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rav pliskin has a bunch of books on different things such as zrizus, happiness, anger, etc.
essence of life? try a messilas yesharim…if not read stop surviving start living by rabbi benzoin shafier (thezhmuz)
torahanytime has things split up by topic, try that…
@charlie that mishna also says a lot of other things to do by certain ages and for sure don’t follow those in our education systems
my school is one of the only BY schools i know of which offers electives.
This years are pretty much:
-Engineering
-Robotics
-AP Calculus
-Creative Writing
-Courtroom Law
-AP Bio
-Ap Env’t science
-ASL
-Mesillas Yisharim
-Advanced Computer Graphics
-Public Speaking
-AP Psychology
-Marketing
-Studio Art
-Iyun biMeforshim
-Advanced Chumash
-Photography
-Advanced Jewish History
-Instrumental Music
-AP English
-Track Team
blanking out on more but im a HUGE supporter of Jewish Electives- gives you a chance to learn Torah with people who actually want to!
blanking out on more but usually
has she ever heard of an org called TWIST, Teens Working to Internalize the Study of Torah? (good it and go to their site since i cant post it here) They pair girls up and get them chavrusas (like a teen partners in torah) so they can find her someone who lives near her sorta a home away from home. their partners form unbelievable friendships and really gain from the relationship. also they have events which will give her a jewish atmosphere.
tizku limitzvos wat you’re doing is amazing!!!
Not a mod- maskim 1000% shabbos is transforming! I calculated that in my 17yrs of life i shouldve kept bierech 884 shabbosos yet what made each one special? This past years Shabbosim= THIS SEFER!
And the torah one is sooo beautiful! I learned it Shavuos night with a friend, gorgeous insights on what Torah is and its relationship with us and Hashem…. Rav pincus lived a short but such an accomplishing life!
(Oh and emunah i learn with a friend whose a baalas teshuva and tefilla with another friend. Its not stam)
Rationalfrummie- you wont be sorry listening to me on this lol
Same here. Maybe not the second i text him but i feel like this way it takes less of his time.
Obviously for a real life issue ill call. Sometimes ill text and he’ll say to call….
Ahh your vacation sounds like the life!
I would go with Mesillas Yisharim for mussar too, i learned it maybe four times with different people and still learning it now in a chabura and then doing chazarah with a friend. Each time you read even the same passage depending on your stage in life you gain something else! Its the classic mussar sefer, like thats where you start.
Both Alieh Shur and Nesisvos Sholom are great and i can go on and on about both. Another sefer i would teally reccomend in this category would be any by Rav Pincus. Nefesh Shimshon on Emunah Bitachon, or Tefilla- it will literarly transform your Davening. Or shabbos malkusa which i learn with a teacher- shabbos is something most us of keep all our lives but makes each one special? You cant imagine how much there is to the hashkafa aspect of Shabbos! And if you learn it during the week every time you are mikaim the mitzva of preparing for Shabbos!
And about Emunos ViDayos (by Rav Saadiah Gaon?) i know its not readily abailable in a general sforim store as i looked into buying it last year and couldnt find it. I was explained that nowadays most hashkafa sforim are based off of that so yeah….
And modern day teshuvos sorry im not a guy so cant help you there 🙂
we just had a speech in school on the topic of music by rabbi menachem nissel and he actually believe it or not used to listen to non jewish music. i suggest you talk to him, he gave very practical down to earth advice and reasoning. none of the cliche talk he actually sings well as we all were privy to hear 😉
maskim with aposhayid- hard core CC is in queens or the out of towny places. brooklyn is like the least CC of them all.
but all the statements about a bochur in CC are true, i have 2 brothers there so i know first hand 🙂
shopping- how long did it take you to do that?
what about a girl who has very very close to a 90 average in a school which having an above 90 average means a not normal amount of work (and is known for it so it’s not just my humble opinion)???
tonight, 7:30 in 1589 E 28th, btwn Ave p and Kings Highway
something which i grapple to understand is, how come its the more yeshivish girls who can’t go to college cuz its shtus yet they’re the ones who also marry a learning boy so they have to support…..so then what? you cant get a normal job if you have no degrees so you arew supporting him on….. (i know its called parents supporting them but thats ridiculous!)
also candy is 🙂 yay!
I would stay away from learning about relationships if i was you….if shes young/a teen its likely not going to really go anywhere and its just out of sheer interest and not desire to grow. I would steer away from this topic and maybe offering to learn about women in the torah? A good book would be mirrors of our lives or from sarah to sarah. If she only is interested in this then i agree learn gila manoloson.
For learning about Hashem i would learn some version of Derech Hashem. There are english versions with commentaries and stuff. They writing might seem dry but derech hashem is fasinating and really complex so do it only if shes smart.
May i ask which program this is because I heard of a similar one but they provide these basics for the pairs before the learning begins.
hint for desert and dessert- you want to get out of a desert as fast as possible so just one “s” but you want seconds of dessert so two “s”
I went to nageela and its impossible to explain what an amazing experience it was. There’s also Nageela Midwest and Nageela West.
Theres Eitz Chaim in Moscow and Pinsk in Belarus.
Theres camp Shomayim in Atlanta Georgia.
Ashrienu in Toronto (Mrs. Coffer from Nageela East is headcounselor there 2nd half)
About why someone would want to go to a kiruv camp is because if you believe in the idea of kiruv then why wouldnt you want to dedicate your summer to brightening the lives and making a difference in the lives of jewish kids?
Maybe its cuz a lot of the physical acts we do is not so much for Hashem but for ourselves. Does Hashem need our priase? Does Hashem need to even say anything out loud? No. Its all for us because we need the concrete action to feel the connection.
Rabbi Nissel wrote a girls version which is based off pf Rav Sternbauch and Rabbi Feigenbaum translated it.
If anyone is interested i can post it.
Charata is amazing! B”H you feel guilty. One of the funniest shaylos ive evet asked a Rav is how to do teshuva without feeling bad. Lol, now i feel guilty i used to be such an idiot.
I agree with chaya.esther, Mesillas Yisharim! Or really anything of that sort. I think instead of constantly telling yourself “i wont look at…” “I will stop…” “I wont…” You start by what you WILL do.
Your yetzer hara loves when you say i’ll stop blah cuz most probably you will fall once or twice and then he has a PARTAAAAY! Soo instead whenever you have this urge you say, “i will go and do blah but first i need to learn this whatever.” You have something good you ADD on rather than keep holding back. Like a baby, you cant just take away his toy you give him something to be distracted by….
Real example from my life, i wanted to watch a certain episode of something so i said i would but first i meed to listen to a whole shiur. By the time it was done i didnt have time vuz of HW and the likes.
We learn in Pirkei Avos “Mitzva gorreres mitzvah” one mitzvah leads to another. Stop yourself by just doing not stopping to do.
Look up My One Kosher Hotel its in the Italian Alps. I was there over Pesach and skied. The best skiing in my life!!!!!! In the summer there wont be enough snow to ski but its still stunnnniiinnngg! Spend a few days hiking or something to break up the city seeing. The hotel is very nice, the people who own and run it are really pleasant and accomodating. The food is OUTSTANDING!
Venice is by far a must see! My favorite part of Italy!
Dont go to Spain the people there are terrible. We flew through there and had a stop over. Ewwww. England is a fun place (also lingo convienent and those accents never get boring) but its not in the whole Europe scene….
Definitely go to My One Kosher Hotel, Venice isnt too far from there and then work your way around there 🙂 im jealous!!!!! Can i come?
I read something beautiful on maidelle.com
I hope you all had an enjoyable and meaningful fast and now sit satisfied and full as you think back to your inspiration.
I wanted to share one thing I gained this year.
One girl left. She came back a minute later.
But it got better. At 2:00, the staff put on a cantata. Scene after scene, the staff portrayed the frightening things which happened to the Jews throughout the ages. Sitting among campers, I got chills as I heard gentle weeps from all over. At the end, the camp showed a video about the suffering in Eretz Yisroel today.
And then every girl received a paper person on which each girl wrote a kabbalah she took upon herself.Through teary eyes, I watched as girl after girl came up and handed hers to be hung up.
Here is one I wanted to share with you.
(There was an actual picture.) “to stop being ashamed to be a jew and to grow in judaism. Just be proud.”
Why?
Waaaaiit, the flood was a mashal? See i dont understand this concept. Any thing which seems slightly not realistic is turned into “never happened was only a moshul”
Whete do we draw the line that Matan Torah never happened, yitzias mitzrayim didnt happen….why do we need to say weird things didnt happen?
Rabbi YY Rubinstein quotes R’Alkabitz to say that at Achashverosh’s party all 5 senses except one was apealled to. They had gold chairs=feel, food=taste and smell, beautiful stuff=sight. There were zonahs on hand ready for use. The only thing which wasnt there was music because any music invokes some sort of spirituality.
A little random but speaking of waterfountains…. Mrs. Jackie Bitton says a story about a guy in yeshiva where the students had a culture that when a friend was leaning over the waterfountain they would slap them on the back causing them to spit it all out. One day this guy is walking by and eveyone looks pretty similar from the back in white shirts and he slapped a guy on the back and he screams out in pain and the bochur realizes it was the Rosh Yeshiva! He is waiting for a mussar speech or suspension and felt soooo bad especially since the rebbi had back issues as it was. The Rosh Yeshivah didnt budge and just said, “what is the bochur waiting for. This position is very painful for me but i will stay like this till the bochur is in his classroom.”
The rosh yeshiva never knew who it was untill many years later when he couldnt bear the guilt and came back to yeshivah to tell him.
I guess its a raaya….
Writersoul- we also learned that and it was very interesting! Tri Assar is really fascinating!!!
Levaryeh- i wanted to get in touch with you guys and suggest the idea for AGES:) thanks for reading my mind! Look up the thread avierah song here and see my (grades’s) version of the mitzvah song.
Askin- i completely agree with you. These boys do straighten out and i did mention that in my post. I also said that it depends on the guy you are sending there and of thats what he needs.
Well we can ask questions and challenge but our questions cant be our basis. Like “i dont understand blah and im asking around but yeah i still believe in all this”
One time i wanted to make a kid feel pretty so im like “you are so lucky you are so pretty, you should thank Hashem because not everyone is as lucky!” And shes like “like you!”
Before you go to bed is the best time to keep a chesbon hanefesh.
Mrs. Sara Yoheved Rigler says that you chesbon hanefesh should validate you rather than depress. So she says for every wrong thing you did that day think of 4 good things you did. Yes, even those you are expected to do, still it is a big deal! When there are those things which are black and white wrong look at where this is coming from. Dont beat yourself up about it. Give yourself an alotted charatah time and after that no more! This is a productive way to end your day.
Listen to a shiur. Torahanytime.com has them organized by topic so there would probably be a 3 weeks section on the home page
I know you asked for gedollim but if you have medical shaylos i reccomend reading “the little book for big worries” by rabbi yy rubinstein. He lists many orginazations and people to contact for help in the back of the book.
By the way the book is geared towards the people dealing with a loved one being sick, and not just for the sick person themselves.
Rabbi YY Rubinstein is also very reachable and deals with these type of cases often as he unfortunately lost his wife from cancer and speaks a lot about dealing with suffering etc.
Best of luck and stay strong!
Maskim with writersoul. Dont go to the “country” as the Jews would call it. Go to the “other side of the mountains” to the Hunter/Tannersville area.
If you need a camp site, in the area is North South Lake (its a state park) and you can rent tent space for a couple dollars a nighy. There you’ll have access to TONS of hiking trials of dofferent levels as well as a lake with boat rentals. Kaaterskill falls are gorgeous and a few minutes away from the site but its an easy half hour hike and but worth the breathtaking ??? ???? ???????. Happens to be the tallest waterfall in NY (including Niagra) its just not as powerful.
Another great trip within 15 minutes is Hunter Mountain (great ski resort) which has their lift open on weekends in the summer so you can go up and freak out drom the double black diamonds people (i.e. me) ski on. There are trials at the top of the mountain too.
Tannerville also has a small Kosher Store called Kosher Mountain on main street Route 23A and 4 shuls open during the week!! (Yet we still maintain a bon bungalow colony feel!)
You should really make the trip its really worth it!
Yeah theyre very in this summer
Just a clarification, i never said it was a bad yeshiva, i know giys come out of there really amazing but just doesnt gear to your typical shtark guy. Read through the posts, YITZCHOK2 said it himself, its not frummi frummi just depends on the guy youre sending there.
Fact is i know a lot of girls who talk/date Waterbury guys….
I dont know where you’ve been looking but EVERYONE is wearing white skirts lately.
Not women in general but a grade joke that we sound bad sorry
Hi, i know a couple girls there and they are funand nice girls! Not sure about the staff since I never went there…movies and celeberties ummm you’ll probably get that in any girls school to some extent. I dont think its an out of control problem there but the girls are not all yeshivish, its a very neutral crowd so girls do watch movies, some have TVs at home but i dont think its anything more than another bais yaakov such as Misores, Prospect, Ateres, Manhattan, Machon, Lev Bais Yaakov, shevach… Its not Bais Yaakov of Monsey or Ramapo or Bais Rochel though, not sure if those are your other options.
Correct me if im wrong
Well i know the rebbiem and roshieh yeshiva are incredible but it gears towards a certain crowd. I know that many girls im friends with talk to guys in this yeshiva. Its not a modern yehiva but not an at risk yeshiva. I think its more for the type of guys who cant conform to the typical yeshiva sturcure. They really striaghten them out there though. Good guys are the finished product but it depends why you are switching him in…
Who me?
Well depends on what you nephew needs, and im assuming he is switching schools si ce hes in 11th grade, so what did he lack/ is looking for? That can guide more answers of whether its what you are or arent looking for.
Looking through Jewish History, this is an entirely new phenomenon. It was never such an overwhelmin number of guys who just say around and learned. There would be the shtetl melamed, the rav and there were yeshivos but a concept of kollel, that so many guys do nothing but learn is a new thing. Its beautiful but in any incredible thing there is an equal negative force i guess, “zeh liumas zeh” so the equal yetzer hara maybe is brining in this negative energy?