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Thanks for the advice.

Tonight, I communicated: Why haven’t you taken out the garbage?

Then I appreciated: I really appreciate that you took out the garbage last week

We had to spend time together in order for me to tell him this.

Popa, so trolls have a lot of Yiras Shamayim?

Dreykup, why are you so worried about it? Do you have money and want to make sure boys aren’t accepting shidduchim just because of your father? Or do you not have money and want people to look at other factors instead?

As a baby, so they look cute, or whenever they want their ears pierced.

I’m of the opinion younger is better.

Organize shiurim for other girls in the same situation. Go to shiurim organized by other girls in the same situation.

I am so honored to have a personal troll join only 11 minutes ago just to bring up my thread: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/ketchup-chicken

Thank you, Jenny!!

How old is your son? What kind of internship? Is he ever going to interact with these people again? How strong is his frumkeit? Is this his first experience with non-religious people?

+1 to Popa

I learn all my halacha from the internet. Then I ask my husband what to do. Works every time.

All human relationships were created by Hashem for us to either learn something about Hashem, or to be able to emulate Hashem.

Thus:

We have fathers so that we can understand that Hashem treats us as a father.

We have children so that we can emulate Hashem by doing for someone with no expectation of a return. (and yes, Hashem made the world and could have made us have fathers and not children. Don’t ask me how.)

We have spouses so that we can understand that our relationship with Hashem is like a spouse.

We have kings so that we can understand how Hashem relates to us as a king.

This is clear from shir hashirim, which uses the romantic relationship to analogize to our relationship with Hashem. We are supposed to do that.

You ask whether a single person can have a relationship with Hashem. Yes. But perhaps not the same way a married person can. And perhaps an orphan cannot understand the way Hashem acts as a father.

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I like this post very much.

Popa is making a good point. True, it’s a minority opinion, but that doesn’t make it any less valid.

If you say CBT is the only research-based, effective treatment out there, you’re saying that mental illness is not biologically based, because CBT assumes that it is merely habits of thinking rather than biological forces causing mental illness.

And if you say medication is necessary to treat mental illness, you’re saying that mental illness is biologically based, and CBT can’t work because habits come from the neurotransmitters, not vice versa.

Both methods ignore the whole person. Perhaps both the biology and the crazy thoughts come from one cause. Childhood experiences, trauma, poor emotional intelligence, abusive family… you can treat the symptom, but it will just come out another way.

Psycho-dynamic Psychotherapy, that is, talking to someone, talking about your life and experiences, having someone else help you realize where problems originated and deal with them at their root, is far more effective long term than either CBT or medication.

So I agree with Popa. If you want to deal with your problems, get psychotherapy. If you want a quick fix or to treat the symptom, CBT and medications are fine.

Try the Kosel

You’ll be surprised how your time gets filled up without needing to fill every minute.

A better angle is, have 3 big things you want to do, and be open to whatever is available when you go.

Well, I’m posting a third of the recipe I got. Based on the one in the Skvere cookbook. Thank you to the friend who asked a friend for the recipe.

Saute 5 large onions in oil until golden- allow some time for this, it takes a while

For the dough:

3 eggs + egg white/yolk

3 cups flour

1/3 cup oil

1/3 cup warm water

1/3 tsp. baking powder

1/3 tsp. salt

Knead all ingredients together.

Divide dough and onions to 2 parts. Roll out dough, and spread onions and sprinkle salt and pepper. Roll up and place each roll into a 9″ round tin.

Brush with egg. Bake at 375 for 55 minutes.

Daas: I don’t need a control group of 125 girls. I know much less than 125 single girls between the ages of 22-35, and more than 10 of them got married over the past 2 years.

Doped: That’s hardly a bet.

More like the maaser one.

OK, but the 125 “older singles” included 22 year olds. So I’m not very impressed.

They should go to a school where they can be comfortable with themselves.

Ketchup chicken is the most delicious kind of chicken. Has anyone ever heard of it?

Rivky’s sister, who happened to be writersoul’s former principal’s assistant, assured her that she was going to continue to get A’s and should continue posting.

She had quietly watched the saga of the Schwartz family play out. What moved her to act at this critical juncture?

Only Mrs. Norrisberg knew why.