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  • in reply to: Girls reputation vs boys reputation #2026123
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    I’ll admit, I am naive. Though I don’t see colored shirts for men as an issue and don’t see why it would be problematic anywhere or to anyone, in terms of Halacha.

    in reply to: Girls reputation vs boys reputation #2025964
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    A man can have more than one wife, and the concept of pilegesh exists. Many religious men drink and enjoy cigars and are often involved in olam hazeh in other ways. Many religious men wake up late, don’t necessarily always go to shul, don’t necessarily learn. The line between on and off the derech can be blurry for men. Women are very forgiving and understanding. The line for on and off the derech for women is clear cut.

    in reply to: Halacha #2022277
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    Halacha should be a separate seder. Every Baal Habayit should complete mishna berura. Students in Yeshiva should have a seder in Halacha biyun. If not you are guaranteed to be over on something.

    in reply to: Challenge #2022272
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    I was walking home from work yesterday and passed by a voting station. Outside were about 4 Russian men handing out flyers saying to vote for inna vernikov or however it’s spelled. As they were handing them out they said “vote for inna vernikov all of the rabbonim in Flatbush endorse her.” I had just read that article the day before and was surprised to see the sketchy tactics it action myself.

    in reply to: attention #2018763
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    Everyone wants attention and to an extent considers how people will react to him in mind before doing or saying anything. Sometimes people do things specifically because they want attention (whether they know it or not) sometimes they are just being themselves. People who brush others off as “wanting attention” are just proud of themselves that they know how to read people. If they really cared they would simply give the person the attention they thought he was seeking.

    in reply to: Shorts #2006970
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    Obviously there is nothing assur about wearing shorts. It isn’t a very respectable way to dress. The answer depends on who you are and/or how much you feel you represent Bore Olam

    in reply to: I’m considered an anti Vaccinator #1998668
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    Health –

    That article has a few individual stories. Where are the real numbers?

    in reply to: I’m considered an anti Vaccinator #1998409
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    All I know is I’ve seen plenty of articles about vaccinated people getting corona. I have yet to see an article about recovered people getting corona…

    in reply to: OOT Kollel #1987692
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    If you bothers you you are free to leave 😉

    in reply to: Men wear black and white? #1987689
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    I was once buying a suit in a store that sells hats as well and a young boy asked which hats were in style. Whether one wears a uniform or not people who want to will find a way to express themeselves with dress.

    It’s simply a uniform that has become known as “Jewish.”

    Most Rabanim where white shirts because it is plain and respectful. Rabanim are supposed to invest in their appearance as those who represent the Torah. A representative of Torah must dress respectfully at all times. White shirts are the best way to go. I think all grooms where white, it’s simple and elegant, anything else distracts from the wearer.

    No one will tell you Jews must wear white, although al pi kabala there is an inyan to do so.

    Black suits are just neutral. There are Halachot about wearing black on Shabbat.

    in reply to: stuff that don’t have a place #1979191
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    Shoebox or the smallest draw in the kitchen. Sukkah light goes with the sukkah

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    The birth rate among the frum does not seem to be diminishing. As long as everyone does their best to fulfill their obligation of peru urvu that is enough for Bore Olam.

    in reply to: ben shapiro #1976385
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    If they are struggling with the topics that he deals with and their struggle will hinder their connection to Hashem than they should be given permission to listen with the warning that they will experience foul language and other midot that we do not agree with. If you’re listening already yourself just answe their questions yourself.

    in reply to: Democrats: The Party Against Israel #1975349
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    I think Biden in at fault, but, his “support”, for Israel, in many ways standing in opposition to his piers, is pretty refreshing. When you see hypocrisy and utter blindness to what’s obvious you know that Hashem has masked those against Israel. May He remove the mask from all those who seek for our destruction just as he (partially) removed Biden’s allowing him to hold back from taking or demand action against Israel

    in reply to: Nice Guys Finish First #1974562
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    When you help others finish first you get the credit for “finishing first” where it counts

    in reply to: Confession #1971075
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    Everyone has different emotional triggers. Try ignoring the why, it isn’t really relevant. In the end of the day lives of great people were lost. Something that helps me feel the pain is putting myself in the victims shoes. Imagine it was me who perished H”V, how would my family react. Imagine the pain of all those who love you. What if it was my spouse who perished H”V or another loved one. Think for a while, play it out it your head. Think of what their new day to day life will be like. Read their stories and hespedim and substitute yourself for them. Each person is an entire world, with a family just like yours. Think about all the thoughts that pass through your head daily, each of these people had the same amount of thoughts and feelings. Really imagine what it is like for a person to suddenly seize to exist. Think hard and try to cry. Sometimes we need to use our imagination to awaken our true feelings. Hope this helps.

    in reply to: Gadol vs. Rebbi #1968411
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    Why does he think you are not ready? Why do you want to start dating? What can you do to be ready? What if you find someone right away, what are the ramifications? Discuss it with the rebbe and understand what is behind his opinion. Things like this are not just about “who do I listen to.” This is a fairly simple question that you can very well understand what is behind the opinions and make a decision. There are some things that you should ask and accept what you are told, not every question is like that. If you sit with your rebbe and explain to him why you think you are ready, and why it makes sense, and is what you really want to do, I am sure he will say ok go ahead.

    in reply to: Gadol vs. Rebbi #1968246
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    A good rabbi will clarify for you the sedadim, help you understand the pros and cons, and let you decide on your own. Clearly both are good options. Your question is very vague anyway. We have no idea what this is even regarding.

    in reply to: Are we too welcomimg #1968247
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    Just need to follow Halacha. People coming to a new community need to be verified. Especially a kohen. The rabbis of every community undoubtedly know this Halacha.

    in reply to: Only Gitten #1965571
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    Terrible idea. A website like this will do more harm than good.

    in reply to: Is English the new Yiddish? #1965295
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    Yiddish is not the language of the Jews. It’s a language spoken by many Jews. Get over it.

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    Nice

    in reply to: yeshivas in toronto #1942029
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    Uri, great advice. Why the negative attitude?

    in reply to: Yiddishe Meshugas #1909372
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    “ you can’t keep calling everyone uncaring and careless.”

    I never did. I was referring to those who suppress the opinion of those who are careful. It was a response to the post that we agree that we disagree with. I never referred to anyone specific or any majority or minority of people. Only to those who have the viewpoint of akuperma. It seems like we agree after all.

    in reply to: Yiddishe Meshugas #1909327
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    “there is nothing we can do to stop this virus from getting around. You can delay it, but you can’t stop it.”

    All this basically says is that social distancing and masks work to delay the disease from spreading, which is what I said. Just because some say everyone will eventually get it does not make it ok to be careless.

    My post was a response to akuperma who claimed that requiring others to be safe was a suppression of human rights and that this disease isn’t a big threat to human health because “Covid 19 is a disease that rarely makes people sick, and in the rare cases where someone gets sick it is usually fatal only to those who were seriously ill to begin with.”

    It is people with this mindset that I am referring to. People who think it isn’t a big deal. The people who are out while sick or refuse to quarantine say the same thing.

    Nothing to face. The way the disease spreads is person to person. When someone infected is in close proximity to others. Anyone who attends shul where there is no social distancing and no masks either does not care of just doesn’t understand that it is very likely that they will get sick or it is possible they will get others sick. This is not my opinion. If you disagree with this please explain how.

    in reply to: Should People Test More, or Less? #1909204
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    Yes. And those planning to quarantine anyway don’t need to test.

    in reply to: Yiddishe Meshugas #1909175
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    95% of people I know who tell others to be quiet in shul talk themselves. We don’t learn from others actions we learn from reality. No one out there will tell you that social distancing doesn’t work and no one knowledgeable will tell you that masks don’t help to stop the disease from spreading. I am not overly cautious, I know that because I have friends that think I am and others who think I’m too loose. Don’t go around with a human rights flag because you want to crowd in shul or in a supermarket. I know people right now who have positive family member in their house but refuse to quarantine. People who are positive themselves and think it’s ok to go out with a mask. Aside for mortality there are long term health repercussions for a lot of people. Keeping a distance and wearing a mask isn’t so difficult. It is a sign of ahavat yisrael, and not doing these thing ms shows you really don’t care. The numbers aren’t rising by accident. People are not being careful

    in reply to: Yiddishe Meshugas #1909077
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    Many Americans are outraged by the ridiculous suppression of regard for the health of others under the pretext of human rights. Many Jews are outraged by the ridiculous suppression of Halacha which tells us to protect our health and that of others under the pretext of relying on Hashem. Many are outraged by the ridiculous suppression of those who enforce social distancing and mask wearing under the pretext of “rarely” and “usually” because apparently people who are ill and at risk and those few healthy exceptions don’t matter enough for us to stand six feet away or wear a mask.

    in reply to: Testing the Trap #1907632
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    100% this is a conspiracy theory that they will not count the negatives. Really baseless. It isn’t so hard to understand that the positive rate in Jewish communities is high given the disregard for mask wearing and social distancing in many circles. Of course, many Jews are ver careful and adhere to all the rules, but let’s not pretend that we all do, a large number of shuls were packed on Rosh Hashana without mask wearing. We have lives to live, but there are consequences.

    Hakatan. You know very well that you are representing just one side of the argument. Taking a strong stance doesn’t make your position stronger, it just minimizes your ability to have true ahavat yisrael.

    in reply to: Simchas Torah #1902636
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    CS – first example worked. Second is just dumb. Choosing not to wear a mask is not the same as choosing to pray with female rabbis.

    in reply to: Simchas Torah #1902430
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    If a person has the virus they or anyone who lives with them should not leave the house. If they do it is extremely surprising, and those who think it isn’t are the problem. On the other hand, while everyone takes their own level of precautions there is no way to ensure everyone around you is safe to their standards. The reality is that everyone has their own understanding of what is acceptable, and each person will stretch their personal precautions when it comes to things they “must” do or places they “must” be. If a person is extra cautious they should not go places expecting everyone to be like them. The key is simply this: in general when seeing people, maintain a distance. In specific situations see what’s happening and decide if you want to be there or not, because you can’t change what people are doing.

    There are plenty of good reasons not to wear a mask that would not effect others. (Recently recovered and antibodies, tested negative a few days before and haven’t been anywhere, plan to maintain a six foot distance etc.) If a shul requires masks then you must wear a mask. If they don’t then one should not be forced to wear one. And if that makes some feel uncomfortable they can either go around asking people why they aren’t wearing it to determine if it’s safe or not take the risk and find another shul.

    in reply to: Simchas Torah #1902378
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    If a person has the virus they or anyone who lives with them should not leave the house. If they do it is extremely surprising, and those who think it isn’t are the problem. On the other hand, while everyone takes their own level of precautions there is no way to ensure everyone around you is safe to their standards. The reality is that everyone has their own understanding of what is acceptable, and each person will stretch their personal precautions when it comes to things they “must” do or places they “must” be. If a person is extra cautious they should not go places expecting everyone to be like them. The key is simply this: in general when seeing people, maintain a distance. In specific situations see what’s happening and decide if you want to be there or not, because you can’t change what people are doing.

    in reply to: MISUNDERSTANDING ABOUT CORONAVIRUS!! #1848324
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    All this advice is saying is for a person with symptoms to ask Hatzala or a doctor to measure their oxygen level, even before they have difficulty breathing. This is good advice and not something that needs to come from a doctor. There is no downside. My father had the virus and Hatzala checked his oxygen and it was lower than normal. He spent a few days in the hospital on oxygen and some other midicines and is back home and recovering now.

    in reply to: Kriahs hatorah #1846913
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    You aren’t reading them at home? I assume well count that..

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    When has EVERYONE ever listened? Getting 100% cooperation is reserved for the times of Mashiah.

    in reply to: Minyan #1845441
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    Taka. If they are now saying that it could be dangerous even further than 6 feet I understand the prohibitions. If the doctors and scientists all say, which they did, that the virus does not spread further than 6 feet than I believe them. I don’t need to take their suggested precautions of not even being 6 feet away.

    in reply to: Minyan #1845096
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    Sad. I am sorry about your father. What was said was that it can not be contracted from 6 feet away. Therefore don’t gather together and no minyanim, which is understandable; anyone gathering, even outdoors or in a large space will inevitably have contact or touch mutual surfaces sidurim etc. Based on that description of the danger I don’t see anything wrong with ten people standing ten feet away from each other and not touching anything.

    in reply to: Smartphones #1844761
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    No, you will not have much more information by having a smart phone. The little more you’ll get will be drowned out by all the garbage coming from the same sources. If you call a friend who has a smart phone every other day and ask him “what’s new what did I miss” he’ll probably tell you “nothing important” almost every call

    in reply to: Minyan #1844758
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    Yomam, my suggestion included all the medical facts. Of the doctors say the virus can not be contracted from 6 feet away why would you think different?

    in reply to: Minyan #1844554
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    Gadolhador. The suggestion that you are ok with ten Jews dying is sickening let alone infuriating. Stira from your sefa to your resha.

    in reply to: Minyan #1844485
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    Baltimore. If that is the new science than that settles it.

    Yehuda. Interesting. I was thinking a shul that seats 500 with only ten present so no issue of wind blowing.

    NOYB. The reality is that they are being cautious because people will naturally congregate. If science says you can’t contract the virus from ten feet away than that’s the bottom line. Don’t try to be a hero quoting “All the Gedolim” as if I haven’t read all the articles here. Especially when it’s not even true. Understand the content of what I am saying before making a blanket SJW statement.

    in reply to: Coronavirus davening at home #1843498
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    The reality is that people are in such a hurry today that it’s pretty much impossible to have kavana for every word with a minyan. On the other hand, when there is no minyan to keep up with it is entirely possible for great number of people to concentrate on the meaning of every word. It is obviously preferable to have kavana. But it’s also preferable to pray with a minyan. I’m willing to say that complete kavana at home is preferable to zero kavana in shul. For all the cases in between consult your Rabbi.

    in reply to: Are our mistakes (not regarding mitzvos/sins) from Hashem? #1840572
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    I read once in the Sefer Ale Shorr that the brothers of Yosef were negligent for not checking their bags before leaving Yosef the second time. They know the money ended up there before, how could they just leave and then swear they don’t have the gavia? It was their own negligence, even for something that wasn’t a missva/avera, that caused their suffering.

    in reply to: Shuls Closed While Restaurants Opened?! #1840526
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    No one said you can’t gather ten people spread out in a house for a minyan. No one said you can’t learn from home. I have need learning over the phone for a whole week and we actually used the time saved on parking to learn, so we’re learning even more than usual.

    in reply to: Corona Parties.. #1840517
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    When you say “the effects” I guess you mean the fact that this virus has effected all causing them to recognize that we need a vaccine, and not the actual effects.

    in reply to: Purim Safety #1838438
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    Educate our children how to properly (and responsibly) celebrate the holiday. Oh, and wash your hands often..

    in reply to: Is coronavirus BAD?? #1837752
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    The actual numbers are 3.5% of people with the virus die. Also, it spreads faster than the flu. And to those who say “no big deal just another flu” let me remind you that the flu kills about 10k people annually in the US. So, hey, no big deal if another 35,000 people, or even 20k or 10k or 5k people, die every year…. great logic there.

    in reply to: A Third of Israeli Youth Don’t Enlist in the IDF #1824233
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    I’m more interested in hard numbers rather than percentages. The population is growing. A growing percentage of people avoiding the draft doesn’t mean a shrinking army.

    in reply to: Sephardic and Ashkenaz Weddings #1808066
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    The Targum of veavraham zaken is avraham siv.. i never heard the Shabbat called that but I guess that’s where it’s from.

    I was once at an Ashkenazi wedding and the hattan walked down the aisle with a candle.. very depressing

    in reply to: what is the origin of chanukah gifts? #1803959
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    I may be a few years late but I find it funny that people who wear costumes on Purim won’t give gifts on Hanukka. I guarantee if the rema were writing today he would bring the minhag of giving gifts just like he brings that of costumes… it’s all from goyim but if anything costumes is more problematic

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