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Wow. Please don’t fight over this! This is crazy.. I just needed some advice on how to get through this Shabbos.

WIY- I don’t think you need to worry about it being detrimental to me. Im a pretty smart girl and I will only do what i feel is right. Im not some naive little thing who listens to everything someone tells me is right me for me ( especially in a chat group) when the only one who knows me is, well, me!

I respect all your views and opinions. Please don’t fight over this!

Aries- I totally see where you are coming from and how right you are. But when I say my “friends”, its mostly just my group who I hang out with. We really dot know each other on a deep level at all. That why i don’t think i should tell them. Im still debating it though because I do feel connected with them even though were not true true true friends who care for each other like real friends are supposed to. I guess I’m not that lucky in the friend department. Im debating because were a pretty big group in the same neighborhood and I’m like the “Anti social” one. Little do they know. Heh. I was thinking about telling them because i thought maybe it would bring us closer, i don’t know. but i don’t think they’re going to be as supportive as you make friends out to be, Aries.

Popcorn- obviously you didn’t read the 1st post on this thread. I wrote “I have social anxiety and am starting CBT in 2 weeks”. i KNOW i have social anxiety!! Im asking how to combat it for this situation!!

Thank you all so much for responding. Means a lot. I agree with every persons outlook and advice here. i know it sounds bad, but I’ve tried focusing on the other people and not dwelling on my awkwardness and how i look and oh no that was a stupid thing for me to say/do and now i look like an idiot.. But it hasn’t really worked. I just can’t seem to get outta my own head! maybe i have to do it more? I don’t know. Thing is i think I’ve tried doing everything you guys have told me already as like “self-therapy” till i start actual therapy. But everythings just getting worse.

I am soo nervous for this stupid thing. Maybe i should just think of a really good excuse (as i usually do) to get out of this. =(

oomis, thanks. I really understand what youre saying. Thing is, ive tried this and i do this day in and day out in school. i act happy. i truly believe im a great person when im with mature adults,myself,my family. but in school, and with girls my age, its really hard. my class is really the most over-confident girls of the school. and its really hard to compete, fit in to all of it. i just want to give up =(

Please Someone? please??

ursula- oh, i get you now. Im really not doing the work for her; just getting a few finishing points for her report. 🙂

By “how he used them” i meant some stories/ examples of how his middos shone through. I dont understand what youre trying to say? And she doesnt have any of those sefarim… But thank you anyway.