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Don’t know anything about it. Just know 3 girls who graduated and can’t get a job because field is even more flooded than speech or ed. Don’t know if field is really flooded or they’re just covering themselves but inquire deeply before making a decision
I can totally sympathize. Went through weaning with mine and its physically and even more emotionally exhausting. While nursing (till over 1) my first everyone said give botlle here and there and never listened. Dr said wean cold turkey and I stupidly listened. Took almost 2 months before baby drank anything at all (he finally took a nuks). I vowed never to nurse without bottles here and there again. Next couple of kids bli ayin hara, nursed and went against my own advice (again never gave a bottle) but discovered when I was forced to wean that bottles and sippies don’t work but straws do! One thing to remember, they won’t take it overnight and they won’t start drinking 24 or even 16 (or even 6) ounces a day. Go slow and pretend it doesn’t matter to you hpw much they drink. Yes diapers will be drier or even completely dry for a couple of days but b”h baby will be ok. And I never noticed that filling kids up during the days helps them sleep better. I find it only makes them wake up for nursing/drink more at night. Also ask dr if you could stop formula and offer skim milk. True a baby needs whole but skim more closely resembles thin mothers milk and once you get them started on that you can start doin 7 ounce skim to one whole and daily increase whole by an ounce until baby takes it. Lots of luck and stay calm. I’ve been there
Tolerance??? Where is yours? They were questions, NOT accusations. I was actually looking for mature answers. Didn’t realize everyone here will defend but noone can explain. If kollel works for you, kol hakavod. Just wondering why the vast majority is into only learning. Since when can one mold fit 98% of the population? By the way I think a lot of people will agree that the higher standard of living is thanks to mom and dad/bobby and zeidy generous help. And the reason they can give this generous help? Pretty sure its not because they spent their past 20 yrs learning!
In general, the whole shidduch dating scene these days is messed up just like the mindframe of a good percentage of girls ideals. When I was dating, I only wanted a guy who for certain was going to work in the foreseeable future. Bec ppl knew my father (a magid shiur) they didn’t bother asking what I wanted and assumed I wanted only learning. Even after I cleared their misconceptions, I was being offered learning. Matter of fact ppl who redt a guy and swore he was going to work (went to college) told me on a date he has no intention of working. Why girls do you find this attractive? What is so wrong with a working guy? What is so wrong with not having to go to ur parents for money? Why dony you want to make a life for yourself? I have friends who compare just how little money they have like its a bragging rite. This is not normal. You want learning? Make sure he goes to a shiur once or twice a week and let him learn on weekends. Guys who do this enjoy learning and look forward to it a lor more than guys who do it every day and its routine. So I wonder, is it the learning that yoou want or when you do some introspection is it attention? A guy who “learns” all day can be home for breakfast luch and dinner, pick up the kids from playgroup and help with bedtime and still have time to spend with you. If that’s the truth, pls grow up before you marry.
I am not knocking full time learners who are lishma. The sad truth is these excellent and honest boys are very very few and far between.
Grad NYU. Top of my class. Hated NYU. Hated the fact that everyone in every other school had about 1/8th of the work and got the same degree. Hate it even more now when you can almost get a mail in degree for doing absolutely nothing. Btw, hate the field. Make sure you really know what its about and that you really want to go into it. Be prepared to put in very long hours, come home emotionally (and physically) drained and very often see very little in terms of reward. No I am not in it any longer(over a decade) and have since gotten a degree in an entirely different field but was considered a “top” SW and not only in the frum world. Lots of luck
One would assume you had a telephone conversation first (or else how would u know what day/time)? Why not pick up on that conversation (assuming you had more than a 15 second conversation to arrange day/time)? What did you talk about? If it was something fun/interesting/funny go with it and see where it takes you.