volvie

Imitation Pork Chops anyone? (OU certified.)

A wife always must switch to her husbands minhugim.

As far as accommodating her new minhugim, perhaps someone with experiance can relate.

Leaving a Sefer open unattended can be a cause of forgetting Torah.

unless you drink the entire cup

Is drinking the full Kos a Hiddur or a Chumra? And must you drink to the last drop to fulfill it?

I figured a man of your caliber wouldn’t neglect his civic duty.

You weren’t entitled to vote cowboy.

Minhug k’halacha.

As a note, if you only eat Cholov Yisroel you cannot give someone else (who is Jewish) non-Cholov Yisroel.

That being said, what was done was rude (to put it mildly.)

The latter meaning.

I’ve never seen a poisek officially pasken that it IS permissible for them to vote (perhaps it exists though), whereas here you see Rav Kook officially paskened it is not. Furthermore, even where a Rov will tell you of course women should vote today, it is clearly a b’dieved. Since general society already allows it, if we refused it we would lose half our influence. Therefore, absolutely women today should vote since it is legally available and the secular, irreligious etc. will outvote them if we shield half our eligible voters.

Nevertheless, IF given the possibility to discontinue (or better not allow in the first place) woman’s suffrage across the board, I highly doubt any Godol would disagree with Rav Kook on this issue. I challenge anyone to find any Godol on the record who ever stated that we are better off with this suffrage. It simply does not exist.

Whether the reason for this is black and white halacha, societal, detrimental to families, etc. is almost secondary. Most situations are not black and white. That’s why we have Gedolim and poiskem to help us sort out these things. Even if we disagree with them, using our own krum logic (which we stupidly think is impeccable logic), we follow our religious leaders.

We are all, unfortunately, living today in a world of b’dieved’dik matzif’s.

feivel: Well said.

J-a-g: It is worthwhile repeating Kol Yisrael areivim ze lazeh another 10 times. And I specifically said to be dan l’kaf zechus earlier on this thread.

Additionally, some of the pitfalls of hotels mentioned earlier by various posters are in your face and rather difficult to completely avoid.

And finally, many many reasons were offered on this thread by many posters as to why it would be wise to be home for Pesach.

Chag Kosher V’Sameach!

Kol Yisrael areivim ze lazeh. We are each responsible for one another.

g_a_w: Actually, the best form of Tzedaka is when the giver and the receiver do not see each other — or even know who the giver / receiver is.

I doubt I could pass such scrutiny when I ask for a heavenly handout (health, job success, kids not going off the deep end, ect) so why would I put someone else under such a severe microscope?

BP Totty – Well said.

My good friend and his wife, happily married for about a decade, knew they were the right match on the first date, and after the second (or third) date was engaged — less than a week after meeting each other. (They are not Chasidish.)

And they live happily ever after.

Why all this misguided focus on the physical attributes of our fellow Yidden? It is neither the primary focus (far from it in fact) of finding an appropriate shidduch, nor anywhere near the top of the list.

There are so many far more important issues in determining who is a proper mate. Why not increase the focus on those areas?

It has nothing to do with “putting people down” nor is it doing anything of the sort. Having a discussion on what is right and wrong has everything to do with Kol Yisrael areivim ze lazeh. Whether the discussion concerns hotels, shaitel, vacations, hechsheirim, college, tefilin, concert, rallies, or hat and jackets. Whereas there IS a Torah viewpoint on all these issues, there is every reason to be concerned for each and every Jew. One for another.

And that is the point.

J-a-g: If one Jew G-d forbid sees another Jew sinning or about to sin, (and my point here isn’t to state that going to a hotel is necessarily a sin but rather to make the larger point), he is responsible to speak up and/or interfere.

One isn’t a prerequisite upon the other. Each are independent obligations.

Just to add to the discussion, option 2 should have the additional argument (at least in the case of a learning boy) that there is some halachic point (I forget the exact details) that a boy shouldn’t interrupt his learning.

Option 3 doesn’t strike me as either fair or proper. As a practical matter it may play out that way anyways, but I don’t think it should be promoted or offered as a honorable approach to this issue.

b_h: Ahhhh my chaver, you shudda been clear about that in the first place! Of course a rally like you describe is L’shem Mitzvah. Protecting kevorim and Shabbos Kodesh is indeed holy and worthwhile cause to rally for.

That being said, surely you do realize the Gedolim shlita that call for these holy rallies are very specific in that it is to be attended by men only. And for good reason. Who are we to argue against the Gedolim? Aside from the fact it is common sense that the Gedolim desire it to only be men for the many reasons outlined earlier.

You did realize only men attend these rallies for a reason I’m sure.

We should be dan lkaf zchus that those going would perhaps be doing even less if they didn’t go.

Another reason to avoid “professional” shadchanim.

vitameatavegamin, I agree with you. Aside from lacking tznius like you said, it is entirely inappropriate.

Bad bad idea.