ujm

Forum Replies Created

Viewing 50 posts - 3,551 through 3,600 (of 4,674 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • in reply to: What do women do in Gan Eden? #2011802
    ujm
    Participant

    Reb Eliezer, the same thing that Yaakov Avinu will do regarding Rochel Imeinu and Leah Imeinu.

    in reply to: What do women do in Gan Eden? #2011801
    ujm
    Participant

    Reb Eliezer, the same thing that Yaakov Avinu will do regarding Rochel Imeinu and Leah Imeinu.

    in reply to: What do women do in Gan Eden? #2011768
    ujm
    Participant

    Philosopher: Do you have a source that the husband and wife relationship is broken in Olam Habo? Because we know that the relationship remains active even after Techiyas Hameisim.

    in reply to: What is the inyan of daf yomi #2011770
    ujm
    Participant

    “that takes no breaks for yom tov, weddings, or clock change.”

    Not necessarily. Many Daf Yomi Shiurim do take breaks for Yom Tov, etc. And catch up afterwards. And some people, individually, take off from the Shiur for chasuna, simchas, work and other family or organizational events.

    in reply to: Out of Town – Chassidish community options? #2011666
    ujm
    Participant

    Other choices:

    Manchester, England

    London, England

    in reply to: Apps for flip phone #2011564
    ujm
    Participant

    The Samsung and Motorola flip phones are fully functional Android smartphones. No different than their regular Android phones.

    in reply to: What do women do in Gan Eden? #2011565
    ujm
    Participant

    Who is gonna cook the food and do the laundry after Moshiach?

    in reply to: Hagbah Fails #2011559
    ujm
    Participant

    Why are people these days too “weak” to fast and instead seek to replace it with tzedaka?

    in reply to: Out of Town – Chassidish community options? #2011557
    ujm
    Participant

    In the entire Chicago their are only three such groceries?

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2011410
    ujm
    Participant

    TLIK: “I wonder the source of your Torah. Firstly, tell me where it says to give petch? It is not included among the 613 Mitzvos, not according to the Rambam, Ramban, Sefer Hachinuch, and Shulchan Aruch does not give any such mitzvah.”

    Is this pasuk missing from your Tanach (Mishlei 13:24)?: חוֹשֵֹ֣ךְ שִׁ֖בְטוֹ שׂוֹנֵ֣א בְנ֑וֹ וְ֜אֹהֲב֗וֹ שִֽׁחֲר֥וֹ מוּסָֽר:

    Is your Shulchan Aruch missing Orach Chayim 551:18? The Shulchan Aruch makes a special point to say not to hit children during “the three weeks” between the 17th of Tammuz and Tisha Bi’Av. This makes clear that parents and teachers, when appropriately hitting the rest of the year, is to be for the purpose of education. The Shulchan Aruch says not to hit like an enemy nor to hit cruelly; the adult should hit the child with a small strap (Yorah Daya 245:10). Pischai Tshuva on this expands further on how to hit a child.

    Ashkenazim do permit hitting a child till the age of twenty two. However several complex issues enter the question after the child is bar/bas mitzva [Yora Daya 240:19-20, Rama, Pischay Tshuva and Birchay Yosef and Rambam Dayos]. Hitting a child over bar/bas mitzva would be a possible option only if it is for the pure sake of chinuch. The parent must make an objective evaluation of the child’s nature. The hitting is not allowed if the child is married.

    in reply to: Apps for flip phone #2011372
    ujm
    Participant

    Many flip phones have a fully functional and unfiltered web browser. As well as numerous other apps that can access any number of sites and services.

    Yes, they must be filtered. And have various inappropriate apps permanently disabled.

    Once that is done, is would be tagged as kosher.

    in reply to: Resilience Without Intolerance #2011370
    ujm
    Participant

    You can generically teach children that other Yidden have varying minhagim on different points in Yiddishkeit. You needn’t get granular by specifying and teaching customs that aren’t your own.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2011096
    ujm
    Participant

    “Then they should have put out a kol korei that all nice shaitels from the last 20 years should be thrown out.”

    Five major poskim issued a psak a few short years ago forbidding any natural-hair sheitlach:

    Rav Chaim Meir Halevi Vosner, Rabbi and Head of the Rabbinical Court, Zichron Meir

    Rav Sariel Rosenberg, Rabbi and Chief Rabbinical Justice, Bnei Brak

    Rav Yehuda Sillman, Rabbi and Head of the Rabbinical Court, Bnei Brak

    Rav Shimon Baadani, member of the Moetzet Chachmei HaTorah

    Rav Moshe Mordechai Karp, Dayan and Posek, Southern Hill, Modiin

    in reply to: Cross Currents #2011365
    ujm
    Participant

    K-cup: They claim to be that; but they are far from it. They promote liberal religious ideas under a so-called chareidi or right cover. They repackage MO talking points in more palatable language.

    As they say, don’t judge a book by its “cover”.

    in reply to: Australia #2011341
    ujm
    Participant

    YO: I know, right? Just like those nasty Jews broke Greek law in the Chanuka story when they learnt Torah against the law. And those nasty Soviet Jews broke the law by having secret synagogues in contravention to the law. Just like those nasty Australian Jews.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2011311
    ujm
    Participant

    AAQ, your story about the Chazon Ish isn’t factual. The Chazon Ish had the opposite approach. To clearly illustrate this allow me please to share with your a verified and sourced story of the Chazon Ish:

    A Yeshiva student from England refused to shake hands with his step-mother when greeting her. His father was extremely upset with his refusal. He demanded his son display “derech eretz” towards his step-mother and shake her hand. The son refused stating he was taught it was impermissable with a non close blood relative. This affected the fathers relationship with the son. Some family members told the son to give in al sholom bayis. The son asked a shaila from the Chazon Ish. The Chazon Ish responded with a short and sharp answer – “Chok V’lo Yaavor, Issur Gamur” (It is a prohibition that one dare not violate; It is absolutely forbidden,) Violating this halacha was out of the question despite sholom bayis and kibud av. (Oz Vehadar, p. 494).

    in reply to: Resilience Without Intolerance #2011212
    ujm
    Participant

    Learning about customs, minhagim, hashkafos and/or mesoras other than one’s own is not something properly taught to children, for the many risks you outlined in your OP. As such, such education and becoming familiar with others practices is appropriately left to be learnt once a person is older.

    in reply to: Australia #2011131
    ujm
    Participant

    Esav Soneh L’Yaakov.

    Why is that so hard (for some) to understand?

    in reply to: Cross Currents #2011124
    ujm
    Participant

    It’s run by two liberal Orthodox Jews. One is more religiously leftist than the other. But don’t tell them this. They like to pretend they’re on the right.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2011094
    ujm
    Participant

    The Sefer HaChinuch (Mitzvah 552) writes that, while according to Halacha Kiddushin can be performed with any marginally valuable item, the custom is to utilize a ring. The reason he gives is that it serves as a “constant reminder” to her status.

    All the moreso a sheital or hair covering, which is halachicly obligated and thus expected to be found on a married woman’s head must be noticable.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2011087
    ujm
    Participant

    GHadora: The requirements that the knees be covered at all times in public, whether when walking, bending, going up/down stairs, in/out of a car or when the wind is blowing, isn’t anyone’s “vision of Tznius”; it is an absolute obligation.

    in reply to: chinuch and discipline nowadays #2010941
    ujm
    Participant

    My Torah says to give petch. My Shulchan Aruch paskens to give petch. Both are bfeirush.

    Does anyone have a different Torah or Shulchan Aruch??

    in reply to: Yiddishkeit Issues #2010924
    ujm
    Participant

    Rabbi Wallerstein.

    in reply to: Resilience Without Intolerance #2010921
    ujm
    Participant

    Avira, off topic, how and when did you learn Yiddish?

    in reply to: Android phones with qwerty keyboards #2010920
    ujm
    Participant

    RebDovid, it isn’t 2011 anymore.

    in reply to: Bagels in Middletown NY? #2010907
    ujm
    Participant

    Whadya expect when you’re living in the boondoggles?

    in reply to: Real data: mortality of vaccinated vs non vaxed #2010752
    ujm
    Participant

    WB Dr. Hall, for your biannual visit.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2010420
    ujm
    Participant

    Chacham Ovadia Yosef zt’l also advised certain Yeshivos not to accept families where the mother wears trousers.

    As far as a skirt bring an identifying attire of Jewish women, a short skirt (specifically) is no more Jewishly identifying than trousers are.

    The Yabia Omer you cited appears to agree with my premise regarding trousers versus short skirts.

    in reply to: All Wife's Money & Properties Belong to Husband #2010343
    ujm
    Participant

    Mods, please move this thread to DECAFFEINATED. TY

     אם פגע בך מנוול זה משכהו לבית המדרש

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2010342
    ujm
    Participant

    Avira, it is brought down in Maaseh Ish. Years ago I posted the volume and page number on a thread on this site, but I can’t locate it at the moment.

    in reply to: All Wife's Money & Properties Belong to Husband #2010283
    ujm
    Participant

    The Halacha is that a married woman may give a small amount of her husband’s money to Tzedaka without his knowledge. We can assume that the husband allows her to do so. The size of this donation depends on the financial standing of the household.

    However, if the husband specifically said that he does not want her to make any donations, then she can’t give any money to Tzedaka. (Shulchan Aruch 248:4)

    Aruch Hashulchan (YD 248: 11, 13) rules that in a society where Bais Din is unable to compel people to give an appropriate amount of Tzedaka, a wife (of someone who gives less than halachicly required) is permitted to be the one to force her husband to give by doing so without his knowledge. However, Aruch Hashulchan emphasizes that this can only be done based on the directive of the local Rav, who determines that according to this person’s wealth we would force him to donate this amount.

    Shevet Halevi (Vol.5 132:7) disagrees with this ruling. He references the Halacha (YD 148:1) that even when Bais Din forces a person to give Tzedaka, they may only take his property in his presence, with his knowledge. Surely the wife, even if she is acting on the directive of the Rav, has no more authority than Bais Din.

    in reply to: All Wife's Money & Properties Belong to Husband #2010282
    ujm
    Participant

    The Halacha is that a man is obligated to support his wife financially. In exchange, Chazal decreed that whatever money the woman earns belongs to her husband. (However a woman has the option to waive her right to be supported by her husband, in which case she retains whatever she earns.) The question is if the husband does not actually support her, does he nonetheless acquire his wife’s earnings?

    The Chazon Ish (EH 70:6) rules that even if the husband supported his wife only at the very beginning of the marriage, he still retains ownership of all her subsequent income. Since he was providing for her when she earned her first paycheck, he acquired that paycheck. When he uses that money to support her, he has provided her needs with his own money. That entitles him to acquire the next paycheck. This cycle repeats itself, causing the husband to perpetually acquire his wife’s income.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2010288
    ujm
    Participant

    To understand the severity, the Chazon Ish went so far as to declare that he was convinced that if at the time of the Sanhedrin a woman would have appeared in public in pants, she would have been brought to Beis Din and executed for behaving with gross indecency.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2010223
    ujm
    Participant

    Avira, I find it difficult to see any Godol B’Yisroel giving a public response to which is worse in such a tradeoff. That would be akin to paskening whether it’s worse to eat a McDonald’s cheeseburger or chazir mamish. I could say that if someone IS going to do one or the other, and there’s no way to stop them, the cheeseburger is less worse. But a posek can’t make such a public ruling, even if it’s true, because it might give license to the uninitiated to think that somehow a cheeseburger isn’t so treif.

    Same with short skirts versus pants.

    I think your secondary argument that this proposition wouldn’t be that much gain is very very shvach. ANY quantity reduction in the extent of the problem has a huge impact on lessening the issue for the victims. Just because the terrible issue isn’t entirely alleviated doesn’t dispute that any improvement will be keenly felt.

    Your opening argument has merit. Not to necessarily agree that it is persuasive over my argument, but it certainly is a point that needs to be considered. But even if society or segments thereof went with your shitta, in principle short skirts are more pritzusdik than pants, in my view.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2010140
    ujm
    Participant

    Clearly wearing a short skirt is even worse than wearing pants. Those with skirts that don’t cover the knees (even when sitting, bending, in a car, etc.) would be better off wearing a pair of pants.

    in reply to: NYC Chol HaMoed Trip Warning #2009833
    ujm
    Participant

    What attractions require proof of vaccination and which do not?

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2009786
    ujm
    Participant

    To add to AviraDeArah and Philosopher’s points:

    Would you find it objectionable if women critiqued a behavior of certain groups of men who were acting incorrectly in public? Such as, say, if some men made a habit of walking barechested past your house everyday on their way to the pool. You wouldn’t object if a woman started a thread here (or a conversation on the lawn in the bungalow colony or at a shul kiddush or at a community gathering) complaining of such unkempt and improper behavior.

    How much moreso when severe halachos (discussed above in this thread) are being violated by the perpetrators themselves — as well as causing thousands of more innocent bystanders to unwillingly violate halachos themselves by even inadvertently seeing them. לִפְנֵי עִוֵּר

    Nor do I think you’d object if a woman complained about the men’s sports team being too wild or noisy in the neighborhood. Or a woman complaining about some Kollel guys loafing in the street rather than learning in the Beis Medrash.

    Furthermore, as everyone knows and surely often heard, rabbonim can and often do directly discuss this (and related) issue of women’s tznius from the pulpit. And at Shiurim, drashos and mussar schmoozes for men (as well as for women.) And the last I checked most Orthodox rabbonim, other than those affiliated with Avi Weiss, are men.

    Finally, and perhaps most importantly, Halacha itself (see the Gemora, Shulchan Aruch, Rambam, sh”ut, and the Seforim Hakedoshim throughout the ages) clearly and unambiguously state and stress that the obligation and imperative to enforcing and insuring compliance with Hilchos Tznius are the direct responsibility of every husband and father regarding their wives and daughters. He is halachicly required and deputized to insure its compliance.

    The previous points made by AviraDeArah and Philosopher are just as important and are in addition to what I just added.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009766
    ujm
    Participant

    “Then they should have put out a kol korei that all nice shaitels from the last 20 years should be thrown out.”

    You should address your criticism of these Gedolei Poskim to them, rather than to the public.

    in reply to: No apology yet from Bennet on Uman Libel #2009739
    ujm
    Participant

    Why would it be “chas v’shalom”? There’s nothing wrong likening one mitzvah to another mitzvah.

    in reply to: Short Skirts #2009697
    ujm
    Participant

    Ironically, before marriage they excuse their behavior with that they need to dress like that for shidduchim. After marriage they excuse their behavior with that they need to dress like that for their husband.

    While in Bais Yaakov I don’t think you’ll find much of this problem. It often starts (among those with this problem) after graduation.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009660
    ujm
    Participant

    “But the poskim who are assering now didn’t asser 10-15 years ago!!”

    Oh, yes, they did.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009594
    ujm
    Participant

    DY, do you imagine that the poskim you’re claiming would be mattir a shaitel where the length of the hair reach her ankles?

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009538
    ujm
    Participant

    “Okay. That has nothing to do with whether lace shaitels are assur.”

    Sure it does. A person can be completely untzniusdik even if technically any single aspect of their attire isn’t a direct written violation. Same with lace. In addition to whatever other halachic objections there are, it’s also untzniusdik based on the presentation alone, even absent other written objections.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009518
    ujm
    Participant

    Philosopher, Yasher Koach. You’re able to express the point much better than myself.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009452
    ujm
    Participant

    “A married woman with the appearance of being bareheaded is just as inherently untznius as that other appearance.”

    A married woman actually going in public bareheaded is untznius, as I’m sure you’d agree. As such, the comparison is spot on, since her appearing as bareheaded is comparable to her appearing in that full body dress/suit.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009444
    ujm
    Participant

    “Silly comparison, because that appearance is inherently untznius, whereas uncovered hair isn’t”

    A married woman with the appearance of being bareheaded is just as inherently untznius as that other appearance.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009445
    ujm
    Participant

    DY, why can you not name any contemporary (choshuve) poskim that specifically discuss lace, and are mattir?

    in reply to: No apology yet from Bennet on Uman Libel #2009438
    ujm
    Participant

    Zionists never apologize for their multitude of crimes against the Jewish people over the last 100 years.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009383
    ujm
    Participant

    Additionally, DY, you’re grossly misapplying Rav Moshe in a manner Rav Moshe never indicated, implied or said. Rav Moshe mattired a wig that looks like real hair or even is actually using real hair (as opposed to synthetic hair, which was what must sheitels used then.)

    But Rav Moshe in no shape, manner or form implied, indicated or stated that a wig that doesn’t look like the person is wearing any head covering, and rather appears bareheaded, is permissible. That is a completely different creation/metzius/product than the natural hair wig Rav Moshe ruled upon. The wigs he is referring to can be seen as a wig, not appearing as bareheaded, by the public.

    in reply to: The Lace Sheitel thread #2009222
    ujm
    Participant

    Whoever’s contemporarily mattir lace wigs (who are thus far unnamed, for some reason), how would their logic to be mattir give them any room to assur a full body dress/suit that makes the wearer look naked (even though they’re actually covered)?

    Or would they actually be mattir??

Viewing 50 posts - 3,551 through 3,600 (of 4,674 total)