It seems that people are evaluating the issue based off of the age at the time of marriage rather than when they start shidduchim i personaly know bochrim who are 4th year bais medrash who arent even considering when to start and also bochrim who started after pesach 3rd year and is married already then you have people who dated for years i know a bochur who only got married after sukkos in his tenth year it is very hard to see where the problem lies