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Maxi health tastes pretty good and is a fair to middling candy substitute for those of us who like sugar. You are supposed to take 3 a day as an adult.
I know the chewy ones I like definitely need a hechsher!
When I first got married, I made my own gefilte fish from scratch. From low quality salmon.
It came to the same price as if you bought it from an out of town kosher supermarket with a monopoly on Jewish products.
Why would you need to quit???
Being nice begins at home. What your wife wants trumps what your coworker needs. This is a mitzva for someone else, and Hashem will send another shaliach.
That’s a very good point about the gematriya. I can’t believe I missed that when it was told to me, unless they said libi which is still off by 1.
The reason you mentioned is the main reason we do hafrashas challah and the most important reason. But there are a range of reasons. Off the top of my head
– The Rabbonim instituted that we take Challah even when not in Eretz Yisrael with most of the Jews living there so that it should not be forgotten from the Jewish people. (I think according to most commentaries it is currently a Mitzva D’Rabanan, but that could change in the next few years)
– Because Adam Harishon was “Chalaso shel olam” and Chava led him to sin, so we women atone for this by taking challah
– To take the gashmius act of making bread and raise it to ruchniyus- so we lift up a piece and say “harei zu challah” (Baal Shem Tov)
– To remind us of Hashgacha Pratis – that Hashem is watching us at all times and is the One Who gives us food (Rav Samson Rafael Hirsch)
– The Gematria of ??? =?? which is the first and last letter of the CHumash (Beraishis-Yisrael)
– Eres, dough, is from the same lashon as arisa, a cradle for a baby, to teach us that a father should start teaching a child “Torah Tziva Lanu Moshe” as soon as they start being able to talk. (Chasam Sofer)
?????? ????????? ??? ????? ?????
There’s more but that’s off the top of my head.
It’s no fun if people don’t disagree.
I use oil instead of margarine all the time, but I am not particular about the texture of my baked goods.
You need to find out more info. Some people are at their worst on first dates. I personally would advise to drop someone with anger problems like a hot potato, but if you also have anger problems and can stand up for yourself it will work out.
Although I feel sorry for kids of such marriages.
The shidduch crisis is because choosanim are too choosy.
I’m frummy.
What Rebyidd said.
I would not be offended at all.
If you see it, it means the aliens are targeting you for abduction. We’ll know they succeeded when you stop posting on yeshiva world
With Reshaim, you are supposed to be dan lekaf chov.
Like if someone you know is a rasha and tries to get yidden to do aveiros, and one day he does something nice for you, you should assume he has at the very least mixed intentions.
Rooting for the underdog is a very liberal thing to do, Joseph.
Although I do agree that this site is not representative of the Jew-ish internet world.
It depends on the guy. If he is a gourmet, he should taste some of her cooking, or at least tell her that he likes fancy food. TO the other extreme, I have one very happily married friend whose cooking expertise still extends only to noodles. Her husband is fine eating yeshiva food when he needs something new.
Marriage isn’t about being equal in every possible metric. It’s about doing what works for your relationship.
I have plenty of friends who couldn’t cook before marriage and now cook gourmet meals, but they all admit that it was difficult for them during the first few months. Why add that to the stress of being newly married??
Coddling your girls and not teaching them cooking is easy in the short run, but causes problems in the long term. I personally think that a mother has a responsibility to teach her daughters cooking (and sons, but to a lesser degree) before marriage. My mother made sure we could all cook Shabbos by 12 for girls and 13 for boys. And yes, my husband definitely tasted some of my food before we got engaged, although I doubt it affected his decision.
Arguments are more exciting. Plus you learn more about people when they feel there is more at stake in the argument
I think 24 hours is standard. If you aren’t ready to respond within that time period, it is standard to ask if more time is okay. It’s not nice to leave people hanging.
I think it is better for both boys and girls to get married younger, but the parents have to accept that their help will be needed for longer, and the couple have to be willing to accept advice from their parents (or parent substitutes who are around them and see what’s going on.)
Part of the problem with marrying young in the non-Chassidish community is that the culture is that you marry and become ‘independent’ right away. This is a problem. Becoming “independent” is a long process, which can last until a person is no longer marriageable, and none of us are truly independent in life – we all need others eventually.
You need to help your sister dress better.
As a famous Rebbetzin once said, Shlomo Hamelech said Sheker Hachein V’Hevel Hayofi, but 1) he was the wisest man ever 2) he had many wives before he figured that out.
I respect the men who spend Tisha B’Av taking care of their children so that their wives can fast.
A. 1-3 I think yes, 4-7 I think no
B. The same
C. 1-5 yes, 6-7 no
“put downers who think it makes them better-ers”
People think, “I’m not leaving seforim around. I’ll just put it down for a minute while I stop to talk to someone or get a coffee break.”
Then they forget and leave it.
Most people aren’t deliberately trying to disrespect the seforim.
Girls often ask advice from high school and seminary teachers.
You can also see if any of your mother’s friends, or your friends’ mothers, or a rebbetzin in your neighborhood who seems friendly, or just someone you admire from afar are suitable.
You can be friends with people older than yourself who often have an interesting perspective.
It’s like the Sanhedrin that couldn’t execute a person if every single 71 of the people agreed they are guilty, because if every person sees something the same way, there is something suspicious going on.
It is a great privilege to serve Hashem!
I like flowers, but only when my husband buys them 🙂
Everyone who posted in this thread is the exception that proves the rule. Most women like flowers and jewelry. Most men prefer beer or a smoker or scotch.
Everyone will have a place according to what they accomplished in this world, but only Hashem knows what your challenges are and how hard they are for you.
Suppose half the people in the world drive Toyotas and half drive Hondas. Do you think it is reasonable to insist that half the people in engineering school drive Toyotas and half drive Hondas? No, because it’s completely arbitrary and doesn’t affect whether they’ll be a good engineer.
So it makes sense to just let people self select, regardless of whether they drive a Toyota or a Honda.
There was a female Holocaust survivor (obviously with issues) who used to sit in the men’s section in the Satmar shul, and Reb Yoel told the men not to bother her.
I read this in his biography.
The question is ridiculous.
There is no such thing as a female profession. Females being nurses is a very recent thing, look up Florence Nightingale. Before the concept of universal education all teachers were men.
What is your source that he has such a list?
Wow, that’s really interesting.
1. You don’t ask. You just remind them to think of you.
2. It’s just as good.
3. Someone who has experience dealing with shidduchim.
4. You ask a shadchan or someone with experience to redt it.
5. Be honest. Best way to get happily married.
They do, but generally not Boro Parky type people. I have several friends who have done it and they actually enjoyed it.
I personally would be afraid to do it because I would hate if someone thought I stole something because they lost it, which is apparently very common.
There are logical truths, and emotional truths, and spiritual truths.
Not only can there be truth outside logic, everyone knows that there can be falsehood in logic too.
Exhibit A: Dogs are pets. Cats are pets. Dogs are cats.
But it’s usually less obvious.
Well, living within walls does work to keep communities less affected by what’s going on outside the walls.
However, things eventually seep in.
Letakein, actually I’m aware of one frum person who has made that choice (with understanding of their wife). So I guess it’s not impossible. But I was trying to make a different point.