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Once when my sister and I came back from the movie in the casino (during the reel change) we found a skunk in the bathroom. We ran out and so did it. But I don’t think they come out so much anymore.
always here: if not for the gap between the walls and the floor, how would the skunks get in?
Ganz, Loch Sheldrake!
Not a bungalow or camp, but the best summer school: Egg University.
Yes, the THREAD for Posters 40… will save you a lot of repetitious effort.
And, rather than focusing on how old we are (b”H!), look at how much things have changed in such a short time. Teenagers can say, wow, you remember when you had to text from the numeric pad?!
“Making phone calls and texting while driving is a very ignored law.”
I didn’t know they passed a law that we have to do that!
“The windows in cars that you had to manually haul up or down”
A classmate of my 8-year old son was in our car. He looked at the door and asked, “What is that?!” It was the window handle, he had never seen one.
At one eye doctor, they showed the kids pictures to identify and one was of an old-fashioned phone (a princess model, yet). Of course the kids had no idea what they were supposed to say.
Wasn’t that weird little film called…film?
You remember intermission at the movies when they changed the reels?
You remember Arnold Fine?
“Jews can’t do Haiku
…” (theprof1)
Since I cannot wrap
my mind around this verse form
I offer others’ work
“In Japan haikus have to be about nature…” (Sister Bear)
(“…technically haiku …is about nature; senryu is about the human condition.” Ivy Reisner)
My nature journal —
Today, I saw some trees and birds.
I should know the names?
(from Haikus for Jews: For You, a Little Wisdom
David M. Bader)
I’m not bored, I’m evading the responsibilities of my jobs.
” he wants her to cover with a hat and she wants a wig he should go ans ask a rabbi if hes shud break off the eng FOR A WIG to break off the shidduch thats crazyyyy “
” I told him I told like tichels so he said (in an upset tone) if I wanna wear a wig I can. It’s not a normal thing to break a shidduch for such a silly thing. We’ve been together for 3 years; I can’t just say goodbye because of a tichel.”
(Did you mean to say, you DON”T like tichels?)
No, it’s not crazy and it’s not a silly thing. A couple should agree on certain things, or at least agree to work on them. These seemingly minor details are indicators of the larger issues that couples/families deal with throughout the course of the relationship (rather, for the rest of their lives). Go to the rav or the chacham and discuss it, because it will lead into a deeper discussion of the real issues. May you come away from the discussion with a better understanding of yourselves, each other, and what kind of home life you are striving for.
Moderators. The people who CHECK the posts and either approve or delete them.
On the eighth day of Pesach I wear a sheitel, to show it’s only my minhag to usually wear a tichel and that I don’t actually believe it’s wrong to wear a sheitel.
I am very happy to wear a tichel because IMHO, it shows clearly that I’m a member of the club of married Jewish women. It gives me a chance to accessorize my snood to my outfit (ok, usually they are both black but sometimes, you can really make an outfit outstanding by matching that you cannot make with a wig, I mean, do you color match each wig to each outfit?)
and it is easy and comfortable.
hatzlacha
(lubavitch, btw, are makpid to wear wigs exclusively, i think
“Dear CR Member,” she posted
My anonymity I thought was toasted
But a message was sent
Someone other was meant
We could drop the suspicions we’d hosted.
But that thread really did make me wonder
If without the names we’re hiding under
We would post as we do
To our fellow Jew
Those comments that could tear hearts asunder?
Put pegboards and hooks on the walls or cabinet doors, then hang the stuff from that. Do you have exposed ceiling beams from which to hang things?
Start a gmach, and lend stuff (do you have duplicates of certain equipment?) out. Just make sure you know who borrows it so you can go over and get it back when you need it.:)
Hey, mazal tov! Lots of yiddishe nachas! DId you tell us if we are now cyber-aunts or uncles?
Are you getting any household help, or meals or anything?
If this is a job interview, since we learned that one should not daven that a particular shidduch works out, but that the right one be found soon, we can daven that the interview goes well and that you very quickly find a gevaldikeh parnassah, a job that pays well, has a pleasant environment, and allows you to spend time with your family and your learning. (BUt you might not be allowed too many coffee breaks, you know!)
If it’s an interview for a loan or something else, well, we’ll just daven that you be successful in getting what you need.
Hatzlacha rabbah! Looking forward to hearing besuros tovos.
Thx, coffee!
This should be easy, but I just noticed it today. Where in Tanach does it say, “Check out the valley on eBay”?
(If anyone posted this before, I apologize.)
Seahorse -“I’m confused, do women have an obligation to get married?” YES, they do!
“I thought we don’t because only men have to have kids.”
While they aren’t included in the Mitzva of “Pru OOrevu”,
When I was an ancient single, I went to a gadol with the same question so that I could just stop dating already. He told me, of course you have to go out, how can the man do the mitzvah without you? He then gave me a more detailed answer as to the woman’s obligation (and he gave me some good advice, which I acted upon and I got engaged about two weeks later, b”H).
Hatzlacha 🙂
Send me money. Just do it.
No, you’re not a chicken; at least you tried. I can’t even tolerate the thought of it.
Was this an “open” mri? They are supposed to be more bearable.
And I was so sure I knew you, too! 🙂
If you really think you know who the person is, and know the name, why don’t you look them up in the phone book and call or write, or contact someone from that wedding for contact info?
Since you replied mostly to my post, should I infer that you were directing this thread to me? Thank you for the warning. If I have given out such information, then it doesn’t bother me if people want to sit down and try to figure out if this is me. It is, though, more comfortable to sit down and post under a screenname, and if someone were to put my actual name here I would probably stop posting.
How long was this one meeting and how extreme was the other person’s (ok, MY) behavior that you picked up and remembered enough details to be able to figure them (me) out?
A good advertisement for living a Torah life; a nice person with good middos, known for making other people feel happy. (I’d better live a long long time to achieve this.)
Before my m-i-l moved in with us I called her Momma, and kept that up the first few weeks after she moved in. But soon it became easier all around to call her Bubby. For one thing, it taught the children to call her that; it was more comfortable for me; and as her memory diminished, it is less confusing for her to deal with me, whom she often cannot recognize as a family member, calling her by that title than by “Momma.”
My husband, though, won my parents’ instantaneous approval and respect by walking into their home after we got engaged and addressing them immediately as “Mom” and “Pop.”
Well, you can generally pick out a Paula Young shaitel from a Custom du Jour. Today was quite breezy and as we were walking outside, I noticed a lady in front of me whose nice, human-hair looking shaitel was being blown so much by the wind that you could see the lines of the netting underneath. If I were to pay hundreds for a wig I would expect it to withstand gale force winds, at least.
Also do your kids use an entire bottle of shampoo every time they take a bath? On themselves, the walls, and the shower curtain?(Tip: save the empty bottles, put in a little bit of shampoo and a lot of water, and let them have a good time.)
Also did I mention that we had to replace the toilet twice in about two months? Evidently the boys thought that because it starts with “toy” that’s where the toys belonged.
Did I mention the time I was 7 months along and shopping with my two year old, an angelic looking sweetie with a gorgeous strawberry blond ponytail, who was capable of slipping out of his harness and tying me to a streetlamp with it? How he escaped the stroller and the security guard at the door and managed to get to the corner before I even reached the desk to announce his disappearance?
Baruch Hashem, he was escorted back to me by two young friendly Italian men who said, seeing my expression, “DOn’t yell at her, lady, she’s scared enough.”
I realized how lucky we were, and didn’t shop again for six months.
Wow, arwsf, I thought my kids were the only ones who decorated the windows that way! and at that time we lived in the heart of the heart of BP.
Guess what? when the second set (of kids) came around, they just walked around with them all over their clothes. OF COURSE we had company at the time! Now i hide them so well i can’t find them when i need them.
I wish I could blame the kids for my lousy housekeeping, although NOBODY ELSE’s kids seem to color on the walls EVERY SECOND. A few times I put long rolls of paper on the walls just to contain their spontaneous art expressions.
My mother used to say her house was decorated in “Early American Childhood.” So even though in my case it is a euphemism for being too lazy to get myself up and cleaning/organizing/laundrying, hey, I’ll say it too. Thanks, Mom.
Oh, Rabbonim and Rebbetzins and most regular smart people recommend getting as much household help as you can afford when you have small children. In our case, that is none, but it’s a consolation to realize that most people do understand that children make a mess. (You know that Rashi that says Rachel Imeinu wanted children because she could blame the mess on them? It’s a great cover for those rare occasions when we ourselves are less than neat.)
So if you shoot everyone with blank bullets, they should all know it’s a joke?
By calling people names “as a joke” you are desensitizing yourself, and trying to desensitize others, to a certain standard of behavior. We need to be working on improving ourselves, not bringing ourselves down.
“…why cant you make your hand go one way and your foot the other way without difficulty….”
Ok, sorry, I’m very literal minded and if you say, try to make a 6, I’ll try to accomplish that. Now, if you had said, move your right foot clockwise and your right hand counterclockwise, I would have said, Correct, you can’t do that without lots of practice, as Health stated.
You could do it with your right foot/left hand, though, for the same reason that when you walk you can’t swing your right hand forward when your right foot goes forward (without looking like a robot). Right foot, left hand. Hashem made us that our legs and feet work in concert with the opposite arm and hand. There is probably a lesson in there about the lower limbs, ie the body, working opposite to the upper limbs, ie the neshama, to teach us to use our neshama to counter the desires of our body. But maybe not.
You don’t deserve her, you deserve someone else who is better suited to you.
Why is telling her that her decision hurt you, not being nice? If you tell her that without anger, and making it clear that you can accept it and move on, what is not nice about it? Do you think that your feeling hurt is in itself, not nice? As long as you are not trying to hurt her there is nothing wrong with letting her know how you feel.
Sometimes this “I am too nice to act in a certain way,” is a way to avoid dealing with an issue thoroughly, and it just gives a person something else to stress about later: “Oh, maybe if I had said how I really felt then, I would feel better now.” So say it (nicely) now and don’t have regrets later. (Of course, you might later regret saying it, the way I might regret writing this and stress out later saying Oh, maybe MiddlePath feels bad and I should not have said this. But I don’t mean to hurt you, this has been my experience.)
We tell our kids that we are chasidim of the Litvishe Rebbe.
Also, try it counterclockwise with your left foot, drawing a 9. It can be done if you start from the bottom, but not if you start with the circle on top. (That is, if your hand follows the direction your foot is going in, you don’t confuse yourself.)
Thanks a lot, now we might have to buy challah because I should have been baking by now, but no, I had to try this. Enjoy your Shabbos! 🙂
If you draw the six starting from the top, yes, your foot will get confused. But if you start with the circle (bottom) first, drawing the circle clockwise and ending up at the top, it won’t. Did you try it that way?
Fortunately I have only the usual two arms, so obviously we are not related. Anyway, I prefer to be inspired by and referenced to Ursula Lehmann, who used to write for Olomeinu.
WIY- Right 🙂
This week’s Torah Times, p. 27: Top to Bottom custom suits and shirts.
Have never used or heard of them before but just saw the ad.
In the context of this thread, it means “cranky old lady who needs to work on her middos and not get annoyed by little things such as children and misused phrases.” In general usage, it’s a name. It’s the feminine Latin word for bear. It’s not my actual first name, though.
Jewish men tend to dress the same, at least within their groups. So at a yeshivishe wedding, the chances of sitting next to a man (or a tableful of men) wearing the same suit, tie, hat, glasses, socks, shoes, and cufflinks are millions of times greater than the chances of sitting next to a man or men wearing noticeably different garb.
Women, however, while they want to wear ALMOST the same dress as their friends/neighbors/children do not want to wear the EXACT same dress because then they are afraid others will compare them and think the other woman looks better in it, or they will find out they paid full price while the other woman got it 75% off.
Originally polygamy was mutually beneficial. In areas where men were killed off early by disease, war, or accident incurred while hunting, gathering, or otherwise providing food for the family, there were many single/widowed women who would see the practical advantage of a communal household with one man at its head. Generally, of course, it would be a rich man, who had enough cattle or fields or goods to provide for a large household, who also had servants to go out and do the dangerous work. Most women would consider it a business arrangement and not get all worked up over the “he likes me better than you” aspect (although such arguments doubtless did occur).
In dangerous times or areas, a husband would provide protection for the women, so women didn’t mind exchanging a single romantic attachment for a practical, realistically beneficial one.
Also, such marriages were often for political purposes. Why did Jewish kings marry more than one woman? Political alliances.
I’ve never seen a meforesh (if anyone else has please tell me!) saying that Mordechai haTzaddik was married to anyone else before or at the same time he married Esther, but that was a marriage of protection, so it’s possible.
Women can sing loudly inside. or to themselves.
gigglegirl: cute!
To enter a few posts late, since when did “besides for” become standard usage? It’s all over the Jewish papers. What was wrong with “aside from” or “except for” or just plain “besides”?
As you can see, the most fun thing for me this summer is being crotchety. Perhaps I will start crocheting instead. Better than knitting my brow with worry.
You’d think, with the matzav that we’re in
Posters would display more politeness herein
But “Joseph!” and “dolt!”
And more names that revolt
Make it seem that there’s no rules to fear in.
I myself was just rude to our President
(At least, on the thread that he’s resident)
I must do teshuva
And thus be a disprova
Of the criticism which was just evident.
They have to do something during the three weeks when they can’t play music, right?
My kids liked it. I think it has a thinner crust than Amnon’s, it’s not as sweet as Mendelsohn’s, the slices are a little small, and the sauce goes almost to the edge. It’s worth trying if it’s on sale.
Food, as I usually do.
I do not regret voting for McCain/Palin. I do not regret voting against the egocentric, Marxist, anti-American, economy-killing, Muslim sympathizing (if not just plain Muslim) puppet of a foreign government currently in office. And if he calls the American populace “folks” one more time in one more speech, I’ll really have reason to dislike him.
Tofuti, what was yours?
Men’s yarmulkas get larger as their bald spots get larger. Their hat brims grow wider to keep things in proportion. (The real reason women cover their hair? So they never have to suffer a bad hair day. I love the Torah!)
My husband insisted that we move to a Chasidishe neighborhood just so that he wouldn’t have to wear a tie to shul anymore.
We like to hear from our dear poster Minyan
Who told us of an interesting inyan
It’s called Folklorama
Its mascot’s a llama
(Cute at a distance, in my humble opinion).