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No. Because that is something the girl can ask the boy herself if she cares and one isn’t supposed to say something that the person themselves won’t deny or tell, for example if u know a boy is on some sort of medication but will tell the girl about it at the right time (most rabbanim say 3rd date that’s between getting to know the person and liking the person) then one isn’t supposed to say because that may stop them from going out and in reality the girl may be ok with it once she has the full picture.
Yes of course we have bechira in everything we do, what Rav Dessler says is that the when a person grows his battles are according to his level for instance R’ Moshe Feinsteins battle wasn’t whether or not to be mechallel shabbos. Its really based on a chazal “Kol hagadol mechaveiro yitzro godol heimenu”
Without bechira there’s no purpose in life on this world. Its our choices we make every day that decides what type of olam ha’emes we’ll have.
Avrahams mother was Amaslui bas karnivui
Sometimes happy
And sometimes sad
Peacefull and Calm
Uptight and mad
Why’s it at times a breeze
And sometimes a real sqeeze
Some days I’m full of will
On others I’ve got nill
It may be the same sitch
At times I’m fine
And sometimes I twich
Am I crazy am I insane
Its life its not a game
Can’t I just always be in the same mood
Whether I’m hungry or stuffed with food
here’s whay I’d like to share
I’m gonna post it right here
Abe Lincoln said something worthwhile to know
“NOTHING IS EITHER GOOD OR BAD,THINKING MAKES IT SO”
Awww…. Just wrote a poem and it got erased at the end. Ill do it later.
I feel that if a spouse did an action for the good of the two, the other one should at least try to keep an eye out to notice it. This way ur each making effort ones doing and the other ones is noticing. people feel appreciated more being noticed for what they did than if they tell you I did such and such for you.
I’m there all the time the food is really good and, they also sell meat sandwiches ready made in the fridge but its always fresh they move a lot. Great place .
I’m here to give u another post. Here ya go.
here I go- amzing!!! I was contenplating giving up on something tonight, but after ur poem no way!! I’m going to brush off and take one step @ a time till I reach my goal.
If u don’t understand what’s wrongs with what they did the fire inside u has got to reignited!!!
Hakol l’fi the family practice and ur comfort level with it.
But its beautiful to ask a question like this.
Happy or sad
Calm or mad
Emotions we choose
Keep cool or loose
Its not what happens to us
We decide how to react
Having it easy may be a plus
But in sticky situations we must use tact
Let’s try and write about something positive
That we did today
What do you say?
Let this be the week,
Ink from ur hearts will flow.
Al tivtichu vindivim!
Man u ask one loaded and unaswerable question for here, unless u know all aspects of the sitch u can’t simply offer a inteligent answer.
All I can say is sometimes its better to divorce than have a horrible marriage “for the kids”. Kids growing up experiencing a horrible marriage is a terrible thing that affects their marriages.
Therapy buddy.
I promissed myself that I’d never marry a girl who has a Facebook account and what do you know I did.
Let me tell you Facebook IS different than texting, Facebook,becomes ur new life and ur reality sort of fades away. Post. Picture. She’s in Florida wow!.lol. Its like you live on a different planet.
What’s the problem u ask?
It breaks down good old COMMUNICATION between people.
Yes people can use it in a healthy way but
Really nothing wrong. If u think one walks around all day thinking hum…how old am I how old is my wife? Well its a once a year celebration and done with. So, few yrs older no prob, as long as ur a good match that in no way should be a detterant.
Yeh, and where’s the creator of this thread?
MP- I compose the tunes as well and I play guitar, if you put ur ear to ur screen you may be able to a tune of mine. ……………………………………………………………………………………… You like?
Both, if you learn clarinet first you have an easier time with sax afterward its harder to blow a clarinet.
If you must choose one, I would go with the sax its got a much richer/fuller sound as compared to the clarinet which is a higher pitched somewhat skweaky sound.
What do u stand for?
Do you even know
Do you live for real
Or is it all a show
Is it the way you dress
Car you drive
Ur flashy ways
Ur high five
Is It your golden hand
You play in a band
Swim with ease
People you please
Tons of friends
Talent galore
What is it
That you adore
You teach children
How to read
Finish tasks
With great speed
You head a school
Listen to ur rules
AMAzing cook
Wrote a book
eloquent speaker
Jump from planes
Build cities
Clean drains
So what Is it and how does one know
That which we stand for not just the show
here’s my opinion, to accept it is ur choice
You stand for the thing that makes you raise ur voice!
New name for blabla!
“The angel of poetry”
You have amazing talent, I realy enjoy ur stuff.
Blabla
Wow! So true.
Exactly we do our share and the rest is up to Hashem
I can understand that ur upset but ur math is off 17.364% to 18.205%
Is less than a 1% raise.
Oh well,
Random poem…..
I try and try time and again
When I fail I ask 0 Hashem
Why does it seem so easy for some
And for me so hard to overcome
Why can’t I get it straight
Why is this what I have on my plate
Is there something that I must adjust
Please tell me, I haven’t lost trust
I know u created me in the most perfect way
And I am exactly how I should be today
My cry is only how come and how long
Am I doing something wrong
Please guide me show me the light
I want to do only what’s right
Sometimes its cloudy hard to dicsern
But for the truth I do yearn
Listen my child keep doing ur best
Remember life is one big test
Fail if you will but never depair
Remember I’m always near
Feeling new strength I now move on
Each day is new yesterday is gone
I do what I can in the best way of course
I sometimes feel bad but never remorse
Ah this is what life is all about
one day at a time I wanna shout
Skype for one two then meet is a good idea, long term like they did no good.
Boy to cancel after agreed to date is wrong so held R Aron Kotler zt”l once you agree to meet you can’t retract, better to date and say not for you.
Regarding boy calling himself, I’ve had this issue and was told by a chashuva Rav whom is accepted in all circles that once you make dates on ur own u have to tell the girl urseld If you don’t want to continue.
once heard this….
“Why judge man today, if God waits until the end of his days”
The woman was over clear cut lashon hara, Halacha states that tochaha is srtaight to the person himself, and Halacha also states that one should only rebuke someone whom will accept it. whoever said that a stranger has the mitzvah of tochacha is wrong in this case. When u see a sitch where let’s say based on the summary of the summary of the person u can tell he won’t eat non kosher, and he’s doing that by mistake, tochacha from a stranger would make sense, howed er, just to see a random girl and decide in ur mind what she should look like and tell her “tzniuz alert” is not tochacha in any form let alone mentioning it to another. PURE LH! So ski addict keep it up that stranger is strange!
Sorry my reply was to PrincessEagle
Observateen-
Well the one with the abused child is a real story that I heard from the Rabbi himself. Its an amazing story and lesson. I wrote it right here yesterday for the first time. In fact I never write poems although I do write songs. But this thread got me thinking, hey… I can do this. Its a first for me. The one with the daughter also wrote yesterday because I think there’s lots of people with that feeling hoping their child comes back home.
Think first (and you may just make someones day)
Puppy welcome, u write nicely keep it coming.
Dedicated to parents……
We love you dear
We care for you
Your our daughter
In your highs and your blues
I remember when you
Were just a little fry
We would hold you
Whenever you cried
We wished and prayed
May you be blessed and again
Swinging and swaying
Were asleep by the count of ten
Now you’re all grown we’re glad see
Your very special in our family
Although you are different in many ways
Our love for you never sways
Come home whenever you want a warm bed
We’ll be waiting to greet you and ur friends
Ur in our hearts night and day
We love you dearly, always
Just remember where your home is
Its warm and safe
We’ll accept you back
In any form or shape
One last wish as I shed a tear
Please know were always here
I think the only issur to wear a man/woman clothing is for the sake of mingling with the opposite gender.
Ask ur local orthodox Rabbi for a psak
I’m glad u enjoyed. May we all have happines and health.
Dedicated to all whom went through a tough childhood..
Ask me any question the Rabbi says
From simple stuff to ways of Hashem
One by one raise of the hands
Are satisfied with his wisdom and the way it lands
Then out of the corner all the way in the back
Comes a loud voice ready to give slack
If hashem is good please let me show
Cigarette burns on my body from head to toe
U see my mother was an alchoholic crazier than most
If I stepped out of line, I was toast
what’s the good in this I’m waiting to hear
The enourmous pain I had to bare
Everyone thought the Rabbi would run
What would he answer to this one
You see one day there may be a book sold in every mall
“How to stop child abuse forever once and for all”
With your name as the author, you will then understand
Why those burns on your feet and you hands
Day after day I try
Just to understand why
The cards I’ve been dealt
The pain that I felt
Could it not have been different
Maybe less severe
I try to figure out
While I lie here
Year after year in my memory
I wish it were not so to say the least
did I choose it or was it my fate
I sit here tonight and contemplate
We all have a mission
A task to fill
Giving light weight to a giant
Is very sill(y)
So I was handed what I need
For me and not for you
That great big task
I was born to do.
So now everything that’s thrown my way
Was tailored made for me, I say
It can’t be different if it could it would
I have peace now knowing my life is like should
Poem dedicated to all who can relate to it
When u see one wandering in the vain
everything is for the good
When u see someone in pain
The end will be be good
When u see someone cry
Everything is for the good
When u see someone in a tough moment
The end will be good
Because hashem is good
And wants only good for you
Ur voice he wants to hear
Ur pain he cannot bare
Raise ur voice to the heavons
Raise ur voice to the heavons
Father,father up in heavon
O hear my voice
On my day of calling
Father,father up in heavon
O hear my voice
On my day of calling
If you know anything about the boy girl dynamic out there you would agree too.
Blabla, I must tell you ur very talented!
Blabla, talk to someone about ur troubles its not going to better by itself. write someone a letter if you can talk in person.
I’m lying in my bed
Waiting for a miracle to happen
Somewhere deep inside I’m hoping
Ill hear the angels clapping
But I know oh I know
I’ve got to get up and go
Otherewise nothing is going to happen
And I know that Hashem wants me to succeed
Wants me to take the lead
If you fail once
Try again it can’t hurt you’ll see
Fail twice
Part of ur road to destiny
Getting frustrated
Wanting to give up yes you do
Remember my words
Its up to nobody but you!
There will come a day
Things will get brighter I’m sure
You’ll start winning
Failing won’t be part of you no more
And I know oh I know
Gotta get up and go
Otherwise nothin gonna happen
I know that Hashem wants me to succeed
Wants me to go and take the lead
In a moments time…
A baby is born
A marriage is torn
One inherets great welth
A body is put on the shelf
The sun rises
The sun sets
Rain upon us
Snow so cold
Feeling great
One was kind
Oh I wish
Another time
Slur of the tongue
Damage so severe
Bright day
Was so near
All in a moment
Just a blink
its there
Before you can think
I know I’ve seen a lot
At a time, a little bit
But it all comes slowly
Tic by tic
In a moments time…
Well well,yes there is a aspect of conforming that you can feel in Lakewood, however those rain coats are very practical as not-to-get-ur-new-borsalino-wet-on-Friday-night.
Usually explaining why u don’t feel its right for you will help. If a shadchan can’t respect ur decision after that, get a new one.
Usually explaining why u don’t feel its right for you will help. If a shadchan can’t respect ur decision after that get a new one.