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2.0 you should know the night after I read this post my brother (who learns with bochurim nightseder) called to say he has a boy my daughter must go out with but… He has a past. I really couldn’t believe the closeness in time between these two occurrences, anyway since it was my brother who I trust very much and the uncanny feeling that Hashem made me read this post for a reason, I gave an almost immediate yes, my daughter came home after the first date glowing saying how she never met such a mature sincere boy! I don’t know where it will go or if its because of his past but I’m literally in disbelief about these turn of events.
rebshidduch I do not understand
bmyer I deffinetly hear your side but I agree with 2.0 that people don’t give a chance sometimes for reasons even they do not understand
people are you listening to your selves?? we are talking about someone who made the conscious decision to return in full to a life of torah and mitzvos!! yes rebshidduch he experienced things which makes me all the more confident that his emunah and yiras shmayim is stronger then ever since he came from unprecedented depths and fought nisyanos my generation and mainstream bochurim can not imagine!!
Hats off to any bochur like 2.0
bmyer I see you are a very intelligent individual but I was responding to your question of “No. But how do you know?” and my answer is that your are right but with such individuals you know as much as the next guy and your concern should not be any bigger with someone like this than with someone with no past.
Misteryudi I could not agree more very well put
bmyer someone who grew up yeshivish knowing what it all entailed went otd then on their own accord returned full fledged and has been learning for 3yrs you know as much (if not more) as a guy who has never left yeshiva, no one can ever be certain about anyone.
Bochur you are a hundred percent right in that the system is such that it doesn’t focus enough on the actual person but on where they are from and what yeshiva they are from.
And to everyone who thinks people should be judged by their past are you saying even if you know they have done a full and complete turn around?