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Why is it any different than what you do for yourself?
The Chofetz Chaim in Geder Olam says no. Nothing may be showing.
It’s printed together with a biography written by his son (his son wrote it since bogus biographies were published when the CC passed on). He quotes his father (the Chofetz Chaim) as telling him that anything he wrote or demanded is halocha. He never ever sought to impose chumras or middas chasidus upon others.
I think the CC does permit boby socks (when a proper skirt is worn)
Mike: On here, personal and private conversatins are not possible. Neither is the exchange of personal info
JU: Good morning.
I find it difficult to believe you don’t think there is friction between MO and charedi and charedi and MO
Thank you, thank you and thank you. So this is what its all about. Since “there is friction” I’m gonna knock ’em out! Great. So, to you, this has very little to do with a young man suffering. Its mostly about the friction. Un huh.
I think its very cold to use a young mans suffering in order to score political cheap-shots. In fact, its even mean! Saying Tehilim and davening for a person creates zechusim for them. Part of the zechusim are due to the fact that he is the cause of people davening (coming closer to Hashem). However, when someone is the cause of actions which distance people from Hashem (slander, continuing friction etc etc) it can C”V have the opposite affect of a zechus…
Have a pleasant day.
It depends on several things. People new to the dating scene, usually make a decision after several dates. People who have been out with many people need more time.
AC: There are several “logical” reasons. Some were mentioned. I don’t see any point in speccifing them to someone who is not interested in knowing them, rather they’re seeking to score a political cheap shot. Good luck ma’am
JU: you claim to be about unity, but other than your moniker, you’re doing the oposit. Where in this thread did anyone say “ask a rav” other than your fictious quote??
The only thing that was said was to ask the people you’re critsizing based upon your assumptions, and become aware of their reason. Other peoples narrow minded-ness does not make these schools guilty of wrongdoing. The people who seek to criticize on assumptions, they sure seem guilty- or just very narrow minded. I hope it’s only about this particular issue, which I’ll try to find a way to see the tzad zchus…
when I say I heard about ‘certain schools’, I am not implying 3rd hand reports. I dont want to mention the name of the schools for obvious reasons,and it doesnt matter.
I pointed out in an earlier post , that I am not going to get into specifics as far as the ‘when where and hows’
I am perfectly aware that the reason he was exempt was/is politically related.
You are accusing the schools of not doing the “correct” (in your dictionary) thing due to political motivation, yet you are doing the incorrect thing due to political motivation.
I see however that you have plenty of spare time on your hands ( I wish you’d give ME some) to beat around the bush
Is that your best cop-out? You Aishes Chayil, are beating around the bush and refusing to be up front and honest. You took the time to make accusations and defend them. Yet you have no-time to consider some very valid points?
As shlishi mentioned, the schools do not have the time to include every person on their list. You are not concerned with that. You dont mind if they omit everyone, as long as they include Shalit.
Well, since you wont have time to respond, I wish good luck
AC: I was going to respond, but I think shlishi put it well (and a little gentler than I would have)
ItcheSrulic:
Do you daven for all sick people? Why not? Can I take each one by name and claim since you wouldn’t take the three and a half seconds to add each individual, then you want them sick R”L
they don’t want him back
Yeah, they like Jewish people to be suffering R”L. Sure thing
blueprints and outsider 4321 (either two or one, person):
You are mean people.
I don’t know if yogi is right. Your responses here are wrong. Very wrong. I’m affraid it’s indicative of your lifestyle (the bein odom l’chaveiro one). I hope I’m wrong
Who do they allow on their list?
Do they have a “matir assurim” list? If they don’t have a list (for whatever reason), I don’t they will make one for him. That’s a decision that a school has full right to make (even if you disagree).
If they have a list of ten.. people and have excluded certain people then, call them and ask why
i think the problem here is the system. why do we look for spouses the way we shop for groceries?
In general, the whole shidduch dating scene these days is messed up just like the mindframe of a good percentage of girls ideals.
Then:
Tolerance??? Where is yours? They were questions, NOT accusations. I was actually looking for mature answers.
Now I have a question for you. How do you reconcile these two statements? Please provide us with the mature type answer you seek. Thank you. (Or do some of the maturing you speak about, for yourself! and admit)
Why girls do you find this attractive?
Just like you have a right to find certain things attractive so too, do they have a right to find other things attractive. Please be a little more tolerant!
I have friends who compare just how little money they have like its a bragging rite. This is not normal.
Rabbah Bar Bar Channahs wife disagreed with you. And Rebbe admitted shes right. (Not the bragging part).
What is so wrong with a working guy? What is so wrong with not having to go to ur parents for money? Why dony you want to make a life for yourself? You want learning? Make sure he goes to a shiur once or twice a week and let him learn on weekends.
Guys who do this enjoy learning and look forward to it a lor more than guys who do it every day and its routine.
So I wonder, is it the learning that yoou want or when you do some introspection is it attention?
outsider4321:
Why do you feel the need to defend yourself and to bash “boogi”? Guilt conscience? (Could be she’s wrong as well, IDK the story, just the way you’re responding)
Speak to your/a Rov
I am curious as to how parents explain to their little girls as to why their favorite magazines don’t show pictures of women.
When did the face of a frum woman become assur?
Its not assur. No one ever claimed it was. Oh, you looking at it, or staring in order to derive pleasure? Well, deriving pleasure from looking at a woman, even her pinky, is assur.
Is the frum community never going to see pictures of Sarah Schnerer or heilige Rebbitzens of our past.
Sure. In school, and school notes.
Then don’t wonder why eating disorders and cutting are becoming more prevelant in our community when young girls are taught that ladies should not be seen. This possible leads to feelings of self loathing.
Huh, huh, huh???
Um, yeah. Whatever. (I say that when I cant understand)
chabad770:
Why is it that breslov is considered taboo …..because I don’t want any loshon hora on any people…
And why is it that his holy books are not as famously accepted like other holy chasidic rabbi’s of his generation? (Once again, please no slander)
Just a thought
individual:
Fankly, even if that point was true (which i have no reason to think it is) it is a minor minor issue in the grand scheme of things.
But to a parent of such a child, (even if their assumption is not completely correct,) it is a huge issue which constantly nags at them.
wen i asked him why he was so quiet he said the following: “i learned that wen someone is talking i shud b quiet”!!?!!—Guys, DONT do or say that)
I’m from BP
jk
AZ: With all due respect, may I make a point to you.
The NASI project seems to be very important and valuable work. Those involved will surly receive their due reward from Hashem. We all owe them gratitude.
Age-gap may be one problem. Another problem may be inflexibility, fear of marriage, fear of commitment, influenced from the general society that marriage is not necessary etc etc
I wont answer the question, since its not directly relevant to me, nor can I imagine it to be a “one size fits all” answer.
However, one point if I may. Whatever decision you make, it should be made prior to dating the prospective shidduch. It is unfair to you and to the boy to date when you are uncertain about whether his background, on its own, will hinder his chances of a successful dating run (culminating in marriage).
The dating process should be solely to determine the suitability of the prospective couple.
May you find your zivug soon.
About the actual question though: Some girls feel they need a frum family/in-laws for the success of their marriage, while to others its not relevant, as they feel they can be successful with as long as he is a “good, frum bochur”. Each one has a right to their needs and emotional makeup.
You’re welcome. I wouldn’t push I off though. This might be the time of year some, more organized, schools look
I actually enjoy the snow. The clear cold winter air, when dressed warmly.
If they are not your real friends then why bother, and if they are not your cloest friends and get offended that you didnt send them, then why would you want to be friends with someone like that?
30-40 Simple and inexpensive. I hope the recipients enjoy the fact they were thought of.
Men adn women are not supposed to be romantick even with theyre wives. Ezra made a takana that men shouldnt be aitzel nishosayhem ktarnegolim and pirkey avos sez the same thing. Husbands and wives are partners not friends not boyfriend and girlfreind or even romantic partners.
Moshe dear, please define “romantic”, just for the sake of clarity. It seems that not everyone defines it the same way.
I think we can see how the auther of this part of Shabbos Daving pronounced it:
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There is a ??? under the ?
I heard they cancled it the past couple of years. Maybe they do have one this year. Either way, they (used to) do job placement. Their number is 212 227 1000
Why did you have the right to take away the bottle from that 16 year-old man? (and why did you spill it in front of him? Gloating??)
Two rights(wrights) may have made an airplane, but two wrongs don’t make a right. (Thats if that boy was even wrong)
The Mishne Beurah in Shaar Hatziun (560 note 25) quotes the Shelo who says mothers should not sing their baby to sleep with non-Jewish music since it creates a bad nature in the child
IDKyet: Why be mean
Avrohom and Mamrei?
Yehudah and Ish Adulomi
Riding in a car at night, if I remember corectly, on roads that have continuous passerby, is permissible. Where I had seen it “contiuous” was a machlokos.
HaLeiVi:
I once met a Tezer in the bungalow colony I spent a summer in. He had gone with Rav Gifter when he opened a Yeshiva or a branch of Telz in Eretz Yisroel. He claimed Rav Gifter told the bochorim to bring along “bats and gloves” to play baseball as well.
Once they were in EY, people explained to RG that ball playing for older Yeshiva Bochrim was unacceptable in EY. So, RG told his talmidim to take walks for exercise. What about excitement? He told them he will give them a Minchas Chinuch Shiur on Fridays. This person told me it did indeed add excitement.
you’ve gotta fix your recetion
I found the following a website:
Gedolei Torah have commented on the upheaval that is spreading through the Middle East, stating that the events are a clear proof on ikvesa deMeshicha.
Rav Aharon Leib Shteinman was quoted in the Israeli chareidi media as attributing the instability in the region to contemptuous attitudes towards limud haTorah.
Rav Shteinman explained that Chazal tell us that there is a connection between limud haTorah study and the stability and existence of the world.
The one who does not see that Hashem is running the world, Rav Lefkowitz concluded, is not evil, but a fool.
RSRH: Once they have hit the minimum time, why would a whole new time frame be needed for the next issur. The issur is “yichud”, in-and-on-its-own, regardless of action.
Actions have their own isssurim.
Some Yichud is Derabbonon, and some is Deorayse.
That shiur did not have any of the concerns you mentioned.
How does it work canine? One per half-day?
Boro Park Girl: Try the wine store at the corner of 55th and 13 near New Utrich.
I was there recently and have small nottles for $1.50, $2.00 etc. Some with “heimishe” hechshayrim
eman:
What are you basing your “information” on. Conjecture?
Its nice to psychoanalyze other people, specifically Roshei Yeshivos and then criticize them based upon your “ingenious” psychoanalysis.
RedNails19:
absurd, im sorry. i dont see anything halacha’kly wrong.
We do have a Shulchan Oruch that transcribed G-ds rules for us.
There are halochos about a Rebbe eating in front of his students
And yet, I’ve eaten at my rebbe’s house numerous times*. My sons have been at their rabbeim’s houses and eaten there too.
There is a big difference between eating in front of students while serving as an educational purpose (Shabbos meal etc.) and while doing it exclusively for personal/familial enjoyment.
oomis1105: I do not find these cards to be untzniusdig or objectionable in any way.
Neither do you find it objectionable for a husband and wife to lock arms while walking in public. Correct?
always here: my son wrote on the florist’s little card “To: ___, I’m so happy you’re going to be my wife! From: Your Chossen”
The OP is referring to the shamncy arraignment you mentioned, complete with a mushy poem that goes for $50-150 even $200.
The amount of money is irrelevant (personal finances are not the issue). What is relevant is that these poems disservice the couple, as previously mentioned, and lack in tznius.