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“M is for the Many things you gave me,
O is for the Other things you gave me,
T is for the Things you gave me,
H is for the Hundreds of things you gave me,
E is for Everything you gave me,
R is for the Rest of things you gave me,
Put them all together and they spell, ‘Mother,”…
whom I call every Mother’s Day and tell her that I love her too much to sing this to her.
if only we all used the cr for good, instead of …uh, controversy!
Charliehall: I should have been more clear. When I said men do not have to keep these mitzvos “AS WOMEN ARE OBLIGATED TO” I meant they are not obligated IN THE SAME WAY: certainly, as i said, men can do those things, just girls are taught that those are THEIR mitzvos. Sort of: men CAN, but women MUST–the way that men must do those other things, and women can, but don’t necessarily have to. (and yes, i know my husband can take challah for me and he can light the candles for me…)
zeeskite: “Actually I think thm is MORE for Men.” ???
Perhaps, in some way, but women certainly have more of a specific obligation to keep it, differently from men. To be clearer, I should just have pointed out that generally we are taught from childhood that those are the big three for women because of Sara Imeinu’s example, and they are stressed much less for men.
popa, does your mother know you post here?
did she laugh when you asked her this question (as we did when we read it)?
basically, you’re saying that since women are not obligated in those mitzvos you listed they are not jewish, i.e., jewishness is defined by the obligation to do those particular mitzvos.
well, for one thing, aren’t the ten commandments pretty important mitzvos? not one of them is gender specific.
second, aren’t women obligated in three specific mitzvos? are you, that is, men, not jewish because you don’t have to take challah, light candles, or keep thm as women are obligated to? (true, you can take challah and light candles if there’s no woman around to do it, but we can make kiddush etc if there is no man around, too.)
now, i have a different question: you know that joke about the guy going to three different rabbis because he wants to be a cohen, and the orthodox and conservative rabbis tell him he can’t become one, and finally the reform rabbi says no problem, just why do you want to become a cohen? and he says because my father was one, and my grandfather was, etc. hahaha, what an ignoramus, right?
well, what if his father married out? true, he should be a cohen because his father is a cohen and that follows the father. but jewishness follows the mother and if he’s not jewish, he can’t be a cohen. so there goes the joke.
what if he converts back? he can become jewish, but can he become a cohen retroactively?
HaLeiVi: Replace the turban with a black hat or yarmulka. Exchange the white robe for a white shirt and black suit. Add glasses. Presto, Osama could easily pass for a maggid shiur in any mainstream yeshiva.
Now, with my custom-made tinfoil hat with the extra long rabbit ears firmly in place on my head, i will reveal to you all the truth behind the headlines. Osama bin Laden is not dead, he is in the White House. He is the power behind Barack Obama. Where was Obama before 9/11? Training with the taliban, that’s where. Community organizing in the caves of Afghanistan.
Unfortunately i am not at liberty to reveal more at this time but to those who will remove the blinders from their eyes and the cotton from between their ears, it should not be necessary to elaborate.
As goldenkint says, sometimes you just look at other people’s carts or stuff (because really, where are you going to look in a grocery?) and think about your own order and what you forgot and what you need, and you don’t realize that you are staring. Once someone asked me if I wanted an item from their cart, for that reason. And I said, “What? Oh, I’m so sorry, was I staring or something? And by the way, are those plates on sale? What aisle?”
So they told me and watched my cart while I ran and got plates.
Usually, though, it’s the person behind you who is staring at you, not the person ahead of you; they are generally busy with unloading and paying and remembering that they forgot the mustard. So it’s unusual that the person in front was staring. Why was he still there?
I hope not. It was great to see something we could actually use there.
Possibly apushatyid was referring to Martin Luther King, and his assassination. You know what they say: “You’ll get a day named after you, but it isn’t worth it.”
A very nice children’s book was recently published, “The Mitzvah That Landed On My Window,” by Chaim Rowner, with actual photographs of a robin’s nest on the family’s windowsill and the development of the eggs into nestlings, and how they performed the mitzvah.
spinach. spinach knishes with a crispy pepper salad.
potato kugel and salsa, with lemon iced tea.
and to me, mon would taste like the fried eggplant and that yellow sauce at the falafel stands in EY.
Take a nap and try to dream that she has done teshuva.
Seriously, how far do you want to analyze this? Is she standing in for someone else? Has she ever given you cause to think subconsciously that she might do this? Did anyone else speak of her as possibly doing this?
If this changes your attitude to her so that she notices, would you tell her about the dream?
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“Ursa” is Latin for “bear” — the constellations Ursa Major and Ursa Minor are called in English “Big Bear” and “Little Bear”. Ursula is the feminine form.
I liked the stories of Ursula Lehmann in Olomeinu, and there were some other Ursulas in my private life who impressed me with their middos. Also it sounds nice to my ears.
Now, did you explain “BSD” on any of these threads? Does it stand for BiSiyatta Dishmaya, is it your initials, or is there an even deeper meaning? (Don’t feel that you have to tell though, we’re just curious.)
trying to be a real mama bear (also in tribute to some talented women of that name)
Moderators: Aren’t there at least two other threads on this (granted, very interesting) topic already?
I once won a stereo and a complete collection of kids’ tapes, but that was because I had really, really wanted to attend the auction and had already sent in my selections but at the last minute couldn’t go and for once, I didn’t complain. It was a reward for good behavior.
Once I went to an auction and bought a lot of tickets. The tickets were the two-part perforated ones, and the top part said “Keep This Part”–so I did. After putting the other halves into the boxes and leaving, I thought, “Gee, didn’t I buy more tickets than that?” It didn’t sink in until two blocks later that one was NOT supposed to keep the other half! Won some life experience, there. 🙂 (This could go in the “Embarrassing Mistakes” thread, if there is one.)
<Any ideas how to keep myself busy?>
Having read so much, why not try writing something yourself? Don’t try for a polished product at first, just try to entertain yourself (and others?) and if it seems promising, you can tighten it up later.
Hatzlacha!
Finish your Pesach cleaning while listening to some really happy Pesach, non-wedding music. Do a chesed for someone else, maybe help them with their Pesach prep if you have time–that will make you and them happy (hey if you want to come here i’d love some help!).
Imagine the good things Hashm has in store for you now that this is out of the way.
Will your children be reporting to you about the wedding or do you not want to hear about it?
No, burnout is very normal. May your tefillos and the tefillos of others on your behalf be answered l’tova bekarov! Yeshuas Hashm kiheref ayin.
(DISCLAIMER: Please, no one be offended by what I write, this is just my personal experience, i’m not extrapolating to anyone else’s situation, or making any assumptions about it, or advising anyone of what to do. Please don’t yell at me.)
Two personal stories (rather long, sorry): Everyone in my family married late, my parents, siblings, relatives — the youngest to get married was almost thirty, the others including me almost forty, almost fifty (to people of comparable age or older)–but just because it was the family experience didn’t make it easier. It was very very hard and there were times i (I can’t speak for my siblings/relatives) did give up. One year I took a trip to EY with a friend — a tzaddeikes to put up with me–and we went to kivrei tzaddikim, davened whereever we could, and cried all the way to AMuka, all the time there, and all the time back. Did I meet my future husband there? No, not until about a year later (ten years in older-single time).
Did the tefillos and tears help? Yes.
Eventually I went to a gadol and said listen, i’m a woman, there’s no chiyuv on me to marry, i’m really feeling old and tired and discouraged, so is it ok if i stop dating already? like, if Hshm wants me to get married He can just trap me in an elevator with the right guy or something, right?
to my surprise the rav said no, you do have a chiyuv, the man can’t marry without you, etc. then he asked about the men i had seen lately and gave me some good advice, which i followed.
so about a week later, after standing my future husband up one time because he didn’t sound so excited (to my jaundiced ears) he proposed on the third date but i was so shell-shocked it didn’t really penetrate.
fast forward a few years and b”H a few children later and my older brother–a much nicer and better person than i will ever be–is still single. mid-forties. parshas chayei sara. i’m on the phone wishing my mother a good shabbos and tell her to daven hard for brother this week. i start to cry because i really remember how it felt and imagine how it is for him and my mother is shocked. i hang up with her and grab my boys’ hands and tell them we are going to practice dancing for uncle x’s wedding and we dance around and around singing ohd yeshama and crying until we fell down. then my husband gave tzedaka with him in mind.
my brother got engaged that purim.
we are not taking any credit for it but our tefillos couldn’t have hurt.
i know other people’s stories don’t really help but, try not to give up entirely. Hatzlacha!
always there: thank you for your support.
i’m grateful for second chances.
Goq, mytake,
I am very sorry that what I wrote offended or hurt you. It was not intended. As a former (much) older single I am grateful for what I have now and what I wrote was a true reflection of my feelings. Since it was offensive I will ask the moderators to remove it.
Moderators Please Remove My Post Above. Thank you very much.
Could mine be “Putting the ‘fun’ back in dysfunctional”?
Thank you!
A man and a woman alone together in a car is a definite yichud problem.
Here’s a true hitching story that happened to a close relative: He was approached on one of the major shopping avenues by a no-longer-married female neighbor. She asked for a ride home. He said, “Sure, I just have to pick up my wife first.” She said, “Oh, forget it then.”
Perhaps she was really in a hurry and thought waiting for his wife would delay them too much, but it gave my relative a very bad feeling, that had he given her a ride there would have been serious consequences.
There’s no problem, if you rely on the eiruv rav.
Shticky: Yes, thanks! Actually it turns out we had it, and we listened to it a lot until the littlest one tore the tape out and wrapped it around herself. We give her credit for making her own costume, but deplore the choice of material.:)
Ok, so now: Pesach tapes? Other than Boruch Makes Pesach. How is “The Longest Pesach”?
True, defacing other’s property is criminally wrong. True, H&M is a popular store for many Jewish shoppers. True, they are therefore advertising to their market.
HOWEVER, the section of the market living in the area of this particular advertisement is not likely to buy, or to appreciate having to walk past with eyes averted, the particular styles being advertised.
An ad like this in a neighborhood like this is not a good fit. It doesn’t help the company’s image. It’s not designed to create new customers within the target area (other than the people who already dress like that). Why not showcase the more modest styles that they carry, which the frum crowd does buy?
A previous, similar ad there suffered the same fate. What was the reaction of the advertiser then? Maybe it wasn’t H&M, but shouldn’t that have made any advertiser wary? If they are going to spend their money in this neighborhood, spend it wisely. Let everybody benefit. The store will get new or continued customers, the frum shoppers have a different shopping venue, and the bochrim can concentrate on studying Torah instead of possibly landing themselves in court.
Avraham Avinu looked at Sarah once, too, to see that she was beautiful. Perhaps they looked once and then to prevent themselves and others who may not have seen it from looking excessively,they felt that this drastic measure was justified.
As mentioned above, though, defacing H&M’s property is not correct, legal, or justified. The bochurim probably have not thought out their other means of non-violent opposition, such as contacting the company and asking them to change the ad themselves, or tacking a raincoat on the billboard, which could be removed without actually destroying the property.
BUT, this is not the first such billboard in that location that is not tzniusdik and it’s not the first one to be dealt with in this fashion. So why does the advertiser keep posting there? Who is the great genius in their market research division that tells them 16th Ave and 43rd (?44th?) street in ultra-religious Boro Park, is a great place to advertise trampwear? Ah, there is a public school across the street. Perhaps the advertiser’s money would be better spent sending flyers directly into the school or subsidizing some aspect of the curriculum, which could not be affected by these young, zealous guardians of our purity.
Let’s hope someone from H&M reads YWN! (Moderators, maybe if we help them clean (or dress) up their act, they’d even advertise here!)
Wallenberg, Sugihara, Nicholas Winston.
Noach. Yisro, Rus.
contact Hakhel, they have a list of various gemachs including medical ones, which may have a portable ramp or tell you where to buy/rent it. GEMACH LIST – send a self-addressed letter-sized envelope with two first-class stamps to: Hakhel List, 1327 E. 26th Street, Brooklyn, New York 11210-5204. or call 718-252-5274 for more information
also, when we were looking for such an item (we didn’t end up getting it, though) we did actually see it on “carol wright gifts”, but i can’t vouch for its safety rating.
Isn’t it nice when everyone is right? Purim truly is a joyous day.
Squeak: I did get and appreciate the joke 🙂 — thanks for recognizing my stellar quality!– but I tend to be a little overliteral in my replies, sorry.
Back to the main topic: my 8 yr old pointed out the “Your Excellency, Your Geniusency, Your Brilliancy…” he thinks that’s great; my 3 yr old asks for “everybody swing!”
How come there are no credits for the voices? Some of the actors were really excellent. Did Sruly Greenwald make any other tapes?
Question: Was Mordechai married to anyone else before he adopted/married Esther? Did he have children?
The guy singing about hanging Mordechai in the morning, sounds just like Allan Sherman.
But the beauty, the genius of the writing is that even if the reference is intended to be to that obscure episode of popeye, the lines are still funny to people who don’t know that because it Could Be a reference to salaam etc. That’s why I laughed at it.
PS: Cute, squeak. “Minor” is still “real,” however I would not venture to go pawo a pawo vs. kilobear if anyone said will the real mama bear please stand up. And, I certainly wouldn’t want to outweigh her(?him?)!
“Salami bologna” is from popeye? Ok, along with the spinach, a balanced meal. But, there could be an alternate explanation: “Salaam aleikum, aleikum salaam” is an accepted Middle Eastern greeting. “Salami baloney, baloney salami” is a pretty funny take off on that.
Could be.
Thanks, Shticky.
As for your lots question, according to footnote #1 on page 178 of “Let My Nation Live” by R. Yosef Deutsch: “Sarah’s death was a zechus. After she died, the torch of the Imahos, the Matriarchs, was passed to Rivka. Also, Sarah’s death occurred upon finding out about the Akeidah. The merit of Cheshvan was the Akeidah itself; see Iyun Yaakov to Megillah 13B.)
Maybe you could also make a case for Moshe’s death being more of a national tragedy, as we technically were not yet a nation at the time of Sarah Imeinu’s passing?
Doesn’t the organization Mekimi send Jewish clowns and other entertainers to visit sick children? Perhaps they could advise you.
Thank you all very much, because of this thread (and an actual friend’s recommendation) I went out and bought this tape for the kids. B”H, we are all enjoying it! Now, can anyone recommend a good Purim-songs tape, with all the necessary songs sung well to normal music, that a child can sing along with? It would be appreciated.
A guten chodesh to all.