jothar- yiddish help- plotz means place. floor=komah in ivrit (just to clarify if this is the word you mean) which is “shtock” in yiddish.

2scents. your not making 2scents. youve obviously had a bad first hand experience. i know hundreds of bochurim and yungerleit. most kids that come bad get a bit worse and bounce higher. their friends in america whose parents made your cheshbonos stay just as bad, and dont get the bounce. the good chevrah shteig beyond belief and although there is a bad scene in town etc., that is the miyut, as terrible as it is. you need to spend a few years here to chap. dont let your kids miss out cuz of your misinformedness. (yes my rantingness justifies making up words).

uch. im gonna throw up. if people wont date you because you didnt follow the predefined route that a bas kol called out as being the only way to go- you dont wanna marry them.

sem is a joke compare to a bochur dira. but ill concede that girls have a hareder time finding seudos for shabbos. no one wants them.

i knew the RY and person in the following story: A bochur was soon to be marries and wanted to continue his learning in kollel, much to his parents chagrin. They fought and fought until they reached an agreement: to go to a certain RY and ask what to do. When he heard both sides he replied,”stay in kollel” the parents began to grumble about money etc. the RY said go buy a lottery ticket. they did. and won 300,000. i know the guy. cool no?

my wife taan’s that in talpiot something like yarok ba’ir. never heard of it though.

unless your fostering a “my tatty lets me say things my friends arent allowed to” attitude, which could end up badly then your.

personally i think there would be an issue of loshon nikee’us and a jewish kid shouldnt be taught to use terms that, although accurate, dont feel right.

old man- for hashkafos people are makpid on alot of foods ie sushi are nearly impossible to find. coffee here isnt as good. the deoderant is funny- no old spice- and frosted flakes stink here.

as opposed to being boxer?

first of all how in the world did syags comment make it through.

for the op- i just got married and was in one of the brisk-esque yeshovos. so heres the lowdown. a dira will cost between 130-175 a month,175 is a bit high. youll need to pay gichon, chashmal, bezeq, and maybe gas. figure another 75-100 dollars. ass spending money. this depends on which yeshiva hes in. ie if its brisk he gets all meals etc., youll have to figure it yourself. i did ok on 250 a month, but im very frugal. for bein hazmanim youll probably need to give more for food, trips, daled minim,etc. anything else?

you can appreciate the torah without davening at 11. im yekkish and learn shem mishmuel every week. you dont need to become a hayseh chossid for the machshava sheboi. i haghly doubt that chassidim feel the need to ask their rebbes if they should learn kol eliyahu.

YT- youd like aberlour. im happy im not the only scotch fan here. whats wrong w/ macallan? i have so many favorites i dont even know if theyre called favorites!

people who dont learn in kollel.

i always talk to myself. i find converstaions with myself more enlightening than with other people. i also answer myself really smart.

bruno and boots/macdonald hall.

come on, you know you love em.

m in I- i understand, logically, the point you are making. from a frum standpoint you feel this way. i have worked extensively with off the d kids and budding bts. they do not need and should not hear about your struggles. it does not give off the “we’re in this together vibe.” what it tells them is A. i can try really hard and maybe never get there so the heck with it and B. destroys your credibility. im not saying you need to have all the answers- you can always say “lets find a book on that” or ” i know a really big rabbi who im sure can help us”, but to acknowledge that you find certain basic things tough is akin to informing them that you cant deal and dont value your yiddishkeit enough. im not saying that what you mean, so dont jump down my throat, but thats what they hear. DO NOT share these things. they also wont be impressed or like you more.

to the op- your on a slipery slope.

a. to all those that said its good for the listener to hear what the op feels- thats entirely wrong from a kiruv perspevcive. most people who are thinking of following more or on the road already need two things- a loving caring respecting mekarev who wont judge them and appreiates all theyve done and 2. a role model. someone who they look at and think “ya, i wanna be like that”. if you tell him/her about yiddishkeit but then say “but im not sure if that something i like” or “i sometimes dont keep that one” then your destroying yourself as a role model. bear in mind that bts arent yet aquainted with the things that everyone is makpid on or not. for all they know, when you tell them its too hard for you to wash neigel vasser next to your bed its as chomur as saying that bishul is something you havent taken on on shabbos. i caution you strongly to never share these things with someone. it can have disasterous effects.

the poor girls are toasted- not only because they cant pay. if a 24 year old girl gets a shidduch now the shadchan wil taaneh for at least 5 grand- he couldve got that for a younger girl!! shadchanus everywhere will go up, then the poor prople are really messed over. and stop the dumb comments about boys. we already know its a supply and demand market. if you hate boys so much dont let your daughter marry one.

i think movements and ideas get discredited due to character assassination. in turn, torah true ideas get knocked around and people may log off thinking badly about talmidei chachomim etc. and thats a sakanah.

just eat 5 three-meals-a-day-sized meals. works for me.

i have one ha’ara. i dont think that anyone is against the separation of genders. These are their standards; standards they willingly conform to. i think its all sub-concious mindset that the women are sitting in the BACK. if it would be the front no-one would say a thing. Since the men “get the front” (like the way my 16 year old sister cries for it,” I get the front!”) the women fel second class. thats all.

i approve.

mustangrider- although its good that your passionate about this i believe your wrong. i have an exremely shady past and can honestly say i had a wonderful childhood. terrific parents. between low and mid income. there were no reasons i went wacky. except taaveh. and a lack of connection/yiras shomayim. so i disagree. alot of my friends too. there are no absolutes.

this one sounds kind of fishy….

my wife: you can get a full-length gorgeous not-cut shaitel for 1600 or less. of good european hair.

ok so.. ill tell you guys what the mekor is of this holiday ( im sure youll go google it and prove me wrong), and you can figure out yourself if its cool w/you to shtell tzu. this was told to me 6 years ago by an extremely knowledgable christian teacher. i never verifie it but i trust him. (see above brackets). he taanas that it shtams from a holiday whereby goyim would dress up as a tradesman, knock on a jewish door offering services as a traveling carpenter etc. , and, when allowed entry, proceeded to kill them. nowadays they give candy instead. good holiday?