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guy-ocho: Popa’s longstanding policy is that popa never has, never does, and never will give any indication whatsoever about his or her identity or provide any identifying information, so I’m not sure where you got that from.
“(although I wouldn’t recommend it)
Why wouldn’t you recommend that I cook lunch for my wife? Especially in light of the fact that you immediately said afterward that it was a nice gesture.
The Wolf”
Hamaivin yovin
Right. He wanted to appease her before Yom Kippur so she would be moichel him beleiv shalem. See, that’s exactly my point.
And as an aside, I may be wrong but I resent and take offense to being called disgusting – as I am simply engaging my right of voicing my opinion. It shouldn’t be used as a springboard for a character attack against me.
She would be haoisah retzoin baalah only if he asked her to get him something.
whatrutalkingabt: I dont think so because mosherose’s spelling was awful. Either way, I’m not bothering with this guy anymore. I see its going nowhere.”
I’m awfully sorry if the truth hurts. Next time maybe you should think about what you are doing before publicly embarrassing yourself by asking the entire world what you can buy for your husband’s birthday. I’m actually not completely against it if it’s done in a private manner. Not to go on the airways to publicize your apparent less than optimal relationship.
“Why do assume that the purpose of a gift is to “buy” someone’s love?
I cooked lunch for Eeees yesterday. Was I (in your opinion) doing it merely to “buy her love?”
The Wolf “
It’s okay to cook lunch for your wife (although I wouldn’t recommend it) – that is a nice gesture. But you weren’t going around on CR asking everybody what to do for your wife like youre desperate to get her something ( seeming to “buy” her love).
whatrutalkingabt: “One more thing, forgive me for being ignorant but what exactly do we stand for that presents dont fit in?”
I’m not trying to judge you – but we stand for ruchniyus not gashmiyus.
whatrutalkingabt “Anyways, a devoted wife remembers her husbands birthday and takes advantage of the opportunity to show him how special he is.”
It’s just that it cheapens your relationship to be trying to buy his love and affection with gifts. Tell him how special he is and treat him well and that is the best birthday gift.
‘tro11
I buy my husband a birthday present to show my appreciation for him. Besides, no one asked you ‘
You should show your appreciation by being devoted to him, not by giving nonsensical presents. It flies in the face of everything we stand for.
‘tro11: I know of several gedolim who would get an aliya on the day closes to their birthday.’
That’s because they viewed birthdays the way I do. They did it to get the zchusim. Similar to the way people get an aliya for somebody’s yartzheit.
I dont understand the goyisha custom of buying present for birthdays. by the goyisha they celebrate their birthday because they are not happy (because all they strive for is money), so its another year down the tubes.
Lehavdil, by us, we are scared of the yoim hamisa, loy uleinu, so we shouldn celebrate rather we should worry that another year has passe.d have we really improved ourselves.
I feel that the OP’s post shows a lack of seriousness about what she’s doing, and excuse me for saying an overall lack of maturity. If you have valid reasons to reject offers for subsequent dates, this is your prerogative. It is, however, in bad taste to go online and ridicule a person who presumably tried his best to plan a nice date.
Also, imagine how the gentleman is feeling if he is reading this thread. I am speculating that he did not drink your water, either. Probably, he mindlessly took it, and threw it out at home. The CR is not a forum for uncompassionate ridicule.
If the OP is asking this question then she does not have a strong feeling about the matter. OP: If you like the guy and everything else is fine, and you personally do not mind the smoking, then go for it. Why would you allow yourself to be influenced by what someone else would do?
The Lubavitcher Rebee ZT”L used to say good morning to anyone he met in the street, even women. (I heard this from someone who constantly saw this.)
Even women??!!!! Now non-Jews I could understand, but women???!!!
PBA, just cause thats something that you wouldn’t do doesn’t make them an idiot. If a person wants to marry someone for the Klal, he should if he thinks he can get used to the girl after a while. Even if he doesn’t know for sure, you never really know for sure. How about all those people who marry the first girl they go out with? See my point? It’s the same thing. And also that they marry them.
I know a guy who only wanted a thin girl. Everyone told him he should look deeper than just looks, but he kept looking deeper and deeper and he just couldn’t get past it.
popa, what are you doing on chesedname’s computer?
Mine’s the Colt .45 ACP semi-automatic handgun.
a woman once came to r’ moishe and told him her husband was killed in the war and a rov was matir her and now he was found alive. r ‘moishe said thats impossible because he would have had siyata dishmaya. thats what a aguna is i think.
popa, i dont understand where you come off thinking you can make shiddichim over the internet without ever even meeting either of the partys involved. (unless you do know them, which i doubt). and i think that part of the reason that there are older singles is because people set them up without really seeing if theyre compatible. thank you.
The Shmuz is AWESOME!!!!