kollel used to be a privilege and now it has become an entitlement. being in kollel does not have to be as hard as being at harvavd (lehavdil); however, it should a little harder than having a “pulse” and a “black hat”.
i deal with many girls in shiduchim and more than one has been told by “lakewood” “i have a hundred girls on my list and unless you are willing to support me for 5-10 years and you are a size 0-2, you will be off my list in a minute” !