you didn’t like the picture is not very smart.
So why did you need the picture?In my experience boys NEVER look the same IRL as they do in pic. Nor do they act the way you expected based on the picture.
If you want to know if someone is fat or short or tall or has a tail there are other ways to find out.
The more you have the more you need to give. Maaser is 10 percent
Shout out to all the singles out there who actually live the shidduch crisis every day.
Davening for you all
I know how hard it isSometimes it can take years to make good close friends in a new place.
Just find stuff to keep yourself busy with in the meanwhile and it will happen on its own.
Of course be nice and friendly to everyone you meet, and eventually you will find people you like who like you back.Donald Trump has posted a few times #fakenews
The disparity is: Too many girls who want learning boys vs. Not as many learning boys.
If you check out the “working boy world”, there are plenty of older singles there.There’s a nevuah somewhere, I forgot where, that at the End of Days the girls will be chasing the boys. this was all planned.
Also, people are too picky. 20 years ago you just married your neighbor down the block and that was it. And you stayed married. No one looked for issues.
But if you want to help, go now and try to make a shidduch for someone you know.Maybe they can have moderated marriages- even if no one is directly in the house supervising but there can be a professional involved who they talk to on a regular basis.
Making shidduchim has to be more of a priority with people. you probably get a lot of zechusim not to mention $$$