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I lived in Dh?rmasala, India In 1975 and 1976 and would go to his
palace and would go to classes with the D.L.’s teacher. Those days it was not difficult to speak through an interpreter to the
D.L. since he didn’t know English at that time.
I practiced Buddhism for many years until I returned to Judaism.
The D.L. is not a Tzadik, most of the converts to Buddhism are Jews. There must be Hundreds if not thousands who are disciples of the D.L.
Buddhism is Avoda Zohar without any doubt. They don’t believe in
creation or G-d. They believe that matter can not be created or destroyed, only transformed.
May I ask what is your interest in the D.L. and what he said to
Jewish people.
Just say I don’t feel comfortable in going out!
Its not always necessary to give a reason.
It could be inviting a single person might make the spouse feel uncomptable especially if they are shown attention by the other spouse.
I was once invited by a young couple whose small children were asleep and we all felt uncomptable.
Best to have another guest there also
Consider dating again when the anger and bitterness leave you, otherwise it will resuface in the second marriage again and again.
I learned in the RSA in Israel for almost 20 years and can testify that the Yeshiva nor staff encourage the students to go to college.
It is the parents that push their children to get a degree and the Yeshiva only allows in special cases to take a couple of evenings off of Torah learning, otherwise the parents will insist on them going to college full time.
The Yeshiva is an exellent place for students to develop their skills in learning and character development (Midos)
Too many people are looking over their shoulder at what their family or friends will say about a shidduch. Instead they should be thinking is this person a good person or are they good for me or will they be a good parent.
Unfortunitely we live in a society where status and prestige comes before real values.The education system should be teaching what marriage and parenting is really about and how to approach shidduchim.
GREAT
LOOKING FORWARD TO A BLESSFUL AND MEANINGFUL YEAR
Parents MUST be very PROACTIVE in this whole process and not be laid back saying HaShem will help!!!!!
I heard that there is a Midrash that says:
Before a person is born the Malachim suggest to HaShem different matches for each person and HaShem rejects each one until they suggest the correct Beshert.
Since Malachim are so Holy and their words so pure, we have to go out on a Shidduch with each name suggested until the one that Hashem agreed to. So each time we go out brings us closer to our really true intended partner in life.
All though it might be permitted halacally to eat food if the bugs cant be seen, it still causes “mitumum halav”
That is one reason why after the golden age in spain that produced so many gedolim, since Jews after the expolsion went to Africa and other hoter climates were affected spiritually because the food was more infected with bugs that were not always visible to the naked eye.
This way one reason given why that golden era ended.
You said you love your wife and your friends have the same problem.
Who said you wont have the SAME problem with another wife!! Or that you will love her as you love your current wife. If you feel your situation is bad, a divorce is so very much worse and it doesn’t ever end if children are invovled. Its like going from the frying pan into the fire unless if the spouse is abusive which does not seen to be your case.
Maybe HaShem is telling you and your friends to spend more time learning Torah outside your house. Also I suggest that besides giving your children prime time give the same to your wife. Take her out every Rosh Hodash alone just you and her.
Sometimes nagging is another way of saying TALK TO ME or GIVE ME ATTENTION or ACKNOWLEDGE ME or RESPECT ME!!!!
I suggest that you read “The Garden of Peace” (the men’s edition )by Rav Shalom Arush. There is also a Women;s edition.
These books have saved many marriages and prevented broken homes.
A seculasr Jew once asked a religious person “what would be the very last thing you would give up about Judaism if you had to” (G-d forgive).
The person answered without thinking twice: Shabbos. The secular Jew was shocked to hear this and when asked why he was so shocked answered: Shabbos is the first reason why I don’t think I can be religious. To make a long story short- that person started to become religious after hearing the answer to their question.
The LDS Genealogy center was created in order to baptize people posthumously. They do this to all people of any religion all over the world. The major Jewish organizations objected to them about this and they said they would stop. However they continued to do this as far as I know.
Years ago Rav Chaim Pincus Scheinberg said it was forbidden to have anything to do with them. Currently I don’t know if he still holds this view as things might have changed.
This organization spends hundred od millions of dollars to translate and glean information from birth, death and marriage records all over the world. The only reason that they continue to do this is for their religious reasons.
I am a Genealogist and know that these records would be helpful in my research but don’t use them because I have not found any Rav who would approve of this.
Today with the internet there are so many ways to get this information that they can be avoided completely
I am sorry to disagree, in Israel where I live there are plenty of good religious men from 40 years old and up who are either divorced, widowed or bal t’shuvah.
The problem started as a age problem but becomes a “flexible problem” and where peolpe are boxing themselves in and not willing to settle for less in order to have children and a Jewish life.
I think there should be seminars organized by Gedolim to have Rabbi’s and professional people give guidance to this group.
Many people have a non Jewish view on what marriage is and how to approach shiduchim, even those who have gone through good Orthodox schools and Yeshiva’s.
Being involved in shiduchim many years I have seen many potential matches broken by petty reasons. Many people are looking over their shoulders thinking what others will say and not thinking is this person good for me or would they be a good parent or spouse
Many people in this group feel disenfranchized, lets invite them for Shabbos and Yom Tovim, lets make list of the singles that we know and get together once a month with a group of friends and relatives and read our lists to see if there are any possiblities, lets befriend them in any way we can.
Let us all wake up to this serious problem and solve it by getting involved in any way we can.
These girls should consider moving to Israel where there are many Men 30 years and older that are looking for their zivug.
Many of these fine religious men did not get married because their families could not afford 1/2 the price of an apartment as is the custom is here.
There are also many very fine religious English speaking B.T., divorced and widowed men here as well for woman of all ages, or levels of observance or Groups (Litvish, Chasidic or Sefardic)
It is not neccessary for any Jewish religious girl or women of any age or background to remain single if they are willing to expand their options and not box themselves in.
Mishanah hamakom, mishanah HaMAZAL.
Years ago I made a shidduch. They both said that I was right on the mark in arranging them to meet. After they got married I very nicely asked for payment. The woman paid me half and the man said he did not have to pay because I was a friend even though I was more of a aquaintence than a friend. The result was I only got paid 1/4 of the going rate and guess what? They got divorced before the year was over!
Another time I made a shidduch and was not even invited to the Vort. Quess what they never got married!
I wonder how many people have shalom bayis problems or get divorced or dont have children because of not paying the Shaddchan.
After many years of lots of time and money trying to help set people up I stopped not only for not getting paid but for not being appreciated and sometimes even being avoided when our paths crossed.
A Chinese worker at a Frum wedding was heard saying while staring at middle aged and older Jewish married womem: “Jewish ladies SO BEAUTIFUL”
A Jewish married woman should make herself beautiful to her husband and not attract the attention of other men especially non Jewish ones by looking like movie stars with Non Jewish looking sheitels, clothing and makeup.
Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference between the unmarried girls and the grandmothers.
Many parent’s ask for a reduction in their children’s tuition and at the same time spend a fortune just to look Beautiful. Lets get our priorities right!
We should look like a Am Kaddosh and not the opposite!!
My relative was smart enought to judge her husband by what he currently was and not that he was asked to leave every school he attended. He was what was called a troubled kid by teachers. The truth was that he was bored in school and needed a more stimulating enviroment and inspiration.
Today he learns all day in a well known Kollel and teaches Germora to a class at night.
make sure she does not travel on friday, sometimes there are delays and people are stranded because of shabbos. she should have a contact in italy just in case ex. chabad
she should not shop or go sight seeing at airport, but go directly to her next flight. sometimes due to delays there is not a lot of time between flights. Ask only the airline staff on the plane what to do to get to her flight and which terminal it is in. She should not ask non staff personnel since they dont understand english well or will give the wrong information
just ask that her luggage to checked through all the way to israel and make sure she gets her luggage tickets and put it in a safe place
check online or by phone the luggage number allowed and weight and size for both checked in and carry on luggage, over weight luggage can be a big expense
also make sure she has kosher food ordered and then confirm it at least 36 hours before. i advise she takes some sandwitches and fruit etc. just in case they did not provide or that there is a delay in connecting flights
best if someone is meeting her at the israel airport. if not Nesher shared taxi right outside the terminal door is the best way to jerusalem. she should have israel currency if possible or us currency- one 10 bill and a 5 bill and 5 singles. she should ask the dispatcher what the cost is and not to pay extra for 2 pieces of luggage and carry on
you might want to order a cell phone online to be picked up at the arrival terminal
make she she knows NOT TO HITCH RIDES EVEN FROM JEWS AND STAY AWAY FROM ARAB AREAS.
not all restuarants are kosher or meet your standard. you should be able to print out the symbols online
Why would a married woman want to look like a unmarried teenager by wearing a ponytail sheitel, bobby socks (even over flesh colored tights), sneakers or demin skirts? PLEASE EXPLAIN!
If you ask the owner he will most likely say “business is business” as I have heard so often recently.
It is the same problem with hip hugger skirts when they lean forward their epidermis shows.
Every parent should have a Mussar or Chasidos sefer on the Shabbos table and learn something from it each meal with the family.
Teaching midos and honesty is our prime responsibity as parents.
This also applies towards non Jews because of Hilu HaShem and so that we don’t train our souls to sin. Hilu HaShem is one of the worst sins and there is no atonement for it.
We are role models to our family and they learn by our actions, the way we talk and interact with other people, Jews as well as non Jews.
We must realize that DISHONESTY will not bring any blessing to ourselves, our children and family.
Lets do Kiddish HaShem by being a light to the nations by our interactions with them. There is no greater Mitvah than this and the opposite has no greater sin!
Just say I am sorry but my doctor advised against shaking hands in order not to spread our germs. This hold true especially in the winter time or when the Flu season starts which is earlier than the start of winter and lasts longer.
Being a business person sometimes I get into a situation where a woman reaches out to shake my hand, so I hold a tissue in my hand at this possiblity and say excuse me my hand is not so clean and show the tissue. Which is true since no ones hand is 100% clean.
Barauch Hashem 2 less single people to worry about getting married!!!!!!
WHEN YOUR CREDIT CARD SENDS YOU AN ALERT FOR OVER ACTIVITY FOR STARBUCKS AND DUNKING DONUNUTS.
Yaakov Avinu wanted to marry only Rachael and not Leah. He was tricked and complained to Lavan who agreed that after working 7 more days he can marry Rachel on condition that he would work for her for 7 more years.
The Holy Torah then tell us that “he loved Rachel EVEN MORE than Leah”. See Bereishis 30 verse 30.
Why did the Torah have to tell us this fact?
It seems that it is telling us that being married to a woman for only a week whom he didn’t love or want as a wife changed after being married into LOVE. When the Torah says love it means real love. The holy aspect of marriage has a very definite affect on us.
There only is only a small market for this in the frum world. No one else would need one since any table lamp will do.
I just love when Gefilite fish is sliced into flat round paddies and baked in an oven together with a tasty spaghetti tomato sauce on top. This is served hot or cold without any other additions.
What is his or her’s and parent’s social security numbers and do a background check on them.
YOU NEVER KNOW THE AMES UNLESS YOU DO THIS!
A relative found out after marriage that his frum wife was in jail. She kept it a big secret amongst other things.
A woman can start dating if she feels ready right after she receives her Get, However she can’t remarry until three FULL Hebrew months have passed. This is Based on the Gemora inorder to know if she gives birth at the end of the 7 month, we would not know if the father was from the 1st or 2nd husband therefore the 3 month waiting period eliminates this doubt.
A man can get married right after he gives the Get to a woman who has never been married or one who was divorced and the above 3 months has passed.
May all of us in this situation no matter what their age, have the faith, courage and strenght to find their real true partner in life.
Anyone who helps in this matter will surely be blessed with Shalom Bais for themselves and children.
Only if they were connected in passed lives and are now reconnecting
After 2 people marry they still have 2 separate souls.
Children’s souls are connected to each of the parent’s souls at birth thru their spiritual genes. Then thru the children spiritual connection to their parents the parent’s individual souls become spiritually connected. The same process occurs between siblings.
The Kinar is on the eastern side if Lake Kanerek about 20 minute ride by car or taxi from the center of Teveria. In the winter make sure that there is a Minyan if you need one
Try to stick to bigger B/T cities that have a community that is concentrated in one area not so spread out.
Miami Beach which has a frum area but I would not recomend it to B/T or not B/T. Same with North Miami Beach because of shiduchim. However Boca Rattan has a very active B/T community and is a safe place to live even though jobs are hard to find.
Monsey is a great choice since it has a B/T yeshiva- Ohr Samaeach and is close to NYC for work. Same with Passaic NJ.
It also depends where you feel you can fit into. Teaneack NJ, and the upper West Side of Mahattan are good for the Modern Othodox crowd
The Pico Robertson area of LA has a nice B/T community but you are limited to shaduchim on the west coast.
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The Rimon is a lovely clean place. But I dont know who gives the Kosher certification. Shuls are a 20 minute walk and on a rainy day it can be difficult.
The Ron hotel is also nice and has Glatt kosher food
The newer part of the Tel Aviv Hotel is clean and might have Sabbath food in the winter.
The Merkas is clean and should have kosher food
Ascent is a Hammish very clean and affordable hostel with family rooms without food.
There is a take out food place called Mendies which I am told has good food. Also the is a lovely Sabbath small family restaurant called the Eshell which I highy recommmend for its good food and ambiance, right in the center of the religious area.
Warning Safed is a lovely city except when it is raining. Check the weather at:
Click Safed and the 3 day forcast
If you remove the top part of the lamp and put a generious coating of Vaseline on the bottom rim of the top piece it should turn more easily. This should decrease the friction which causes the bottom to move.
Check with your Rav before doing this since there might be some Halacha reason why this was not done by the manufactor.
Anon
For sure couples bond together and love one another more each day by building a Jewish home with or without children.
The non Jews have a song that goes like this:
FIRST comes love, THEN comes marriage, Then comes Mary with the baby carriage.
Jews say first comes MARRIAGE, the comes the BABY CARRIAGE, then comes the LOVE.
Children and building a Jewish home cements the couple and is the basis for REAL LOVE
A Mishna states that a woman has grounds for divorce if her husband takes a job as a flax worker. The reason given is because of the smell from his job.
The same should apply to someone married to a smoker since the smell is revolting, its on their hair, skin and clothes not to mention that second hand smoke is a danger to their wives and children.
How inconsiderate a person must be to expose his wife and children to all this.