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eishis chayilParticipant
just inquiring
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February 23, 2023 12:55 pm at 12:55 pm in reply to: Interesting Podcast: Aleksander vs Ger Chasidus #2168632eishis chayilParticipantBY THE WAY THE YERUSHALIERMER KEHILLOS, (THE REB ARHELECH) ARE ALL FROM BEFORE THE WAR. REB YOSSEF CHAIM SONNENFELD. TOO
February 22, 2023 1:42 pm at 1:42 pm in reply to: Interesting Podcast: Aleksander vs Ger Chasidus #2168148eishis chayilParticipantACORDING TO SOME TCHORKIV WAS ONE OF THE BIGGEST, SADIGUR TOO. TODAY THEY HAVE NOTHING. GER BEFORE THE WAR WAS 100,000 CHASSIDIM AOORDING TO THE IMREI EMES, SFTER THE WAR THEY NUMBERED NOT MORE THAN 250 PEOPLE WORLDWIDE, TODAY THEY ARE OVER 60,000 INCLUDING ALL AGES (INCULDING THE 1500-2000 PEOPLE FROM REB SHAULS KEHILLA, ALL AGES). IT IS ESTIMATED THAT ALEXANDER ALSO REACHED TO THAT NUMBERS BEFORE WORLD WAR 2, RADOMSK WAS ALSO COMPLETELY WIPED OUT. DONT FOREGET OUT OF 6 MILLION YIDEEN KILLED, 3 MILLION WERE POLISH, AND OUT OF 3.3 MILLION YIDDEN IN POLAND 3 MILLION WERE KILLED, INCLUDING THE 100,000 GERER CHASSIDIM, 100 THOUSAND ALEXANDER, AND THE SAME FOR RADOMSK. ONLY LESS THAN 10% OF POLISH JEWRY SURVIVED WHOM ONLY A SMALL PERCENT REMAINED FRUM YIDDEN
August 28, 2022 8:31 pm at 8:31 pm in reply to: School District Bringing Back Spanking Unruly Students. what are your thoughts #2119278eishis chayilParticipant>huju
honestly. you are right. hey, kid, you misbehaved? watch, i give you one more chance. i will trigger.
lol.
eishis chayilParticipant<zushy
BTW there was an Israeli “yoreid” with us, and I remember he was very unbothered about losing his shoes, and he would play soccer without them
I went out on to the enclosed tiled porch with out shoes and my mother punished me severely. I was 11.
I know in Israel its normal, its as normal as walking in the street in geulah and suddenly your shaitel or hair gets drenched from someone’s horrible dirty sponja water. it happened to me. and to many others
eishis chayilParticipantMY HOUSEHOLD HAS VERY EARLY BEDTIMES, I MYSELF, WHO GO TO SLEEP AND PREPARE FOR BED ONLY AFTER ALL MY KIDS ARE IN BED, GO TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT AT 10:00. MY OLDEST KID AT HOME IS 20, A KALLAH, AND WILL NOT DARE TO MISS HER BEDTIME AT 9:30. I BELIEVE IN GOING TO SLEEP EARLY AND RISE EARLY. I WAS RAISED LIKE THIS TOO. I AM VERY STRICT WITH BEDTIME, THOUGH I HAVENT NEEDED TO PUNISH OR SLAP FOR A MISSED BEDTIME IN MONTH OR MAYBE YEARS. THE ONLY ONES WHO MAY HAVE A LATER BEDTIME ARE THE BOYS, WHEN YOU CANT DAVEN MAARIV TILL THEN. THEN THEIR BEDTIME IS 25 MINUTES AFTER THE FIRST MINYAN AROUND THE CORNER
MY KIDS ARE HAPPY WITH MY DECISION, THEY UNDERSTAND. ESPECIALLY THE OLDER ONES. THEY SLEEP WELL. HEALTHY. WAKE UP ON TIME. DO WELL IN SCHOOL. AT HOME. AND ARE RARELY TIRED. ALWAYS HAPPY, GOOD MOOD. ETC.
eishis chayilParticipant????
December 15, 2021 11:52 am at 11:52 am in reply to: Does a convert adopted by frum parents have a bashert? #2041985eishis chayilParticipantyes he does, chazal never say that the arbaim yom kodem is only for yidden
eishis chayilParticipantthis discussion about the kiosk is not the point of my conversation. all i want is help and opinions about disciplining and raising my family. who cares if some random unknown poster dislikes my comments and calls me a troll. anyone can call anyone a troll. yes i agree with just myself that i do use somtimes quisquam kiosk but thats not always, i sometimes use an other one too.
I think you have both given us enough reason to believe this is a joke. The problem is that this topic isn’t funny. Find yourself a new persona. Thread closed.
eishis chayilParticipantabsolutely no. biden won fair and square
eishis chayilParticipanti dont understand. i ask here for help with discipline and help going out of my childhood scars and trauma and my discipline and problems and all i get is harassments from some unknown posters. so what if i use the same kiosk as her, there are hundreds of people using this kiosk. though she claims she knows me i have no idea who she is and i dont know why you believe her fake lies about me torturing my kids more than me myself that says that i dont torture them.
JUST MYSELF. i think its time for you to stop lying here and trying to make people think that i am bad and ruining shiduchim for my daughter
eishis chayilParticipantJUST MYSELF: > i remember it well, i remember how you suffered. i remember well how your mother belted you in the school yard during recess time
what else do you know about me? i am just wandering if you really remember or you just somehow heard it from me or someone ever
eishis chayilParticipantJUST MYSELF: >
I have no idea who you are and i dont care, but excuse me and please mix out of my discipline, my kids have no fear and i am not like my mother, though i am strict and do have issues discipline and lose control often. i am still not a monster like you called me. stressed out or losing control and going wild and doing things you would not do does not make me a monster, also that is the reason i am here. i am open to listen for help and want to hear when to punish and for what and how to punish, and for each age etc.
if you know me go ahead and tell me how to discipline for what and for who etc.eishis chayilParticipantMOD. – 29: >
ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS: >
If you are not trolling, please get yourself help.ok, Mod-29 may be right, I give up…If it is not a troll, Rav Dr Twerski recommends Nefesh Organization 201-384-0084 to find a frum psychologists who can help look at the issues without personal bias
i am not looking for organizations. yes i was raised with severe punishments and i do have some after shocks or scars from it and have some minor issues. i am also a bit unstable when it comes to punishments etc. all an outcome from the way my mother raised and disciplined me. (and by the way i have weak feelings and was extremely hurt by that that i was called a troll, etc. and just pouring salt on my wounds instead of bandaging it) thats why i am here in coffee room, to hear peoples advice and get some ideas and help on how, when and for what to give which punishments etc. according to age etc.
eishis chayilParticipantanyone else??
eishis chayilParticipantalways ask questions: > could you do a count in your head for the last 24 hours: how many times you interacted positively and negatively with kids?
If you are trolling, move along elsewhere, these posts are not funny. If you are not trolling, please get yourself help. – 29
eishis chayilParticipantalways ask questions: i understand the rambam. but i think here specifically its not applicable
eishis chayilParticipantthese magazines contradict each other the whole time. and no spoiled brats is not a good think, i rather have good disciplined kids like how ES PAHST FAHR BNOS YISROEL
eishis chayilParticipantalways ask questions: it doesnt make sense to suddenly from being a {control freak dictating monster and} controling mother to a helpless mother who will just be mafkir her kids, no way will i stop being mechanech my kids with the torah way of reward and punishment. if the only time for punishment is when they run in front of a zooming truck which will kill them and even then just a nicely friendly talk, they will just grow up hefker kids etc.
ignoring trouble and not even yell just a simple talk for danger of danger, running to a zooming truck, is just liberal discipline and against the torah way in general an chasiddish way in particular
just to understand: i dont sit the entire day punishing, i only do it when i have no other choice
eishis chayilParticipantAlways_Ask_Questions > Rambam writen in Deos that one should bend the other way trying to fix a middah. When you are affected by a bad middah, it is natural to you to try just to “decrease’ it without fully feeling the wrong of this approach. As you are already aware of the problems you had, it is imperative to you to err the other way towards chesed.
i am not getting what you are trying to say, is it that i should not even think of punishing my child if they ran in front of a zooming truck chas veshalom? if i would do that when i was young my mother would show me what i deserve, and believe me boy would she show me. so do i have to in this case too do the exact opposite and not even tell my kid what they did is bad?
just to correct your words, i dont think i was affected in any way by the way i was treated, i am 100% healthy and normal like anyone else. okay so i had a bit hard times growing up, thats all
eishis chayilParticipantAviraDeArah: > We’ve been down this road before from the same poster, who unfortunately seems to have a preoccupation with this subject. I wish her the best
well, i am ashamed though. i feel like i am not doing the best as a mother, i dont see my kids behaving and i am trying to help myself but no one seemed to be as helpful. i meant to ask here in this post what will be the best way for me to discipline when needed by a specific punishment for certain crimes and by age. i was raised in a way no one wants to be raised. and i will never raise my kids that way either. i am not against petch, but i am against my mothers petch and discipline
eishis chayilParticipantwhat will be the best way for me to discipline when needed by a specific punishment for certain crimes and by age
eishis chayilParticipantGOTAGOODPOINT: > אשת חייל – Sure!
(BTW, do you have anything to lose by telling?)
I MEAN I CAN TRY TO TELL YOU IF YOU WISH, BUT I DOUBT YWN WILL PUT IT ON. THOUGH I THINK IT MAKES NO DIFFERENCE IF YOU KNOW MY PRIVATE LIFEeishis chayilParticipantGOTAGOODPOINT: do you think it will make a difference for you if i tell you?
eishis chayilParticipantokay whatever, do you think i should stay to some type of community or group? like belz, ger, vizhnitz, etc, or pick any that comes up?
eishis chayilParticipantCOMMON SAYCHEL: > Lets see, he is tall, thin, cute smile learns in Israel, wears glasses, has siblings in BP Lakewood and Monsey, I hope it narrowed it down,
oh, so what does this help me?
eishis chayilParticipantnone, no such thing as favorite sefirah song. there is a reason why its permitted in the 3 weeks, because it makes you sad and miserable.
eishis chayilParticipantALL POSTERS: i really meant it as in childhood memories remembering and sharing stories from your parent’s discipline and punishments growing up in their home
I don’t know if you are trolling or sincere but I believe it’s time to move on from this topic.
eishis chayilParticipantCOMMON SAYCHEL: > she sound perfect for my nephew, he has yichis, looks, money, speaks a fluent yidddish. lets do it
do you think i know who he is?? how in the world can i know which of the boys he was redt is your nephew? is he willing to sign? ready for everything else?
eishis chayilParticipantRATIONAL: > I am far from this hashkafah, but I must ask eishis chayil: If you use shadchanim exclusively in your chassidishe environment, what did you think the Coffee Room could possibly offer you?
a shadchan is to help me find her bashert one. i am here to listen abd get advice about what type to choose etc.
eishis chayilParticipantGEDOLHA DORAH: > You have a rare baas yisroel with a good parnassah on her own and also holds strictly by halacha and a “super” chassidish hashkafah and everyone (including her mom) seems to assume she won’t find her own chosson? Leave her alone and don’t make her crazy with shadchonim.
do you think that in such a super chasidish strict family and crowd girls find shiduchim on their own?? we use shadchanim
eishis chayilParticipantPARTICIPANT: > just a piece of advice: if you want your daughter to get married, don’t ask anyone to sign on terms and conditions.
well, i have news for you, my husband married me with worse demands and terms and conditions to sign, and he signed. we are still married, happily married
eishis chayilParticipantboy was on the bus from his yeshiva in jerusalem to bnei brak to meet a girl in her parents house. on the bus ride he felt sick and through up and his pants got dirty. he needed a change of cloth or else the girl will not even meet him
he borrowed a cell phone, and called his parents who lived in bnei brak to wait him outside with a new pair of pants
as soon as he gets there he takes the bag and goes in, apologizes, asks if he could please be shown the bathroom because he had a long trip.
takes the bag in to the bathroom and doesnt know what to do with his old pants, he decides he has no choice and opens the bathroom window and throughs it out,
he opens the bag he got from his mother and sees his mother had mistaken, he sees in the bag…..A SKIRT…..i think he is still in the bathroom red faced till now
eishis chayilParticipantUJM: with what and how are they on the same page??
eishis chayilParticipantPARTICIPANT: do you realy think i will set up a beshow with an unknown poster, do you match her qualifications? do you agree with her terms and conditions? is yiddish your first language with both parents? etc.? etc.? etc. etc…………………
UJM: > What other “decisions” has she made?
what did you mean by this??
eishis chayilParticipantUJM: > There’s no versus. They’re on the same page.
obviously, they are both tzadikim. i meant, the kehilla of reb shaul vs. the real gerrer chasidus. etc.
eishis chayilParticipanti am not here to say all her private info. but her income is more than anyone her age, and wants a true ben torah, and will not compromise on any of her decisions
eishis chayilParticipantshe doesnt just find boys out there, thats not our way we hear from a shadchan and decide if we should meet them or not, depending on agreements
eishis chayilParticipantPARTICIPANT: have i hurt you? is there a problem with looking for a shiduch for my girl? what are you trying to hint me? i dont understand
eishis chayilParticipantmy favorite is schug from golden taste, hot enough hummus, extremely spicy tomato dip, jalapeno dip, these are all my sisters favorite too, my husband loves olive dip and home made tomato dip, my girls love all the spicy dips like me and some of them will not mind olive dip or my home made tomato dip like my husband.
who can share here some good recipes of home made dips, i am looking for some good recipes pleaseeishis chayilParticipantTHE FRUMGUY: > Despite your efforts, the moderators won’t allow any personal contact between posters.
Hatzlacha anyway.can you explain what you mean? have i tried any personal contact with a poster? tell me. mayby i did notice something.
eishis chayilParticipantUJM: > Stick to a family strictly adhering to all proper practices.
what type of family are you prefering too? to any specific community?? a specific chasidus? or just someone who their methods and practices meet mine?
eishis chayilParticipantextremely super chasidish, girl. has a beautiful income
my real question is, my daughter was raised in very strict backgrounds in school and even more severe strict at home, can explain if you wish, so is it better to get a boy from a open not so strict family or rather a boy from the same type of harsh strict up bringing
eishis chayilParticipantso you are trying to convince me that what i do is wrong
eishis chayilParticipantour rav will not hit his kids, he will just yell at them or punish etc. i am not just an anonymous poster. i am a poster just like you and everyone else. i was mistreated, correct, but i will never do it to my kids, i do believe in potching but only regular petch and not for small crimes and not done with happiness, only done with a broken heart
eishis chayilParticipantseriously?? specific?? do you think that any rebbi, rosh yeshiva etc. will slap his kid in front of the entire shul so everyone can see and let you know?? i know for a fact that my rav is an extremist when it comes to chinuch, he raises his kids with yiras shamayim and obviously with petch when neccesary. i hear from my husband how the rav will yell in shul on his kids or punish them. he suggests parents to potch when neccesary, he is a chasidic rav in a certain kehilla.
i think your comment is not so derech eretz toward rabbanim and talmidei chachamim.
also a parent has a right in disciplining her kids without consulting her rav etc. taking in consideration that its just normal discipline which 99.99 percent of parents do, a potch can be normal discipline if not done cruelly like my mother who would give me gezunte petch as a teenager for the smallest thing. i had no therapy and had to torture myself and fight for my life to grow up normal and self confident as i am. i had a miracle that i am normal.
anyway, just whatever you do to your kids make sure that its really out of love and care and chas veshalom punish with happiness. i always show my kids my face as sad and half crying that i have no choice and potch them, they see how i hate to do it and know its just out of love and i have no choice and give them that potch so they behave. REMEMBER: NEVER EVER GIVE GEZUNTE PETCH EVEN IF YOU SHOW THEM HOW YOU CRY AND HATE TO HIT THEM, I SUFFERED MISSERABLY FROM MY MOTHERS GEZUNTE PETCH
eishis chayilParticipantyes johnklets. i agree with you. petch is the way to raise kids if done normally
eishis chayilParticipantthe gemara says about a father that kills his son from petch……
its the yidishe mesorah…. petch is a good thing for kidsJune 20, 2021 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm in reply to: Can use some help in deciding what to call my sefer #1984770eishis chayilParticipanta name? oh, name it after your great grand father, thats a nice name. LOL
eishis chayilParticipantopinion still stays opinion. i see what people write here, but i still did not read here something that will really make me change my strict way of discipline, or lower my amount of petch and punishments, no one here proved anything or mentioned anything with the way i take care of my kids. and no matter what people will say, i still think i am right with how i deal with things at home, and now in the summer when my kids go off t camps i fell much less stress at home, after all, my teenage kids are missing and all the behavior is now on their camps staff tp take care of
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