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  • in reply to: Punctuality To Davening On Erev Shabbos #1143776

    I’d like to close with one last group of remarks. Just think! It doesn’t make any sense. Why are the people who come late when Shabbos is 4pm also do so when it is at 8.

    It can’t be that things “Just” come up. It is a pre-programmed mind”set that says it’s ok to come 5 minutes late”. Let us train ourselves to be punctual. It is a kiddush Hashem and we will not regret it.

    Remember what happened to Noach when he arrived a little late to feed the lion. Chazal tell us that the lion hit him. Surely, he had an excuse! He was feeding hundreds of animals. We see that there is no excuse!

    Rabbosai, just try being on time one Shabbos. You will not regret it.

    The following is a list of ideas that will help prepare for Shabbos.

    On Thursday night, open sodas. Open grape juice. open Tissues. Open diapers. Polish shoes. Do not go to sleep until you do all of these things. The wife should prepare some food then as well. Prepare the candles.

    On Friday morning, do something for Shabbos right away. Then hit the ground running and don’t stop. Believe me, you will be ready hours before you usually are.

    By the way, I have k”ah a large household and am always very busy.

    Just keep in mind that not everything must be done before Shabbos. Most things can be postponed and you will not be able to complete all mundane chores before the weekend anyway.

    Also, do not have long conversations.

    Hatzlocho to everyone and please leave feedback next week.

    Gut Shabbos!

    in reply to: Punctuality To Davening On Erev Shabbos #1143760

    I think everyone has very good intentions but are making one big mistake. It is beautiful to help another yid or child especially in an emergency (Yes, I agree, even finding Shoes!!). However this is a very fine line. The following will show you how important it is to have Kabbollas Shabbos earlier rather than later:

    // Story number one: The Chofetz Chaim was already very advanced in age and was not accepting visitors when he was notified by a very distressed couple that their child who is very sick and about whom the doctors had already given up hope. He allowed them to come in and told the woman that if she would be ready for Shabbos at Chatzos the child would have a complete recovery. She listened to his advice and miracuosly, the child went through a complete turnaround which amazed all the doctors.

    // Story number two: There is a famous family in Flatbush that have a married daughter who did not have children for a while. They went for a brocho to the Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok from Eretz Yisroel ( A famous tzaddik!). He told them that if their daughter would accept Shabbos five minutes earlier she would have a child. Indeed, a short time later, she gave birth to a healthy little girl!

    // Story number three: The father of the Rama by the name of Reb Isserel was a successful silk merchant who

    had a committment not to work past Chatzos on Erev Shabbos. Once, shortly before closing time an aristocratic cutomer was slowly purchasing a tremendous order. Upon realizing his committment, Reb Isserel told his potential customer that he is sorry

    he cannot accomadate him. This was a great loss to him but he held steadfast to his

    minhag. As a reward for his sacrifice, he was zoche to the Rama who the entire Klal Yisroel benefits from forever! ( Source: Sefer Rachemei Hoav – The merchant was a actually the satan who was sent to test him.)

    I want to relay to everyone that I understand all of your situations. I myself went through them, but upon realizing my mistakes over the years, corrected them. I’m just wondering: If a person had a meeting with someone at an appointed time who would hand them a billion dollars, would the person come late because he was trying to find a pair of shoes or sew on a button!?

    Shabbos is the source of Brocho. Rav Potash from Erez Yisroel told my brother who resides in Clifton, New Jersey that if you want to have parnossa then you should be mekabel shabbos early and eat melave malka right after shabbos! This is the meaning of Likras Shabos Lchoo ( In The beginning ) V’Nalcho ( at the end ) Kee Hee Mekor Habrocho for it is the source of blessing.

    I myself have noticed how people doing “chessed” on erev shabbos, do so right before shabbos, but procrastinate and wait and wait and wait. When its time to go to shul they get delayed and blame their tardiness on mitzvos that just “happened” to come up.

    This is the wrong way to handle erev shabbos. The Gemara anda person Shulchan Oruch tells us that a person should prepare for Shabbos early in the morning!!! not right before Shabbos. The Shulchan Aruch and the Gemara both state that a person who works after the zeman of mincha erev shabbos ( 2 opinions if this means mincha ketana or gedolah ) does not see a Siman Brocho.

    May we all merit to be mekabel shabbos properly and may we all be zoche to see the coming of Moshiach soon!!!!!

    in reply to: Punctuality To Davening On Erev Shabbos #1143739

    If things just happen to come up at lighting time, then you know it’s the yetzer hora!

    One week it’ll be looking for shoes, the next it will be a shirt button. It is very interesting to note that the latecomers come late every week while the earlycomers come early every week.

    Lets’ ask the following question? Why aren’t the early comers encountering shirt buttons to sew on or shoes to find. If a person had a meeting scheduled for a certain time with a top ranking official, dare he say that he was tied up looking for his childs’ shoes?

    Besides, coming late and disturbing other peoples kavana while shuffling about is against halacha?

    I am judging everyone lkaf zechus that all this happens to people without thinking. Once this is thought about, this problem can easily be rectified.

    For example, in the case of the missing shoes, one should anticipate this and at 12pm get the shoes together rather than at 5.

    in reply to: Wait for The Guy Behind You to Finish Shemona Esrei #950432

    We need everyone to cry out against talking during davening.Many other michsholos stem from this main problem. There should be a rule that no one should talk at all even to ask him his name for an aliyah since this distracts evryone frm the main point of davening. There should be another rule: No one should greet each other in shul, especially when the greetee is tardy. He shouldnt expect anyone to greet him, especially when he does this all the time

    in reply to: Help with Tefila #627178

    All serious minded peopleconsider the following:

    Make your own minyan of people where no one is permitted to talk or say hello from the time you arrive until the time you leave. Beleve me it will work. Takes Guts!Good Luck!

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