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Yea, how can I go on with my normal life, now I have a chance to finally taste a presumption of pigs’ milk (if I drank chalav stam)? That sounds terribly exciting.
Ask a seminary teacher.
People might not tell the shadchan everything since they want someone on a high level.
I find this to be an interesting observation.
The shadchan doesn’t have to know your every quirk, but I can’t imagine how misrepresenting yourself is going to help you find the right one. Unless you’re looking for someone who is good at misrepresenting themselves too. And that’s a dangerous game to play.
I think the internet is very, very good.
One shudders to think how much more boring my life would be without it.
I thank Hashem for the internet.
People have done it. If you feel it’s your calling – go for it!
Yes. Take another handful! Force yourself to finish the entire container. Then another one. You will be so sick of them, you will not want to see another mint for months.
Is that a maraschino cherry or a regular cherry or a dried cherry?
No, this is the thread for me to complain about how my school reduced all of our grades by a couple of points because we weren’t allowed to answer certain questions.
Thanks DY.
writersoul: hey! plenty of teenage girls in BP and Williamsburg speak Yiddish.
I know you’re not allowed to put makeup on on Shabbos, but I don’t know why. Something to do with smearing. 🙂
As for taking it off – as far as I know you’re allowed to wash off your makeup.
I’ll buy it.
Can you tell us what to google if we want to find it?
Happy belated Birthday OOM!
No, but it’s a nice site.
Afaik YWN doesn’t allow links. You should google it.
writersoul: We’re talking about adults sleeping with and cuddling dolls. My reaction is the only normal one on this thread.
Vogue, I completely agree that many people could use therapy, and you are absolutely right that an emotional checkup is important, and I like your comparison to checking mezuzos very much.
Do you mean there are no good frum psychologists in your area? Maybe we can ask the mods if TLIK or someone can send you some names?
thinking about it. yes, should be fine.
mitzvahgirl, if you tell us a little more about why you want to switch schools and what you’re looking for in a school, there are probably posters who could help. (be careful to not reveal too much personal information)
brony: if you’re not in upper ed I will eat my hat.
i wouldn’t be surprised if you were in the paid rather than the paying group either.
Vogue: If anything, I am the one among my friends that needs professional help…
That is really impressive, that you can recognize that, and it is clear from your posting that you have a lot of potential to accomplish much in life if you deal with your issues now, while you are still young.
Everyone can benefit from talking to someone about their problems, and I think you in particular have a lot to gain from going to therapy. Are there good frum psychologists where you live?
Mazal tov everyone!
Brony, glad the semester’s almost over?
Vogue: I was trying to give you an out.
This is not normal and you should tell your friends to see a professional. (in a nice way of course) I think everyone can benefit from some counseling, so why not go yourself also? Then they will follow your lead. Use peer pressure to your advantage.
Vogue: I’m sorry but I have to call shenanigans. Normal emotionally healthy BY girls do not do this, and the few that do generally have security issues, and are embarrassed enough to keep it a secret.
Having an imaginary friend sounds like a mild form of psychosis to me, which is fine as long as the friend isn’t telling you to hurt other people.
Having dolls and such is not normal for an adult and a sign of emotional underdevelopment, so it’s probably a good idea to see a professional if you are considering it. (I’m wondering if this was a joke thread?)
Ask if you can hold the paper. Run to a public safe place. Call the police and give them the paper.
It’s a good school, flatbush student body, in BYBP building, good academic reputation.
I have a Chase account and have not had any issues. To add a data point.
lost my sparkle: I just want to say that your screenname doesn’t have such a positive connotation. It’s hard to tell from online, but it might help to think of yourself as having added sparkle, rather than as having lost it.
Ok… what is a Harry? I’ve come across this term several times.
I want to know if I sound like one.
OOM: Hi! 🙂
That was not what I was trying to say. I didn’t use all those words for no reason, you know.
OK, let’s discuss the other part of the post.
Insomuch as I am familiar with the halachic process, halacha is not (in principle) derived from “Jewish values.” Halacha should be the sole arbiter of Jewish values, but as I outlined above, I do not think that is the reality. And let’s not quibble about terminology. When I use the words “egalitarianism” and “feminism,” I mean only exactly what I have outlined above, without regard to other definitions you may have have in mind.
I am not familiar with the halachic process so no comment on that.
We agree that “Halacha should be the sole arbiter of Jewish values”. I think it is. Why do you think it isn’t?
No advice, but I want to join in with giving you a bracha to have much hatzlacha!
This post needs to be relegated to the humor pile.
It was great. Satire on several levels.
One – there are more boys with these issues than females. Two – referrals to psychiatrists are more common for boys than girls. Three – there are differences in reporting.
Given your experience, what do you think is the reason for the above differences?
And would you agree that there is a parallel, with girls more often diagnosed and medicated for mood disorders, while boys are more often diagnosed and treated for ADHD?
OOM: Sorry for the delay in responding. Interesting topic.
That was wordy, but basically you’re saying that there is no real difference between women and men, except the roles dictated by halacha, which just so happen to reflect certain biological realities?
[phew!]
Halacha is Jewish values. Halacha is not egalitarian. Ergo, egalitarianism cannot be “taken in tandem with good old fashioned Jewish values”.Her being in shidduchim has nothing to do with it. She should not be in shidduchim if she has an eating disorder.
You have a friend with an eating disorder, try to support her. Rav Dovid Goldwasser has a great book on the topic.
I feel cheated. There were only four.
5. You should have books that are questionable only slightly hidden, so that your babysitter can find them and then pretend to not have read them. This makes babysitting more exciting.
I’m not Jewish. I’m a woman.
TLIK: The one on Tehillim?
I googled “Shidduch crisis theory” for you, and found the following excellent resource, that sheds light on this difficult parsha:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/bread-theory-of-the-shidduch-crisis
The best remedy, of course, is to not worry about it, not think about it, and forget about it entirely. That will destroy its power over us.
BHW, why don’t you ask a Rav?
lol PBA
Where do you live? If you live in Brooklyn it’s very easy.
Ask one of the chefs to show you.
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That’s so interesting. It’s really a beautiful tefila.
Srinivasa Ramanujan
My strategy is to daven as fast as possible. If I daven slower, I may start off with kavana, but space out at some point. By davening quickly, I’m forced to keep track of where I am, and I don’t get bored.
Davening doesn’t have to be from a siddur. Asking Hashem for help on a test, or thanking Hashem when you did well or are happy about something, is also davening.
IMHO, it sounds too sad and will put people in the wrong mood.