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eclipse: I have no clue who you are outside of the coffee room. Which other threads are you referring to?
Shrek:
Please don’t dump all people who came closer to Torah later in life in one bin. Each individual is very different.
If you have long term anxiety, like OCD, you should be on meds.
So, are we going to get a group of 10 engaged couples, or singles, and have them to be the first to buck the trend. Start a new one. The reality is, a smaller wedding can be so much more meaningful. And certainly, less jealousy and aiy hora.
The kabbolas ponim can still be a big thing, without food, or there can a larger dance, either in a separate hall. But the wedding can be a small, very nice and warm occasion. The way most of our great grandparents got married, for many generations. And thankfully, those weddings produced us!
anon1m0us:
You’re entitled to start your own thread. But why come in here to sour the mood???
Smart decision
my old neighbors(rememebr the loud and obnoxious ones?).. brought over.. a nice big apology!
Despite my critique, I’m happy it worked out, yogibooboo
But I wont pay a cent to those who put the pritzus up.
And they’re going to need it the most, where it really counts, up in shomayim!
PBA: You had me LOL
Derech HaMelech:
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The halocha is one may not eat Matzah erev Pesach, in order for the Matzah to be special when doing the Mitzvah. In the spirit of this halocha, some people have a minhag not to eat Matzah two weeks before Pesach, or four weeks before.
I’m sorry you were hurt.
I don’t think it’s a god idea, since they can’t appologize or excuse themselves
Sorry to hear that shimmel, very sorry. May you, as well as all the other CR’s who are seeking their shidduch, find it very very soon!
To do everything Hashem wants me to do
yitayningwut:
To answer yout question on RCK: The Yerushalmi Kesubos, 5-6, says that Shmuel rememberd his midwife and Rav Yochonon rememberd his Mohel. These were Amoroim. Certanly Tanoim were even greator. Current babies cannot be compaired to them. (Also, could be the BM makes a difference as opposed to a tape)
anon: Why not leave this a thread with only posotive?
Health: Each poster has to decide if they’ve been discovered. It may not be the rule, but once you’ve been discoverd, hilchos L”H does apply. Probably worse, since more people. Less since it’s writing
DH: Yes, several times
OC: Well, let theirBitachon pay for their house.
Question is, what came first? Did tiredness/lack of sleep come first? If so, expect a tired and lackluster day. Just try to do what you have to, and know that once you sleep you can exxpext to feel good and fulfilled. Not prior to that
I don’t think it’s a self sufficiant issue as much as it’s a “keeping up with the Jones” issue. If we need what others have, how can we ever be satisfied?
I do think there are pleanty of Lakewooders who are mistapek bemuat, and make due with very little.
Years ago, somone wanted to give Rav Chaim Kaniyevsky an apartment, so he and his little kids may move out of his two bedroom apartment. He refuesd to accept. So the good-hearted Yid went to RCK’s mother to have her convince him. She refused. Her reasoning: RCK living in a small apt is mechazek all those who can’t afford bigger.. How can she take that from them?
Sacrilege:
With all due respect, I’d llikee to disagree with one thing you wrote, if I may. Although this forum is generally anonymous, it is not always the case. Certain posters end up revealing lots of info about themselves, and have people recognize them.
If you would be from her neighborhood, my guess is, you’d know exactly who they are . So SC’s point has a place. But, s2021 didn’t go into details, probably for this reason. And she deserves credit.
BTW, it’s quite impressive that you’re able to put in long workdays and stil manage to run a machsom program. It’s inspiring
but why do you think it is more ?????? that the bad ??? is coming from the tune than from the words?
I’ve explained that clearly.
so of course, no, one is not mechuyav to heed their advice. That’s why it is called advice, and not halacha.
Have the indecent exposure laws been changed, or they’re simply ignored?
I wonder what Charlie hall and the other defenders of the advertisers would say to an advertisement about Iran.
“Come move to our great country where women are ___ for not dressing properly, and children are ___ for disrespecting”
This nice ad will then be accompanied with a gallows and some other graphic imagery. How would you feel then?
popa_bar_abba:
Not that you need me to agree, but I think you’re correct.
I think that people whom we are supposed to stand up for, are supposed to seek to walk the route which will have the least amount of people standing up for them. Meaning, we are supposed to seek the least amount of honor..
aries2756:
And go even one step further, ask your RAV who was right and who was wrong. I would be very interested to hear what he says, seriously.
You made a great suggestion. How about you ask your rav, and let us know what he says.
Or does this advice only pertain to others, not ourselves?
Also, sometimes, when we capitalize words, it seems as if we are screaming. It gives off a very aggressive tone.
smartcookie: You’re not the only one. She was dragged into this though. But, you’re right.
Looks like I missed a lot of action here while catching up on some shut-eye.
s2021: I understand you. You care a lot about your cousins, and its hurtful to see them all chummy chum with a guy they know was a part of the most painful time in your life. It is hurtful.
Once it gets to a certain point, it may be that younger sibling may not wait, as they must do their responsibility..
Hey, this is supposed to be a support group thread, not a set-you-straight thread. As long as identities are protected, I should let it be
Now we get to delicious juicy parts…
zugt Lovon, “Lo na’aseh kein b’mikoimeinu”.
So it depends on whether your minhagim shtam from Lovon.
truth be told; It’s Power “Steering”.
Thanks for the correction. During the day, I often post too quickly and do not check my spelling, or even reread my posts. I should though
so for all I know pshat in the Shlah and the Shaar Hatziyon is that such songs likely contain messages in the lyrics which could be damaging.
Additionally, the MB says specifically, that love songs are assur anyhow.. Which strongly implies that its the tune that is damaging.
If you’d like to suggest people not heed the Chofetz Chaim’s and the Shelo’s advice, which they say will create a bad nature within [even] a baby, fine. But please be upfont about it.
observanteen: I’m not defending abusers, not at all! I was responding to a previous poster who felt that those who abuse [etc] are doing it out of a choice to be evil. His claim was, shrinks wont help them.
They are responsible for their behavior, but they may not be doing it with what they view as “evil intent”. They need to be helped. But, there is no excuse at all to hurt other people.
The Mishne Beurah in Shaar Hatziun (560 note 25) quotes the Shelo who says mothers should not sing their baby to sleep with non-Jewish lullabies since it creates a bad nature in the child
mw13
We are debating whether one is responsible for their own evilness, or whether it is caused by outside factors.
“Iuv (????) tried to exempt all the reshoim from being punished. What was he thinking?”
I do not know. But what bearing does this have on our discussion?
See below
We all have the ability to become a Godly saint, and we all have it within ourselves to become a monster. It’s just a question of who we choose to become.
Well here is the Gemora: ?”? ??
??? ???, ??? ???? ????? ?? ?? ????? ???? ?? ????. ??? ?????
????? ?? ????, ???? ??? ??????? ??????, ???? ???? ??????? ??????. ???? ?? ???, ???? ?????.
???? ??????, ???? ?????. ?? ???? ?? ????
so yes, at the end of the day we all can become a tzadik, or a rosha, its not an equal choice.
Dovid was born with a red/killing mazal. He had a much harder battle, so he was treated differently.
Studies indicate that the people whose bad situations bring out abuse etc, may be genetic.
So yes, someone who sees they have a certain tendency for abusive (or other) behaviors, can seek the help of a psychologist to overcome their emotional challenges in order not to become that rosha.
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PBA
Daas Yachid
eclips, please consider this thread. Why the name change?
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/open-warning
We should all remember ZK’s warning.
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/open-warning
Most BTs do not blend perfectly into the FFB world. Their backgrounds are different, and it shows.
In my limited experience, its not always the case. Either way, she’s not going to hide her in-laws are.
Can you drive without power stearing?
If it’s something you need a date in order to determine, why is it mean? If aperson needs to get their thoughts together, and that’s where the 10% is coming from, then push off the date in order to think. Otherwise, why not date until certain?
Is it worse on rainy days? Do you push your teeth together often?
Great response.
Is it getting too expensive to be alive??? If G-d grants life, we must be thankful. Living, yet choosing a lifestlye to commit thousands and thousands of aveiros is not a solution.
Yes, I’m offended at the openning sentence.
Isn’t it amazing that a public school teacher is able to post at 10 30 AM?!
It certanly isn’t a hired union PR thug, right? 🙂
Avram in MD: I think you’re correct. Thanks for making it clear
I agree with most female posters here, it was not the right response.
Popa: Even if this woman deserved to be “thrown down the stairs”, why should her ten year-old be put up to this task? The girl learnt a behavior, but who says she’ll understand when to apply it and when not to.
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To be fair, the OP came before Mincha, was probably waiting for an hour and half +. Thirst and hunger also sets in. To have all that effort and waiting be disposed because of some obnoxious oldie, is a very difficult nisoyon
cuke?? Did you mean kook? Or cucumber?
It takes one to know one Do we need some zeeskite in this thread?
Shoresh: There are two types of peer pressure, one good and one, um, “otherwise”.
Peer pressure to do what’s wrong or refrain from doing the correct thing, is bad.
Peer pressure can also keep a person in check, and hold them back from doing something incorrect.
If a person says “I don’t care so much about the Yiddishkeit of the person I marry, as long as I’m happy”, then PP can be good.
If you’re for real, disscuss with a teacher etc.
(I know I’ll probably be accused of sinas chinom and other goodies. Please read my posts in the other thread prior to doing that. Just writing the way I see it, in this case..)