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chein- thats not true. it may pay more and be cheaper if youre young, but you can cash a half mill. in your eighties. how does this fall outside hishtadlus; why is working more bitachon-full? Maybe moshiach will come in two minutes and youre set? totally not maskim. you work because as my rebbe said “Hope burns bright in the breast of man” its sensible and logical. so is a policy. farig
no offense this is a typical womans rights thread. imagine if id start one saying ” boys be picky and demand lots of money looks etc.” i think you should change the threads name. it should be called dont make stupid decisions that could ruin your life thread; use your brain when picking the person youre spending your life with.
shlishi- a father is responsible for his kids keeping quiet in shul. so much so that he can disrupt his S”E to shush them.
in response to the OP- i put on a tallis at thirteen-family minhag- and shortly after was in sqvere/ new square for shabbos. i had literally hundreds of little chassidishe kids staring, pointing and saying “A kleine’ tatte”. it wasnt funn but you laugh it off. and kids will be kids. and when adults do it to me-i wave.
k so conservative”judaism” isnt generally accepted as legitamite, and certainly not in relation to halacha. i think its ossur to drive on shabbos.
ya but tis really easy. if al qaida can do it, anyone can. and you can live in an igloo!
k but if he gets a psak, what do you want him to do run around till someone tells him its ossur. im not saying i agree with him, but if he has his rov thats he asks everything to you cant fault him.
typical flatbush.
torontos your best bet. several large kollelim with 10-100s of yungerleit.
k so this is funny. its harry.not hairy. it refers to the name. as in someone who would try to fit in with the yeshivish crowd but there are so many giveaways that he’s got no idea how to act. the most blatant one being his name “Harry”. harrys generally wear white socks, use highlighters in there gemaras, have never touched a cigarette, always have headphones in their ears while going someplace, have “shtarkmarks” to show the place of all the rishonim in their kovetz, always wear their brim down, use words like perhaps,suggest,possibility, and solution when trying to explain a tosfos, say tosfos, and always always have interlinear siddurim. I’m not bashing; just stating the facts.
if a guy is demanding cars, vacations, and a lif eof luxury; get a job and go for it. But i happen to be in kollel, and i can tell you that alot of us are squeezing budgets to learn and not demanding the high life. dont stereotype. and if you (girl) wants a good learning boy then by df. the money has to come from somewhere else.
by now i think most peopple know that your going in for soda. o wait. remembered halachah. dumb post sorry
oy vey!! elul!!
zen hope that was a joke. i asked a prominent talmid chacham and he told me there is no mekor. a few years later i saw one in one of those weekly english jewish mags but i dont remember it.
sam- th episkei tshuvos aka the chassidishe milaket makes up a mekor from psukim. if i recall correctly he takes a posuk that talks about angels jumping over mountains (?mashehu kozeh) and says that could be a mekor. ba humbug.
piskei tshuvos makes up somemekoros on his own from pesukim. A”S.
you misseed out to get a bit lower each direction, but still make sure not to be bent over by the time you finish oseh shalom.
why not shes not a chullul. at worst shes pogum. why cant she?
k this isnt going to good places. MODS!
1st daf in makkos. rashi. tosfos.
imagine your fifteen. you do the stupidest thing you can imagine. imagine that being held against you five to ten years later. youv grown up. your a different person. why.
ok ok ok everyone chiiiiil out. anti smokers wont be convinced, and smokers dont give a hoot about all your rants and indignation. its just one of those things you cant fight. and im maskim- coffee and cigarettes in the sukkah are perhaps the pinnacle of oilam hazeh.
interstingly enough, i just asked to help a kid ive never met, but knows some of my extended fam. i have a typical young teen nearly off the d story, and BH i bounced back to be a normal well-rounded indivdual. i have no formal training but i always helped out troubled kids in yeshiva. i was thinking of pusuing a job. good luck to you!
not kiday. you may end up looking petty or too exacting. if it was his acne and it bothered you a toooon, someone else might not be so bothere and think you were nit-picking. stick to generic answers unless its someone you trust that wants to set you up again.
yes.
mytake-thats because tou saaume your image of him wont be tarnished by past deeds. thjink of the worst possible thing you can imagine. imagine he did it. now he has changed,not just his actions but his pnimius too. he is no longer the same person. im sure ypu agree with me in theory, but when it comes limaaseh its simply not so easy. therefore, IF, as i said b4, IF she wont find out, and it wont effect their marriage, why risk diminishing him in her eyes for a matter of no consequence.
i’m due for a subtitle. preferably something scary. with lots of fur and claws. and leery eyes. o yes. and a tail.
thanks for the laugh.
the general issues. not sharing specifics sorry. but you cant ever know someones matziv unless he tells you. dont jump to kill a shidduch if its water under the bridge; she’ll never know and it wont hurt her.
the gemara in gittin says a man can divorce w/o a kesuba if she wont cover her hair. maybe your right about the faults in communities; that doesnt take away from the seriousness of what these women are doing wrong.even though mumar li’not covering hair isnt mumar likol hatorah kulah, there could still be a valid personal feeling of mistrust. someone doing something else wrong, worse or nor, doesnt take away from the choimer hu’issur.
i have a history. my wife might not have married me had she known. we’re happily married. tread carefully. get a psak. and get it from someone who knows where this guy is really hoding.
your english. you said trousers instead of pants and packages instead of bags. in that case…um…no shaychis. hatzlachah.
k great but where do you draw the linbe
amen
the next thread is gonna be that maybe she has an ingrown toenail- one can never be sure!
wow. niskatnu hadoros. we know chumash from songs. Hashem ya’azor.
this is too big for you. if its lisheim shomayim, ask someone who you trust(as in a posek) who also knows this boy very well. other then that stay out of it.
dating is never tznius. you go outside and boys can actually see you. in real life. Ah!!!
as i sit here feeling fat
my boiach,first a pot now a vat
i’ll get up and move
to myself ill prove
o wait i fell;splat
most poskim say that aluminum foil pans need not be toiveled.
people alternately ask my mother if shes her boss’ mother or sister. her boss is late thirtys and shes fifty.ouchy.
OP- as this topic is education-related, i feel it’s my duty to point out-“their not a minority”. i love it.
HaChoo!!!
anyone think of just telling him WHY your having this dilemma. then he’ll understand himself instead of feeling brushed off.
sometimes you just get a dud. dont feel too bad.
sam- after a few years in seminary, there are a few things i dont question her on; this is among them.hanhagos and the like.
my wife, who has a firm grip on hilchos tznius has just informed me that covering up too much, as the scary ladies in meah shearim who actually, no, im not kidding, wear burkas with slits for eyes(part of a fringe movement that no-one holds of), is also a lack of tznius cuz dressing like that attracts attention. it would stand to reason that eye-catching sunglasses shouldnt be different.
ya the sugya in makkos, or more specifically rashi, goes through all the issurim. four for sheretz,one for flying sheretz (4+1=5),and 2 for swimming = 6. i think. havent learnt it in 3 years though, so check it up.
okeedokee. this thread is ridiculous, just a bit. standard date 1 dresas code isnt cas. thats understood.if your planning on investing heavily in this promising relationship, you come dressed to say so. (not in white gown though; could be misleading
OMG!! yay!!!
A. He’s in college so he probably isnt “Mr. Yeshivish”.
B. He might have done it because HE feeks awkward and new in a new school and is trying to aclimate.
C. He might have not put that much thought into it in the first place; you may be looking into this too deeply.
D. All of the above are probably true. Clearly this guy isnt a typical lakewood yeshivish dude so cut him some slack. He doesnt have to shtim with your def. of ben torah; in fact who said he wants to- your all assuming hes intyerested in being what you call appropriate. maybe hes not. its harmless. fartig.