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Dont jump on it too quickly…give it a few more occurances before figuring out what this really means… People go up and down all the time, let him figure this out himself and who knows what can happen in a few months? It can change a lot while at the same time just stay static. It could be the awe of the yomin naarim is beginning to rub off, its pretty hard to ignore Hashem this time of year but that all starts to fade later on…
Dont set any high expactations because then you’re setting yourself upfor disappointment…
Hmmm thats a tough one… Im no expert and i dont know your son but it can be geniune. Alot of times im doing something and my parents/teachers dont know and then they say something like that (a comment on something wrong im doing) and i just want to rub it jn their faced like “oh ya im so bad….well i just stopped soung xyz” it takes a lot to stop myself but i dont really like saying stuff like that since all that matters is that Hashem knows and i usually dont say anything… But i know the feeling and it can very well be sincere.
Just daven it is and try not to make comments like tht (and yeah its hard- even for myself amonsgt friends i have to be careful not to make preachy comments because i know how hard it is to hear them)
WOW- the fact that he told you that is important. A lot of times i feel when i do stuff which are steps in the right direction my parents often dont realize how hard and how amazing it is for me and just keep wanting more. I often feel like Yes i know they care so much about me so they want me to do the best but like they cant see whats going on inside my head and why its a big deal for a teen to stop doing x but maybe shes still struggling with y…so i usually dont tell my parents my newest developments, if its rxternal maybe theyll notice…
SI- i know exactly what you mean. So i stopped talking to guys like fifty times before actually stopping. We fail and we fail and we fail but rabbi yy sed “failing doesnt make you a failure, its failing to try again.”
Your situation with being scared about talking to a rabbi is actually also like mine. I didnt want my parents to know either for the same reason, but if you can hide guys why cant you hide talking to a rav? Thts what i did, i mean now they know but they didnt know for literally three months that i spoke to him.
Rabbis are the best so talk to him! Im begging!!!
The book is called “on the derech” by rabbi yy rubinstein, and its a question answer book, answering basic questions of judaism. “how do we know we are right and theyre wrong” “can God really forgive the worst thing ive done?” “do rabbis ever make mistakes?”
He has another book called “thats life!” which i got after this one and its about how your life is a total of your relationship with Hashem and Yourself and others and he goes through personal and famous short storiees bringing out different aspects of each relationship.
Hi WOW, ive been reading this post all summer and didnt want to comment till i finished.
I am also a teenager and you cannot imagine how painful it is to read your posts just getting more depressing by the week. First i want to say Hashem only gives nisyonos to ppl who can overcome them so that means you can. We dont know His reasoning but He has one, Rabbi YY Rubinstien has an amazing shuir on “Why Ba Things Happen to Good People.”
Second, i consider myself a teen who went off and came back on. No i didnt actually do anything drastic but i feel emotionally i was off the derech and just steps away from actually going off publiclly.
What saved me? I know ppl have said it quite a bit, but an appreciations. It has to come on its own. I never really hated Torah and Yiddishkiet i just didnt really care that much….
What happened? We had a speaker in school, and he was just different. He was hyserical yet inspiring, fun and full of life yet so full of knowledge, and best of all he has a Scottish accent!
I was obsessed and when i got a babysitting oppurtunity at a Shabbaton he was at i ran for it, though i didnnt care much about the speech part. And from there it just kept going up. I spoke to him. I was in another world! Seventh heaven!! And i just wanted to be close with him…so he gave me his email and later his phone numer. I started out with dumb question but then they started getting real.
I bought his book, just to say i did, never intending to read it. And then i did. And i realized the beauty of Torag, and he has anoter book! So i read it!!!! And guess what there are more books like that! And more rabbanim on Torah Anytime!
So from Feb 25 till today ive been climbing this mountain, day by day. It didnt happen overnight. I just finally deleted my non jewish music from my phone last week. Today i installed webchaver on my phone. A couple months ago i stopped talking to te guys.
It took a while but it only happened when i realized how much i love Torah and how beautiful Judaism is. That spark needs to be ignited and theres no way to do it for someone else. It has to come on its own and thats why its so hard for you, just watching this happen with nothing for you to do. I have friends who are really off and u get depressed talking to them. My friend told me she cant talk to me because shes scared to be inspired. See thats the problem, shes not looking for more so she wont get anymore. He has to open up to judaism amd from there it will get better. I get my story is a little weird but for evry peron the connection is different and it will come. From this thread i see how common it is to come back, so i guess he just has to go through this Hashem has His reasons.
I davened on rosh hashana for all our lost souls and hopefully Hashem will answer our tfillos.
If you want a english seder my father my jing by rav pliskin is appropriate because its about connecting to Hashem…avinu malkienu….
We leart in halacha that if its too hard to be mochel someone u shud just wosh that nothing bad will happen to the person due to what they did to you
My friend was saying that watching a live stream online is just ad good and i answered that the whole point of the siyum was to be in the vicinity of thousands of jews all in one place with one common goal! Matan torah there were 600000 jews excpeting the torah, oleh regel all te jews allcame to yirushalayim…its amazing how now in galus we still find a way to join together, chasidim, yeshivish, modern, working, kollel, all in ine place…and why did we join? Because we finished shas! Thats amazing! We stood by har sinia and excepted a torah, and now we reunite three thousand years later to celebrate the continuation of that acceptence. That cannot be captured on a stream online, you have to be sitting in that stadium and all tou see us a black mob of ppl, and all tou hear ate divrieh torah, and evrryone is ubited in song and dance.
If we can accomplish this in galus then i am SOOO excited for moshiach to come and the ENTIRE jewish nation will be united!
Everyone is posting about the siyun hashas now, did you ppl know Miami Boys Choir put out asong and music video called “when the siyum calls”, check it out on youtube!
WIY then you are really missing something! But happens to be he is vry easy to approach so try looking him up…
Btw Rabbi YY Rubinstein was listed in some english magazine as one of top ten ppl to go to for advice, ask him for techniques!
ummm is it just me or does this whole thread make no sense cuz black friday is sorta in novemeber….
i liveo n torahanytime and gmail thats it! best site ever
i nominate rabbi orlofsky hes funnier than any of these comedians and he brings torah into it too!
i post a reg amount not tons but not like never!
we have to remember we are still in galus and this isn’t our home and dont have a right to do watevr pleases us
not sure if you noticed, guys have a chiuv of learning torah and not wasting time while girls don’t.
ok so u sed it wud enhance ur kedushas shabbos syaing that yes there are cars which pass thru so obv though the ppl who live there may be 100% frum there r obv enuf ppl driving thru and closing it off wud be inconvienent for them and we are in gulus and know that we must respect our country and our exilers so closing the streets isn’t doing that
i remember learning clearly it is wrong and eliezer was before maatan torah and on a different level than we are. but for us it is wrong
shkoyach- prob cuz shes a teenager which is y most teens rlly connect so idk if ull find her # online but u shud still try finding sumtin cuz she can still speak in ur skewl
ya i have her email but as u see its not safe to post so idk maybe try google+ing her though idk if she rlly uses it…
from her speeches it seems like she like skiing n hiking n extreme sport type of stuff she rites too (check out her jewish press stories i put one link)ummm she sed her fav color is green n i wudnt no if her shoes always match but that not all that counts! so yentaoftheblock hope this helps but btw i dont think she goes by rebbetzin
idk y but theyre not letting me post her email but ya shes from ny and rlly answrs hashkafa qs rlly well cuz she connects rlly well with young ppl especially being young herself. definatly sum1 to get in touch with! she spoke in MHS today for Rosh CHodesh and i think they liked her..
edited: You never know who is reading this site. Posting phone numbers and emails is not the smartest thing to do. Most people who come here are ehrlich but this is not a private site.- Mod.
lol shticky guy! ttly agree!
NO!!! wat r we racist? if he/she is very syrian then maybe it wud be a lil bit of a cultural shock that may take time ot get used to but i think russains can marry out, syrians can marry out, sfardim, isrealis every! where is our achdus?
gila manolson spoke in my school and told us sick stories about women who got plastic surguries for men. i agree with her, there is no reason a girl should have to go to the extreme of paying a significant amount of money to look a certain way thats broadcasted to us through hollywood! we aren’t that materialistic ot go after photoshopped picutres. are u suggesting breast jobs and stuff like that???!!! b/c i wud seriously vomit if i found out that yeshiva bucharim wud care that the girl is a B and not a perfect 32D! and someone who has a normal nose doesn’t need a fake one! i think a girl should do her eyebrows, wax any facial hair, wear a normal amount of makeup and flattering clothing but if our buchorim (and mother in laws) are basing it on that alone then im sorry some priorites MUST be straightened out!
i think that believing in it 100% is plain avodah zara! yes u can daven to find sumtin but to make it into like the magic words is against evrytin we believe in! its like the rebbe that scares away mice complete shtus! n like putting the rebbe in your baby’s carriage! we do not attribute powers to our rabbanim!
also we did
eretz vs mayim
do chasidish vs litvish
also we did young vs old
my veiw on this is that most teenagers dont know how to make correct dicisions (thats a whole nother topic i can go on forever about but bscly i think that the chinuch nowadays robs kids of teaching them how to think n that leads them to not know how to make good decisions so the second they realize e/t is laid out for them n its actaulyl pointless they dont know that theres a middle path n just go off the derech) which is why for the most part i dont think teenage girls n boys shoudl be texting!
well when i heard her i talked ot her afterwords and i asked some questions and she said oh thats something I was going to discuss in my book. she told me its going to be a book for regular main stream teenagers and discussing some nisyonos they go through. not extreme otd issues more like normal girls, not sure what her title will be but ya i totally agree it will be a bestseller!
i heard her speak over pesach and yes i totally agree a real treasure! Happens to be she started working on a book recently hopefully it will be available soon!
also u dont make a bracha on bathroom lights but u make a bracha on candles and have in mind that u also mean the lights
musicaldignity, shes a fairly new no? and very young good for a teenage audience! she had some stories in the Jewish Press look her up, http://www.jewishpress.com/sections/magazine/teens-twenties/as-a-friend/2012/01/30/
and racheli shaifer
true yitayningwut, also my halacha rebbe said he takes some challah and him and his wife sit near the nayros for a few minutes to be yotzieh
Chevi Garfinkel
Alti Bukalov
Rebbetzin Ruthy Assaf
Rebbetzin SHira Smiles
Mrs. Aviva FIner
i can write on specific topics if you need that still, how would i submit?
a mamin, i didnt mean we should do everything out there b/c thats open minded, but what i meant was if schools taught us how to diffrenciate whats right and wrong on our own instead of setting out the rules for us maybe then we wouldnt be in as muich trouble. about facebook i think schools should lay out the pros(which there are many) and the cons, explain the dangers and stress the lines we draw for ourselves and being self aware. Are most teenagers mature enough? i think if they are taught how to THINK then they can be but the problem is schools aren’t doing that they jsut lay out the rules black and white.
instead of banning it they shud be open minded and teach their girls the pros and cons and raise girls who know their boundries.
why is the fact that theyll find out stuff they mite have not known bout e/o a bad thing? if anything it’s good! ppl r so fake ovr shiduchim but if u watch ppl on thier FB u can see how ppl post and stuff. wen i got an FB i was shocked ot see how many fo my frends use lingo they wud nvr use in person or r frends w/ ppl completly below them or of opposite genders and post pictures of themselves dressed in ways they wud nvr go out in. I would wanna no if my chosson had this whole fake FB life and by seeing how he comments to othr ppls post, da statuses he puts up, the pics he posts and the frends he has!Im proud ot say i dont hoave a sep FB life, evry1 nos me as the same person i am for real n i cannot imagine marrrying sum1 who isnt like that.
this is agenst the whole cc mission statment chofetz chiams’s sole purpose is NO WHITE SHIRTS lol as the Rosh Yeshiva ztl used to say “a branch that seceded from the union” well this one just did!
wat do u need to do? i’ve been published in the jewish press magazine a couple of times, i mainly do short stories? any use?
NU Uh!!!! ik the guy in charge, dov perkal n from wat i c plans for this summer r underway! CAMP STERNBERG ISNT CLOSING!