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Popa: I also liked the way the sentence looked without the word “role”.
I also just realized that question marks look like ears.
Gavra: Chasidim of RSRH.
My school taught by hiring models of tz’nius as teachers.
The topic of tz’nius was rarely discussed; it was self-understood that we were to be tzanuos.
R’ Dr. A. Twersky writes that a mother imbues her child with a feeling of disgust for that which is repulsive to her- the child observes his mother’s reaction, and this becomes his own reaction unless he consciously attempts to overcome it.
That’s why I like neither mice nor mini-skirts.
“Sh’foch chamos’cha el hagoyim…”
I used “eitzim v’avonim” instead. Right before Pesach, I slammed my dryer door instead of my child, so my anger cost me $100.
Which is immeasurably less than a broken child.
When I’m really angry and it’s not Erev Pesach, I write a venomous, hateful letter to the subject of my anger. I read it to myself then rip it to shreds, pretending it’s the person.
For me, it works best to feel the rage, not squelch it.
I’m basically a happy, resilient person, so, like all negative emotions, after I’ve allowed myself to feel it, the anger subsides quickly.
People who internalize anger tend to destroy themselves when angry.
People who externalize anger tend to destroy others when angry.
Being a member of the latter category, I try to isolate myself when I get angry to avoid damaging others.
When the anger subsides, I can feign anger to communicate my feelings with the person who provoked me.
Jumping on the rebounder or going for a walk also work well for me.
I’ll just repeat that which was already said.
Be very careful not to
minimize/trivialize/make light of/invalidate/and all synonyms
their pain.
Examples:
“You’re only married two years!”
“You’re in your twenties- you could still have 15 kids.”
“I know someone who had their first baby after thirty years.”
vechulay
I married in-town BT, so mil didn’t know from the gift shtuyot.
Like gefen, I was happily deprived.
I’d hire you for these services:
sew buttons back on clothes
paint my home- just touch ups
fix broken tape recorder, camera, etc.
clean windows, or at least take them out and put them back in so I can clean them
Some people might buy grated marror from you.
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`(bad drawing, but it’s supposed to say ouch, that hurts)
This was (maybe) told to a specific person in a specific context, and you were not that person. Right? So forgetting about it.
insomnia= ain shaina
Listen to Rabbi Kirzner’s tapes, or, better, buy the ipod with all his lectures on it. BEST investment you could possibly make!!
You’ll also develop your auditory skills.
nice towel set
jewelry/ watch
book
linen
perfume/ cream
gift certificate for store she likes or salon
visa card
plant
robe/ slippers/ head covering
painting/ picture
nice clock
We start counting sefira.
I got married in a hall with only half a ceiling left.
We didn’t notice it, others did.
We might have been the last couple to get married there (12 years ago). Definitely one of the last.
There really isn’t much we could have given up on.
I’m the oldest of a large chevra ba”h, and I sure didn’t want to set an expensive precedent.
Didn’t and still doesn’t matter one iota.
Women are great drivers.
The problem is there are men driving like maniacs on the roads.
“His intent was obvious.”
It was?
Perhaps it would be a great zechus for the Fogel family if Dr. Letter-Writer would not judge someone’s intentions.
songs composed during wartime
I think some people should work on their comprehension skills.
I am grateful for techiyas hamaisim- the old shaitel I just dyed came out looking fresh and nice, no need for a new one yet, and cost only $10.48 for the dye!
(and each bag in that bag-bag is ben bag-bag?)
My latest find is a whole, wrapped wafer discovered in the Bris bag. Baby must’ve thought he’d be hungry after that ordeal.
cholent guy: re: CIA- they’ll accuse you of divided loyalty, leaking info to Israel.
I have found that viewing davening as my formal expression of gratitude to Hashem usually works best for my kavana.
I also daven only a small amount each day, some days only brachos.
I talk to Hashem throughout the day, though.
Gumball, do you know multiplication and division inside out, upside down, backwards, and forwards?
Math is sequential- it’s like a staircase. Try to figure out at which step you got stuck, so you can fix it and continue climbing upwards.
Finally. A thread just for me. Thank you, Shticky!
Truthfully, I wrote with my left hand until a (smart) teacher said, “Your penmanship is awful; you might as well write with your right hand.”
So I became ambidextrous.
Reb. Tehilla Abramov’s tapes and books e.g. “Two Halves of a Whole”
Our 3rd date was Bronx zoo on Wednesday, Chol Hamoed Pesach.
How’s that for a l’chaim?
No way, eclipse, no sarcasm at all. I’ve been reading a very growth-oriented attitude in your posts, and it inspires me.
I meant that you sound like you take responsibility for your own happiness and don’t blame everyone around you for “making me miserable.”
popa bar abba… for truth, justice, and the Torah way!
eclipse:
I really like your attitude toward the situation- that it’s all custom-designed for your growth, and not a blame-game.
What a Kiddush Hashem! Thank you for the Chizuk.
popa: The moral of that story supports a valid viewpoint.
I wish good health and true happiness to the man.
If you give more specifics about the type of job you want, I may have some ideas.
Esther:
I’m familiar with the wedding scene in your circles. It must be very difficult for those who want to keep up with all the other Cohens but can’t afford to.
I think the schools should give the caterers outstanding tuition bills to be enclosed with the caterer’s bill.
OC:
Some people have the money put away, but other don’t know.
They don’t run in “uppity circles.” They live very simply.
They make warm Chasunas in the most inexpensive halls available.
Then their kids buy homes, and everyone wants to know where the down payment comes from.
Not everyone here has access to all those sites; I have YeshivaNet and can only access the sites I request.
“Our School” and “Owl School”: students have a choice of attending school by day or at night, in accordance with their natural rhythms.
Anyone want to lobby for tuition credits?
Sternberg my sunshine…
I miss it!
Agree with your disagreement.
My ten-year old wouldn’t be caught dead sitting on MY lap in public, but there are all types of kids.
Tuition credits would certainly help.
I almost sat on someone’s lap myself!
I had left my jacket on the chair and my Megillah on the table so that it should have been obvious that seat was taken. I returned after three minutes and found someone sitting there and my Megillah open. There were no empty seats, so I just asked if I could share her Megillah. She said, “Sure, but hopefully the person it belongs to won’t come.” I smiled and said, “Here’s an extra Megillah. She lets you keep the seat.”
This wasn’t a power struggle as she would’ve relinquished the seat. I just feel good that I let it go.
If the only hesitation is the talking and gawking…you yourself know the right thing to do.
Many FFB girls tell me they want to marry someone like my husband. I ask them if they would get past his “resume”- he had been frum for about six years when we met.
Sure, when we got engaged, people questioned my decision and did plenty of squawking…but they’re just a bunch of chickens.
eclipse: yes
I hired cleaning help twice in my life. The first time, she was excellent. About a month later, I called the agency again and requested the same woman. They sent a different one, much older and slower. Hence, my wariness of agencies.
GumBall, I like to buy myself good quality clothing, too, but how many outfits do I really need? Yes, my clothes are relatively expensive (I shop at the heimishes), but I have exactly what I need- nothing extra!
Derech: I edited the post. The only falsehood in the story is my name, which at that time was still only my motto.
(Lest anyone remember my mentioning that my oldest is a girl, let it be known that I speak of secondary infertility; thus, the veracity of my story is established.)
Sac, it’s in the fridge in most supermarkets- might be a couple of words in between…something like “red” and “grapefruit”.
Let me know if it works.
(This is not to discredit my story, which is true. Just that it wasn’t juice, but powder that you mix with water, then it looks like water with dirt in it.)
I had a short stint with infertility, and a kind woman gave me some ruby powder to DRINK with a copy of the mekor- a page from R’ Bechaye where it says that one who drinks it will have a son. My husband said the lady should drink it herself as a z’chus for us, but I told my husband that with a name like tomim tihye, how could I ignore the words of R’ Bechaye? He consented, and I downed it without tasting it.
Indeed, my son was born nine months later, and the woman kvells whenever she sees him.
Yavne sem!!
Me too! Maybe we can find one and share?
Happiest- take me shopping with you; I get my high from NOT spending!
Popa- Feif’s friend is Eliezer ben Hork…